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Are The Real Tops Gone?

Are The Real Tops Gone?

Dear Black Gay Men Podcast

September 5, 20251h 22m

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Show Notes

I am what the gworls would call a “soft top”.

I like to do all the traditionally masculine things, but I also am fully a butch queen. I haven’t been fucked in years and don’t have a whole lot of interest in being fucked, but I would for the right person as long as they know how to handle my delicate flower.

Fun Fact: someone once called it a slut with my dick but a prude with my hole.

1. The Top Drought (00:00:00)

2. Church Announcements: The Blog and a Hookup Story (00:01:52)

3. Understanding Bottom’s Non-Verbal Cues (00:08:52)

4. Critiquing Queer Culture and Fetishization (00:41:52)

5. The Fetishization of Masculinity (00:22:52)

6. The Evolution of Queer Identities (00:55:14)

7. The Dangers of Narrow Definitions (00:30:02)

8. The Four Kinds of Vers (01:16:19)

9. Patriarchy in Queer Relationships (01:05:06)

10. The Value of Sex and Self-Awareness (01:19:05)



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