#249 Best of - Discipline, Punishment & Rewards with Alfie Kohn
Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families
April 20, 202117m 38s
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Show Notes
Topics discussed in this episode:
- Punishment teaches power
- Rewards, like punishments, can only get temporary compliance
- The more you reward people for doing something, the more they tend to lose interest in whatever they had to do to get the reward
- All rewards are sugar coated control
- Intrinsic & extrinsic motivation
- Talk less, ask more
- Kids learn to make good decisions by making decisions, not by being obedient
- You can get mindless obedience in the short term if the reward is juicy enough or the punishment is awful enough.
- What you can never get is a child who is happy, more ethical, more compassionate, caring or more of an independent thinker.
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