Dear Young Married Couple

🙏 What if one simple habit could completely shift the atmosphere of your marriage? Let's unpack why so many couples want to pray together—but feel stuck, unsure, or even intimidated to start. Through raw honesty and real-life stories (including a marriage rebuilt from broken trust), you’ll discover that prayer isn’t about saying the “right” words, but it’s about showing up together. If you’ve ever felt unsure where to begin, don’t miss the simple, doable starting points shared in this episode. Resources: Build Your Marriage With Prayer on Amazon https://a.co/d/0dnkKqmx Brad & Heidi's website: https://buildyourmarriage.org/about/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

⛓️ If you’ve been stuck in the same cycle and can't seem to break free, this might explain why… This is what's actually driving unwanted behaviors (spoiler: it’s not just a lack of discipline.) There are deeper patterns at play: the way your brain solves discomfort, the condition of your body when stress is high, and the hidden role of shame that quietly keeps people stuck. When you understand these three layers, things start to click in a whole new way. Resources: Adam's FREE Porn Recovery Assessment: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/porn-recovery-focus-group Ted Talk Lisa Feldman: https://www.ted.com/talks/lisa_feldman_barrett_you_aren_t_at_the_mercy_of_your_emotions_your_brain_creates_them Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

❤️ You know the five love languages… but what if you’re still missing each other? Hear Dr. Gary Chapman explain why many couples feel frustrated even when they’re trying to love their spouse well. Sometimes it’s not the language that’s wrong - it’s the dialect, the timing, or the agenda getting in the way. We talk about personality differences, empathy in communication, the two stages of romantic love, and one simple question you can start asking your spouse this week to reconnect. Resources: Dr Gary Chapman's Books www.5lovelanguages.com DYMC Cruise: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/dymc-cruise Previous episode w/ Dr. Gary Chapman: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-young-married-couple/id1494555036?i=1000507436880 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

👵🏻👴🏼 What do couples married 61 years know about love that the rest of us don’t? Karissa’s Papa gave us some pretty great marriage advice just days before he passed away. Wisdom forged through decades of faith, family, hardship, laughter, and unwavering commitment. His number-one piece of advice may sound simple, but it has the power to transform the spiritual, emotional, and even physical connection in your marriage. ♥️ Resources: Monthly Live Date Night at DYMC https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/monthlylivedatenight Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

💡 Ever had a moment in your marriage where something just clicked? In this episode, we sit down with marriage expert and bestselling author Dr. Emerson Eggerichs to talk about the powerful “light bulb moments” that can completely reframe the way couples see each other. What if the issue you keep arguing about isn’t actually about who’s right and who’s wrong? What if it’s just… different shades of right? Are you accidentally treating a preference like a moral issue? Could there be a “third option” that honors both of you? If you’ve ever wondered why the same conflict keeps resurfacing in your marriage, this conversation might be the breakthrough you’ve been looking for. Resources: 🚢 Get in on the DYMC Cruise happening in spring of 2027! https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/dymc-cruise Love and Respect Ministries https://www.loveandrespect.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

💔 Ever felt like quitting your marriage… even though you promised you never would? In this powerful conversation with Lindsey Maestas, we talk about the silent resentment, exhaustion, and disconnection that can creep in during the early years—and what to do before you “burn your own house down.” Lindsey shares how sleep deprivation, unmet expectations, and poor communication nearly unraveled her relationship, and the surprising shifts that brought friendship, intimacy, and joy back to life. If you’ve been feeling stuck, unseen, or just worn out, this episode will both challenge and equip you. Resources :📖 Don't Burn Your Own House Down by Lindsey Maestas (workbook available) https://a.co/d/09anf8My 🎙️ Living Easy Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-easy-with-lindsey/id1481805272 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

❤️‍🩹 What if the real problem in your marriage isn’t “communication”… but resistance? Join us as we interview Dr. David Burns to unpack why so many couples say they want a better relationship—yet subtly fight the very change that would heal it. Are you truly willing to let go of being right? Could the breakthrough you’re praying for be on the other side of owning your part? If you’ve ever felt criticized, misunderstood, or stuck in the same fight on repeat, this episode will challenge and equip you in the best way. Resources: Feeling Great App https://www.feelinggreat.com Feeling Good by David Burns https://a.co/d/07STA9Xc Feeling Good Together by David Burns https://a.co/d/05hYPoCz Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🕯️🏡 If you’ve ever wanted to be “that house” - the one that gathers people, builds community, and makes everyone feel welcomed - but hosting somehow turns into stress, tension, and resentment between the two of you… tune in. Abby Turner Kuykendall (author of Let the Biscuits Burn) joins Karissa to talk about the real emotional obstacles behind hospitality in marriage: mismatched expectations, introvert vs. extrovert dynamics, unspoken resentment, and the pressure to make everything look perfect. You’ll walk away with practical ways to plan ahead, delegate without bitterness, and shift your mindset from entertaining to truly loving people well. Are you hosting to impress… or to serve? Resources: Abby's website https://abbykuykendall.com Let the Biscuits Burn by Abby Kuykendall https://a.co/d/0726oALl Abby's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abby.kuykendall?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

💘😅 Valentine’s Day is supposed to feel romantic… so why does it leave so many couples feeling more discouraged than connected? Listen in as Adam and Karissa break down three surprisingly common reasons Valentine’s Day can actually make your marriage feel worse - even if you’re not “in crisis.” What would change if you talked about Valentine's Day Expectations before the day arrives instead of hoping it magically works out? You’ll walk away from this with simple conversation starters that can help you stop dreading Valentine’s Day and start using it as a chance to actually reconnect. Resources: Shop all DYMC Card Decks HERE https://www.amazon.com/stores/DearYoungMarriedCouple/page/F43B8EB3-1B18-40CF-8510-B409AE625D90?lp_asin=B07PMYDMV3&ref_=ast_bln&store_ref=bl_ast_dp_brandLogo_sto Get our FREE Valentine's Day Intimacy Menu HERE https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/pl/2148741723 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

✨ What if the reset your marriage actually needs isn’t a new system, habit, or goal - but a clearer focus? In this episode, we sit down with O.S. Hawkins to talk about what it looks like to strip away the noise, the pressure, and the expectations and come back to the center: Jesus. ♥️ We explore why strong marriages are built from the inside out, how your relationship with God shapes every other relationship in your life, and why family has always been at the heart of God’s design. This conversation is thoughtful, grounding, and a powerful reminder of what really matters for your marriage and your walk with Christ. Resources: Free resources, books, and devotionals available at https://www.oshawkins.com/books Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🌱🔥 What if the things you’re avoiding talking about are the very things shaping your kids the most? Hear us sit down with Kristen Miele of Sex Ed Reclaimed to talk about the quiet ways intimacy fades in marriage, how kids sense more than we think, and why silence around sex and sexuality leaves a lasting mark. This conversation reframes awkward moments as sacred opportunities for discipleship. When hard questions come up, will your kids come to you first? This episode challenges, equips, and invites you to lead with honesty instead of fear. Resources: Sex Ed Reclaimed: https://www.sexedreclaimed.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🌊⚓ What does it really take to stay connected after decades of marriage - through storms, trauma, transitions, and everything in between? In this conversation, Rev. Charles and Stacey Robinette share hard-earned wisdom from over 30 years of marriage, unpacking why love isn’t about smooth sailing but about learning how to row together when the waves hit. They open up about healing from past wounds, carrying each other through uneven seasons, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus lead your marriage - not just be invited aboard. Resources: Counseling w/ Adam & Karissa https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/counseling Smooth Sailing: Making Love Last Forever! https://a.co/d/6knpft1 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

💛🥘 When you picture a blended family, do you picture a blender spinning a whole bunch of ingredients together for a couple minutes until they're well-combined? Plot twist: blended families are less like a blender and more like a crock pot. Each vegetable/meat cooks at different frequencies and it takes a whole lot longer than a blender until the meal is complete. In this episode, we sit down with Ron Deal of FamilyLife Blended to talk aboutwhy blended families are built in a crockpot, not a blender, how fear from past relationships quietly sabotages trust, and what it really looks like to support your marriage while parenting kids with history, opinions, and loyalty binds. Are you rushing closeness that can only come with time? Are you expecting roles that haven’t been earned yet? This conversation will reframe how you see progress, conflict, and hope in a blended family - and remind you that slow doesn’t mean broken, it means wise. Resources: Family Life Blended: https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/blended-families/ Counseling w/ Adam & Karissa: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/counseling The Mindful Marriage Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mindful-marriage-breaking-cycles-and/id1066959663?i=1000733826467 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🎆 BEHIND THE SCENCES: Take a look at a year that stretched, surprised, and shaped everything we’re building next! Adam and Karissa pull back the curtain on what really happened in 2025—from thousands of couples served, marriages rebuilt, to an entire team that grew their families while carrying the mission forward. What’s in store for 2026?! What are couples actually craving in this season? What happens when marriage tools move from theory into real life? Listen to hear some exciting things coming down the pike! Resources: Counseling with Adam and Karissa: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/counseling Porn Recovery Focus Group for Men: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/porn-recovery-focus-group prEquipped: The DYMC Premarital Course https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/prequipped DYMC Cruise Spring 2027 https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSflhyH7KjL6JMI16tgUQ0ItHSIxlq9OxNUw2yuAB4d6-sbO_g/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=114888067190670829946 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

👶🤰 HUSTLE culture meets MOTHERHOOD in this honest conversation with Zim Flores. Meet a woman who went from building and selling companies to closing doors, slowing down, and embracing life with two little ones. Zim opens up about the tension many moms feel between ambition and presence. What happens when the life you worked so hard to build no longer fits the season you’re in? How do you know when it’s time to delegate, pause, or let go altogether? This episode may challenge the way you think about success, productivity, and what it really means to steward your time, gifts, and family well. Especially when motherhood changes everything. Resources: Dare to Bloom by Zim Flores: https://amzn.to/4saKXEV Counseling with Adam and Karissa: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/counseling Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🎄🔋 Ever leave a holiday gathering feeling totally energized… while your spouse is completely wiped? Hear Adam and Karissa unpack why the holidays can feel magical for one spouse and exhausting for the other—and why introversion has nothing to do with being antisocial or unloving. They talk about social “battery life,” common myths that quietly fuel marital tension, and how couples can plan and protect each other’s energy without resentment. Are you accidentally misreading your spouse’s quiet as rejection? Do your expectations around family events need a reset this season? You’ll walk away with practical ways to navigate packed calendars, set loving limits, and actually enjoy December together - whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere in between. Get counseling with Adam and/or Karissa HERE: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/counseling Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🎄✨ The ache you feel during the holidays is likely an invitation to something deeper. In this conversation, bestselling author Donna VanLiere invites YOU to slow down, step away from the noise, and rediscover the quiet wonder of Christmas in the middle of real life - grief, busyness, loneliness, and all. From the ordinary people of the nativity to the ordinary pressures of modern marriage, Donna reminds us that God still does extraordinary things in everyday stories. Are you rushing past the peace your soul is craving? What might change if you let your “no” protect your family’s “yes”? This episode will stir your hope, steady your heart, and reframe how you enter this season together. Resources: Looking for Christmas by Donna VanLiere https://amzn.to/3XFgGjN Looking for Christmas podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/looking-for-christmas/id1858043877 7-day Looking for Christmas devotional on the YouVersion Bible App https://www.bible.com/reading-plans/61210-looking-for-christmas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🎄✨ Ever wonder what your kids actually remember about the holidays? Hear Adam & Karissa hand the mic to their own kids for a full “holiday audit,” asking what traditions matter most, what feels boring, and what their family would win a trophy for. Their unfiltered answers will make you laugh, but also get you thinking: what if the moments you stress about aren’t the moments your kids cherish? And what small, simple traditions are already shaping their hearts? Tune in and take your own holiday audit—your kids might just surprise you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

⛪️ Ever wondered if you’ve accidentally slipped into a “ministry-first” life instead of a God-first one? Or why pursuing “success” in the name of Jesus can sometimes leave your home drained, your marriage stretched thin, and your soul strangely empty? In this episode, we sit down with Gary Thomas to unravel the subtle but powerful lies that derail intimacy with God and quietly distort family rhythms. This conversation will make you rethink control, redefine calling, and reimagine what a spiritually alive home could look like. Resources :The Life You Were Reborn to Live by Gary Thomas https://www.amazon.com/dp/031036065X?ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_WEEGZVBTHRSH81Z8F438 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

👀 Ever wonder what a truly healthy home looks like when no one’s watching? This week, Kaleb and Ellerie Saucer pull back the curtain on discipleship in the everyday chaos: waffles and devotions, tech boundaries that actually work, playful connection, repentance-as-teachable-moment, and the small rhythms that slowly shape a family’s spiritual culture. What if the most meaningful spiritual formation isn’t happening at church…but at your dinner table, in the car, or during a meltdown? And what would it look like to celebrate process instead of perfection? Resources: Healthy Homes book + God’s word for families newsletter https://www.healthyhomes.org/ The Tech Wise Family https://a.co/d/7vje2u1 Habits of the Household https://a.co/d/0C9qHiM The Anxious Generation https://a.co/d/dKDvlxu Family Devices Charger https://a.co/d/3GVgGnQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What makes a good marriage - just hitting the 50-year mark, or actually thriving along the way? Listen to Adam and Karissa tackle a listener’s question: Is longevity the same as health? They unpack the difference between quiet marriages that merely last and vibrant ones that continually grow, repair, and pursue purpose together. Are you and your spouse best friends, or just good roommates? Do you know how to argue well? And what shared mission keeps you united? Join us for Monthly Live Date Night THIS Friday, October 24th! https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/monthlylivedatenight Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🔥 What if freedom from porn didn’t mean fighting harder, but growing deeper? Listen to Adam and his friend, Drew Boa, unpack why willpower alone never works and how emotional maturity, inner healing, and real connection lead to lasting change. What if your “struggle” isn’t about lust at all, but about loneliness, pain, and the little kid inside still waiting to be seen? Drew shares raw parts of his own story, how to recognize your triggers, and why emotional regulation (not just behavior management) is the missing link for true freedom. Resources: Counseling w/ Adam & Karissa https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/counseling Outgrow Porn by Drew Boa — outgrowporn.com Husband Material community and resources — husbandmaterial.com Stay in Conversation with Us IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple Website: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Email: [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

❌ Ever heard “happy wife, happy life”? Or “just learn to compromise”? Monica Tanner—author of Bad Marriage Advice—joins Adam and Karissa to turn some of the most common marriage clichés upside down. Did you know that compromise can actually breed resentment? This episode will make you rethink the way you communicate with your spouse. Could some of the advice you’ve believed for years actually be hurting your marriage? Tune in to find out! 📘 Grab Monica’s book here: badmarriageadvice.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

💰 Is money the third person in your marriage? You’re not alone. Hear Adam and Karissa get real about how financial tension often masks deeper emotional and spiritual dynamics in marriage. They share three simple but powerful questions that can turn money fights into teamwork — no spreadsheets required. What if you could replace anxiety with alignment? What if money could actually draw you closer instead of dividing you? Tune in for honest conversation, practical wisdom, and a path toward peace and purpose in your finances. Resources: Counseling w/ Adam & Karissa https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/counseling Stay in Conversation with Us IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple Website: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.comEmail: [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

❤️‍🩹 Repairing after an argument often involves one or both parties owning up to the fact that they were wrong. This can be extremely difficult for some people for a variety of reasons. Hear Adam and Karissa unpack those reasons in today's episode as they answer a question from a listener. Want to submit your own anonymous question for Adam and Karissa? Hit the SPEAK Pipe link below. https://www.speakpipe.com/DearYoungMarriedCouple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🎙️ Ever wish you could peek behind the curtain of a marriage therapist’s own relationship? Listen to Adam and Karissa interview each other on their top 3 real-life communication hacks that have actually kept their marriage strong through 15 years of counseling others. These are the habits that make all the difference. 💬 Do you ever struggle to give your spouse your full attention? Or find yourself trying to “win” instead of connect? You’re not alone and this episode will show you what it looks like to truly guard your spouse’s heart in everyday moments. Resources: Counseling w/ Adam & Karissa https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/counseling Stay in Conversation with Us IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple Website: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Email: [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

🤱Is motherhood something you survive... or something that shapes you? Let’s hear Karissa sit down with Sarah—a mom of 5, a devoted wife, and a woman who’s chosen to homeschool, create, and live her calling from the center of her home. Together they explore what it looks like to: Stay creative when your kids are always around Honor your identity without needing to "escape" motherhood Build rhythms of peace and worship into everyday life Prioritize your marriage for the security of your children Redefine success in a world that pushes productivity over presenceWhether you’re working from home, homeschooling, or just trying to breathe through another loud day, this episode is a gentle reminder: You’re still allowed to be a whole person. Resources: MOMFIDENCE: Become Sexually Secure After Babies https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/Momfidence Stay in Conversation with Us IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple Website: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Email: [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices