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In this episode, I’m talking about inner child healing, reparenting, and what it really means to meet the parts of yourself that still feel scared, unseen, or stuck in old survival patterns. This work is deeply personal to me as it has been the gateway to truly understanding my own patterns and behaviors. The awareness of our relationship with the little being inside of us illuminates how childhood wounds continue to shape our adult reactions, and why healing starts by getting curious about what is actually beneath the trigger.I break down the difference between the inner child, the outer child, and the adult self, and why so much of what we call “self-sabotage” may not actually be what it sounds like. Highlights:(02:04) - Why inner child work is the gateway to understanding self (07:05) - Childhood conditioning - how and why it still runs the show(12:28) - The reason this work is vital for healing trauma(19:43) - That “self-sabotage” is mislabeled (in my humble opinion)(24:42) - The difference between the inner child, outer child, and adult self as explained by Susan Anderson (32:56) - Some gentle guidance on ways to reparent your inner child for deeper healing Mentioned in this episode:“The Journey from Abandonment to Healing” by Susan AndersonResources:Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO Follow SJ on InstagramDownload the Free Identity WorkbookGrab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here. Buy The Less Effect on AmazonFollow Landon Hail Press on InstagramDownload the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring AuthorsBook A Free Consultation with Landon Hail PressThis Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

In this episode, I’m back with part two of my very candid conversation with my bestie, Kristine, who interviewed me for her podcast, Crystal Clear.We go deep into romantic relationships, self-love, and the difference between living as your Authentic Self versus your Strategic Self. I open up about old dating patterns, emotional unavailability, deep shame, and the ways I once hid parts of myself to feel more lovable.We unpack what it really takes to break painful patterns, find the courage to tell the truth, and how to stop abandoning yourself in relationships. In true best friend fashion, Kristine hits on the heavy and vulnerable topics with me, pulling out the real experience behind the scenes. While this healing work can bring you to your knees - it’s in the breakdown of personal posturing where the rewards are found.Highlights:(02:16) Friendships as a testing ground for intimacy and vulnerability in romantic relationships(05:58) My personal escapism in dating born out of shame(09:00) How an image consultation called me out and woke me up to the unserving identity I was projecting(17:17) The catalyst that led to unwavering self-commitment, breaking deep patterns(21:02) The inner battle between self-abandonment and inner devotion(22:30) Why the person who exposes your wounds is your perfect match (for a reason or a season)(24:35) How romantic partnerships are a mirror for your relationship with yourself(27:55) The point at which a relationship will always implodeListen to Kristine Munro’s podcast, Crystal Clear:On AppleOn SpotifyLearn more about Shine Image Consulting HEREResources:Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO Follow SJ on InstagramDownload the Free Identity WorkbookGrab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here. Buy The Less Effect on AmazonFollow Landon Hail Press on InstagramDownload the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring AuthorsBook A Free Consultation with Landon Hail PressThis Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

In this episode, I take you behind the curtain with a very open and honest chat with my bestie, Kristine Munro about the friendship we have built over the years that has truly healed and changed me.We talk about what it means to choose your authentic self over the strategic self: the one that stays quiet, plays small, and tries to keep everything “safe” - and how platonic intimacy is the gateway to understanding and healing relationship dynamics.We touch on vulnerability, emotional safety, and triggers in friendships, and the importance of understanding your attachment style in the context of nurturing connections, both platonically and romantically. This conversation is a deep reminder that we are all mirrors to one another and that the relationship you have with yourself shapes every other relationship in your life.It’s about healing in real time, being seen more fully, and letting love challenge you into growth.Highlights:(02:10) - Strategic Self vs Authentic Self and knowing the difference in relationships(9:00) - Where Kristine triggers me and how it reflects in my romantic relationship(16:30) - Love as a threat when it comes to attachment styles(20:05) - Healing through giving love in the way we didn’t receive growing up(22:15) - Why Kristine pulled away in our friendship and what it actually meant(26:30) - Conscious friendships as a testing ground for romantic relationships & challenge as love(30:35) - Building safety to expand your capacity for intimacy(34:20) - How my friendship with Kristine has continued building my secure attachment in relationshipListen to Kristine Munro’s podcast, Crystal Clear:On AppleOn SpotifyResources:Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO Follow SJ on InstagramDownload the Free Identity WorkbookGrab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here. Buy The Less Effect on AmazonFollow Landon Hail Press on InstagramDownload the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring AuthorsBook A Free Consultation with Landon Hail PressThis Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

This is part two of how to survive a breakup, and we’re going deeper. If part one was about feeling the pain, this episode is about rebuilding yourself inside of it.I’m sharing what’s helping me in real time, from redefining rejection and protecting my self-worth, to creating routines and rituals that anchor me when everything feels unstable.We talk about self-care as self-respect, breaking patterns instead of repeating them, and why this season is not a setback but a setup for what’s waiting for you.If you’re in the thick of it, I want you to know this is not the end of your love story. It’s the part where you come home to yourself and rise.Highlights:(03:10) Only you can reject you(07:40) Self-care as self-respect, and why your habits matter more than ever(10:05) Routine and ritual to create stability in emotional chaos(13:20) Positive self talk versus shame spirals(18:10) Date yourself first(23:45) How forgiveness, compassion, and keeping your heart open are your superhighway to lasting loveSome Helpful Links For This Episode:Cord cutting meditationYouTube channel: Neville Goddard YouTube channel: Abraham Hicks Read “Wired for Love: How Undertstanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship” by Stan TatkinDETACHED Episode 57: The Profound (and Psychological) Impact of Ritual on Mental Health:Listen on AppleListen on SpotifyResources:Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO Follow SJ on InstagramDownload the Free Identity WorkbookGrab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here. Buy The Less Effect on AmazonFollow Landon Hail Press on InstagramDownload the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring AuthorsBook A Free Consultation with Landon Hail PressThis Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

If you’re in heartbreak right now, adjusting to a new normal overnight, I want you to know you are not alone - in fact I’m right there with you.In this episode, I share what’s helping me move through the pain in a grounded way, from feeling your emotions instead of stuffing them down, to cutting energetic cords, protecting your mental health, and choosing yourself even when it hurts.This is about detachment - not as avoidance, but as self-respect. If you’re walking through a breakup, consider this your reminder that you were brave enough to love, and that still matters.And I want to remind you: you will get through this and it won’t hurt like this forever.Highlights:(02:15) The courage it takes to love, and why shame doesn’t belong here(05:40) Why relationships don’t always fail, but succeed because you broke the pattern(09:10) Stop hyper focusing on them, and reclaim your power(14:30) Feeling your emotions instead of numbing or replacing them(19:05) Blocking, boundaries, and protecting your healing(21:40) Gratitude, social media detox, and rebuilding your inner stabilitySome Helpful Links For This Episode:Cord cutting meditationYouTube channel: Neville Goddard YouTube channel: Abraham Hicks Read “Wired for Love: How Undertstanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship” by Stan TatkinDETACHED Episode 57: The Profound (and Psychological) Impact of Ritual on Mental Health:Listen on AppleListen on SpotifyResources:Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO Follow SJ on InstagramDownload the Free Identity WorkbookGrab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here. Buy The Less Effect on AmazonFollow Landon Hail Press on InstagramDownload the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring AuthorsBook A Free Consultation with Landon Hail PressThis Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

“Mindset”: the buzzword that, in my opinion, is wildly overused in personal development. For years, I was convinced this was where it all started. So many books, podcasts, and videos out there will convince you that if you just work harder on your thoughts, push through another challenge, or stay disciplined long enough, you’ll finally become the version of you that you’ve been striving for. But then without fail, you snap back to old patterns. Sound familiar?In this episode, I’m sharing the missing link that changed everything for me; the precursor to Mindset. We dive deep into the foundational piece of Identity, how your environment quietly reinforces it, and why decluttering is one of the most powerful personal development tools out there. This is about unlearning who you thought you should be and getting back to who you actually are.Highlights: (02:14) Why mindset work alone keeps pulling you back to square one (04:52) The “identity code” and how your story shapes your entire life (08:03) The self-sabotage myth, and what’s really happening underneath (11:27) Why most personal development programs miss the root cause (14:36) Decluttering as identity work, not just cleaning your house (17:58) Micro shifts that completely change how you see yourselfResources:Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO Follow SJ on InstagramDownload the Free Identity WorkbookGrab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here. Buy The Less Effect on AmazonFollow Landon Hail Press on InstagramDownload the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring AuthorsBook A Free Consultation with Landon Hail PressThis Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

This week I’m sharing something deeply personal that has radically shifted my mental health and spiritual connection, ritual. Not routine. Not productivity hacks. Ritual. The kind that grounds you when anxiety spikes, helps you let go when attachment tightens, and recalibrates you when overwhelm takes over.After a season of intense growth, emotional release, and deep spiritual awakening, I realized how powerful intentional rituals have been in regulating my nervous system and anchoring me back into myself. We touch on the actual science that proves its ability to improve mental health, self-confidence, and overall wellness. In this episode, I break down the psychology behind ritual and walk you through three specific rituals I use to ground, release, and reset so you can design your own to enhance your mental state and bring ease and flow into your life. Highlights:(03:45) Why ritual is wired into the human brain(06:51) How rituals lower anxiety and regulate your nervous system(12:30) The difference between habits, routines, and rituals(18:40) Why symbolic meaning makes rituals so powerful(24:15) My grounding ritual for anxiety and self doubt(29:50) Letting go and recalibrating rituals that shift everythingResources:Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO Follow SJ on InstagramDownload the Free Identity WorkbookGrab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here. Buy The Less Effect on AmazonFollow Landon Hail Press on InstagramDownload the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring AuthorsBook A Free Consultation with Landon Hail PressThis Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

Trigger Warning: Mentions of sexual assault and r*peThis is one of the most vulnerable and necessary conversations I’ve ever shared. In this episode, I speak openly about women’s safety, the patriarchal system we live in, and how deeply normalized harm towards women truly is. I reflect on my own lived experience of sexual assault and harassment, collective trauma through these horrific times, and the moment that forced me to see these systems more clearly than ever before.This episode is not about attacking men. It’s about accountability, awareness, and the opportunity and responsibility men have to create real safety. I invite men listening to lean into discomfort, notice defensiveness, and practice listening without fragility. And most importantly: Healing does not happen in silence, and safety begins when women are believed.Highlights:(01:37) Trigger warning, my Kundalini Awakening, and breaking out in hives(04:30) The male ego and fragility in patriarchy (6:20) “Boys will be boys”(08:10) The hidden ways women assess safety every day(12:40) Why silence and complicity cause harm(16:05) What actually makes a man feel safe to a woman(19:00) The responsibility men have beyond resisting assault Resources:Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO Follow SJ on InstagramDownload the Free Identity WorkbookGrab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here. Buy The Less Effect on AmazonFollow Landon Hail Press on InstagramDownload the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring AuthorsBook A Free Consultation with Landon Hail PressThis Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

This episode is deep, personal, and very close to my heart. I’m sharing a live teaching on detachment, identity, and why learning to feel safe being seen changes everything.We talk about the stories we tell ourselves to stay small, the shame many of us carry quietly, and how often we outsource safety instead of building it within ourselves.I share my own journey through writing, storytelling, and self expression, including how owning my story became one of the most healing experiences of my life. This conversation is about choosing yourself, forgiving who you’ve been, and stepping into your truth without needing permission.If you’ve felt the pull to be more visible but scared of the consequences, this episode is for you.Highlights:(04:55) Why staying small can feel safer than being seen(12:30) How storytelling builds confidence and self trust(23:10) Identity, shame, and the fear of judgment(34:50) Creating safety within yourself instead of outsourcing it(47:20) Detachment, magnetism, and personal power(01:05:40) Choosing yourself without burning everything dowResources:Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO Follow SJ on InstagramDownload the Free Identity WorkbookGrab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here. Buy The Less Effect on AmazonFollow Landon Hail Press on InstagramDownload the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring AuthorsBook A Free Consultation with Landon Hail PressThis Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

If you’ve ever fantasized about becoming a published author, but you’ve let fear get in the way - this one’s for you. I’m sharing a live workshop I delivered at ALIGN - an powerful annual conference geared towards helping you step into your Higher Self. I dive into the top 4 writing and publishing myths I’ve seen in my career, breakdown the truth of the process, and dispel beliefs that stop people before they ever begin.We talk identity before mindset as your greatest asset because no amount of tools will help if you don’t believe that your story matters. I cover why impact matters more than optics and how becoming an author is less about talent and more about conviction.This is about letting your heart lead, trusting your message, and finally giving yourself permission to be heard. After all, I’ve personally helped over 35 authors publish and become best selling authors at Landon Hail Press, so I’ve seen the massive impact a book can make time and time again.Highlights:(02:13) Why identity matters more than mindset when you want to evolve(05:40) How childhood beliefs quietly shape what you think is possible(09:45) The belief that keeps most people from ever writing their book(14:08) The four biggest myths about publishing, debunked(18:55) Why you don’t need a big platform or book deal to make impact(23:55) Writing as a legacy, not just achievementFollow Brooke Hemingway & Align Events on Instagram to stay in the know of future events!Resources:Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO Follow SJ on InstagramDownload the Free Identity WorkbookGrab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here. Buy The Less Effect on AmazonFollow Landon Hail Press on InstagramDownload the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring AuthorsBook A Free Consultation with Landon Hail PressThis Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

Come back with me to 2018 to revisit my first book, The Less Effect: Design Your Life for Happiness & Purpose. I’m reading an excerpt from Chapter 4, “Like Attracts Like,” - a real snapshot of who I was then: a cluttered mess with questionable friendships and a little too much Netflix…oh, and anxiety I kept brushing off as “that’s just how I am.”We talk about why this work never ends and how to keep your peace living on this earth, aka full-time distraction machine. I get into how your stuff, your habits, your people, and your environment all have a say in your energy, your mood, and what you keep attracting (or repelling). Highlights:(01:55) Why I’m revisiting The Less Effect, this work “applies forever”(03:10) My 2018 reality check: misaligned job, cluttered apartment, and “cursed merchandise”(05:45) The quiet truth: I wasn’t just dealing with chaos, I was creating it(07:20) The “crap trap” - how we end up overwhelmed without noticing the red flags(09:36) Energy talk, but make it science: vibration, color, sound, and why it affects your mood(12:15) The big takeaway: everything around you matters, so guard your energy like it’s rent moneyResources:Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO Follow SJ on InstagramDownload the Free Identity WorkbookGrab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here. Buy The Less Effect on AmazonFollow Landon Hail Press on InstagramDownload the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring AuthorsBook A Free Consultation with Landon Hail PressThis Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

This is a VERY special episode…why? Because we just hit one year of the show! Episode 52, hallelujah! And I thought what better topic to dive into than the theme that has stretched me the most: Vulnerability - the real kind.I share why I didn’t launch right away holding episodes and marketing for months, how safety and vulnerability actually work together, and the hard truth I had to face about hyper-independence and emotional availability.And this episode isn’t without me taking off the mask and dropping the armor for a behind-the-scenes look at how I’m personally challenging myself to explore deeper vulnerability in my own life. Because we’re all just works in progress figuring it out together.Stay tuned to the end for a special offer!Highlights:(04:35) – The real reason I froze on launching the podcast for eight months(5:55) – The symbiotic relationship between vulnerability and safety(9:11) – Revisiting a five-year relationship twelve years later and the shocking truth it revealed(12:25) – Hyper-independence as a trauma response and how it quietly kills connection(17:45) – What my new relationship taught me in real time about true vulnerability(22:00) – Showing up before you’ve perfectly figured it out & closing the gap(27:05) – A behind the scenes note from my producer; plus an invitation to explore vulnerability even deeperResources:Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO Follow SJ on InstagramDownload the Free Identity WorkbookGrab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here. Buy The Less Effect on AmazonFollow Landon Hail Press on InstagramDownload the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring AuthorsBook A Free Consultation with Landon Hail PressThis Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

It’s officially 2026, and I’m here with a quick reality check: the Gregorian “new year” is a made-up date, but we can still use it for momentum. Today I’m walking you through the framework from my book, “The Less Effect: Design Your Life for Happiness & Purpose”. We dive into how “less” isn’t just about stuff, but about alignment in all areas. We’ll start with the easy wins (your physical space), then move into your social environment (who guides you closer to you), and finish with habits (are you driving the ship, or are your habits driving you). Simple, yes. Life-changing, also yes.Highlights:(01:45) - New Year pressure check, it’s just another day - use it, don’t worship it(03:10) - The only question that actually matters: “How can I be more of ME in 2026?”(05:05) - “The Less Effect” intro, consumerism, overwhelm, and the “aha” breaking point(08:20) - Relationship declutter and the truth about “neutral” people(10:20) - Habit loops explained, cues, behaviors, payoffs & how to swap the patterns(16:55) - Free book giveaway, plus how to write your own book with SJResources:Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO Follow SJ on InstagramDownload the Free Identity WorkbookGrab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here. Buy The Less Effect on AmazonFollow Landon Hail Press on InstagramDownload the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring AuthorsBook A Free Consultation with Landon Hail PressThis Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

If there’s one thing blocking you from love in your life, it’s this: being the “cool girl” (or guy). Nothing amazing that I’ve attracted in life came from being nonchalant - it came from being unapologetic…and a little delusional. In this episode, I touch on the people-pleasing identity I carried for years and the pride I carried for staying chill and unbothered. How what I feel and expressing it fully (after all - I am a Pisces!) has changed my relationships, my dating life, and the way I show up for myself and my values.We explore the difference between being desired and being valued, why we often gaslight ourselves before anyone else does, and how radical honesty must become the foundation for self worth. Learn how being “low-maintenance” is just a fancy costume for self-betrayal and the beautiful love and honoring that came in once I stopped performing and started living in deeper truth. Highlights:(02:12) When (and why) I decided never to be the cool girl again(02:53) Why low maintenance is often code for self betrayal(4:51) Desire vs value and how I learned to spot the difference(14:55) Radical honesty and breaking the habit of gaslighting ourselves(16:44) My soulmate journal and where I was going wrong(23:55) A coaching session that woke me up to my own BS Listen to SJ’s Coaching Session with Relationship Coach, Christine Hassler: Maybe There Isn’t a Problem At AllCheck out Christine Hassler and her program, Be The Queen Resources:Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO Follow SJ on InstagramDownload the Free Identity WorkbookGrab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here. Buy The Less Effect on AmazonFollow Landon Hail Press on InstagramDownload the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring AuthorsBook A Free Consultation with Landon Hail PressThis Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio