Ellis Ever After

When you have a spouse, a job and multiple kids, it’s hard to find a moment for yourself. That’s why some parents are opting to hire help with their newborn’s needs while they take a few hours to do other things. But how much help is too much? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss their method for getting help at home. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The access we have to information in today’s world has created a generation of people who are much more equipped to deal with life’s ups and downs. And for social media personalities like Katryce Pedro AKA The Funny Momma, sharing their journey through hardships and triumphs helps create communities of people all over the world who are dealing with similar issues. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk with Katryce about her journey through motherhood and social media. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Now that the Ellis crew has added another whole boy, are Khadeen and Devale done having kids? In this episode, the couple discuss if they’re done populating their village. Dead ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When a woman is handling the changes in her body during pregnancy, her partner may want to be creative with ways to keep her feeling good and sexy. In this episode, Devale shares the ways he kept Khadeen feeling sexy to make sure the intimacy never wavered during pregnancy. Dead ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After 40 weeks of pregnancy, the work of having a baby isn’t over. Khadeen and Devale bust the myths and discuss the facts to prepare you for the 4th trimester. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The line between life and death becomes its thinnest during childbirth. In this episode, the Ellises discuss their brush with death after Khadeen developed postpartum preeclampsia. Dead ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Baby E4, Dakota Marley Ellis is here and the Ellises are savoring each moment with him as he starts to make his mark in the world. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale share their experience giving birth at home to their fourth whole boy. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Congratulations to the Ellises who welcomed baby Dakota to the world! Come back for a new episode of Dead Ass on Wednesday, December 8th! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The countdown to baby E4 is almost over, and the Ellises are getting ready for another home birth. In this episode, they answer all your questions about exactly what takes place during the birthing process and what’s different about giving birth at home. #DeadAss Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

From Brooklyn to Atlanta, and hospitals to home births, the Ellises have stories for days about how the births of their 4 boys have been different. How’d they prepare for each of them? In this episode Khadeen and Devale explain. #DeadAss. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Well into the third trimester, Khadeen’s ready for Baby E4 to make his appearance. But as Devale plays super Dad to make sure she’s ready for delivery, Khadeen’s got her hands full keeping Devale’s head in the game. In this episode, Khadeen gives her top 10 suggestions for what Dad needs during pregnancy. #DeadAss Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

With 15 years of friendship and 9 kids between them, Khadeen and her bestie Bianca Smith have shared a lot of life. This week they’re letting us in on their lives and some of the craziest moments in their friendship. #DeadAss Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In a society where masculinity is synonymous with hardness, where does a man get to be open? Devale makes space for masculine vulnerability with his Sistas co-stars Kevin Walton and Trinity Whiteside in this episode. #DeadAss Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After having 3 whole boys, Devale is an expert at making sure Khadeen is comfortable carrying baby E4. This week, Devale shares his top 10 things Dads can do to help carry the load during pregnancy. #DeadAss Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Children are a gift, but the way they get here feels like a curse. Khadeen and Devale get real about what they hate about pregnancy. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Khadeen gets real about the transformations she’s seen in her body going through her fourth pregnancy while Devale talks about changes he’s seen in himself too. The Ellises share advice on how to have a healthy pregnancy and how to cope with all the changes that come with it. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Pregnancy takes its toll on a woman’s body and that can weigh on a couple’s sex life. But for some couples, the sex is even better during pregnancy. The Ellises share where they fall on the pregnant sex spectrum. Dead Ass! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Some experts say that the first trimester of pregnancy is the sneakiest of them all. No cute baby bump, just morning sickness and vibes. This week, Khadeen and Devale share how they got through their fourth 1st trimester. And share tips, tricks and absolute necessities for new parents. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After 4 seasons of Devale begging Khadeen to have another baby, his wish is finally coming true. The Ellises are having another baby! The Eliises are sharing their hopes and dreams for #E4 and how they finally came to the decision to add one more to the Ellis gang. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Game night is always a blast when the drinks are flowing and the laughs are growing. Khadeen and Devale try to replicate the game night vibes virtually with the always hilarious Kid Fury (The Read). The trio shares some of their deepest darkest secrets with a game night where nothing is Taboo. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Devale always says, “There is a delusional quality that all successful people have”, and that delusion is the vision that only they can see for themselves. The Ellises invited their friends, and fellow superstars Kendall Kyndall (Social Society) and Crystal Renee’ Hayslett (Sistas) to share the delusions they’ve had when reaching for their dreams. #DeadAss. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s time for Khadeen’s favorite part of Dead Ass - listener letters! And this time, the Ellises are answering your letters for the entire episode. Get ready to be shocked, perplexed, and nosey. Dead Ass! If you want to be featured as one of our listener letters, email [email protected]. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Relationships that stand the test of time, also stand the tests of life and circumstances. After 10 years of marriage, the Ellises say that those tests are the measure of loyalty in relationships. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Culturally, quickly establishing who is at fault is our default response. But what does it really mean to hold ourselves and our partners accountable? Licensed marriage and Family Therapist, Delena Zimmerman is here to help the Ellises figure out who is really to blame. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is it possible to hate and love someone at the same time?? This week, the Ellises say YES! Khadeen and Devale share what irks and annoys them about each other. But what doesn’t kill them makes them stronger. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Ellises didn’t get to celebrate their 10 year anniversary with a vow renewal, but that doesn’t mean they’ve stopped celebrating their marriage. This week, Khadeen & Devale discuss what they want to take into the next 10 years of marriage. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Ellises bought a new home! And while they celebrate their win, the challenges Black people face when it comes to homeownership are real and perpetuate the racial wealth gap in America. This week, Khadeen & Devale tell you the ins and outs of what it took to buy a new home during the pandemic. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to single men and women, the double standard is real. A man is a pimp when he’s sewing his royal oats, but a woman is a hoe if she’s dating around. Khadeen & Devale debate the relevance of heaux tales. #DeadAss Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Ellises only disagree on 1 thing – whether to have another a baby! But this week, Devale thinks he has the answers to convince Khadeen once and for all. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Arguably the most eligible bachelorette, Lori Harvey has been getting a lot of backlash about her dating habits. But is she wrong for being courted? Khadeen and Devale discuss. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Budgetnista is back to talk all things wealth with the Ellises. This time she’s breaking down the 10-step plan to financial freedom from her new book “Get Good with Money”. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The sex drive conversation has finally come to a resolution. This week the Ellises reveal what they think was holding them back from doin’ it wild for the last few years. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

#DeadAss Is back for season 5 and the Ellises are starting 2021 with a whole new outlook on love, life and marriage. How do you wake up every day with the intention of serving your spouse? Khadeen and Devale touch on service in marriage, finding your purpose and more this week. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Throw out everything you know about marriage! After 10 years of marriage, the Ellises reflect on the lessons they could only learn by doing. What really makes a marriage work? Well, that’s up to you. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Family secrets, family history and family curses are all ways we explain away the traumas that we pass from generation to generation. You can’t heal what you can’t feel, and this week Khadeen and Devale are talking about all the ways they hope to change their family’s future. Dead ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If 2020 has done one thing, it’s gotten all of us closer to our kids. We’ve been teachers, lunch ladies, camp counselors, playmates, and everything else during the pandemic and the struggle’s been real. This week, Khadeen and Devale talk to Early Childhood Development specialist Dr. Reema Naim about how we can strengthen the way we nurture our kids’ development. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The church is a pillar in our communities and families, but in the age of information, how do we reconcile what we know with what we believe? This week, Khadeen and Devale talk to Pastor Reginald Wayne Sharpe Jr. (Fellowship Chicago) about what faith and religion really mean in 2020. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The people who can trigger you the most, are the ones who know you the best. Family. And during the holidays, we gotta be prepared to deal with the ups and downs of family time. This week, Khadeen and Devale share their secrets on how to deal with family as an adult. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Amidst Black Lives Matter protests this year, The Ellises had to face one of their biggest challenges as parents raising Black boys. Having the Black talk. Khadeen and Devale are joined by civics educator Amber Coleman-Mortley to help them have the talk about race in America with their boys. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We make timelines in our minds for how we want our lives to go. But what happens when you put pressure on your spouse to meet your deadlines? The Ellises are going back to their conversation about pressure – the good and the bad that can come of it. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Before you check your favorite celebrities and Facebook friends about posting about social justice issues, have you checked yourself? This week, Khadeen and Devale Ellis speak to Mysonne (co-founder of Until Freedom) about what it means to be a social activist, and how we can all activate change. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Fatherhood is sacred. And as men continue to evolve, the way they approach fatherhood gets better and better. This week, Devale Ellis joins Ser Baffo, Slick Naim and Robb-Davon Butler in a discussion about all fatherhood, and how they’re breaking generational patters for their lineage. Dead Ass! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This one’s for the ladies! Melanie Fiona, Ashley Chea and Bec M Gross join Khadeen Ellis this week for a candid conversation about what they’ve learned as mothers, from their mothers, and through self discovery via motherhood and beyond. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We all know by now, that second stimulus check ain’t coming. So what can you do to remain financially secure during uncertain times? The Budgetnista is back with Khadeen and Devale to help you stay afloat during the pandemic. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The 2020 Presidential Election is just around the corner and this year every vote is more crucial than ever. Shaun King joins the Ellises on this episode of Dead Ass to discuss just what is so important about this election, and how we can all effect change. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If money comes and goes and emotions are fleeting, what is the real value of having a spouse? This week, Khadeen and Devale share what they’ve learned about how to be the best partner in marriage. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do some women want monogamy if they can’t meet all of their partners’ needs? That’s Devale’s question for Khadeen this week as the Ellises talk about where their sex life is after 10 years of marriage. How do their standards for sex match up? What do they consider intimacy? And is monogamy really worth it? Find out in this episode of Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Just when you thought 2020 was a wash, The Ellises are here to save the day. Live from the Fresh Prince of Bel Air mansion, Khadeen and Devale share how they’ve used their time at home to be better parents and what they’ve learned from the now infamous 2020. Dead Ass! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the midst of an unbelievable year, Dead Ass is back for its fourth season with a new home, new episodes, new guests, and the same BROOOKLYNNNN energy. Join Khadeen & Devale Ellis for another season of conversations about relationships, culture, and everything in between. Season 4 starts Wednesday, October 7th, wherever you listen to podcasts. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.