Convo with a Poly Educator Ft. Gabrielle Smith

Today on Double Teamed, Cami and Niki welcome Gabrielle Smith, a Brooklyn-based intersectional sex/relationship writer and poly educator. She offers support sessions focused on sharing education and information that affirms, reassures and resonates. 

 

In some cases, marriage isn’t always the happily ever after we all hope for. Without clearly defining what each partner wants and what they need from each other and from the marriage itself, things eventually may not work out. But marriage isn’t the only way to secure a partnership or commit to one! You can be in an open relationship with several people with clearly defined needs, wants, and expectations and still live a fulfilled and satisfied life.

 

Listen Up:

 

• 00:00 Intro
• 00:54 How did you get introduced into non-monogamy?
• 03:50 What the first relationship felt like
• 08:18 “Don’t ask, don’t tell,” means you’re not ready 
• 12:27 You always have to do a test drive
• 15:13 Identifying as a solo polyamorous
• 19:12 The relationship escalator isn’t for everyone
• 25:41 Marriage can be fragile and can provide a false sense of security
• 30:30 Dating a monogamous person is a lot of labor
• 34:58 Sharing and gathering resources 
• 38:56 Communicate what you want and what you need
• 41:42 Give yourself that freedom to find what you like
• 43:12 Live a life where you don’t feel restricted
• 45:40 A directory of poly-friendly therapists
• 48:38 Should polyamory and non-monogamy be normalized?
• 52:04 Know what type of non-monogamy works for you

 

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