Parenting skills #3

Auto-generated transcript:In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds. And peace and blessings be upon the kind and the kind of messengers and messengers. Muhammad and the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him and his family. Peace and blessings be upon him and his family. After that, my brothers and sisters, we talked about the overall background, the reason why parenting, conscious and thoughtful parenting is absolutely critical. Parenting is not something that will happen by default. It's not something that will happen because you want it. It is something you have to work on. And it starts with having a dream for your child, which is a shared dream. Please think about these things. This whole issue of raising children is a vast subject. Second one. Introduce, connect, and make. Connection with Rasulullah . First and foremost, the Seerah of the Nabi . Essential reading, essential learning. As I told you, do not let tomorrow morning come on you without at least starting. I don't expect you to finish the whole book. But start. Read two pages at least before you go to bed. Any Seerah book. There are so many Seerah books. Alhamdulillah. Plenty of them. Whichever language. Alhamdulillah. Allah is the most Merciful. People have translated every kind of language. Whichever language. Read about Rasulullah . Then read about his rights. What is the right of the Rasul on us? Because we will be questioned about rights. The right of the Rasul on us is that we follow a Sunnah. That we follow a Sunnah. Very important. In every aspect of our lives. In our appearance, in our actions, in our dealings, in our manners, in how we pray. The finest example, the finest proof and evidence of somebody who says give me proof that following the Sunnah is critical. I will tell you the proof is your Salah. Salah is proof. How is it proof? Because Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala said, Aqibu Salah. Allah gave a command. Establish Salah. Establish Salah. Establish Salah. 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How do you enter Islam? Allah does not tell us that. How do you pray? Allah does not tell us that. Allah told us to fast in Ramadan. What breaks the fast? What must I do if the fast is broken? What does not break the fast? All of this, not in the Quran. Allah made Zakat for us. How much Zakat on what? Who must pay Zakat to whom? Can you pay Zakat to your wife? Can your wife pay Zakat to you? Where do you find all this? In the Sunnah. Hajj. He said, take the Harkan of Hajj from me. Take the Manas. Take the rituals of Hajj from me. Imagine the Quran says very clearly, So on the 9th of Dhul Hijjah, what are you doing in Arafat? Did you think of this? Allah said, Hajjila Baitillah. To the house of Allah. House of Allah is in Makkah. But on the day of Hajj, where are you? Supposing somebody says, look, this whole issue of going to Arafat and what not is too much trouble and what not. There is no need. The Quran says very clearly, On the 9th of Dhul Hijjah, I am going. First of all, how do you know it is the 9th of Dhul Hijjah? Allah did not say, Hajjila Baitillah. 9th of Dhul Hijjah. No. So how did this 9th of Dhul Hijjah, Where did this 9th come from? Why not? Why not the 27th of Ramadan or whatever you want to say, right? I will do Hajj on the 27th of Ramadan. I will do Hajj in the last 10 nights of Ramadan. Is it right, sir? Please think about these things. Every single one of these things is because Rasulullah told us, That is Haqq. That is what makes it an Ibadah. I can go to Arafat on every single day. I can go to Arafat on every single day. I can go to Arafat on every single day. 364 other days. Other than the 9th of Dhul Hijjah. And I can say, I have done 364 Hajj. No. Hajj is only on that day from this time to this time period. You go before that time, it is not Hajj. You stay after that time, it is not Hajj. You stay after that time, it is not Hajj. That is the importance of Muhammad . That is the importance of Muhammad . And that is what must be inculcated in our children. That is why Allah said, My yu'ti Rasoola faqad at-ta'ala. The one who has obeyed the Rasool, has obeyed Allah. The one who has obeyed the Rasool, has obeyed Allah. Not because the Rasool is Allah, no. Because what the Rasool says, comes from Allah . And that is why Allah sent him as the best example. And Allah said, Allah says, the best example for you is the life of Rasulullah ﷺ. Whole life. Not one part of the life. Whole life. For the one who looks forward to the meeting with Allah and looks forward to the Day of Judgment. And the one who does that, is for him it is a healing. It's a cure. Because nobody had a life as difficult and as full of challenges as the life of Muhammad ﷺ in every aspect. You might say, well, you know, some people have a difficult life. Sure. But a life which is difficult, which has challenges in every aspect. And the reason why Allah made it like that was because there is an example for you and me in the life of Muhammad ﷺ no matter who we are. If I am the king of a country and I need an example of how should I be a good king, I look in the life of Muhammad ﷺ. If I am a slave, I have the example in the same place. If I am a businessman, if I am a father, if I am whatever I am, I have the example. Allah gave us this beautiful composite example. And the reward for this emulation, Allah said, say to them, Ya Muhammad ﷺ, those who claim to love Allah, if you really love Allah, then emulate me, follow me, do what I do, say, what I say, do it the way I do it. And what will happen? Allah will love you. And the minimum condition of when Allah loves you is He forgives your sins. And He is the most forgiving. Third thing as I mentioned to you is systematic Islamic education. Aqeedah, very, very important because without the correct aqeedah, without the aqeedah of Tauheed, all actions are wrong. All actions are null and void. We can do all the good in the world, it won't help if we are doing it for the wrong reason. Second thing is Arabic language. Very, very important to learn Arabic. As I told you, you are living in one of the most beautiful places in the world to learn Arabic. Any Arab country for that matter. But Kuwait, Mashallah, very good. You are here already. I mean, you don't have to go anywhere. Learn Arabic. Number three, the Quran. The Quran. Tajweer and Kirat and Tahfiz. Try to memorize the entire Quran. Yesterday, somebody showed me one of the groups which came from America. There is this 16-year-old Mexican boy who is a revert, who is a hafiz of the Quran and besides beautiful. And this group came from, they came from California but they were coming from Makkah to Madina. And in the bus, he is reciting from Surah Al-Isra. Beautiful recitation. 16-year-old Mexican kid. Can you believe it? Maybe you say, I have been a Muslim, my family and my husband and Nassaf for the last thousand years. Sure. But you don't know, beyond Khulal, there is Khulal, there is Falak. It's embarrassing. Sometimes you tell people to, you know, you don't know. You look at somebody who seems to be, like an alim, in clothes and so on. Please lead Salah. The Surah Al-Fatihah is wrong. So praying behind the view of Salah is invalid. He is making mistakes, the Surah Al-Fatihah itself. Why? Because we don't make any effort. Salah to Janazah. How many of you know, how to lead Salah to Janazah? How many of you know of the Hakamul Janazah? Those who know, good for you. But most Muslims, no idea. So your father dies, your mother dies, you have no idea what to do. Somebody does all that, they bring the the mayyat. To lead Salah to Janazah, it is your duty, your job, your responsibility. You are the son. To lead the Salah to Janazah for your father or mother, you cannot do it. You know how long it takes to learn how to do the Salah to Janazah?