Advice to married people

Auto-generated transcript: In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. The house of marriage is not a den where the wrestling is taking place. Today you win, tomorrow I win. These are places of peace and security. Just like a ship that travels in the sea, there is a storm that also suffers. And when it comes to the ship, even if there is a storm, where will it go? So the ship is a place where you get peace. The storm has left behind. So create the home as a place of tranquility. In this marriage you are making an oath and you are making a promise to yourself, both the husband and the wife. Yes. That your attention will not go to anyone other than the two of you. His attention to you and your attention to him. You are making an oath to yourself that our attention will not go anywhere else than you. The second thing Allah mentioned was Mawaddah. Love. Love for each other. In Islam and in psychology, love is the foundation of respect. Please understand this. Love is the foundation of respect. Love is not a sign of lust. There is a difference between the two. Lust is a beastly trait. It is in us too. It is in everyone. But Allah did not say that lust is my sign. Allah said love is my sign. So love is the foundation of respect. So we must respect each other. Every person is respected. He is respected. He is loved. He is respected. Whoever is respected is loved. The one whom they respect, The one who loves their mother and father, Their respect is within us. If there is no respect, There can be no love. The second word Allah mentioned was Love. The foundation of love is respect. Allah did not say lust. Lust is a human emotion, But Allah didn't mention that as a sign. He said love. the foundation of love is respect. You respect your mother, you respect your father, and then you love them. Because of the respect, you love them. But if respect goes away, then love goes away. So it is very important for the husband and the wife to respect each other, to show that respect to each other, not to laugh at each other, not to make jokes at each other, not to treat each other with disrespect, not to use bad language against each other, not to curse your wife, not for the wife to curse the husband. These are very common things today. Very common things today. The tongue is the worst enemy of ourselves. There is the hadith of Prophet Muhammad, where he said, and when the Prophet Muhammad, they mentioned the hadith, they actually acted out. They said, he held his tongue like this. And he said, this will take more people into Jahannam than anything else. Huzoor Qasim said, and you held your tongue like this in the middle of the fingers, and you said, will this take so many people into Jahannam or will it take something else? Will it take something else? Will it take something else? Will it take something else? Will it take something else? Because the tongue, we use it to hurt each other, to curse at each other, to backbite people, to slander people, to tell lies and false witness. All of the tongue, All of them lead to Jahannam. So watch your tongue. Watch your tongue. I say to the husbands especially, because in the home the man has a position, the man is stronger, and I get many complaints from women who have been married and recently married. My husband is cursing me, my husband is using foul language against me. And I have nobody here. Remember that the woman comes to you, she comes alone. You are in your environment. You are in your family. She is leaving everything to come to you. She is leaving her family. She is leaving her environment. She is coming to you. Treat her with respect. Treat her with love. Treat her with affection. And you will have a beautiful home. And if you oppress her, if you curse her, if you... May Allah have mercy on you. May Allah have mercy do worse. Then remember she is not alone. She is not alone because the one who's alone, who is the that is the caretaker of that one? Allah . So fear the hands of the woman which are raised in taajjud against you. Because if she raises her hand against you and asks help from Allah, Allah will not refuse her. And for the wife too. And for the husband too. And for the wife too. The wife too. And for the husband too. And for the husband too. same thing. Fear the dua of your husband because I've seen husbands who are like chickens. Fear that. Do not oppress one another. Support one another. There will be conflicts. I guarantee that to you. There will be conflict. But we are adults, we are educated adults, we are Muslim. If there is a conflict, sit down face to face, resolve it. Don't involve everyone in it. Don't involve your parents. Don't involve anyone else. You are adults. If you have to run to your mother or your father, you are not fit to get married. Go home. If you are an adult, then deal with your husband and you deal with your wife as adults, not as little children. Sit together, resolve your difficulties. If it's a difficulty which is so difficult, then you should resolve it. If it's a difficulty which is so difficult, then you should resolve it. If it's a difficulty which is so difficult, then you should resolve it. If it's a difficulty which is so difficult, then find a third person who you trust. Go to them and listen to their advice and resolve the difficulty. Don't have a slanging match in the house. Love will come from that. If there is a conflict, then you should resolve it. Sit together and resolve it. If there is a conflict, then you should resolve it. Don't involve anyone else. If you have to run to your parents for everything, then you are not fit to get married. You are little children. Go home. If you are an adult and you are fit to get married, it means that you will resolve your own conflicts. There will be a conflict for sure. There is no doubt about it. It doesn't matter. There is no problem. The heart is more connected to the conflict. If the person makes the right decision, then the heart is connected. If the person makes the right decision, then the heart is connected. The heart is not broken. The heart should not be broken. The one who makes the right decision, then he should resolve the conflict. The third word which Allah has used is the word Rahma. Allah is the Most Merciful. Allah has called his attribute of himself. What is the attribute of mercy? Mercy is the attribute which includes forgiveness. Allah used his own name and his own attribute of Rahma. He said mercy. What is mercy? It is a kind of forgiveness. It is a kind of forgiveness. It is a kind of forgiveness. It is a kind of forgiveness. mercy. Mercy is the foundation of forgiveness. We ask forgiveness from Allah. What do we ask? I did nothing, forgive me. Do we say that or not? You say, Allah, I did a lot. But you are the most merciful. Forgive me. Do we say that or not? Same thing. Many times people come to me with no, but you know, she said this, she. That is why you need to forgive her. That is why you need to forgive him. If they did not do anything, what are you forgiving? Mercy is the attribute in which forgiveness is included. Forgiveness is due to mercy. We ask Allah, Allah, you did not ask Allah I did nothing, forgive me. No. You say, Allah, I did a lot. I repent. Forgive me. So in the same way, if there is anything between you, if there is anything between you, then forgive each other. As long as you forgive, your marriage will be perfect. When forgiveness is left, then it becomes difficult. Forgive. The last thing I said, that Allah has criticized us. Ya ayyuha alladhina amanu qu anfusakum wa ahlikum dara wa quduhannaasu wal hijara Allah said, O believers, protect yourself and your family from fire. The fire that is the limit of human and stone. The fire that is the limit of human and stone. The fire that is the limit of human and stone. The fire that is the limit of human and stone. Allah said, save yourself from the fire. O you who believe, save yourself from the fire, the fuel of which is humans and stones. The fire of Allah, if you want to save yourselves, two critical things. Number one, maintain the difference of halal and haram. Halal earning, halal eating. Halal behavior. No matter what. No matter what. No matter what. No matter what. What happened in our world Our world is upside down. We can't feed ourselves any halal or haram goods. We are not husband and wife without any law, without any rights, He is the one who feeds and protects and sustains everything in creation. And you believe he can't give you a piece of bread without you doing something haram? What kind of God is this? What kind of Iman is this? Everything. Clean it out. Clean it out. Anything haram that you are involved in, I don't know if you are or not. I'm telling you generally speaking. Anything haram you are involved in, get rid of it. Throw it away. It is not worthy of your dignity. It is against your honour that you cross the boundaries of Allah's honour. You are a Muslim. You are a Waqar. You are Muslim. You have honour. You have respect. You have honour. Don't destroy your own honour by going against the laws of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. So first point, no haram. Meaning no earning haram. No eating haram. Say Bismillah and eat. That's strange. So you will drink and say Bismillah and drink water? The meat that is not cooked with hands is haram. Don't touch it. Earn halal, eat halal. Second point, fulfil the fara'ib. What Allah made for non-negotiable. Five times of salah. Fasting of Ramadan. Fasting of Ramadan. Giving of zakat and hajj once in a lifetime. Fard. Don't neglect that. Fulfil the fara'ib. You do these two things inshaAllah, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will give us janm. We ask Allah to forgive us. I ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to bless both of you. I ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to make your marriage a beautiful example of the beauty of Islam. I ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to fill your heart with love and respect for one another.