Enneagram and Marriage

Did you ever wonder what the differences are between males and females in personality? How about the types that are considered more masculine while others are called feminine types? Join Christa in dissecting not only human and animal studies in terms of gender but a type by type journey of comparing Enneagram traits. Christa shares both your research as a community as well as reflects on couples and families she's worked with over the past two decades. Don't miss out on ways you can grow! https://www.judithsearle.com/sexuality-gender-roles-and-the-enneagram htps://typevolution.com/2017/07/26/feminine-masculine-essences-of-the-enneagram-types/ https://www.researchgate.net/publication/232438047_Gender_Diagnosticity_A_New_Bayesian_Approach_to_Gender-Related_Individual_Differences Masculinity/Femininity Test (surveydata.online) https://surveydata.online/gdia?resp=24223222121541214443523231512322313412423342553334244344 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1300/J082v23n04_04?journalCode=wjhm20 https://stanmed.stanford.edu/2017spring/how-mens-and-womens-brains-are-different.html Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On part 2 of the Enneagram Glow series, Christa and Alaina listen to marriage and family therapist Michael Shahan, MA, LMFT, an Enneagram 9, talk not only about the way trauma can be healed in marriage but also particularly about how the popularly paired 1-9 couple can glow together. In this episode, we cover less of the research and development concept of the glow (see "Discovering Your Enneagram Glow: Part 1" for background) and more of the actual process of healing one another's deepest wounds and personal issues in marriage. We got emotional in this episode and we hope you do too as you continue to work on your relationship glow! Websites & accounts mentioned www.MichaelShahan.com, IG: @michaelshahan_therapy Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This podcast covers the fascinating way that in marriage we create a union that is something more than either of us was before. The glow is our fun way of describing how we don't just learn our partner's type but we actually take traits on! This means each type takes on a different shade, depending on their partner's type and how then they can share their unique couple glow. Christa is joined by fellow creative Alaina Pompa, the artist and designer behind our new Enneagram Glow Guides as they introduce the concept, the contest, and talk about how very different their Type 7 marriages are! For your unique pairing guide visit: Glow guides Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every single type in marriage struggles with conflict. When is anger right? When should we curb it? What do we do in marriage with our anger and what can we do when we're holding onto our rage or hurts? Join Christa for a discussion of strategically and compassionately sharing hurts and dealing with conflict and anger with every type. This is an episode you don't want to miss, Enneagram love aside! Habits of a Healthy Marriage by Richard Fitzgibbons MD http://files.drrobgrellman.com/pdf/authors/Forgive%20&%20Forget.pdf (Lewis Smedes forgiveness) https://baltimorecounselor.com/how-often-do-couples-fight-and-should-you-be-concerned/#:~:text=However%2C%20most%20couples%20fight%20about,only%209%25%20of%20the%20time. Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's no secret that the holidays will be a bit different this year - and this on top of the fact that despite Hallmark movies, holidays in relationships aren't always a winning combo! Join Christa for an episode covering the realistic goals you can set for your holiday so you'll be blessed and able to give your very best to others! Special discount code for our new "Love With..." Enneagram merch! Read more about Holidays and Relationships: http://www.health.com/health/article/0,,20412109,00.html Prepare for Advent with Biola’s Center for Christianity, Arts & Culture: http://ccca.biola.edu/events/2020/nov/29/2020-advent-project-online-devotional-series/ Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You've probably heard of the counterphobic 6 but did you know that each of the Enneagram types has a countertype? Christa goes through each of the 9 types and discusses the countertype flowing in the other direction of the type's usual positioning. Different from the counterpassion, the countertype involves wanting the same result but using a different defense mechanism to get there! Find encouragement and balance here, learning about your best and worst ways of being both alone and together. Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

During this festive Halloween week, join Christa for fun tips for every type! This episode also covers tips directly from the R & R Marriage Method such as learning how manage sarcasm, finding one another's favorite styles of play, and learning to be light together on a regular basis even in this heavy season of 2020. This is also a great episode for contest fun as we do giveaways for the R & R Method and a Halloween mystery dinner game! www.suppersleuths.com Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Over a quarter of American families are affected by miscarriage and infant loss and almost as many have struggled with infertility yet it's a topic that's not often discussed in marriage and parenting circles with ease. Our guest on this extra special episode is AnnMarie Jones, mom of 3 and co-founder of Bridge A Life Adoption and Foster Care Ministry, and her story today as an Enneagram 2 is every bit as heartwarming as it is compelling. Join AnnMarie and Christa in a conversation about finding hope in a season of struggle, tips for those dealing with infertility, and the very special calling one often gets when they're asked to walk an unexpected road. Show links: www.BridgeALife.com Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In-law tensions in marriage are nothing new but when we butt heads or in this case, butt Enneagram types and subtypes, there are specific routes we can take for more healthy moves and interventions. Listen in as Christa shares tips and advice for those living close and far away. She also incorporates research, and offers hope for even the most difficult and seemingly hopeless relationships. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mate-relate-and-communicate/201310/have-in-law-issues https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/conscious-communication/201809/improving-relationships-your-in-laws Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Enneagram is infiltrating the church and that's no doubt a gift, since it offers a framework for connection across personalities. However, amidst the current "hustle" mentality of the church, there is great need to grow in caring for those with deep mental health struggles and addictions. Christa is joined by therapist and Enneagram 3 Alexandra Thompson, LMSW, owner of Cumberland Counseling Services for a conversation about growing as a body and honoring even the most broken people. https://cumberlandchurch.org/counseling/ Visit Alex's counseling site https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/daily-life-coping/managing-stress-anxiety.html https://www.mentalhealth.gov/get-help/immediate-help Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Listen in as Christa helps you to understand mental health struggles paralleling each Enneagram type at their most stressful levels. When you're trying to find a road map, or what is clinically called a treatment plan, it's important not to self-diagnose, but to go to a trained mental health professional for an assessment. This episode is a guide for whom Enneagram work may just not be not enough at least initially. It is also a gentle reminder that it's OK to need extra support, medication or therapy when we have those darker seasons so we can get back on track with wonderful life goals and finding joy in the everyday! This episode covers types as they may correlate to: Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder Factitious Disorder Histrionic Personality Disorder Narcissistic Personality Disorder Major Depressive Disorder Avoidant Personality Disorder Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) Bipolar Disorder ADHD for children and adults Intermittent Explosive Disorder Dissociative disorders Resources: https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/daily-life-coping/managing-stress-anxiety.html www.nami.org www.mayoclinic.org https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-career-within-you/201210/is-the-achiever-my-genes-my-upbringing-or-me https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-career-within-you/201210/is-the-achiever-my-genes-my-upbringing-or-me Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As much as we want sexual intimacy to be amazing, sometimes we come into marriage with unintentional baggage in this area. Whether you're dealing with problems that occurred before your marriage began or you've had issues build up along the way, tune in to Christa's interview with therapist and Christian professor Dr. Camden Morgante, PsyD. as they talk all things sex therapy, purity culture, and of course, the Enneagram so you can enjoy the celebration of healthy intimacy together! Visit www.DrCamden.com for an important quiz on purity culture. Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Listen in as Christa discusses one of the most highly requested topics of Enneagram tritypes. Understand the importance of balancing the three intelligence centers, the head, the heart, and the body in your marriage and family life. Get ready to dig deep on some especially juicy soundbites as you learn to tell your narrative and to honor your own Tritype journey of health and healing! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you believe in love at first sight? Perhaps you locked eyes with your spouse and the rest is history. Others of you had more of a calculated, careful and pre-meditated love story and some are not yet with your future spouse. In this exciting opening episode, we're establishing not only the definition of love type by type, we're walking through finding joy inside and outside of a relationship. Christa teams up with Liv @theenneagram7 so both married and singles get awesome tips on the quest for true love! Media mentioned: https://www.instagram.com/theenneagram7/ (contest!) https://www.amazon.com/Mingling-Souls-Design-Marriage-Redemption/dp/1434706869 https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Goals-How-Dating-Marriage/dp/0593192575/ref=sr_1_1?crid=RTXKGDPP6CKS&dchild=1&keywords=mike+todd+relationship+goals&qid=1600629721&s=books&sprefix=mike+todd+re%2Cstripbooks%2C186&sr=1-1 Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We need to come to marriage knowledge from many different personality perspectives, and today's episode will give you such depths from a new direction. Christa interviews a LMHC on her team, Craig Stratton, MA, an Enneagram 9. We also hear his marriage story to his beautiful wife Mary Kay, another 9! Craig shares his heart for making sure others are heard, what therapy is really like, as well as the key moment of change occurring in marriage. So many keys to healthy communication in marriage, don't miss! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's time to go deep with our peaceful and powerful Enneagram 9s! Join Christa in going through Type 9 tendencies, misconceptions, and paths to growth. Find out how you and your 9 loved ones can both get healthy and find your voice and power as a 9! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you always wondered what makes an Enneagram 8 tick? Feeling like you want to avoid making an 8 feel ticked off? Learn all about the often understood and awesome Enneagram 8s - people of power, lots of love, and a heart for leadership, love, and family! The goal of this episode is to bring honor and love to this group because in many ways, 8s make the world go round. We want you 8s to be as healthy as possible as you share and shape others to bring out your most healthily vulnerable self! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Christa for a chat on this special bonus listener request show on blended family issues. Christa is joined by her sister Abbie, an Enneagram 3, who talks about being married to an Enneagram 8, and also about all she's learning in blending her family of five boys. Abbie shares tips about navigating emotions, family meetings, therapy, knowing your role as a step-parent, how to give space, how to start the blending process, and so much more! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's time to talk deep about our light and refreshing Enneagram 7s and this episode goes down to the nitty-gritty depths indeed! Join Christa in going through Type 7 tendencies, misconceptions, and the whirling and swirling tendencies of this last counterpart in the anxiety triad. Known as storytellers with a penchant for using rationalization for the avoidance of pain, it's time to find out how you and your 7 loved ones can both get healthy and stay healthy in the relationships! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you been experiencing more fear during COVID? Have you been wanting to figure out how to master your stress as an Enneagram Six? Perhaps you're someone who's likely managing a lot more stress lately and you could use some tips and tools for bringing your personal stress levels down. This will bring healing and growth to your marriage and family. Lindsey Palmer, PharmD, an Enneagram Six takes us through the ins and outs of cortisol levels and the fight or flight response of our bodies. She also shares essential tips she's learned over the years to utilize courage and to establish careful, planned, and non-stressful steps! Tune in to get started on managing your stress, too! Find Lindsey @your.pharm.assist on Instagram or at her website https://yourpharm-assist.com/blog/f/exercise-for-health-benefits-and-limitations Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Christa for a full on analysis of arguably the most analytical of all of the types, the Loyal and Skeptical Enneagram 6. Typically heralded as the most courageous of all the personality types, our 6s offer a myriad of paradoxes, starting with the fact that they're also considered the most fearful of all the types. You'll learn how marriages with varying types influence them as well as how you can truly bring joy and healthy love to your relationship with the awesome 6 in your life! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whether it's a friendship like therapy or a professional helper, research tells us that whatever your Enneagram type, your relationship thrives with healthy encouragement from others. Many couples, however, are leaving this to the singles and not soliciting wise feedback when they need it most in marriage. Listen to this episode as Christa details the why, the who, the where and the when you need mentors most in your relationship. She also warns of the friendships you may need to shift away from as she shares critical life lessons in love and friendship! https://research.msu.edu/are-friends-better-for-us-than-family/) https://www.adultdevelopmentstudy.org/grantandglueckstudy https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0190740910003178 https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0044118X15604849 Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As the Investigators of the Enneagram personality typing system, 5s and their loved ones are in for a treat as we delve deep into the mind of the 5! We're exploring the gifts, wings, subtypes, and shadows of the 5, while giving you ways for you and your brilliant 5 to thrive! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Christa as she goes through each Enneagram type for healing from an affair. Though affairs can be a taboo topic, even more difficult to discuss is how we heal from them. She goes through the four classes of affairs and how to specifically treat them. This episode may not be as traditionally fun as many shows but we're so excited for you to listen because it's a truly life saving adventure to save a marriage from the brink of disaster! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do certain Enneagram types tend to cheat more than other types and what causes an affair? The findings of marriage studies tell us there are predictors for extramarital affairs but that the seasons of marriage, maturity levels, and ages, may have even more to do with this factor than which types are together. Join Christa in examining the eight reasons couples give for cheating as well as how to set boundaries and prevent a third party from complicating your marriage further! https://umdrightnow.umd.edu/news/why-do-people-cheat-umd-research-identifies-8-motivating-factors https://www.dana.org/article/brains-do-it-lust-attraction-and-attachment/ https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/4rii7l/gottmans_cheaters_cascade/ https://www.gottman.com/blog/askgottman-affairs-answers/ Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Fours are considered the Individualists or the Romantics of the Enneagram. Why do Fours seem to delve into places of shame and sorrow more quickly than others, and why is there so much variety and stereotyping going on with them as well? What are they like in marriage, and most importantly, what can they do to be at the best individually and in their families and relationships? Join in for a talk on all things beloved Enneagram 4 including wings, subtypes, and type-by-type relationship pairings! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week as we wrap up our Around the Table segment, join Christa going through her research findings and chatting with her first official guest, her best friend Stacey Day, a dietician and PA-C. It's been so wonderful to conduct research and to spend time learning about how so many individuals and types have formed food preferences, food issues, and couple bonds over the course of their lives and relationships. They discuss couples tips for the long haul and also how friendship and food can carry you through so many beautifully memorable times if you open yourself up to it. Most importantly, how your marriage and family can truly thrive in both your most intimate and special everyday moments with food. Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, you'll get encouragement and learn how to talk about and address food issues in your marriage, season by season. Research tells us ways we plan for or initiate and carry out our eating rituals in our families and cultures matter. Food together in marriage and family has such potential to either hurt or help your communication. You're also getting a great tool for conversations around your table! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Fresh from the vault of pre-COVID times comes our "All About Enneagram 3s in Relationship" episode! Though our voices are a bit lighter in earlier 2020 times, the content you'll find for loving and living with your Enneagram 3 is just as rich and deep as you would hope. Enjoy this episode so you learn more about this secretly romantic and deeply vulnerable (under the stylish and bold exterior) heart type with the absolute best you have to give! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy events in our lives and marriages deserve to be celebrated, and not just at the end of the road, but at important milestones too. In this episode, join Christa as she talks about various personality trappings for your types and hers, and especially how celebrating the amazing journey along the way changes your life for the better. Research, media, and personal examples all converge to tell us the same thing - the stories you tell about your marriage and the actions you take in it matter - a lot! Don't miss this opportunity to celebrate well together as you step into a fresh new moment of your life lived with intention. Anniversary contest also! For the @AlisaTaylorDesign Enneagram prints, visit https://www.etsy.com/shop/AlisaTaylorDesign Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Marriages are in danger of losing connection more than ever due to literally constant tech use & interruptions. The research we gathered over quarantine shows that phones are getting out of control and communication is suffering. Listen to why tech is particularly addicting, what types suffer most, and how it's hurting you even if you don't realize it. We also share seriously vital tips you need in order to stay tuned not just to social media but to your most important relationship! https://www.nytimes.com/2016/10/30/style/smartphones-iphone-marriage-husbands-wives-technology.html https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2014/02/11/couples-the-internet-and-social-media/ https://www.marriage.com/blog/relationship/reasons-technology-is-affecting-divorce-rates/ https://www.focusonthefamily.ca/content/how-to-make-technology-work-for-your-marriage Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Christa in a conversation about the importance of compassion, listening, empathy, and specific steps for healing trauma wounds in a marriage using the Enneagram. These steps bring success to a large degree and are the hallmark of healing difficult moments - together. Tune in for the three steps in healing attachment wounds as a couple, and stick around or our free resource for regaining balance in your marriage as well. Visit https://www.verywellmind.com/five-stages-of-grief-4175361, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6169872/, and https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ptsd-trauma/helping-someone-with-ptsd.htm for information about grief, trauma, and compassion research as we continue on in marriage and life. Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Can a few seconds really make a difference in the life of a person, a marriage, a culture? The answer is a resounding yes, and in light of what's been happening in culture lately with the instability, the quarantine and the racial tragedies, it's the very best time to bring life and healing to your marriage, family, and community. Starting with a prayer and some tips for what you can do about what's happening around us today, and listening to this entire strategy-packed episode, will help you to find your way back to health presence and practice today! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We know you're working so hard to make a great life and legacy for future generations together both in the world and in your family. But what do we do in marriage when trials and losses hit, as they inevitably do as time passes. Join Christa for an amazing journey through her own and your grief at each stage with tons of practical and heartfelt marriage and personal tips and an extra special freebie for you from her husband Wes! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Listen in as Christa uses the Enneagram to openly discuss sexual needs and desires, as well as the ways they have been stifled, shamed, and overexposed. This episode is critical for you to listen to on your own or with your partner. Then you can get started on the road to your most amazing and sacred intimate life together with tons of practical tips and research you don't want to miss! Kendra Swalls info from Girl Means Business also! Website - www.girlmeansbusiness.com Itunes - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/girl-means-business/id1457458458 Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/girlmeansbusiness/ Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whatever their socioeconomic status, couples continue to report that arguing about finances is one of the three biggest issues in their marriages. In this vital episode, we're talking about the effects of financial infidelity as well as finding your wise and authentic financial voice. Start now on integrating your own budget as we share our weekly tools and more from financial gurus across the globe! Most importantly, you'll learn how couples struggle with their finances and how to overcome their challenges together. Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Couples we're surveying are talking about a new topic of communication that's currently at hand. The question is about when and how to individually and jointly emerge from quarantine, especially where there's disagreement. When survival is at stake, what and who gives? Join in for this special midweek mini-edition of the podcast in a conversation about how we can still live and work together with our spouses in a loving manner even when we differ about this important and deeply relevant marriage and family topic. Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tired of running around the same marriage stumbling blocks? Join us for another episode where we tackle not just the rhetoric but the actual roadblocks of marriage communication issues! Whatever your Enneagram type, there are some tried-and-true methods for getting through to your spouse that will enrich your relationship for a lifetime! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Just how does your Enneagram type inform your parenting at best and at worst? This is a special episode that's full of grace for parents, and one that we're finally releasing from the pre-quarantine time capsule! We hope you take some time this Mother's Day weekend and beyond to both explore and to embrace the fun and the learning lessons of each Enneagram type, both from your own days as kids and to reflect on your own parenting style. We know you want to be the best parent possible, whatever your type! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Even if you're an assertive type and you don't like to be controlled by another person, human relationships need not only connections, but routines together to thrive, especially married couples. Don't worry, however, routines can be varied and fun! Listen as we go over the vital habits you need to continually establish so you can find or re-find your best routine vibes both individually and together, whatever your Enneagram type! We're also including info about a special freebie and a marriage training opportunity for pastors, counselors, and coaches! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tune in to hear about the importance of emotional self-care for each Enneagram type. Listen to hear how Christa and the couples she's been working with have been taking steps to get more in touch with their hearts. Get tips on both your type and your spouse's type to have better emotional self-care for yourself and your marriage! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Christa for a compelling conversation as we talk all things Enneagram and fitness! This week's research has shown cutting edge tips for staying as healthy as possible during COVID-19. In addition to wearing your PPE, we've learned getting through this harrowing virus has everything to do with your fitness levels! You'll learn how you, whatever type you are, can not only improve your own fitness life but also steer your marriage toward life and balance as well! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tune in as Christa creatively guides you through helpful tools and tips for each Enneagram type on their spiritual journey. Chances are, your faith has evolved over the years and that your marriage has also been influenced. She offers some tips to stay connected as a couple even if you differ spiritually or just at different points. This episode is truly for everyone to wants to grow in their marriages and their spirituality! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When quarantine guarantees an unquestionably long time together with your partner, what can you do to keep things not only healthy but also safe? Join us for an important conversation about each type in stress and ways to strategize with your partner so you both land in a safe place of wellness for the duration of the quarantine and beyond. Christa explores not only each type in stress but also highlights a strategy for a healthy rising up to the call of your unique gifts as well. Don't miss out! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Listen in for amazing tips on managing anxiety by Enneagram type as an individual as well as a spouse, and learning to differentiate normal anxiety from a paralyzing disorder. Some people spend their entire lives preparing for emergency and when it comes, they find themselves more than equipped to handle the problems. Others of us find ourselves in a whirlwind of emotions we need help processing, sometimes falling apart for a little while. Listen also for special tips for managing coronavirus anxiety as well, including a peaceful relaxation exercise to get you grounded no matter what anxiety you're facing right now! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us for this special episode as host Christa Hardin and her guest, her husband Wes, Enneagram 1, get serious as well as laugh as they contemplate their relationship and whether he's actually been a 3 all this time. This is a special peek into a twenty-four year long relationship and especially relevant if you're someone who wonders about your non-Enneagram obsessed spouse or someone who just want an inner look at another couple's Enneagram + Marriage story! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

During times of local or national stress, couples often become more conflicted that ever. With the world shutdown and Coronavirus upon us, we need each other more than ever so we can stay connected and in healthy control of the things we need to manage well, namely our families. Join us in the special episode where Christa gives your relationship the boost it needs to withstand the pressures of right now, using tools from past critical moments in time, Enneagram insights, and more! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Listen to this important episode to learn what you in your Enneagram type can expect over the beginning, middle, and later stages of marriage as you make the important decision to grow love. Couples often approach their marriage with eyes of hope and excitement for how their spouse will heal their wounds. This isn’t a faulty approach, as we do help one another to heal. However, when we expect spouses to heal all of our own wounds, most of which started long before marriage, we are let down. Get the tips and advice you need for each season of marriage! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Women are stereotyped as being more emotional than men and our surveys showed that feelings types were indeed much more prevalent with females than males. Join us as we talk about the large number of compliant and withdrawing women we surveyed and especially as we help these types and all types to find their voice in marriage! As we celebrate International Women’s Day this week you don’t want to miss being part of the conversation on how females can increasingly thrive in marriage and relationships! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're chatting about our lovely Enneagram 2s in this encompassing episode where we share not only well-known type qualities of 2s but also ways they can thrive within their relationships. We're also analyzing ways 2s, who love to give and to love the world can keep up all that helping from a place of health in marriage particularly. Listen as we chat about balancing the subtype and some common strengths and issues each of the other types has in relation to their dear Enneagram 2! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Or leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to [email protected]. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a 5-Star review so others can find us, too right >> here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices