Parenting skills #7

Auto-generated transcript:In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful, and the Most Gracious is Allah, Lord of the worlds. And peace and blessings be upon the Prophet, the Messenger of Allah, and upon all of his family and friends. Peace and blessings be upon him. We look at the rules of Islamic parenting. I call them the six rules. We ask Allah to help us to understand the responsibility of parenting and to fulfill it. And the last and most important, Akhlaq and Mahamirat. You know, I used to live in the US. I live again there now, but I used to live in the US in 1990. 1997, 2000. So, 2000, I came back to India. My father was not well, so I came back to be with him. Then I stayed for 20 years. I went back in 2019. Anyway, so I came back, and we had a flat, which we were renovating when we came to move into that flat. So, we were renovating the flat. And as part of the renovation, we wanted to put a water tank on top of the roof. So, the plan was, The guy who came and did the plumbing work and quite extensive plumbing work was a guy with big beard like this. And he said, I'm Hafiz Paran and so on and so on. So, I was very happy. Alhamdulillah, he's a Muslim guy. I'm very happy to give him this job. And he's happy to go to Paran and so on. So, he finished all the work. And I told him, get me a 1000 liter syntax tank, plastic tank for the roof. And install it. He brought the tank. Then the building people, you know, the committee, they said, we have a rule here. You cannot put a 1000 liter tank. You have to put only 500. I said, okay. I told the guy, take this back. Get a 500 liter tank. He did that also. He brought the tank, gave it. Now, I had given him the money for the 1000 liter tank. So, the 500 liter tank, the money was some 3000 rupees. Less. He did the work. He owes me 3000 rupees. He disappeared. Obviously, 3000 rupees won't kill me. But I thought to myself that, you know, at least I owe it to him that I should give him the opportunity to return the money. Right. Maybe I'll give it to him for free. But I don't want him to be a thief. So, I called him up. Once, I called him twice. I called him three times. I felt stupid calling him 3000 rupees. I said, what the hell. I mean, I can afford that. It's nothing. But I called him. Finally, I thought to myself, okay, one last call. By then, it was Ramadan. So, when I call him now, his wife picks up the phone. She says, he is in Etta Gap. He cannot talk. Huh? So, you steal somebody's money and you go into Etta Gap. And you cannot talk. This is our akhlaq. These are our mawila. We must be... The point is, you know, people watch. A job that is given to a Muslim must be super quality. By default. By default. Because you are a Muslim. Because you are the only one in the market who works or should work for the pleasure of Allah. Who works or should work with the knowledge that everything I do, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is watching that. He knows that 24-7. I have to answer him. Because that is your akhila. That's not the akhila of anybody else. Our akhila, your my akhila is what? Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, he is watching us 24-7. And I have to answer to Allah no matter what. Rasulullah s.a.w. said, if you take away somebody's rights, Allah will not forgive you until that person forgives you. And this is irrespective of whether the person is a Muslim or not Muslim. It doesn't matter. Muslims are not allowed to be unjust to non-Muslims. You can't say, no, I am stealing only from the Christians. No. You are not supposed to steal, period. No matter who. Right? Very important. Muammar al-Assad is, this is where, may Allah forgive us, this is where we Muslims, we get into trouble all the time. Because of our dealings. We must change that. Because remember, see something. We are having this gathering here. How many non-Muslims are here? Nobody. But when you drive on the road, I mean, in Kuwait, there are not that many, but still there are quite a number. But if you go to any other country, almost everybody else is non-Muslim. But they are seeing you there. Alhamdulillah, mashallah, you look like a Muslim, right? Your appearance and all that, they can recognize you as a Muslim. They say, ah, ah, there you go. This is how Muslims drive. I know it's an unfair statement. What else do you expect them to say? Okay. What else do you expect them to say? So, this is a great opportunity for us, that we live in pluralistic societies, we live in multicultural societies, it's a brilliant opportunity for us to showcase Islam, to show that this Islam, you want someone to behave responsibility, ask a Muslim. You want someone to give more than what they take, ask a Muslim. You want someone to give you quality work, ask a Muslim. You want someone to come and help you in the middle of the night, call a Muslim. This is the message that we should give. This is the message that we should give. With ordinary people on a daily basis. We are not talking about rituals of worship, we are talking about ordinary things. The woman who used to throw garbage in his way, and the other lady who used to, things he carried to the caravan station, and so on and so on and so on. Many, many things. The Jewish boy who used to be around him, and then he was dying. So many stories, one after the other. And of people like, who were the followers of Rasulullah . Abdullah bin Mubarak, Abdullah Ali, one of the greatest of the Tabi'in, he was called the Raees of Tabi'in. And Abdullah bin Mubarak and Hasan Basri. Rahmatullah Ali, they were called the princes of the Tabi'in. Because of their Akhlasiq. So Abdullah bin Mubarak, had a Jewish neighbor, and they said to him, he's selling his house, he's put his house up for sale. He said, why? He says, he needs money. And then they said, he's charged, he's put up as a price, he's quoting, double the market value. He says the house is worth $100,000, he's saying $200,000. So people asked him, they said, why is this house double the market value? He said, do you know who's my neighbor? Do you know who will be your neighbor if you buy the house? He said, who? He said, Abdullah bin Mubarak. Abdullah bin Mubarak as a neighbor is worth the price of the house. Can you believe it? The man charges, he said, double the money, because you are going to get this man as a neighbor. That's worth money in the market. Abdullah bin Mubarak went to him, he told him, don't go anywhere, you need the money, I will loan you the money, you can pay me back, or, don't pay me back, you stay here, I want you as my neighbor. Don't sell the house. Huh? We must really look at ourselves. As I keep saying all the time, children listen with their eyes, not with their ears. They don't care what you say until they see what you do. This is true for everybody, but definitely children. So, the qualities of Muslim, one, truthfulness and integrity. The qualities of Rasulullah , as-sadiq ul-ameel, truthful and trustworthy. Truthfulness and integrity, sense of responsibility and accountability to Allah , courage, physical courage, moral courage, the ability to stand for others, help others, and to be a good person. This is the quality of a Muslim. So, the qualities of Muslim, one, truthfulness and integrity, truthfulness and integrity, the ability to stand for others, help others, and good manners and good character. Because people remember, they don't remember what you said, they don't remember what you did, but they will remember how you made them feel. That they won't forget. Leaving the message, this is why Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala mentioned this about Nabi Alayhi Salaam. He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, He said, And then they asked Sayyidina Abu Ubaid, he said, what do you wish? He said, I wish for men like Abu Ubaidah ibn Jarrah and Mu'adh bin Jabal and Salim Mawla Abu Hudhaifa, who would help me to glorify the word of Allah. So he's saying people of character are worth more than a house full of gold. One person, Abu Ubaidah, Radhaillahu Anhu, is very… One person, Khalid bin Walid, one person. What is the value of that person? See? And that is what you have. This is the thing which you have in your hand. So when you're raising children, don't think about, oh, this kid is like… No. This is your… This is your time to create an asset for the whole world and for yourself. That little kid is not some little kid running around. This little kid is potentially a future Abu Ubaidah. And likewise, potentially that Abu Ubaidah one day at some point in his life was a little kid running around. But something their parents did. He was preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing food, preparing or three Rahals. So, this little kid, obviously, is kind of managing all this way. I think, where is this kid going? I see that they have Halakha in Masjid Zabawi, out of Salatul Fajr. So, there is this teacher sitting there and all these kids are sitting in a circle in front of the teacher and they are reciting Quran. And all of them are six, seven years old. But every one of them beautifully turned out. They are not there in some shorts and some, you know, funny t-shirts. No. They are all there. And after Ishrat, the teacher calls one of them,