Forgive and seek forgiveness

Auto-generated transcript:In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. All praise is due to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. And peace and blessings be upon the honour of the prophets and messengers. Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and upon his family and companions. Tassleem and kaseer and kaseer. My brothers and sisters, I want to share with you some thoughts and remind you and myself about perhaps the single most important quality of a successful human being. And that is the quality of being able to forgive. The quality of being able to forgive. If you take the life of Rasulullah, peace and blessings be upon him, this is one thing which stands out. Where Rasulullah, peace and blessings be upon him, forgave everyone. To the extent that somebody like Abdullah bin Ubay bin Salul, the head of the Munafiqun, who was an enemy of the level where Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala actually revealed Quran after he died and said that even if you ask forgiveness for these people 70 times, 70 times, Allah will not forgive them. And when the ayat was revealed, Rasulullah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, if I knew that Allah would forgive them, if I asked 71 times, I would have asked 71 times. Abdullah bin Salul was an enemy of such virulence and such intensity that he did not leave any way or any means of trying to harm Rasulullah, peace and blessings be upon him, both personally as well as his message of Dawah of Islam, both. Whether it was to take his people, 300 plus of the people of Medina, of the people of Khazraj, away from the, the army of the believers at the time of Ahud, which was one of the reasons for the failure of that defeat in that battle, or whether it was constantly harassing and baiting and, you know, making fun of Rasulullah, peace and blessings be upon him, all kinds of ways. But when he died, his son, whose name was also Abdullah bin, came to Rasulullah and he said, I know Rasulullah, my father has died. And I have two requests. One is, can you please give your Thawb, the Khamis you are wearing, to use as a coffin for my father? So the Barakah of the cloths, which touched the Mubarak body of Rasulullah, peace and blessings be upon him, and he said the second request is if you can please pray Salatul Janada for him, , I imagine, , I imagine, , I imagine, , I imagine, , I imagine, , I imagine, , I imagine, I imagine, I imagine, , I imagine, I imagine, , I imagine, I imagine, I imagine, I imagine, , I imagine, I imagine, what is the barakah of something like this where you have won the aasar of the Nabi A.S. directly and where you have the Nabi A.S. making dua maqfara for you means janaza is dua maqfara so you have the Nabi A.S. himself making this dua of forgiveness for you and Nabi A.S. agreed to both he took off his commission and gave it and he went and he prayed when he went there to pray tried to stop him he literally came between him and the janaza and he said ya Rasulullah don't do this why are you praying janaza over this bar this bar is the worst enemy that we have Rasulullah A.S. said to move aside and this is also the mercy of Allah after he finished the Salatul Janaza Allah revealed the ayat and said even if you ask I will not do it don't stand on their graves meaning make dua forever this is the mercy of Allah Allah did not send him to do this He sent the ayat before right if Allah had sent the ayat five minutes before then Nabi A.S. could not have done this is the mercy of Allah okay my Nabi wants to do let him do but Allah's judgment does not change because of that so the lesson we learn from this before I go to the forgiveness piece is that at the end of the day it is your Amal which stand with you it is your Amal your Aqidah and your Amal which stand with you not anything else so many times people have this feeling oh you know I am descended from so and so I am the Ahlulad of this Sheikh and that Sheikh and this Peer and that Peer and this Sufi and that Sufi and this and this is I have this Barakah that no Barakah no nothing in the Quran Al Kareem Allah SWT gave us the relationship of every kind of relation the son of a Nabi the father of a Nabi the wife of a Nabi directly Noah's son Ibrahim's father Ruth's wife and then you have Asi Arad Al Anha her husband Firaun right all the relations that you can find Allah gave example doesn't help you does not help you what helps you is your Aqidah and your Amal nothing else and in the case of the Prophet his own uncle Abu Talib and not just uncle his uncle was also Abu Lahab but Abu Lahab was also against him and so on but Abu Talib was his closest and biggest and best supporter and he supported him till the end he did not his support didn't waver until he breathed his last but despite that Dabhi Sharif Aslam said very clearly this is not enough to save him he said Allah will make his suffering the least in Jannah so they asked him Ya Rasulullah what does it mean least he said that Allah will just put sandals of the Prophet and he will not be able to do it sandals of fire on his feet so his brain boils in his head like water least of the punishments but despite all of this Dabhi Sharif Aslam himself forgave everybody the be it the the mass forgiveness the burning of the Jesus Microsoft changed what he said and now I talk about also friends what people of Mecca say they had that if they don't love you even if they cover their hearts although they have hate their Vanity much hate The people he forgave after the slander on our mother Sayyid Aisha Siddiqua Radhe Laan. They were people who slandered the Nabi Alaihissalam and they was there. Hassan bin Sabit was one of them, Radhe Laanu, he continued to be in the Communist of Salon and so forth. So individual and personal he forgave. There is a long list, the whole long list of people he forgave. So I remind myself and you that forgiveness is the most critical, most important thing. To the extent also where Mista bin Usasa, the relative of Avogar Siddiqua Radhe Laanu, when he jubilates. . He joined in the slander of Sayyid Aisha Siddiqua Radhe Laan. Avogar Siddiqua Radhe Laanu said I will not, I will cut off my stipend to him. And Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la revealed the Quran, the Ayatul Surah An-Nur. But Allah said do you not want Allah to forgive you? That those who Allah has, and this is a, this ayah is also in, with praises Avogar Siddiqua Radhe Laanu. Allah said Allah has, those who Allah has graced and you know raised their ranks and darajat and so on. Let them not swear not to help those who are in need among those who are among the muhajirin and so on and so on. And then Allah said do you not want Allah to forgive you? Allah is not saying that what Mista did was not wrong, I know it's okay. No, it's not okay. Because Mista received the punishment. No, it's not okay. No, it's not okay. The 80 lashes and so on, he got all that happened. But so Allah didn't say he is innocent. No, he said you forgive. He is guilty, but you forgive. Now forgiveness, the reason we don't forgive is sometimes we feel that so and so did this to me. This person harmed me. Whichever way. Allah has blessed you with us. What is the harm to us? For us the harm is only talk. You know, just think about, think about whoever you don't like, right? And then ask yourself, did this person actually hit me? Did he slap me? Did he kick me? Did he bite me? Physically, what did he do? Did he kill anyone I love? Did he kill anyone I love? Did he kill anyone I love? Did he kill anyone I love? Did he kill anyone I love? Did he kill anyone I love? Did he kill anyone I love? Did he kill anyone I love? Did he kill anyone I love? Did he kill anyone I love? Yes or no? Okay, then why is there such a maisel, but at that time, blame seems to have almost quieted out you, at that time. But he is never like that. You created an Kamalaha. He is never like that. Because your fou 맞i mahi or hey nirada boin, maylal aémiya Isn't it? I don't like twee hai, demand hi hai, you imagine but na, what is the problem. Do you even not мам fearless. Has nobody amazing? Hisresser so says I was like that when I was a child. ligati.miya. Anasting Unker. railway school anything. Rightly or wrongly they said something, it hurt you. Well, this is understandable. I'm not saying it does not hurt. It hurts you. So, what do you want to do? Carry that with you to your khabar? This person said something wrong. You want to take this with you to your grave? How does it benefit? So, but what holds us back is we feel, see this person already did this. Now I'm supposed to forgive them. I'm doing them a favor. Please understand this. Forgiveness is not about the other person. Forgiveness is not about the other person. Forgiveness is about yourself. You're not doing them any favor. You're doing a favor to yourself by forgiving. Now you might say, how am I doing a favor to myself? Think about this. When you carry a grudge against somebody, it is like carrying a life, a burning coal, in your hand. When there's a fire, the burning coal, you picked it up. So this burning coal, who is it burning? You. It can't burn anybody else. It's in your hand. So if you want to do yourself a favor, throw it. The sooner you throw it, the better for you. Another example of understanding this. Imagine you are riding down the highway on your Harley. And there's a, well unfortunately for you, there's a garbage truck in front of you. So some garbage flies off this truck and you are, you know, riding. And this garbage hits you here on your chest. And this piece of stinking garbage. What is the first thing you will do? Absolutely first thing. You will find the first place you can pull off and wash it off. Right? Now instead of that, suppose you rub it in. Let it go nicely into your jacket so it doesn't. And then every once in a while you smell it. After you smell it. Ayee! You say, what is wrong with it? Why are you torturing yourself?