Dudes Spankin' Dudes

Scott is joined this month by buddy Mike, who was his next-door neighbor at March's Hot Seat Retreat. In the Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes segment, Mike is a big fan of self-spanking, and in a time where we shouldn't be out trying to hook up with each other, no matter how badly we need a spanking, Mike has tips on applying heat to your own seat. In the Fantasy Life of Spanking we talk about fantasies about real life "accountability" spankings and punishments. How do you know you really want to be spanked for real-life reasons and how is it different from just wanting to get spanked. Mike explains. Oh, and speaking of real-life spanking accountability, check out the Dudes Spankin's Dudes Twitter feed and weigh in on how much Scott should have to paddle himself for his terrible, terrible quarantine Mohawk: https://twitter.com/DudesSpankDudes

Hot Seat Retreat in Palm Springs has come and gone and was a wonderful success (with a few things we'll need to hammer out in future retreats--and there WILL be future retreats). Scott and Jaden are joined by Doug, the guy who actually came up with the idea of putting on a new spanking event in Palm Springs, and we talk about how things went and what we learned. Also, a short discussion about fetish play and the coronavirus. In short, treat social distancing seriously. We have members of the spanking community who are in risk categories because they're older or HIV positive. If you want to know when Colby Jansen's spankathon video is set to come out, follow his Twitter feed: https://twitter.com/COLBYJANSENXXX And keep an eye out the official Hot Seat Retreat website. We're already hammering out the dates for next March!: https://www.hotseatps.com/

It's our last podcast episode before Hot Seat Retreat in Palm Springs in March. Jaden joins yet again with friend Anthony. In our "Real Dudes Spanking Real Dudes" segment, Anthony talks about his first experiences attending fetish events. He went to Bad Ass Weekend for the first time last October and Mid-Atlantic Leather for the first time in February. With Hot Seat Retreat just around the corner, we discuss a number of tips to make your first time at a big fetish event more successful. In our "Fantasy Life of Spanking" section, Anthony and Scott share a love of fantasies and stories that revolve around the use of spanking machines. We talk about what turns us on about the sadism of automated punishment. And maybe it doesn't have to be just a fantasy?

Jaden is back with another spanking buddy, Kevin, here to talk about their fun time at Mid-Atlantic Leather (M.A.L.) in January. Speaking of which, in the "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" segment, M.A.L. got some negative publicity from a young gay conservative at the Washington Examiner who thinks that fetish and leather play makes the LGBT community look bad. Scott, Jaden, and Kevin discuss the problems with his opinion piece, which you can read here: https://www.washingtonexaminer.com/opinion/dcs-degenerate-leather-weekend-annihilates-gay-progress In the Fantasy Life of Spanking, Kevin and Jaden discuss what it's like to start filming your own amateur porn. If you're interested, there's a lot of fun to be had. And Hot Seat Retreat is just a month away! There's still time to register here: https://www.hotseatps.com/

What better way to celebrate ringing in the new year with a discussion of Adult Baby/Diaper Lovers (Or ABDL) and their connections to the spanking scene? Scott is joined by regular and Whappz co-founder Jaden and his buddy Richard, a member of both the ABDL and the spanking scene. We discuss what the two communities have in common and the opportunities for daddies out there in the spanking scene to find some guys in some firm need for discipline. In other news, Camp Red Tails is back on for July! And Jaden and Scott give the latest update on how things are going with Hot Seat Retreat in March. For more on Hot Seat Retreat and to register, visit the site here: www.hotseatps.com/

Jaden is back to join Scott as we announce some big news: The launch of Hot Seat Retreat, a new spanking weekend event planned for March 5-8, 2020 at CCBC resort in Palm Springs, California. Scott and Jaden go over what prompted them to launch this new event and want to encourage all y'all to come on out. Also: Unfortunately, Camp Red Tails this summer is in trouble; RedSpankScott is now also HotBotScott when he's feeling like a bratty bottom, and Jaden and Scott go over their participation at the 10th Anniversary of Bad Ass Weekend. For more on Hot Seat Retreat and to register, visit the site here: https://www.hotseatps.com/ If you want more info about CCBC, the host resort, visit them here: https://www.ccbcresorthotel.com/

For episode 25, Scott is joined by the long-awaited straight dude! Cutter the Sourpatch Kid, who is on the board of the L.A. BDSM society Threshold, joins Scott to talk about why he likes spanking other dudes, the right way to approach heterosexual guys if you’re interested in spanking play with them, a bunch of things you SHOULDN’T do when approaching hetero dudes, and what fantasies straight dudes do and do not have. More about the Threshold Society here: https://threshold.org/

Scott is joined for the latest episode by J.R., whom listeners know better as Bossman. Yes, the guy who beats Scott's butt on the regular stops by for a chat. And maybe a threat or two. In the Real Dudes Spanking Real Dudes section, J.R. talks about his membership in Avatar, an L.A. club that teaches men how to engage in safe BDSM play, including spanking. We discuss how the Internet and the rise of millennials own interpretation of leather and BDSM culture has changed the way we look at the scene and how these organizations are adapting. Avatar's Facebook page can be found here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/AvatarclubLA/ In the Fantasy Life of Spanking, Scott and J.R. respond to some messages to a young newbie top in the spanking scene who is afraid to actually get involved because he's worried about his heavily sadistic fantasies. We talk about how it's actually pretty normal to have extreme and even nonconsensual fantasies. What matters is how you adapt those fantasies into safe and consensual play with partners. And as a bonus, Scott found a straight dude into spanking dudes to come on a future podcast. Send questions Scott's way!

Some good news to start. The Los Angeles Moonburn spanking party is back at it's old location at Threshold at the familiar day and time (the first Saturday of the month from noon-4 p.m.) Scott explains the details. Then, Scott is joined by David and Bruce, two of the organizers of Bad Ass Weekend, the all-male weekend spanking gathering held in Augusta, Georgia. This year marks the 10th anniversary of the even, and David and Bruce explain the amount of work that goes into pulling this all off. This year's gathering is from Oct. 17-20. Scott is again planning to be there. Get more information here: https://www.bawevent.com/

Jaden is back to let us all know that his spanking app Whappz is now available for Android devices, yay! And Scott updates on what's going on with the L.A. Moonburn parties. In the Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes segment, Jaden talks about the work that goes into hosting private spanking parties, and what you'll want to keep in mind if you're thinking of having some of your own. In the Fantasy Life of Spanking segment, we talk about the spanking erotical legacy of Cliff's Spanking Central site, which has ceased production of new movies but is still around and you can still join and download past videos here: http://spankingcentral.com/ And we take a question from a listener wondering how much he should "act" like he's struggling as a bottom, even when he's not.

Jaden from Whappz is back joining Scott for an episode that has some fun news from Jaden (Whappz coming to Android; fun at Mid-Atlantic Leather) and some bad news from Scott (Moonburn loses its home; Tumblr kicks out porn). Before getting to the main event, Scott explains the sudden and surprising closure of Threshold, the BDSM club in North Hollywood where the monthly Moonburn spanking party takes place. Moonburn organizers are busy looking for a new location, so stay tuned. In the Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes segment, Jaden reports from Washington, D.C., where he attended the annual Mid-Atlantic Leather (MAL) convention and had lots of fun spanking and being spanked. In the Fantasy Life of Spanking, we talk about how Tumblr made the rather radical decision to dump all adult content from the site (essentially committing suicide) and where people are going as an alternative (check out bdsmlr.com). All this and a question from a listener about how to introduce a partner who isn't into spanking but is willing to give it a try.

Podcast co-creator Brian/Croup returns for an episode because he and Scott just came back from a whirlwind spanking good vacation in Augusta, Georgia, for Bad Ass Weekend #9. They get into details about spankings, both delivered and received (and that includes Scott) and how amazing the entire event was. Y'all should consider going next year! Details about Bad Ass Weekend here: www.bawevent.com. In other news, Scott has decided to take a spin at self-publishing some of his spanking fiction. An anthology of his early chapters of "Aaron's Game" are now available as a Kindle ebook for the low-low price of $2.99. Check it out here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07JFJSFCS

A very special guest joins Scott for Episode 19: Hunky porn star (PornHub's 2018 Top Bear Performer), and rugby jock Colby Jansen. Scott has been spanked by Colby twice now (and apparently there' s more to come). In the "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" segment, Colby talks about how he got into the porn scene, how he discovered he was into spanking and BDSM, his escort work, and some etiquette if you're looking to find an escort to help you fulfill your spanking fantasies. In the "Fantasy Life of Spanking," Colby and Scott talk about how we all can push the major porn studios like Kink.com to maybe show a bit more spanking in their videos and the right way to give them feedback. Want to see more of Colby? Check out his fan site here: https://onlyfans.com/colbyjansenxxx Also, in other news, Scott is going to be attending Bad Ass Weekend in October in Augusta, Georgia. Several other of his podcast regulars will also be in attendance. There's still time to register. Information on the event here: http://bawevent.com/

Sidney's back to join Scott to talk about some more heavy-duty bottom stuff. Also, porn star Colby Jansen showed up at the Moonburn Party and it took Scott all of 60 seconds to go flying over his knee for a spanking. So now he and Sidney have that in common. There was also an accidental death in the BDSM community in Los Angeles, and Scott and Sidney go over what happened. It's an important subject for anybody who is using spanking as a springboard into other parts of S&M play. For the rest of the podcast: In the "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" segment, Scott and Sidney talk about double-teaming--when a single bottom submits to two spanking tops. Scott has done it a bunch as a top (and as of a week ago, once as a bottom). Sidney has done it a bunch as a bottom. We discuss what you should think about before submitting to an intense experience. In the "Fantasy Life of Spanking" we discuss leather and leather daddy fantasies. Leather, of course, plays a huge role in the gay BDSM scene. It's less prominent in the spanking scene, but if you do have leather fantasies, we discuss how you might approach some leathermen to ask them to beat your ass. And we answer a question from a podcast listener who is concerned about coming across like a jerk if he doesn't want to play with somebody at a party or event.

Scott's Guest for Episode 17 is Copper, an extremely well-known member of the American scene of dude-spankers. If you don't know him for his role in Man's Hand spanking videos, then you most certainly have seen his spanking artwork. For our "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" segment, Copper talks about his role in helping the Los Angeles spanking community get together and torment each other and the sorts of challenges he and the leaders of the Moonburn group have in keeping a party going for years. In our "Fantasy Life of Spanking" section we delve into Copper's background in spanking art, the struggles of trying to find markets for fetish art in the era of the internet, and how to support fetish-friendly artists.

We've got Big Daddy Vegas back for a third episode. And we've got info on a new spanking party in New York City appropriately called "Welts." (Check out the host's Tumblr page here: https://nycinfernoparty.tumblr.com/) In our "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" segment, it's been a while since we've talked about particular implements. Daddy Vegas is a master at the belt and straps, so we spent some time talking about how to use them, and how they feel, and what to do when you're inexperienced with them (watch out for those balls!). In the "Fantasy Life of Spanking" section, humiliation plays an important role in nearly every fantasy that involves spanking, so we decided to take some time to discuss why that is, how humiliation play allows for longer scenes, and how it allows for individual sessions to be more memorable and unique. All this and a question from a newcomer struggling with online communication with tops about getting spankings.

Jaden is back as a co-host this episode! We have fun news for Dudes into Spankin' and also into IPhones. Also, there's some straight dudes into spanking with other dudes who are willing to answer your questions. In "Real Dudes Spanking Real Dudes," Jaden is here to follow up on Episode 7, where we introduced Whappz, a connection site for dudes into spanking Jaden has designed to become an app. But it was a struggle to get Apple to let it into the App store. It's finally available, and Jaden talks about what he had to go through to get Apple to approve an app to help people with specific fetishes connect. In the "Fantasy Life of Spanking" segment, Jaden and Scott talk about "headspace" and how fantasies help you get in the mindset for spank play. We tend to associate this behavior with roleplay, but it's a bit more complicated than that. It's not just a performance. It's about psychologically putting yourself in the right mental space to accept and enjoy the spanking experience. Jaden and Scott talking about spanking videos that helped them figure out their own "headspaces" for spanking play.

Happy New Year! Big Daddy Vegas is back with RedSpankScott for another episode. We've got a bit of an update on the state of Whappz, focus of episode 7. Beyond that: In our "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" segment, we talk about resolutions for the New Year, particularly in terms of spankings, obviously. But also in terms of making friends and communicating with other guys in the spanking community. In our "Fantasy Life of Spanking" segment, Scott and Frank share a fondness for jocks, as do many dudes into spanking dudes or dudes who are into dudes in general. We talk about the fantasy and about Frank's background as an actual, honest-to-god Jock. We've also got a couple of questions from listeners at the end. And apologies for the drop in sound quality for the last 10 minutes or so. Clearly it's time for Scott to get a new headset.

Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah , and Happy Holidays in general. Scott is back after taking November off and joined by Big Daddy Vegas. Apologies for the break between episodes, but Scott had a good reason, which he explains. Also, if you're in the Pittsburgh area, we have info on a relatively new spanking party. In our "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" section, the podcast has been kind of bottom heavy (Scott does like his dudes a little bottom heavy). So Big Daddy Vegas and Scott go over a bunch of "Tips for Tops" about the kinds of things tops, especially less experienced tops, should plan for when playing with a new dude. In our "Fantasy Life of Spanking" section, December is the perfect time to look at the role Santa Claus plays in spanking fantasies. He's practically a celebrity among spankos and we explore why that is.

Brian (a.k.a. SoupGoblin) is back! Only as a guest host, but it's still good to have him back on the podcast. And he's back because he recently took a trip to Los Angeles and was able to attend a Moonburn in person. So we figured it would be a great opportunity to record a sequel to last year's Moonburn-centered podcast (episode 3) and talk about a whole bunch of spanking experiences that happened, featuring Brian getting paddled a whole lot and Scott as both the bully and the victim in a fun (and vicious) bit of reversal. We didn't have time for a fantasy life of spanking for this episode, but Scott does answer a listener question about Chi Delta Theta, a fantasy fraternity that existed back around 2000 as a precursor to online mechanisms for dudes into spanking to hook up. Scott was a member and has the paddle to prove it.

Scott has been asked repeatedly since starting the Dudes Spankin' Dudes podcast to discuss real world domestic discipline and Daddy/Boy fantasies. Unfortunately, these are areas in the spanking scene that Scott really doesn't participate in. So our guest for this episode of the podcast is Jake of the blog "Cornertime Confidential." Jake is in a relationship that involves domestic discipline spankings for actual real world reasons, and he's also very much part of the Daddy/Boy relationship dynamic scene. This podcast episode is all about the basics of both domestic discipline and Daddy/Boy roleplay. If you're interested in reading more, check out Jake's Cornertime Confidential blog: www.cornertimeconfidential.blogspot.com www.cornertimeconfidential.wordpress.com

Sidney's back for a second episode! The timing was good to bring him back to discuss going off to Camp Red Tails in July and a spanking fantasy he has in common with Scott that they've both made a reality. Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes: Scott has never been to Camp Red Tails in Northern California, but Sidney has. Sidney describes the experience and also how he got spanked by a porn star! Which porn star? You'll have to listen to find out. Details about Camp Red Tails here: https://manshandfilms.com/camp-red-tails/ The Fantasy Life of Spanking: Let's talk about whuppin's! That's Scott's term for heavy duty spanking sessions that don't have warm ups or a ramping up but are designed from the start to make a man cry. Scott and Sidney are both fond of the fantasy of the whuppin' (Scott as both a top and a bottom). They talk about the fantasy itself and what dudes should think about if they're thinking of making the fantasy real.

Another long episode! You know what that means: Stories involving actual real life dude-spanking-dude action! Including Scott's birthday spanking. It was a doozy. Scott is joined by Duke, who is new to the spanking scene, but has been involved in other types of BDSM play for years. Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes: Spanking and the BDSM Scene. Scott talks to Duke about how an early bad experience pushed him away from spanking kink play, and how he's slowly worked his way back into the spanking scene. Scott helped! By beating Duke's ass. It was fun. The Fantasy Life of Spanking: Begging for a Bullying. From the very first podcast episode, Scott was surprised to discover that a lot of dudes into spanking harbored fantasies involving bullies. Scott loves it as both a top and bottom. Duke loves it as a bottom. So the two of them talk about what the bully fantasy means and how (and whether) to translate it into real life play. And what that looks like with some stories of actual sessions.

Scott is back in Episode 8 with his buddy, Sid. Sid is a heavy-duty spanking bottom, and he and Scott share a spanking top in common, so this episode is focused all about being a bottom. Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes: How to build up that butt! If you're new to spanking you may be disappointed to discover you can't take all the punishment you fantasize about. Sid and Scott talk about ways you physically and psychologically grow into being able to take harder and harder spankings. The Fantasy Life of Spanking: You don't have to be a kid to be a brat! Sid and Scott discuss the fantasy of the "brat," the disobedient bottom who gets himself into trouble. Yes, the brat can be roleplay, but it's also a kind of mindset and it's actually very helpful in pushing real spanking scenes on and reinforcing the bottom's relationship to the top. Also, we mention a couple of upcoming spanking camps! Info on Camp Red Tails (July 13 to 18) can be found here: https://manshandfilms.com/camp-red-tails/ Info on Bad Ass Weekend (Oct. 19 to 22) can be found here: www.bawevent.com

It's been a while since our last podcast, but Scott is back. Brian is absent once again but we have Scott's friend Jaden instead. In episode 7 we have: Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes: Jaden is launching a new spanking profile and connection site called Whappz. Check it out at www.whappz.com. He and Scott discuss what inspired him to attempt to start a new site for dudes into spanking to meet and his future plans (hopefully an app, hence the name). If you want to join the site, use referral code "dudes" when you make a profile. Also, this link will take you directly to sign up and will autofill with the referral code: https://www.whappz.com/users/sign_up?referral_code=DUDES The Fantasy Life of Spanking: Jaden and Scott both have very different approaches on the role of underwear in spanking fantasies and which underwear turns them on. We discuss our own preferences and where might find videos that highlight them in spanking scenes. Plus we answer a couple more questions from listeners. Thanks for turning in!

Brian is back for the latest podcast, yay! In this episode, Scott and Brian discuss: - Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes: Brian and Scott talk about making online profiles for hookup sites to indicate your interest in spanking, and debate the best ways to communicate your interests. The two big sites they're referring to are www.spankthishookups.com and recon.com. - The Fantasy Life of Spanking: It's story time! Scott and Brian first met through a shared interest in spanking erotic fiction. We talk about malespank.net, a major home for stories about dudes spanking dudes and Brian's book publishing. - Spankify Everything: This was supposed to be a wide-ranging discussion of spanking fantasies and superheroes, but Scott went on and on and on and on about Colossus of the X-Men, who was responsible back in the day for Scott's sexual (and spanko) awakening.

Brian has needed to take a step backward with the podcast, but he's not gone, we promise. Scott and Brian's buddy Jason joins the discussion for this podcast. 1. "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes": What is it about a dude with a paddle anyway? Scott and Jason talk about the origins and masculine traits of one of the more popular punishment implements with dudes and things to think about when swinging them. 2. "The Fantasy Life of Spanking": This episode Scott goes on waaaaay toooo long about why individual spanking fantasies matter and how the "narratives" we make up for ourselves about spanking are important to making our kink or fetish part of a real-world satisfying sexual experience. 3. "Spankify Everything": Of course we would end up eventually talking about video game dudes. So many spankable butts in video games. So many!

Brian and Scott are back to the normal format for this latest podcast. We answer a few listener questions and then we've got: 1. "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes." Is spanking part of your sexuality, or is it most of your sexuality? Scott and Brian talk about the spectrum of where spanking fits into various dudes' lives. Also, special quiz about what percentage of dudes fantasize about spankings. See if you can guess the numbers. 2. "The Fantasy Life of Spanking." Scott and Brian are huge fans of spanking artwork and cartoons. Brian goes over the better-known names in the spanking art world and talks about how the Internet allows spanking art to reach more people. 3. "Spankify Everything." Wrestling is a little bit spanky, but it can be a whole lot spankier. Yes, that's a word. Scott just made it up.

Remember how Scott and Brian promised in the first podcast that they wouldn't be totally self-absorbed every single episode? Yeah ... well ... But they have good reason! On Labor Day weekend, Scott attended the Moonburn Spanking Party in Los Angeles, and some very unexpected things happened (like Scott getting his ass paddled hard). Brian also had a lot of spanking fun with a guest down in Austin at the exact same time. So we go over our experiences. But there is more! Scott goes over the details on what spanking parties are like and why you should go to them and answers some questions about what goes on there. Also, we mention some other spanking parties happening elsewhere and the upcoming Bad Ass Weekend in Georgia.

Thanks to inspiration and listener response, we've decided to try a twice-a-month podcast plan. Look for us on the second and fourth Sundays of each month. For this second episode we answer some questions and recommend all folks into dudes spankin' and being spanked by dudes join Tumblr. The things we'll discuss in our second episode: 1. "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes." Brian isn't a total n00b to the whole spanking scene, but he is recent newcomer when it comes to actually seeking out spanking play in real life. We discuss what that was like and what he learned about that transition. 2. "The Fantasy Life of Spanking." We delve into the current state of spanking videos and explore the awesomeness of it (There's SO MUCH SPANKING OUT THERE) and the issues with it (it mostly seems targeted toward tops). We'd love to hear some feedback on our observations here. 3. "Spankify Everything." We thought we wouldn't have much to say about the Olympics, but then Ryan Lochte happened.

Welcome to the first episode of Dudes Spankin' Dudes. Scott (RedSpkScott) and Brian (SoupGoblin) are your hosts. For this premiere podcast about men with the spanking fetish, we introduce ourselves and help you get to know us. Here are the three main segments: 1. "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes": Brian and Scott talk about their history as men with spanking fetishes and some basics. 2. "The Fantasy Life of Spanking": Scott and Brian critique one of their favorite pieces of spanking erotica, bully-themed video "Lunch Money." 3. "Spankify Everything": Brian and Scott discuss celebrities (for a fairly lax definition of "celebrity") that they want to spank and be spanked by and why.