DadAwesome

"A man who can't regulate his emotions forces his wife and kids to do it for him." Seth Dahl back for a 5th conversation on DadAwesome. He breaks down what's actually happening when dad loses it and what it takes to change. ✅ Why emotional dysregulation is an identity issue, not just a temper problem ✅ The loaded gun analogy that will change how you think about anger at home ✅ Teen boundaries, the Wise Phone, and how to give freedom without losing your mind SUMMARY A man who can't regulate his emotions forces his wife and kids to do it for him. That's the hard truth Seth Dahl drops early in this conversation, and it only gets more honest from there. This is a raw, alumni-only Zoom call that turned into something worth sharing with every dad who's ever lost it over something stupid and wondered why. Takeaways: If you can be triggered, you're identifying with something more than your role as a dad. That's an identity issue, not just a temper issue. Unprocessed emotions don't disappear. They show up as anger, porn, checked-out dads, and kids walking on eggshells. God's model in Genesis wasn't control. It was influence with a boundary. That's the parenting theology most of us are missing. For teenagers, the online world is the living room. Know who they're talking to, just like you would if they came to your house. The Wise Phone gives kids what they need without what gets them in trouble. GUEST: Seth Dahl is an author, speaker, grief recovery specialist, and emotional health coach. He and his wife have three kids and have developed a deep framework around completing past emotions, processing present emotions, and shaping future ones. Seth is a longtime friend of DadAwesome and is featured in the DADAWESOME book. LINKS Text MOM to (651) 370-8618 // or click here Emotionally Skilled Fatherhood Course with Seth Dahl (Interest Form) Wise Phone Radiant Mobile DADAWESOME Book:dadawesome.org/book Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome 7-Day Video Series: dadawesome.org/book DadAwesome Podcast: dadawesome.org/podcast Free Chapter + Intro Video Series: dadawesome.org/book SETH DAHL

Jay Heck of Being Sons flips the mic and digs into the DADAWESOME book with some really honest questions. ✅ The prayer counseling session that broke a 15-year lie Jeff had been living under ✅ Why parenting from scarcity makes your voice smaller (and what changes when you don't) ✅ The black pen blue pen journaling exercise that helps you actually hear from God ✅ Three things every father can bring to their kids: proximity, placing hands on, and prayer Get the 7-Day DADAWESOME Video Series - SUMMARY Most dads are trying to figure out the right strategy. But what if the thing holding you back isn't a lack of tactics, it's a lie you've been believing about whether you're even loved? In this mic flip episode, Jay Heck of Being Sons turns the tables and interviews Jeff about the Dad Awesome book, and the conversation gets honest fast. You'll hear about the prayer counseling session that changed everything, what it means to set the scoreboard to infinity, and how a dad who's operating from fullness becomes the most compelling voice in the room. TAKEAWAYS Your kids need to see you pause and point to what God has done, not just celebrate the mountaintops but name the hard stuff too. When you stop trying to earn love and start receiving it as a son, things like dancing, crying, laughing, and gentleness just start coming out of you naturally. You are not behind. Whatever season of fatherhood you are in, God is not disappointed. He's inviting you to turn toward him, not catch up. The three P's of intentional fatherhood are pursuing your kids, praying for your kids, and being present with your kids. Fathers who operate from abundance naturally draw their kids, their kids' friends, and other families in. Scarcity thinking is contagious, and so is thankfulness. GUEST Jay Heck is the founder of Being Sons, a fatherhood ministry focused on dad and daughter and dad and son adventure experiences. He hosts the Being Sons podcast and is passionate about helping men step into the father heart of God so they can lead their families well. QUOTES "Your heavenly father has set the scoreboard to infinity. You can't add to it. You can't subtract from it." "As I learned more about my identity as a loved son of God, I danced more, cried more, laughed more." "Gratefulness and fear can't live simultaneously. When we are grateful, we move toward more vision and more hope." "Fathers who operate from abundance naturally become the most compelling voice in the room." "You are not behind. God in heaven is not disappointed. He is loving this moment that you are turning." LINKS 21 Day Prayer Team - surrounding the DADAWESOME book launch. DADAWESOME Book:dadawesome.org/book Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome 7-Day Video Series: dadawesome.org/book DadAwesome Podcast: dadawesome.org/podcast Free Chapter + Intro Video Series: dadawesome.org/book BEING SONS Ministry (Jay Heck) Wild At Heart - Head of Household Prayer (John Eldredge) Ruthless Trust (book)

What do you do when your schedule is maxed out and you feel like you're failing at the very thing you preach? In this episode, Jeff gets honest about dropping the ball on dad-daughter dates, shares three raw discoveries from book launch week, and tells the story of a flaming ball of toilet paper on a frozen lake that never made it into the book — for good reason. Without a concrete accountability loop, even your highest priorities will quietly slip off the calendar. In your fullest, most pressured seasons, adding one stabilizing anchor — not removing things — might be the wisest move you make. Daily prayer with other men isn't just spiritual discipline; it's a stabilizing force that steadies you when everything else is swinging. Bringing two simple questions to a dad-daughter date can surface honest feedback and spark some of the most important conversations you'll have with your kids. Fatherhood grows through friendships and focus — those two things, compounded over years, change everything. DADAWESOME BOOKhttps://www.dadawesome.org/book

It's LAUNCH WEEK - the DADAWESOME book is available to the world! https://www.dadawesome.org/book In today's episode, Jeff shares what actually happened on book launch day (confetti, a four-year-old, and one very close call with a pair of white shoes), reads Chapter 18 of DADAWESOME live, and honors the grandpa whose legacy made this whole thing possible. ✅ The upstream generational moves Jeff's grandpa made that are still changing lives today ✅ The Crashing Cabinet — a chapter about the $2 wall strap that changes how you think about fatherhood systems ✅ Why your family needs a free dad, not a perfect one SUMMARY: The Christmas card version of fatherhood isn't real life — and Jeff Zaugg isn't pretending otherwise. In this book launch episode, Jeff reads Chapter 18 of the DADAWESOME book, shares the upstream legacy moves his grandpa made that are still bearing fruit today, and tells the story of what actually happened on launch day (hint: it involved confetti, a four-year-old, and a pair of white shoes that almost didn't survive). TAKEAWAYS: Thinking generationally means asking what moves you make today will still be bearing fruit with your grandkids and great-grandkids. Small, preventative systems — like a $2 wall strap — protect your family before the pressure hits, not after the crash. Your inadequacies as a father create space for God's strength to work through you, not around you. Unresolved pain is like hidden glass — sharp, waiting, and causing damage until it's fully addressed. Your family doesn't need a perfect dad. They need a free one. GUEST Jeff Zaugg is the founder of DadAwesome, host of the DadAwesome Podcast (400+ episodes, 8+ years), and author of the newly released book DADAWESOME. He and his wife have four daughters and are based in Northeast, Florida. QUOTES "Your family doesn't need a perfect dad. They need a free one." "Small choices prevent big disasters. Asking for help before the crash is wisdom, not weakness." "Unresolved pain is like hidden glass — sharp, waiting, cutting us when we least expect it." "Our inadequacies as fathers create space for God's power to work through us." "Brotherhood isn't a luxury for fathers who have margin. It's oxygen for fathers who are drowning." Links: 21 Day Prayer Team - surrounding the DADAWESOME book launch. DADAWESOME Book:dadawesome.org/book Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Troy Magnum — Episode 184 (referenced in chapter)

🗣️ "Every king who takes over a territory changes the language first — because language determines culture." Pastor Tim Timberlake is back for Part 2, and it does NOT disappoint. In today's episode, you'll hear: ✅ Why the words you speak are literally shaping your child's world ✅ How to steward your kids' speed in a culture moving way too fast ✅ The powerful truth about grief — you won't get over it, but you will remember more ✅ Why you can't lead your kids somewhere you've never been Don't father from your wounds. Father from your scars. Join the 21-Day PRAYER TEAM (surrounding the book launch) WATCH the DADAWESOME book Trailer >> GET THE DADAWESOME BOOK >> SUMMARY: Every king who takes over a territory changes the language first — because language shapes culture. In Part 2 of this conversation with Pastor Tim Timberlake, you'll hear why the words you speak over your kids are literally forming their world. Plus, Tim gets real about grief, the little deaths that come with every new season of your child's life, and why the only way to be a great father is to remain a son of God first. TAKEAWAYS Language shapes culture — what you speak over your kids is forming their world, for better or worse. Boundaries aren't restrictions; they're what make the game worth playing. Your kids thrive within them. You won't "get over" the loss of a loved one, but you will grow stronger — and you'll remember more, not less. Every new season of your child's life requires mourning who they were so you can fully enjoy who they are. Don't father from your wounds. Father from your scars. GUEST Tim Timberlake is the lead pastor of Celebration Church, an author, and a speaker known for his passionate, scripture-rooted teaching. He and his wife, Jen, have a son, Max. Tim is the author of several books including The Art of Overcoming and Bumpy Road to Better. LINKS DADAWESOME Book:dadawesome.org/book Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome The Power of 1440 by Tim Timberlake The Art of Overcoming by Tim Timberlake Celebration Church — Jacksonville, FL Tim Timberlake on Instagram: @ttimberlake QUOTES "Every king who takes over a territory changes the language first — because language determines culture." — Tim Timberlake "Don't father from your wounds. Father from your scars." — Tim Timberlake "If you remain a son to God, you'll be a better father to your kids." — Tim Timberlake "We can only take people to the last place we've been." — Tim Timberlake "You won't get over it — but you will grow stronger, and you'll remember more." — Tim Timberlake

🔥 Pastor Tim Timberlake lost his dad the day after his 18th birthday. 24 years later, he's STILL unpacking the treasures from their last conversation. ➡️ Why every dad has a "fool" and a "king" inside—and the one you address is the one that will respond ➡️ How to make your pain purposeful instead of letting it steal your joy ➡️ The power of TONE and why the love of a father can convict a child into becoming better SUMMARY What does it look like to father from love instead of frustration? In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, Pastor Tim Timberlake shares what it was like losing his dad the day after his 18th birthday—and how 24 years later, he's still unpacking the treasures from their final conversation. Tim opens up about how his father's tone, words, and presence shaped the man and dad he's becoming today. Plus, he reveals the simple practice that keeps him anchored in gratitude and why every dad has both a fool and a king inside—and the one you address is the one that will respond. Stay tuned for Part 2 next week. TAKEAWAYS Legacy is not what you leave for your children—it's what you leave in them. Frame it with your words and your presence. Every dad has both a fool and a king inside, and the one you address in your kids is the one that will respond. Don't just turn your head toward your kids—turn your heart. Be where your feet are and be relational, not just transactional. Pain will produce fruit if you stay in it long enough. Make it purposeful and turn it back into praise before it becomes pride. If you don't plan your celebrations, your defeats will plan themselves. Collect moments, not things. QUOTES 1. "Legacy is not what I leave for someone. It's what I leave in them." 2. "We both have a fool and a king in us, and the one you address is the one that will respond." 3. "If I don't plan my celebrations, my defeats will plan themselves." 4. "Every word is like a thousand pound weight. Be mindful of where you place it." 5. "The love of my father would convict me into wanting to become better." GUEST Tim Timberlake is the Senior Pastor of Celebration Church in Jacksonville, Florida, and Christian Faith Center in Creedmoor, North Carolina. He's the bestselling author of The Power of 1440 and The Art of Overcoming. Tim is a gifted communicator, thought leader, and sought-after speaker known for blending biblical truth with real-life wisdom. He and his wife, Jennifer, are the proud parents of their son, Maxwell. Tim's father, the late Bishop Mack Timberlake, continues to shape his legacy as a father and pastor to this day. LINKS DADAWESOME Book:dadawesome.org/book Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome The Power of 1440 by Tim Timberlake The Art of Overcoming by Tim Timberlake Celebration Church — Jacksonville, FL Tim Timberlake on Instagram: @ttimberlake

🇸🇻 What happens when a man in a jail cell starts screaming curses — and then worship begins? In this powerful solo episode, Jeff shares the miraculous story of what God did inside a county jail in El Salvador during a recent mission trip with fathers and sons. You'll hear: ➡️ How worship flipped an environment from darkness to God's peace in an instant ➡️ Why getting uncomfortable reveals where God wants to bring healing ➡️ The beloved story Jeff shared with inmates that brought men and women to tears INVITES: Support JEFF'S FUNDRAISER - Team DADAWESOME 6-Mile SPARTAN event ($25 or $250) Join the ACCELERATOR - Six Week coaching cohort SUMMARY: What happens when you step into a dark, crowded jail hallway in El Salvador and a man starts screaming curses at you in English? In this raw solo episode, Jeff shares the miraculous story of what God did on a mission trip over his 44th birthday — and why getting uncomfortable as a dad is exactly where God wants to meet you. Plus, he reads the beloved story You Are Special by Max Lucado and shares why it changed everything inside that jail cell. TAKEAWAYS Worship often precedes breakthrough. When darkness and resistance filled that jail hallway, it was worship that flipped the entire environment from hostility to God's peace. Getting outside your comfort zone reveals places in your heart where God wants to bring healing — you can't grow staying in the comfort loop. The marks the world gives you — and the marks you give yourself — don't have to stick. What matters is what your Maker thinks of you. Teenage young men who dream about being dads and starting families are growing up in homes where fatherhood is cast as a vision worth pursuing. You are special because God made you, and He doesn't make mistakes. That truth changes everything — for you and for your kids. Top 5 Quotes "Worship released peace. Worship flipped the environment of that space. It radically shifted things — worship." "Getting uncomfortable going, serving — getting to new places often reveals new places of our hearts." "We can stay in a comfort loop and continue to stay comfortable — or we can go." "I'm dreaming about being a dad, starting a family. I loved hearing that answer from teenage young men." "The marks from the world don't have to stick. Walk in freedom and know your true identity." GUEST This is a solo episode with Jeff Zaugg, founder and executive director of DadAwesome. Jeff shares from a recent mission trip to El Salvador where he traveled with a group of fathers and teenage sons, served alongside the ministry of Jonathan Ferrant, and witnessed a miraculous encounter in a county jail in La Libertad. LINKS DADAWESOME Book:dadawesome.org/book Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Donate $25 to support Team DadAwesome's activation event: You Are Special by Max Lucado BraveCo — Father & Son Rite of Passage Events Jonathan Ferrant / El Salvador Mission Project E15 Ministry (El Salvador)

This is the most downloaded episode in DadAwesome history — and Part 2 picks up right where we left off. 🔥 Jamie Winship is back from the vault with stories and wisdom that will stop you in your tracks. ➡️ What being abducted in Iraq taught Jamie about staying calm as a dad ➡️ How to identify the false beliefs quietly running your life ➡️ Why your true identity is the greatest gift you can give your kids DADAWESOME ACCELERATOR - Spring Cohort - DADAWESOME book: https://www.dadawesome.org/book SUMMARY What if the biggest thing holding you back as a dad isn't your circumstances — it's what you believe about yourself? In this episode, Jamie Winship picks up right where we left off in Part 1, sharing jaw-dropping stories from being abducted in Iraq with his family, and unpacking the dad wisdom buried inside those moments. You'll learn why staying calm, staying present, and refusing to jump into drama can change everything in your home. Plus, Jamie walks through how to identify the false beliefs that are quietly running your life — and how to exchange them for who God actually made you to be. Takeaways: Give your spouse and your kids the gift of your true identity — it's the greatest thing you can offer your family. The enemy lives in the hypothetical future. God is only present in the present tense. Stay there. Don't participate in another person's drama. De-escalate, stay calm, and love the person in front of you. You can't give away what you don't have. If you carry false beliefs about yourself, they will come out in your parenting. Your true identity from God is other-focused, self-emptying, and rooted in unconditional love — even for your enemies. Guest: Jamie Winship is the co-founder of Identity Exchange and the author of Living Fearless. A former police officer turned international peacemaker, Jamie has spent decades working in conflict zones around the world alongside his wife, Donna. Together they help people discover their true identity in Christ. They have three grown sons and live out their faith in some of the most dangerous — and beautiful — places on earth. Quotes "You want your kids to have a right view of God, but you can't give away what you don't have." "Do not participate in another person's drama. Stay back from it. Stay calm." "God is only present in the present tense. The enemy is present in the hypothetical future." "The greatest gift I can give my sons is to untie their knots." "A child's false identity — once they believe it, they see it every time."

🔓 FROM THE VAULT: The most downloaded DadAwesome episode EVER is back — and it's a two-parter. Jamie Winship shares the jaw-dropping story of praying for invisibility with his kids in the middle of a collapsing government in Indonesia. But this episode goes way deeper than one miracle moment. ➡️ Why fear is the #1 enemy of intentional fatherhood ➡️ Two questions every dad should ask God daily ➡️ Why your true identity is the greatest gift you can give your kids DADAWESOME Book - https://www.dadawesome.org/book DADAWESOME Accelerator Coaching Groups: https://www.dadawesome.org/coaching SUMMARY: What would you do if a violent mob was heading straight for your van — with your kids in the back seat? In this fan-favorite episode pulled from the DadAwesome vault, Jamie Winship shares the incredible true story of praying for invisibility in the streets of Indonesia, why fear is the number one enemy of great fatherhood, and how your true identity in Christ is the greatest gift you can give your children. TAKEAWAYS: Kids learn to be afraid from their parents' fear — and learn courage from their parents' faith. Fear is an invitation to transformation, not a signal to run. Ask God: "What do You want me to know? What do You want me to do?" The greatest gift you can give your kids is the truth of who you are — your true identity in Christ. External conflict is produced by internal conflict, produced by fear, produced by false identity. Transformation starts in the heart. In the walk with Jesus, there is no win-lose scenario. When you believe that, you can gamify the hard stuff and find joy even in danger. GUEST: Jamie Winship is a former police officer turned international peacemaker who has spent decades bringing identity-based conflict resolution to some of the world's most dangerous places. He and his wife, Donna, have three sons and have lived and served in conflict zones including Indonesia and Baghdad. Jamie is the author of Living Fearless and teaches globally on identity, courage, and hearing God's voice. This is the most downloaded DadAwesome episode of all time — pulled from the vault and too good not to reshare. QUOTES "Kids learn to be afraid of things from their parents' fear." — Jamie Winship "The greatest gift you can give your kids is the truth of who you are." — Jamie Winship "Fear is an invitation to transformation. It's an invitation to a conversation." — Jamie Winship "In the walk with Jesus, there is no win-lose scenario." — Jamie Winship "God, what do You want me to know? And what do You want me to do?" — Jamie Winship LINKS DADAWESOME Book: dadawesome.org/book Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Identity Exchange Book - Living Fearless

What if the way you love your daughter today shapes her marriage 20 years from now? 🤯 In this episode, fatherhood researcher Dr. Jeffrey Shears shares what 20+ years of studying dads has revealed—and it will change the way you think about your role. ✅ Why your daughters internalize how you treat their mom (and how it shapes who they're attracted to) ✅ How "Nacho Tuesdays" became a game-changing connection strategy with his girls ✅ The generational ripple effect—how your fathering impacts grandchildren you'll never meet DADAWESOME book -- join the ADVANCE TEAM SUMMARY What if the way you father your daughter today shapes the marriage she has twenty years from now? In this episode, Dr. Jeffrey Shears—a fatherhood researcher, girl dad, and the chair of the Moynihan Institute for Fatherhood Research and Policy—shares over two decades of findings on why dads matter more than they think. You'll hear how generational fathering works, why Nacho Tuesdays became a game-changer for connecting with his girls, and what it really means to move men from risk to resource. Top 5 Quotes "You are literally responsible for your son-in-law's marital satisfaction. What you do with your daughter impacts generations." "I never met a guy who said, 'I don't want to be a good dad.' The desire is there—they need support." "Every man can be a potential risk, but every man can also be a potential resource to children and families." "Kids don't remember the stuff you bought. They remember the time, the conversations, the intentionality of hanging out with Dad." "If your father tells you that you can do something, you internalize that. Dad's words build a confidence nothing else can." TAKEAWAYS Your daughters internalize how you treat their mother—and it shapes who they're attracted to and the health of their future marriages. Fathers who affirm their daughters' abilities have a measurable impact—girls with engaged dads are overrepresented in STEM fields. What you do as a dad ripples across generations. Your great-great-grandchildren will be shaped by values you instill today, even if you never meet them. The desire to be a great dad is already there in most men. What's missing is the support, the models, and the community to show them how. Every man is either a risk or a resource to a child. The question isn't whether you'll have an impact—it's what kind. Guest Dr. Jeffrey Shears is a professor of social work jointly appointed at North Carolina A&T State University and UNC Greensboro. He serves as the inaugural chair of the Moynihan Institute for Fatherhood Research and Policy and is the board chair of the Fatherhood CoMission. He's spent over 20 years researching the impact fathers have on child development, with a particular focus on generational fathering and intergenerational transmission. He co-authored What All Dads Should Know with Dr. Clarence Shuler. Jeff is a proud girl dad of three daughters and lives in the Charlotte, North Carolina area. Links Mentioned DADAWESOME Book: dadawesome.org/book Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome What All Dads Should Know by Dr. Jeffrey Shears & Dr. Clarence Shuler Dadsknow.com – Dr. Shears' Website Fatherhood CoMission: fatherhoodcomission.com Moynihan Institute for Fatherhood Research and Policy (via Fathers Incorporated)

🚴 FROM THE VAULT BOOK >> recieve the book 5-weeks early >> join the ADVANCE TEAM: https://www.dadawesome.org/book Bart Scharrer has walked through some hard seasons with his daughters. Health crises. Uncertainty. Plans that didn't go the way he expected. But here's what he's learned: Gratitude isn't just a nice idea. It's the way through. ----------------------------------- ✅ Why longing for "someday" can cost you today ✅ How to set the temperature in your home (for better or worse) ✅ A simple practice that taught his daughters confidence and connection ✅ What it looks like to trust God day by day when answers don't come This is a conversation about presence, purpose, and staying the course. -------------------------------- SUMMARY When health crises hit your family and life doesn't go as planned, how do you keep leading well? In this episode from the vault, Bart Scharrer shares how he and his wife have navigated seasons of uncertainty with their daughters—and why gratitude isn't just a nice idea, it's the way through. You'll also hear how teaching your kids to ask good questions can shape their confidence, relationships, and even who they marry someday. Key Takeaways: Don't long for the next season at the expense of today. Embrace where you are right now with your kids. Gratitude is the discipline that keeps you other-centered when life gets hard. It's not ignoring the pain—it's the way through it. Teaching your kids to ask good questions builds confidence, connection, and character that lasts into adulthood. You set the temperature in your home. Your presence, tone, and emotional awareness shape the climate your family lives in. Serving together as a family—in the neighborhood and at church—creates lasting values and surrounds your kids with great people. GUEST Bart Scharrer is a pastor, board member at DadAwesome, and father of two young adult daughters. He and his wife Amy have walked through significant health challenges with their girls and have learned to lead their family with gratitude, presence, and trust in God's timing. Bart is passionate about helping dads stay engaged and intentional through every season of fatherhood. Quotes "Gratitude is the way through. If I don't live in gratitude, it's so easy to live in complaint." "Don't long for someday at the expense of today. There's so much to be thankful for right now." "Shy is not an excuse for rude. Look people in the eye and ask a question." "I can control how much I love Jesus. I can control how much I love my family." "What's the best version of me? That gives me a target for what I'm practicing towards." #DadAwesome #christiandad #dadlife #parenting #dadpodcast #fatherhood #gratitude #intentionalparenting LINKS DADAWESOME Book: dadawesome.org/book Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome

🎉 8 YEARS OF DADAWESOME! We're celebrating with an incredible conversation with Craig Allen Cooper, the man behind Walker Hayes' song "Craig." ✅ The minivan miracle that softened an atheist's heart ✅ Why Craig's kids are PRAYING for friendships like their parents have ✅ The 5 P's of fatherhood: Provide, Protect, Prepare, Propel, Present ✅ Tables vs. Tablets and real connection with your kids DADAWESOME Book >> join the Advance Team: https://www.dadawesome.org/book SUMMARY After eight years and 418 episodes of DadAwesome, we're celebrating with a conversation that captures everything this ministry is about. Craig Allen Cooper shares the story behind Walker Hayes' song "Craig," why his kids are praying for adult friendships like their parents have, and the five P's that guide his fatherhood. Plus, you'll hear how a minivan miracle led to a stadium-filling artist bowing his knee to Jesus. TAKEAWAYS Your kids are watching your friendships, and they're praying they'll have the same kind of adult community they see modeled in your life. Trust is the foundation of friendship with your kids. When they know you're for them no matter what, the door to real connection opens wide. Tables beat tablets every time. Eye-to-eye, heart-to-heart connection happens around tables of mercy and grace, not through screens. The 5 P's of fatherhood: Provide, Protect, Prepare, Propel, and be Present. These aren't about perfection; they're about direction. Arrows are meant to fly. Your job is to prepare and propel your kids toward their God-given calling, not keep them close forever. What's upstream matters most. Feasting on God's Word daily is what fills you with gladness to pour into your family. GUEST Craig Allen Cooper is the co-author of Glad You're Here: Two Unlikely Friends Breaking Bread and Fences with country music artist Walker Hayes. He is the subject of Walker's hit song "Craig," which tells the story of their unlikely friendship and Craig's influence in Walker's journey to faith. Craig is a speaker, podcaster, and devoted father of four who lives near Nashville, Tennessee with his wife Laura. He's passionate about discipleship, authentic friendship, and helping men feast on God's Word. QUOTES "Dude, I would give you my blood. You know that, right?" "I've heard my kids say over and over again: I'm praying that I'm going to have adult friendships like you and mom have." "There's a huge difference between table connection and tablet connection. Table connection is eye to eye, heart to heart, soul to soul." "An arrow is meant to fly. There's a tendency to just want to keep it around us, but at some point that arrow will fly." "Every grain of glory, every ounce of praise for anything good in my life belongs exclusively to the Lord Jesus Christ." LINKS DADAWESOME Book: dadawesome.org/book Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Glad You're Here by Craig Allen Cooper and Walker Hayes Glad You're Here Podcast Mechanics on a Mission TAGS: DadAwesome, Craig Allen Cooper, Walker Hayes, Christian fatherhood, fatherhood podcast, intentional parenting, faith and fatherhood, tables over tablets, friendship and faith, 5 P's of fatherhood, Christian dad, parenting podcast, raising kids, family discipleship, Glad You're Here, unlikely friendships, generosity, minivan miracle, dad community, launching kids

🏠 Is your home revolving around your kids? Ted Cunningham joins us to explain why eradicating the child-centered home is one of the best things you can do for your family. ✅ The "Love Jug" illustration that will change how you think about your source of life ✅ Why parenting is a journey from control to influence ✅ How honor bombardments and honor lists create close-knit families ✅ The "princess to queen" conversation every dad of daughters needs to hear DADAWESOME BOOK (join the advance team!) https://www.dadawesome.org/book SUMMARY Parenting is a journey from control to influence—and the fastest way to squander influence is to be controlling. In this episode, Ted Cunningham shares his famous "Love Jug" illustration, explains why your marriage is actually your greatest parenting tool, and unpacks why eradicating the child-centered home is essential for raising kids who are ready to leave. Plus, you'll hear the powerful "princess to queen" conversation he had with his daughter and how honor bombardments can transform your family culture. TAKEAWAYS Parenting is a journey from control to influence—and the fastest way to squander influence is by being controlling. Your marriage is part of your parenting plan. Kids have a front-row seat to how you treat your spouse. Jesus is your source, not your spouse or your kids. Fire them from that role. The child-centered home creates prolonged adolescence: too much privilege, not enough responsibility. Honor bombardments and honor lists create close-knit families by calling out what's valuable in each person. GUEST Ted Cunningham is the founding pastor of Woodland Hills Family Church in Branson, Missouri, and a sought-after speaker and author on marriage and family. He has written multiple books including Trophy Child and has partnered with the late Dr. Gary Smalley on numerous projects. Ted and his wife, Amy, are celebrating 30 years of marriage and have two adult children. He's known for his humor, practical wisdom, and passionate belief that strong marriages create strong families. QUOTES "Parenting is a journey from control to influence. With every year, you're losing control and hopefully replacing it with influence." "The fastest way to squander influence is to be controlling." "Jesus is your source, Satan is your enemy, your spouse is your companion." "What's celebrated, what's spoken out loud gets multiplied." "Delete the narrative that says it's too late. Delete the narrative that says it's my fault." LINKS DADAWESOME Book: dadawesome.org/book Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Trophy Child by Ted Cunningham

🔥 What if going with the flow is the most dangerous thing you can do as a dad? Jeremy Pryor is BACK for round four, and this conversation will challenge everything you thought about provision, legacy, and multi-generational family. FULL SHOW NOTES ➡️ Why vision, will, and community are your only defense against a culture trying to exploit your kids ➡️ The biblical case against "Labanism" and lifetime wage-earning ➡️ How your son-in-law becomes your SON in a multi-generational family ➡️ Why family at 55 should be FAR better than family at 35 SUMMARY If you just go with the flow in today's culture, it will destroy you and your family. In this episode, Jeremy Pryor unpacks why we're living in the Age of Intentionality—where vision, will, and community are the only things standing between your kids and a world trying to exploit them. Plus, he shares why your family life should get richer as your kids grow older, and how to break free from "Labanism" to build assets that serve your family for generations. TAKEAWAYS We live in a unique age where going with the flow will destroy your family. Intentional fatherhood requires vision, will, and thick community. God's five-part mission for families—be fruitful, multiply, fill, subdue, and rule—is the preloaded vision every dad can build on. "Labanism" is the cultural trap of lifetime wage-earning that keeps fathers dependent and unable to truly provide for their own families. Your son-in-law is your son. Multi-generational family means gaining more kids through marriage, not losing the ones you raised. Family gets better with time. What you experience with your kids at 25 should be far richer than when they were 5. GUEST Jeremy Pryor is the founder of Family Teams and the author of Family Revision and The Ruling Generation. He and his wife, April, have five children, two sons-in-law, a daughter-in-law, and a brand new grandson. Jeremy is passionate about helping fathers build multi-generational families that thrive for centuries. This is his fourth appearance on Dad Awesome. LINKS: Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Family Teams Podcast Family Teams Resources: familyteams.com FREE video course from Jeremy: https://familyteams.com/awesome The Movie David (in theaters) QUOTES "If you just go with the flow, do what's natural, it will destroy you and your family." "The only thing that can stand up against what's coming at our kids is an intentional father." "Your son-in-law is your son. Your daughter-in-law is your daughter." "It gets better. It should be so much more rich when your kids are 25 than when they were 5." "Make it your goal to work with your hands, to mind your own business, so that you will not have to be dependent on anyone." "We are blessed to be a blessing."

🚨 If you just go with the flow, it will destroy your family. Jeremy Pryor is BACK on the podcast with a wake-up call for dads everywhere. In Part 1 of this powerful conversation, he's sharing: ➡️ Why your ability to emotionally detach is hurting your kids ➡️ The difference between "Do I love my kids?" and "Do they FEEL loved?" ➡️ How to become a warmer, more emotionally available father ➡️ What ancient Hebraic families understood that we've forgotten SUMMARY If you just go with the flow in today's world, it will destroy you and your family. In this episode, Jeremy Pryor returns to share why the superpower that helps men provide and protect can actually be the very thing that pushes your kids away. You'll discover why emotional detachment is hurting your children and how to become the warm, present father your family desperately needs. TAKEAWAYS The ability to emotionally detach is a fatherhood superpower for providing and protecting—but using it against your family will cost you their hearts. Your kids can sense emotional distance, and they need to know that what happens to them actually impacts you. The question isn't "Do I feel attached to my kids?" but "Do my kids feel attached to me?" Learning from ancient Hebraic family culture can revolutionize the way we build multi-generational bonds. Your wife has a relational map of the family that you desperately need—invite her advice and steward it well. GUEST Jeremy Pryor is the founder of Family Teams and co-host of the Family Teams Podcast with Jefferson Bethke. He's an author, speaker, and advocate for multi-generational family who has spent years studying ancient Hebraic family patterns and helping modern fathers build lasting legacies. Jeremy and his wife, April, have five children and four grandchildren and lived in Israel on and off for about ten years. LINKS Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 FREE video course from Jeremy: https://familyteams.com/awesome Family Teams Podcast Family Teams Resources: familyteams.com

What if the secret to connecting with your kids wasn't more time—but better minutes? ✅ The See, Hear, Know framework for becoming a student of your kids ✅ Why over-teaching actually backfires (and what to do instead) ✅ How to plan your family's year WITH them, not just for them SUMMARY: What if the most impactful moments with your kids are just nine minutes a day? In this episode, fatherhood coach Dan Tinquist shares how morning, afternoon, and evening connection points can transform your relationship with your kids. You'll also hear why over-teaching actually backfires, how to build a family culture where your kids feel safe to fail, and the surprising parallels between making sourdough bread and raising kids. TAKEAWAYS: The most important nine minutes of your kid's day are the first three when they wake up, the three when you reconnect after school or work, and the last three before bed. If every moment is a teachable moment, you will teach them nothing. Sometimes the best thing you can do is pray instead of lecture. We don't rest from our work—we work from our rest. Contentment today fuels driven action tomorrow. Building a family culture where kids feel safe to fail means they'll run to you when they mess up, not from you. Planning your year with your family—not for them—creates ownership and adventure everyone can look forward to. GUEST: Dan Tinquist is a fatherhood coach, host of the Confidad Podcast, and creator of the Time Well Spent Method and Family Culture Framework. He coaches dads from around the world to move from surviving to thriving in their homes. Dan and his wife have four boys and live in Minnesota. QUOTES: "If every moment is a teachable moment, I will teach them nothing." "Control is an illusion. It is chaos that we are attempting to bring peace into." "We don't rest from our work. We work from our rest." "His mercies are new every single morning. When's the last time you lived a perfect day?" "I'm going to pray instead of open my big fat mouth and tell them why I'm right and they're wrong." LINKS: Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Confidad Podcast Dan Tinquist's Fatherhood Coaching: https://confidad.com/

➡️ How yearly family vision summits (with a hot tub!) shape your family's direction ➡️ The power of tying your kids' names to your family's core values ➡️ Why pre-parental counseling removes the shame that keeps dads stuck later SHOW NOTES https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/413 SUMMARY What if you could prepare for fatherhood before the chaos even begins? In this episode, Michael DeAquino shares how he and his wife are helping expecting parents get on the same page before baby arrives—and why that window of time matters so much. You'll also hear how Michael's family runs themed dinner nights every single day of the week (yes, including Forgiveness Friday and Scenario Saturday), plus how yearly vision summits with your kids in an Airbnb with a hot tub can transform the direction of your family. TAKEAWAYS Creating space to think—like a yearly family summit away from home—is the first step toward vision. You can't see where you're headed when you're drowning in the daily grind. Themed dinner nights (Monday Meeting, Throwback Tuesday, Thankful Thursday, Forgiveness Friday, and more) turn ordinary meals into consistent connection points that shape your family culture. Your kids' names can carry your family's vision. Michael tied each child's name to a core value—closeness, generational faithfulness, righteousness, light, and stewardship—and speaks it over them regularly. The best time to prepare for intentional parenting is before you're holding the baby. Pre-parental counseling removes the shame and chaos that often keeps dads from engaging later. Keystone habits cascade into other habits. Start with what you're already doing (like dinner) and build intentional rhythms from there. GUEST Michael DeAquino is the co-founder of The Parenthood Project and author of The Parenthood Primer, a pre-parental counseling resource for expecting and new parents. He and his wife have five kids ages 2 to 12 and are passionate about helping couples get on the same page before the chaos of parenthood begins. Michael spent 15 years in church ministry before pivoting to equip parents earlier in their journey. QUOTES "I didn't start until my oldest was six. And to see just where things are now—there's a lot of grace." – Michael DeAquino "Our names carry a lot of identity in them. Why not make it even more than just what you call us?" – Michael DeAquino "You're going to get a lot of recognition in your career. You're not going to get a lot of recognition as a father—and that's where you'll end up placing your time." – Michael DeAquino "Everything around us is trying to disintegrate our family. So how do we foster closeness even as our kids get older?" – Michael DeAquino "What if we got to dads before they even hold the baby—before the chaos, before the shame sets in?" – Michael DeAquino LINKS Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort: Email [email protected] Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 The Parenthood Primer by Michael DeAquino The Parenthood Project

📍 When did you become a man? Most guys can't answer that question clearly—because they never had a defining moment. Matt Hanson is on a mission to change that. In this episode, he shares the Ion Path—a 3-year Christian rite of passage for dads and their 12-16 year olds. You'll hear: ➡️ Why Dad is "LeBron James" in the faith transfer game (50-60 points!) ➡️ How 30 conversations in 30 days can transform your relationship ➡️ The simple framework for teaching your kids 30 life skills before they launch ➡️ Why it's more important to be IN the conversation than to be RIGHT SUMMARY: What if you could give your son or daughter something most kids never receive—a clear moment when they know they've become a man or woman? In this episode, Matt Hanson shares the vision behind the Ion Path, a 3-year Christian rite of passage designed to help dads and their kids become co-learners on the journey to adulthood. You'll hear why only 8-10% of church kids keep their faith for a lifetime, what makes dad "LeBron James" in the faith transfer game, and how 30 simple conversations can transform your relationship with your child. TAKEAWAYS: Most kids raised in the church never experience a defining moment that marks their transition into adulthood—and it's time to change that. Dad is the single biggest factor in whether a child keeps their faith for a lifetime. If faith transfer is a 100-point game, dad is 50-60 of those points. The most powerful thing you can do for your kids is love their mother well and stay in the conversation—it's more important to be in the conversation than to be right. A 3-year intentional journey with your 12-16 year old—built around conversations, skills, challenges, and adventures—can launch them into adulthood with confidence and faith. You don't have to have all the answers. The Ion Path equips dads to go on this journey alongside their child as co-learners, not experts. GUEST Matt Hanson is the founder of the Ion Path, a 3-year Christian rite of passage designed to help dads and their children become co-learners on the journey to adulthood. After a successful business career, Matt turned his attention to the crisis of faith retention among young people and assembled a coalition of faith leaders to create a standard for rites of passage across denominational lines. He and his wife Mary have three adult children—Savannah, Noah, and Tatum—and live in Southern California. QUOTES "It's more important to be in the conversation than be right. I heard one person say that they've only had one conversation with their daughter, but it started when she was four and it never stopped." "If it's a 100-point game, Dad is the LeBron James. He's 50 to 60 points in that game." "Ion is a Greek word that means a moment in time that impacts all of time. As dads, we are in a series of moments in time and we are forming the next generation, which will last a long time." "If I finish and check off all 30 of those skills with my son, my son's not going to enter adulthood wondering if he's a capable person—because he's going to know there's at least 30 things I know, and I learned them from my dad." "You get the dad, you get the family. You get the family, you get the church. You get the church, you get the community. It is the powder keg." LINKS Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort: Email [email protected] Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Aion Path: https://aionpath.com/ Pastors Info Video (Aion Path) Ion Path 5-Video Text Series - Text "Aion Path Dad to 1-888-488-9429 Three Year Breakdown of Aion Path National Rite of Passage Council

🕐 What if 15 minutes could change your entire life? ✅ The brain science behind why your morning and evening routines matter more than you think ✅ How to build a sustainable Daily 15 practice that actually sticks ✅ Why Sabbath might be the most Christ-like (and kid-favorite) rhythm your family is missing ✅ The one thing 93% of men said they want to grow in SHOW NOTES https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/411 SUMMARY What if the first thing you did each day was sleep—and trust God with it? In this episode, Chris Cirullo unpacks the brain science behind why your morning and evening routines carry exponential power, and how a simple 15-minute daily practice can transform your faith, health, and focus over time. Plus, he shares how his family has made Sabbath the most anticipated day of the week—complete with chains hitting the floor and kids fighting over who gets to throw them. TAKEAWAYS The Daily 15 is a sustainable morning routine that anchors your day in hydration, scripture, prayer, prioritization, and movement—all in just 15 minutes. Your brain is most "plastic" during wake-up and bedtime windows, meaning small, consistent inputs during those times create outsized transformation. In Jewish tradition, evening begins the new day—so the first act of every day is actually resting and trusting God for the first eight hours. Sabbath is the only commandment we boast about breaking, yet God designed it for human flourishing—not as a burden but as a gift. Start your Sabbath practice small and sustainable (even takeout Thai food counts), then expand it over time with sensory anchors your kids will crave. GUEST Chris Cirullo is a former Army Ranger, executive coach, and the founder of Mission Fit. He helps high-performing men build lifelong health, faith, and focus through his coaching programs and his new book, The Daily 15. Chris and his wife have four sons and live with deep intentionality around family rhythms, Sabbath rest, and hearing God's voice. He's passionate about helping fathers lead their homes as kingdom outposts. LINKS Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort: Email [email protected] Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 FREE copy of Chris' book: https://www.missionfit.co/free15 Mission Fit Scorecard: missionfit.co/scorecard Forming Men QUOTES "Where God gives responsibility, He will come and aid you in the ability." "The first thing we do in our day is go to sleep and trust the Lord for the first eight hours. Then we wake up and we do—after we've rested." "You can create exponential change in the way your brain functions in those wake-up and bedtime windows compared to other hours of the day." "Sabbath is the only one of the Ten Commandments that we're okay boasting about breaking." "It's like compound interest. At some point it hockey sticks and you look back and realize—I'm a different person now."

✅ The biblical reason dads are called to bring order to their homes ✅ How to train your kids like a football coach (M&Ms included!) ✅ The power of a weekly family meeting to solve your biggest friction points ✅ Why setting "impossible" goals actually works SUMMARY Chaos doesn't have to be the norm in your home. In Part 1 of this conversation, Army Ranger turned fatherhood coach Chris Cirullo unpacks the biblical call for fathers to bring order—and shares the practical systems he's built to lead his five sons with both fun and discipline. You'll also hear why setting impossible goals might be the key to real growth. TAKEAWAYS God designed fathers to bring order and strategy to their homes—it's part of our calling, not just a nice-to-have. Training kids in specific behaviors with immediate rewards (like M&Ms) can save decades of frustration. Weekly family meetings with your wife help you identify and solve one key friction point at a time. Setting "impossible" goals narrows your options and forces clarity on what actually needs to change. What gets measured improves—but what gets measured and reported improves exponentially. GUEST Chris Cirullo is a former Army Ranger with four combat tours in Afghanistan, a former collegiate football player, fitness coach, and tech startup leader. He now coaches men through Mission Fit and serves on the team at Forming Men. Chris and his wife Justine homeschool their five sons in Eugene, Oregon, and are expecting their sixth child. LINKS Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort: Email [email protected] Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 FREE copy of Chris' book: https://www.missionfit.co/free15 Mission Fit Scorecard: missionfit.co/scorecard Forming Men Quotes: "Minutes of training can sometimes save decades of headaches for a father." "I have this innate responsibility as a father to bring order. We're not all great at it, but we do have to find ways to make efforts unto that end." "Setting impossible goals is one of the most effective ways to actually make meaningful growth." "What gets measured improves, but what gets measured and reported improves exponentially." "God wanted to partner with Adam to bring about order in the world, and He stopped short of producing complete order so that man as a father and a husband could do some of that work." TAGS fatherhood, intentional parenting, family systems, discipline, order, army ranger, coaching dads, homeschool dad, training kids, goal setting, Parkinson's law, Pareto principle, Pearson's law, accountability, family mission, Christian dad, family meetings, parenting hacks, dadlife, Genesis

What if your kid's "selfishness" is actually developmentally normal? 🤯 ✅ Why emotional awareness makes you a better dad (not a softer one) ✅ How to walk your kids through the "I'm sorry" process step by step ✅ The turkey hunting philosophy of spiritual formation ✅ Why showing up in children's ministry is a slingshot back to your home SUMMARY: What if your child's selfishness is actually a God-given gift? In this episode, Chris Ammenshares why understanding your kid's developmental stage changes everything about how you parent. Plus, he unpacks the "turkey hunting philosophy" of spiritual formation and why the most powerful thing you can do as a dad is simply show up and love your kids for who they are, not what they accomplish. TAKEAWAYS: Your children are growing out of egocentrism, not being punched out of it. Understanding their developmental stage brings patience and grace to your parenting. Growing in your own emotional awareness is one of the greatest gifts you can give your kids. When you learn to express the full range of emotions, you create space for them to do the same. Walk your kids through the mechanics of relational repair. Chunk it up into small steps so they build the muscle memory for when they're older. Spiritual formation is a longitudinal process. It's so slow you'll hardly notice the grass growing, then one day you'll look around and see what God did while you were faithful day by day. Call your kids to where they already want to go. Shoulder-to-shoulder time doing what they love is where the real conversations happen. Men in children's ministry matter more than you think. Boys need men who cheer them on for who they are, and girls need to see men who treat them with respect and kindness. GUEST: Chris Ammen is the founder of Kaleidoscope, a ministry helping kids understand and love the Bible through chapter books, audio content, and a weekly podcast. A former children's pastor with 15 years of experience, Chris is passionate about meeting kids at their developmental level and equipping parents to disciple their children at home. He's the author of Raising Disciples at Home and the host of the Kaleidoscope Podcast. Chris and his wife have four kids ages 5 to 12 and live in the thick of raising their own disciples. dadawesome, christiandad, dadlife, parenting, dadpodcast, fatherhood, kaleidoscope, childrensbible, emotionalawareness, raisingkids, familydiscipleship, christianparenting, boydad, girldad, childrensministry, faithathome, intentionalparenting, dadcommunity, spiritualformation, parentingtips Quotes: "This is not going to happen in 24 hours. This is not going to happen in a year. This is going to be so slow that I'm hardly going to notice the grass growing underneath my feet. And then I'm going to look around one day and say, look at what God did while I was just being patient and faithful day by day by day." "They grow out of egocentrism. It's not punched out of them. It's not beaten out of them. It's not manipulated out of them. That's something that they have to come to as their brain develops." "Hold up, this is not about you, this is about her. Both of our eyes right now need to be on her and making sure that she is okay." "Call your children to where they already want to go. And while they're there, give them some truth." "Don't underestimate that, both for the boys in the room and maybe even more importantly for the girls in the room. To have a man who looks at them with respect and kindness and graciousness, not as an object, is deeply formational." "You don't have to be a champion in the room. You can just be an awkward dad who's learning how to be around other children." "God thought of them before He thought of the mountains and the seas and the oceans, and He called them very good. He does not regret them." LINKS: Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort: Email [email protected] Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Kaleidoscope Kaleidoscope Podcast Raising Disciples at Home by Chris Ammon The Voice of the Heart by Chip Dodd

🍕🤼‍♂️ Pizza nights. Wrestling matches. Honest talks about sex, phones, and finding the right wife. ✅ Why Tuesday wrestling nights built more than just muscle ✅ The 18th birthday dinner where 4 friends said the exact same thing (and it wasn't planned) ✅ How to talk about sex early and often without shame ✅ Why delaying phones until driving age might be the move ✅ The story of the Sons of Korah and rewriting your family legacy SUMMARY What does it look like to raise teenage boys who become strong men of character? In this episode, Carl Cartee—songwriter, speaker, and dad of four sons—shares how weekly wrestling nights, honest sex talks, and delayed technology built a foundation of trust in his home. You'll hear the story of his son's 18th birthday dinner where four friends said the same surprising thing, why he wishes someone had told him about choosing a spouse differently, and how the Sons of Korah can change your entire perspective on fatherhood legacy. TAKEAWAYS Wrestling nights and messy pizza-making weren't just fun—they were intentional time in your presence that builds connection and dignity in your sons. The simplicity of being invited into God's work as a father takes the pressure off perfection and puts the focus on faithfulness. Early and often conversations about sex, desire, and God's design create safety and health instead of shame and secrecy. Choosing a spouse isn't just about attraction at 25—it's about finding someone you genuinely like being with through every season of life. Your family legacy isn't determined by what you inherited from your fathers—through Christ, you're rewriting the story for your kids. GUEST Carl Cartee is a songwriter, speaker, and worship leader from Franklin, Tennessee. He's written over 150 songs for artists including Elevation Worship and Oak Ridge Boys. Carl and his wife, Heather, host the podcast "Married to Someone Who's Nothing Like You" and are passionate about helping marriages thrive. They have four sons ranging from 14 to 19 years old. Carl loves creativity, adventure, and pointing people to Jesus through music, art, and authentic conversation. TOP QUOTES "God has dignified me by inviting me into His work through my sons. If it turns out great, awesome. But even if there are no guarantees these boys go up and to the right for the rest of their life, I cherish being invited in." "Together is better—not just in the great times, but when you feel shame, when you didn't score any points. There's a different outcome when you do that alone versus when you do it with somebody who's there for you on the mountaintop or in the valley." "Don't marry somebody that you necessarily think is sexy right now. Look for somebody that you like being with. Because when it comes to seasons of life and circumstances throughout the course of a marriage, you might be married to two or three different women." "Shame as a young man was an absolute killer. It was an absolute destroyer of relational connection and intimacy. When the boys bring their struggles to us instead of harboring that shame, it speaks of health in that area." "No matter what heritage you have, if God is your refuge and strength, there is nothing from your past, nothing from the generations before you that you cannot undo through the power of worship and trusting in the Lord. You are rewriting legacy."

div]:bg-bg-000/50 [&_pre>div]:border-0.5 [&_pre>div]:border-border-400 [&_.ignore-pre-bg>div]:bg-transparent [&_.standard-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pl-2 [&_.standard-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,ul,ol,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pr-8 [&_.progressive-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pl-2 [&_.progressive-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,ul,ol,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pr-8"> _*]:min-w-0 standard-markdown"> "Discovered truth always beats delivered truth." David Murrow just dropped some serious wisdom for dads who want to stop lecturing and start creating real spiritual conversations. In today's episode, you'll hear: ✅ How to pray 15-second prayers with your kids that integrate faith into everyday moments ✅ Why Jesus asked hundreds of questions but only gave 8 direct answers (and what that means for your parenting) ✅ The 3 journeys every man walks: submission, strength, and sacrifice DadAwesome Voice Mail: SUMMARY: Raising your kids on lectures and long prayers isn't working—Jesus knew that 2,000 years ago. In this episode, David Murrow shares how to create spiritual curiosity in your home using questions instead of answers, 15-second prayers instead of lengthy devotionals, and parables that stick. You'll also hear his groundbreaking research on why men are finally coming back to church, and how every dad moves through three essential journeys: submission, strength, and sacrifice. TAKEAWAYS Discovered truth always beats delivered truth—guys need space to talk and share their experiences, not just receive lectures. Jesus asked hundreds of questions but only gave eight direct answers in all of Scripture—create curiosity through great questions instead of telling your kids what to think. The foundation of your faith must be built on being like a lamb (gentleness, sensitivity, mercy) before you can exercise lion-like strength in love. Try 15-second prayers with your kids throughout the day—integrate faith as something you do all the time, not just on Sundays. Touchstones are physical objects that help spiritual truths stick—give your kids something tangible to carry that reminds them of what they're learning. GUEST David Murrow is the author of Why Men Hate Going to Church and The Map: The Way of All Great Men. For over 25 years, he's been helping churches engage men through groundbreaking research and practical resources. He's currently developing Man Time, a parable-based video series that creates powerful spiritual conversations. David is passionate about helping dads disciple their kids through questions, stories, and hands-on experiences rather than lectures. Links Mentioned: Learn about the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Download a free chapter of the DadAwesome book LEAVE DadAwesome a VOICE MESSAGE The Map: The Way of All Great Men by David Murrow Why Men Hate Going to Church by David Murrow Man Time parables video series davidmurrow.com div]:bg-bg-000/50 [&_pre>div]:border-0.5 [&_pre>div]:border-border-400 [&_.ignore-pre-bg>div]:bg-transparent [&_.standard-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pl-2 [&_.standard-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,ul,ol,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pr-8 [&_.progressive-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pl-2 [&_.progressive-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,ul,ol,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pr-8"> _*]:min-w-0 standard-markdown"> Quotes Discovered truth always beats delivered truth. Guys need space to talk and share experiences, not just receive lectures. Jesus asked hundreds of questions but only gave eight direct answers in Scripture. Create curiosity, not lectures. Try 15-second prayers with your kids. Integrate faith as something you do all the time, not just Sundays. The foundation of your faith must be built on being like a lamb before you exercise lion-like strength. Church is now more masculine than culture. It's recognized as a safe place where guys can go.

🎯 As a dad, are you leading the conversation about sex with your kids—or letting the world do it for you? ✅ Why dads need to play the lead role in sex conversations (even with daughters!) ✅ How to make your marriage thrive with 7 simple shifts ✅ The power of resisting passivity and taking proactive action ✅ FREE resources that will strengthen your family today SUMMARY: Your kids are going to learn about sex from somewhere—will it be from you or from the world? In this episode, Dave Willis returns with game-changing resources for dads who want to lead intentional, shame-free conversations about sex with their kids. Plus, he shares powerful insights on strengthening your marriage through simple shifts that create deeper connection. This conversation will equip you to resist passivity and take proactive action in the areas that matter most. TAKEAWAYS Resist passivity and take the lead in having ongoing, shame-free conversations with your kids about sex and God's design for their bodies. Your marriage is one of the first gifts you give to your children—they learn what relationships should look like by watching yours. Fun is fuel for your marriage—without laughter and playfulness, everything else begins to collapse. The mind feasts on what it focuses on—intentionally focus on God's plan for your family and flourishing will follow. Being proactive as a husband and father isn't domineering—it's loving leadership that your wife finds attractive. Create a team around your growth—invite other dads and couples to join you on the journey toward intentional parenting and thriving marriage. GUEST Dave Willis and his wife, Ashley, are the authors of multiple books including the bestseller, The Naked Marriage, and their newest release, Do Marriage Better: Seven Simple Shifts for Deeper Connection. They're also Christian speakers, marriage coaches, and the hosts of The Marriage on the Line Podcast. They have four sons and live near Augusta, Georgia. Dave is passionate about helping dads lead their families with intentionality and helping couples build marriages that thrive. LINKS Learn about the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Download a free chapter of the DadAwesome book How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex (FREE 6-part video series) - Family Life Do Marriage Better: Seven Simple Shifts for Deeper Connection by Dave & Ashley Willis The Marriage on the Line Podcast 9 Days to Great Sex Free eBook QUOTES "Your wives find being proactive in you very sexy. Women, by God's design, are attracted to a husband who takes action." "Fun is fuel. If your marriage feels like it's on empty, it's because you've put fun on the back burner. Laughter isn't frivolous—it's vital." "If we don't teach our kids about sex, the world's gonna do it for us and the world's gonna teach them the wrong messages." "The mind feasts on what it focuses on. Focus on God's plan for your family and the flourishing will follow." "Resist passivity. God hasn't called us to be passive. There are times to be still and patient, but never passive."

✅ Why following Jesus is the most adventurous thing you'll ever do ✅ The often-overlooked power of physical touch with your kids ✅ How to build the deep brotherhood every dad desperately needs ✅ A game-changing challenge: Do for ONE kid outside your family what you do for your own LEAVE DADAWESOME A VOICEMAIL ✅ Under 90-seconds ✅ Begin with your first name and where you are from ✅ RECORD YOUR MESSAGE HERE SUMMARY Imagine standing at the edge of a 30-foot-high dive over ice-cold water with your son watching from below. That terrifying moment of decision mirrors what it means to be a risk-taking dad in today's world. In this episode, Peter Ostapko from Kinsman shares the cliff-jumping story that changed how he parents, plus powerful insights on the gift of physical touch with your kids, the critical importance of being present, and why every dad needs deep brotherhood. You'll also hear an unforgettable challenge: do for one kid outside your family what you do for your own kids. TAKEAWAYS Following Jesus as a father is meant to be the most adventurous, risk-taking, beautiful journey—not boring or safe Physical touch with your kids is a powerful gift that communicates love, safety, and connection in ways words cannot Your presence as a dad matters more than you realize—availability beats ability every time Deep friendships and brotherhood are essential for the fatherhood journey; isolation is the enemy Challenge yourself to "do for one more kid" outside your family what you already do for your own kids Being a sower and planting seeds means showing up consistently without always seeing immediate results Don't place unrealistic expectations on your kids because you're trying to overcompensate for your own broken past The Kinsman Journal helps fathers unlock the power of their story and create spaces for authentic connection GUEST: Peter Ostapko is a leader with Kinsman, an intentional men's ministry focused on faithfully demonstrating redemptive, Christ-centered brotherhood. Kinsman creates resources including publishing, podcasting, and gatherings to influence men toward authentic connection and purposeful living. Peter is also the creator of the Kinsman Journal, a beautiful resource designed to help men unlock the power of their stories. He's a husband, father, and passionate advocate for helping dads build deep friendships and lead their families with courage and intentionality. LINKS: Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Kinsman Ministry The Kinsman Journal Fathered by God by John Eldredge TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Welcome & Introduction 02:53 - The Cliff Jumping Story: Taking Risks as a Dad 08:30 - Why Following Jesus Should Be Adventurous 15:45 - The Gift of Physical Touch with Your Kids 23:10 - Being Present: Your Availability Matters Most 30:20 - Deep Brotherhood and Why Dads Need Friendship 37:15 - The Kinsman Journal: Unlocking the Power of Story 42:00 - Don't Be Too Hard on Yourself 44:20 - The "Do for One More Kid" Challenge 46:17 - Peter's Prayer Over Dads 48:00 - Closing Thoughts & Resources 5 TOP QUOTES: "Following Jesus is to be the most adventurous, risk-taking, frightening, wonderfully beautiful, dependent, abiding thing we'll ever experience in our life." "The role of a father is the most important title, mantle, role you'll ever have in your entire life outside of being a spouse to your wife." "Do for one kid outside of your kids what you do for your kids. Be intentional with them. Invite them into dinners and love on them. You never know what some of these kids are going through." "We talk ourselves out of way too many things. God is on the other side saying, 'Listen, I got an adventure for you. Do you want to do this or not?' He doesn't force us. He invites us into it." "Your presence matters more than you realize. Just being available for your kid—that's what matters most."

When you're constantly hurrying from one thing to the next, it's almost impossible to be the dad you want to be. In this episode, you'll hear: ✅ The moment his son flinched and why it became the turning point ✅ How emotional regulation helps you stay in the "green zone" with your kids ✅ Why your role isn't to be Superman—it's to be the chief repenter ✅ The power of visioning your 80th birthday party (and reverse engineering it!) This conversation will challenge you to slow down, stay steady, and stop letting your kids catch the shrapnel. LEAVE A VOICE MESSAGE for DadAwesome - share your QUESTIONS here Summary: What happens when the pace of your life is stealing your ability to be present with your kids? In this episode, Tyler Graham shares the moment his son flinched when he sat down beside him—and how that changed everything. You'll hear why emotional regulation might be the most important skill any dad can develop, how living at three miles per hour creates space for real connection, and why being the chief repenter in your home is more powerful than being Superman. Takeaways: Dads need to be the thermostat, not the thermometer—setting the tone rather than reacting to it. When a dad blows up, the kids catch the shrapnel, and those moments leave lasting impressions. Emotional regulation is one of the most critical skills for fatherhood—learning to respond from the green zone instead of the red or blue. Vision is essential: imagine your child's eulogy or your 80th birthday party and reverse engineer the habits you need today. Your role as a dad isn't to be Superman—it's to be the chief repenter, modeling humility and grace for your kids. Guest Bio: Tyler Graham is a dad of six, founder of Three Mile Per Hour Fatherhood, and a passionate advocate for helping fathers slow down and live at the pace of presence. Through coaching cohorts and resources, Tyler encourages dads to develop emotional regulation, break generational patterns, and build a compelling vision for their family's future. He lives with his wife and six kids on their homestead, where they're building a legacy rooted in connection, intentionality, and grace. Quotes "I cannot be the type of dad I want to be when I'm in a hurry." "When a dad blows up, the kids catch the shrapnel." "A dad's role is not to be Superman. A dad's role is to be the chief repenter." "Dads need to be the thermostat, not the thermometer—set the tone, don't react to it." "My son flinched when I sat down. That's when I knew something had to change." Links Learn about the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Download a free chapter of the DadAwesome book Three Mile Per Hour Fatherhood (Tyler Graham's coaching): [website] The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Pete Scazzero A Burning in My Bones by Eugene Peterson Jeremy Pryor and Family Teams

VOICE MESSAGE - leave us a 90-second question or comment or fedback... Start with your first name and where you are from: https://www.speakpipe.com/DadAwesome 🏋️ Want to become a stronger dad? It starts with doing hard things—together. ✅ How to stay emotionally strong when your teenager isn't in the mood to talk ✅ Why opposition is actually a gift (even when it feels impossible) ✅ The power of gamifying life and creating playful memories with your kids ✅ How a simple bike ride and croissant can become a weekly rhythm your son will remember forever OVERVIEW What if the obstacles you're facing right now are exactly what you need to grow stronger as a dad? In this episode, Zac Ernst shares how opposition builds your overcome muscle, why emotional strength matters more than ever with teenagers, and how a simple Tuesday morning bike ride can change everything. Plus, he opens up about losing half his income the month after doubling his mortgage—and the moment God broke through his fear with joy. KEY TAKEAWAYS Emotional strength means staying steady through your kids' ups and downs rather than riding their emotional roller coasters. Opposition and hard things aren't obstacles to avoid—they're opportunities to fortify your faith muscle and show your kids what trust looks like. Play isn't optional for dads. It connects you to childlikeness, creates lasting memories, and reminds you that joy is found in pointless moments without outcomes. Three out of five men have no one to call in crisis. Finding your tribe and suffering together breaks isolation and builds unshakeable bonds. Your worry as a dad is like a five-year-old worrying about taxes—God's got this, and freedom comes when you open your hands and trust Him. LINKS Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Learn about the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort: Email [email protected] Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Pursuit Official Website https://joinpursuit.co/ Zip Chip (favorite toy for play) Wild at Heart by John Eldredge QUOTES "Your fear and worry right now is equivalent to your five-year-old worrying about taxes." "For a child, 15 minutes can be a lifelong memory. For us, it's a blink—but for them, it's forever." "The most vulnerable man on the sand is the strongest. Let's eliminate shallow conversation and get to the heart quickly." "Play isn't pointless—it's for joy. Men forget to have moments with no responsibility, no outcome, just pure fun." "Every time we go through something challenging, we fortify something in our minds that tells us: I have what it takes. Jesus will get me through this."

How to pass the 4 pillars of manhood to your kids Why celebrating vulnerability matters more than perfect discipline How to normalize hard conversations about sex, money, and struggle The long view: Becoming a tender-hearted grandpa starts now FULL SHOW NOTES LEARN about joining the Fall 2025 DadAwesome Accelerator Cohorts SUMMARY Some days you feel like a C-grade dad, and that's when presence matters most. In this episode, Josh Krehbiel shares how he's learning to create emotional safety for his kids, celebrate vulnerability over performance, and pursue the long view of becoming a tender-hearted grandfather. You'll hear about the four pillars of manhood, why crock-pot freedom beats microwave solutions, and how to get to the rocking chair with love on your heart. TAKEAWAYS Marking moments matter: Creating manhood ceremonies and intentional milestones leaves lasting impressions on your kids, even if the follow-up isn't perfect. Celebrate vulnerability first: When your kids fail or confess something hard, make it about their openness before addressing consequences—this builds emotional safety. Reject passivity, accept responsibility, lead courageously, and be fueled by the future: These four pillars of manhood provide a framework for raising boys and girls with character. Pursue purity as a top priority: The war for purity as a father protects your ability to show physical affection and have compassion without contamination. Freedom is crock-pot, not microwave: Breakthrough comes through long-suffering love and staying present, not by trying to manhandle change. GUEST Josh Krehbiel is the lead founding pastor of Every Day Church in Roseville, Minnesota—a community focused on prayer, discipleship, and sending out leaders and movements. Along with his wife Katie, Josh is passionate about raising up the next generation through worship, ministry, and authentic family connection. They have four children: three teenagers and a five-year-old. Josh is also a songwriter and worship leader who believes in the power of declaring truth over families through music and prayer. LINKS Learn about the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Download a free chapter of the DadAwesome book Raising Modern-Day Knights by Robert Lewis Everyday Church, Roseville, Minnesota QUOTES "When failure happens we celebrate the vulnerability first because the most important thing is connection and felt safety." "I want to get to the rocking chair with love on my heart and grandkids who say grandpa is kind." "Freedom doesn't happen through manhandling it happens through long suffering love and staying present in the crock pot not microwave." "Your kids don't feel safe because you think they're safe they feel safe when you celebrate their vulnerability over their performance." "The war for purity as a father protects your ability to show physical affection with compassion instead of contamination."

🌍 From South Africa to America—this father-daughter story will challenge everything you think about comfort, risk, and legacy. George moved his family across the world and his daughter Amberly just started grad school in Boston. Together they share: ✅ How one grandfather's radical encounter changed generations ✅ Why true security comes from identity, not circumstances ✅ The power of giving daughters space to be uncomfortable ✅ What it means to be a pioneering father in today's world SUMMARY: What happens when a father chooses courage over comfort and moves his family across the world to pioneer something new? In this episode, George Gourlay and his 23-year-old daughter Amberly share their story of leaving an established ministry in South Africa to start fresh in America. You'll hear how one grandfather's radical encounter with God shifted an entire family line, why security comes from identity rather than circumstances, and how giving daughters space to be uncomfortable actually draws them closer to their Heavenly Father. TAKEAWAYS One person's choice to choose God can literally change generations—the legacy you leave matters more than the comfort you keep True security for your children comes from pointing them back to their Heavenly Father rather than trying to be their ultimate provider Pioneering requires vulnerability and risk, but it creates inheritance and legacy for those who come after you Give your daughters intentional affection and affirmation while also creating space for them to grow uncomfortable and dependent on God The long dull years of middle-aged prosperity can become excellent campaigning weather for the enemy—comfort can be your greatest threat to effectiveness GUESTS George Gourlay is the lead pastor who moved his family from Durban, South Africa to Northeast Florida in 2024. He served for 14 years in ministry leadership in South Africa, following in the footsteps of his father who had a radical encounter with God that transformed their family line. George is married to Leanne and has three children: Amberly (23), Luke (20), and Mitch (10). Amberly Gourlay is a 23-year-old graduate pursuing global studies and international relations in Boston. She delivered her university's commencement speech, challenging fellow graduates to choose courage over comfort with the heart of Isaiah's "here I am, send me." She's passionate about women's leadership in church and politics and embodies the pioneering spirit passed down through her family line. Top 5 Quotes: "One person's choice to choose God and one husband's choice to choose his wife and to choose his children literally changes generations." - Amberly Gourlay "The long dull monotonous years of middle-aged prosperity are excellent campaigning weather for the devil." - C.S. Lewis (quoted by George) "I have the privilege of a father who knows who our Father is in reality... He is not provider in and of itself, but he stewards what God provides." - Amberly Gourlay "You need to love Jesus even more than you love me... dad, what you're telling me is you love Jesus more than you love me. But it didn't matter because it was this bigger picture." - George reflecting on his father's words "As you begin to be uncomfortable and you have to go to God for things because your physical parents are far away, you begin to experience so much more of who He is." - Amberly Gourlay LINKS: Learn about the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Download a free chapter of the DadAwesome book

Seven and a half years ago, a simple question on a cousin's patio changed everything: "How do you stay intentional as a dad?" That moment sparked what became 400 podcast conversations, over 1,000 men mobilized in activation events, and a million dollars raised for ministries serving the fatherless. In this milestone episode, Jeff celebrates by looking back at God's faithfulness, sharing the first-ever preview of the upcoming Dad Awesome book, and highlighting transformational moments from 16 unforgettable conversations that shaped this movement. Takeaways: Milestone moments matter - Pausing to celebrate and shine the spotlight on what God has done builds faith for the journey ahead Small yeses create waves - Dad Awesome wasn't built on one grand gesture but hundreds of small commitments to growth over eight years Intentionality transforms everything - Just like discovering great coffee, small shifts in daily rhythms can revolutionize your entire approach to fatherhood Stories cascade through generations - When dads point to God's goodness consistently, children naturally learn to do the same with their own kids Community accelerates growth - The DA plus three model shows that fatherhood gets exponentially better when you're not doing it alone Generosity reveals faith - Taking steps forward in generosity, whether with time, words, or resources, grows our trust in God's faithfulness Links: Learn about the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Download a free chapter of the DadAwesome book Clips from 16 DadAwesome Episodes: 25 | Patei Iyegha 38 | Pursuing Shalom, Chasing Dreams & Being All-On-Dad (Paul Hurckman) 77 | Crafting Key Moments, Modeling KINDNESS & Praying with Desperation (Ryan Skoog) 98 | Awaken The Warrior Heart (Pablo Ceron) 137 | Spirit-Filled Parenting, Hearing God's Voice, & Shaping our Kids as Arrows (Seth Dahl) 148 | Andy Crouch - The Tech-Wise Family 187 | Jon Tyson on Skillful Manhood, Capturing First Moments & The Intentional Father 214 | Context, Fainting Goats & Being Secretly Awesome (Bob Goff) 238 | A Place for the Heart (Ken Helser) 250 | Raising Kids Humbly, Loving Your Wife Fully, and Soaring Joyfully (Morgan Snyder) 286 | Parenting for the Third Generation, Building Family Assets, and Championing the Beauty of Fatherhood (Jeremy Pryor) 298 | Dialing In, Leading with Love, and Being the Loudest Voice in Your Child's Ears (Dr. Jackson Drumgoole) 314 | Tackling Fear in a War Zone, Modeling Courage, and Embracing Your True Identity (Jamie Winship) 364 | Bedtime Blessings, Birthday Letters, and 5 Simple but Life-Changing Habits (Justin Whitmel Earley) 375 | Experiential Christianity, Lingering with Jesus, and The War for Your Attention (John Eldredge) 385 | Raising Kids Who Live Generously, Creating Miracle Moments, and the 1% Challenge (Todd Harper)

🔥 PART 2 is here! Dr. Jake Smith is back with the game-changing attunement triangle that will transform how you connect with your kids. 70% of Christian leaders don't finish well as dads. Don't be part of that statistic. In today's episode, you'll discover: ✅ The 4 components of attunement that create lasting relationships ✅ How to escape the "smothering grind" before it destroys your family ✅ Why behavior modification is sabotaging your connection with your kids ✅ The difference between "crushing life" and actually living it SUMMARY: The battle for your attention as a dad is real, and 70% of Christian leaders won't finish well. In part two of this critical conversation, Dr. Jake Smith reveals the attunement triangle that creates lasting relationships with your kids and how to escape the smothering grind that leads to burnout, flame out, or tap out. You'll discover why seeing your kids underneath their behavior changes everything and how to move from survival-mode parenting to deeply connected fatherhood. TAKEAWAYS: Attunement is the key to all healthy, deeply connected relationships: "I see you, I feel with you, I suffer alongside you, and I delight in you." The smothering grind pushes 70% of dads toward three outcomes: burnout, flame out, or tap out—and none of them are acceptable. Stop teaching your kids to survive you and start teaching them to thrive in the world by moving beyond behavior modification. The attunement triangle consists of attunement at the top, with containment and repair as the foundational supports. You have two escape routes from life's river: hyperphoria (crushing it through activity) or hypophoria (checking out through apathy)—both lead to destruction. Your kids need you to stay in the river of life, feeling what's yours to feel and facing what's yours to face. GUEST: Dr. Jake Smith is a licensed professional counselor, author, and the founder of Plumline Ministries. He specializes in helping men navigate the challenges of modern fatherhood while maintaining their emotional and spiritual health. Jake has extensive experience in counseling Christian leaders and is passionate about helping dads finish well in their most important relationships. LINKS Learn about the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Download a free chapter of the DadAwesome book Plumb Line Ministry (HEART) Plumb Line Ministry (SOUL) Episode 311 | Managing Triggers, Providing a Secure Beginning, and The North Stars of Parenting (Dr. Dan Allender) Episode 398 - Part 1 of conversation with Dr. Jake Smith Dan Allender resources on attunement Chip Dodd - Euphoria River framework QUOTES "I see you, I feel with you, I suffer alongside you, and I delight in you." "70% of Christian leaders don't finish well—don't be part of that statistic." "Stop teaching your kids to survive you and start teaching them to thrive in life." "Are you crushing life or is life crushing you?" "The goal isn't perfect parenting—it's staying in process." "Attunement is the one thing that ensures relationships last." "Your kids don't need behavior modification—they need you to see them." "Escape the grind before it leads to burnout, flame out, or tap out." "Great parents don't always have great kids—but connected parents do." "You don't have to be a perfect dad—you just have to be present."

💔 "If I could pick a nice dad or you, I'd still pick you." That's what Dr. Jake Smith's 4-year-old daughter whispered to him at bedtime. Talk about a truth bomb from the mouth of a child! Jake unpacks how that moment launched his discovery of our "spiritual anatomy"—the four systems that make us complete fathers: ✅ The Loving Companion (Heart) ✅ The Visionary Guide (Soul) ✅ The Strategic Overseer (Mind) ✅ The Driven Warrior (Strength) Join the DadAwesome Accelerator 6-Week Cohort: SUMMARY: What happens when your 4-year-old daughter whispers, "If I could line up all the dads in the world and pick a nice one or you, I'd still pick you"? In this episode, Dr. Jake Smith shares how that truth bomb from his daughter launched him on a journey to discover what he calls our "spiritual anatomy"—the four integrated systems (heart, soul, mind, strength) that Jesus perfectly demonstrated. You'll learn why most dads operate from just one dominant system, how to identify your type, and practical steps to become the whole-hearted, integrated father your kids desperately need. Key Takeaways: Most dads live dominantly from one of four systems (heart, soul, mind, strength) with a "sidekick" system, creating 12 possible father types Whatever you do to yourself emotionally, you'll do to your kids—if you dismiss your own feelings, you'll dismiss theirs Jesus demonstrated perfect integration of all four systems, responding appropriately to each situation rather than predictable patterns The goal isn't to stay in your comfort zone but to develop all four aspects of your spiritual anatomy for complete fatherhood Creating space to understand your own emotions is the upstream work that transforms how you respond to your children's big feelings Guest Bio: Dr. Jake Smith is the founder of Plumb Line, a ministry dedicated to helping men and women live with their whole hearts through healing, wholeness, and purpose. A former pastor of 21 years, Jake now focuses on helping people integrate what he calls their "spiritual anatomy"—the four systems of heart, soul, mind, and strength that Jesus perfectly demonstrated. He and his wife have three children: two sons (19 and 17) and a 14-year-old daughter. Jake is passionate about helping fathers move beyond survival mode to become integrated, whole-hearted leaders in their homes. Links Mentioned: Learn about the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Download a free chapter of the DadAwesome book Plumb Line Ministry (HEART) Plumb Line Ministry (SOUL) Dr. Jake Smith's upcoming book and assessment (releasing early 2026) Episode 311 | Managing Triggers, Providing a Secure Beginning, and The North Stars of Parenting (Dr. Dan Allender)

✅ The "wooden box method" that transforms phone habits ✅ Why asking "What's the point of fatherhood?" changes everything ✅ How foster care taught them about the infinite value of every child ✅ Why each of your kids needs different parenting approaches FULL SHOW NOTES SUMMARY What if the secret to raising kids who aren't addicted to screens isn't about restricting technology—but about making real life more compelling? In this episode, young dad Kieran Lenahan shares practical wisdom from the trenches of parenting four kids under six, including foster care experiences that changed everything. You'll discover why the simple question "What's the point of fatherhood?" should guide every parenting decision, and how a wooden box might be the game-changer your family needs. TAKEAWAYS The fundamental question every dad should ask and keep asking: "What is the point of fatherhood?" Let this guide your decisions rather than just reacting to whatever gets thrown at you. Make real life more compelling than screens by creating engaging experiences—if physical reality is exciting, screens lose their allure naturally. The wooden box method: Put phones in a physical container and commit to never looking at your phone when kids are asking for your attention. Each child needs different parenting approaches—situational leadership applies to fatherhood, so learn to speak each kid's unique "language." Foster care teaches you that every child has infinite value—there's no such thing as "practice" when it comes to loving and caring for any child. GUEST Kieran Lenahan is the founder of Malachi Daily, a scripture memory tool used by over 70,000 people to memorize Bible verses through gamified daily emails. He's an entrepreneur, coach, and father of four children under six, including children through foster care. Kieran and his wife are passionate about making real life more compelling than screens, intentional parenting, and helping families build rhythms around scripture memory. He lives with his family and leads initiatives that blend faith, technology, and practical parenting wisdom. LINKS Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Learn about the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Download a free chapter of the DadAwesome book Malachi Daily (Free Scripture Memory Newsletter) WhisperFlow App (Voice Transcription) Previous Jamie Winship episodes on Dad Awesome QUOTES "The biggest thing is thinking about what is the point of fatherhood? Let that be a really helpful guiding question as you enter fatherhood, and you can keep asking that as you go." "We think that life is good and God created it in the physical real world to be good. If we can make that as compelling as possible, screens lose their allure." "We will never be looking at our phone when our kids are asking for our attention. I never want our kids to feel like our phone is more important than they are." "Not each of our kids needs the exact same type of parenting. The best leaders understand how to speak the language of that team member in a way that's going to motivate them." "If we don't know who we are, it's really hard to live an effective, faithful, obedient life. If that's true for us, how much more true is that for our kids?"

✅ Why your emotional health is the greatest gift to your kids ✅ How to parent non-reactively when hormones and emotions run high ✅ The "backpack" you're handing your children (and how to lighten it) ✅ Simple calendar strategies that reveal what you truly value Full Show Notes Fall 2025 DadAwesome Accelerator SUMMARY Parenting doesn't have to be about survival mode. In this episode, Glenn Packiam shares how intentional rhythms and a focus on resilience can transform your family life. From learning to be non-reactive when hormones hit to using your calendar as a tool for what you truly value, Glenn offers practical wisdom for dads navigating everything from toddlers to young adults getting married. Plus, discover why the healthiest gift you can give your kids might be your own emotional well-being. Key Takeaways: You're going to hand your kids a "backpack" whether you like it or not—the goal is to make it as light as possible by dealing with your own emotional health first. Non-reactive parenting starts with slowing your breath and asking "what else is going on here?" instead of jumping to conclusions. Resilience isn't about avoiding hard emotions—it's about how quickly you recover and what you learn from difficult seasons. Your calendar reveals your true values; intentional rhythms like family dinners and Sabbath don't happen by accident. One of the greatest gifts you can give your children is your own repentance when you mess up. GUEST: Glenn Packiam is the author of The Intentional Year and several other books focused on spiritual formation and resilience. He's a pastor, speaker, and father of four children ranging from teenagers to young adults. Glenn lives in Southern California with his wife Holly, and his oldest daughter recently got engaged. He's passionate about helping parents move from survival mode to intentional, rhythmic family life that builds resilience in both parents and children. LINKS Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Learn about the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Download a free chapter of the DadAwesome book The Intentional Year by Glenn & Holly Packiam Resilient Pastor resources Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Pete Scazzero

✅ Why "lighting up" when your kids walk in the room changes everything ✅ The Christmas tree coaster story that shows how much your kids are watching ✅ How to outsource influence without losing your role as dad ✅ The simple routines that build lasting family connection Leave DadAwesome A VOICEMAIL. SUMMARY What if the secret to great fatherhood isn't about being in control, but about maximizing your influence? In this From the Vault episode, Dr. Peter Larson shares the game-changing perspective that shifted his entire approach to parenting. From lighting up every time your kid walks in the room to understanding their unique motivational wiring, you'll discover practical ways to build relationships that last. Plus, hear about the dad who visited his son in the hospital 28 days straight and how that legacy of showing up continues today. Takeaways: Influence beats control every time. You can't control your kids, but you can maximize your influence through intentional relationship-building. Light up when they walk in the room. Treat your children like rock stars entering the room—this simple shift builds their security and connection with you. Your kids are always watching. From Christmas tree coasters to how you handle flight delays, you're modeling solutions, character, and faith even when you don't realize it. Outsource positive influence wisely. Youth groups, mentors, and camps aren't competition—they're allies in raising kids who love Jesus. Don't ride their emotional roller coaster. Be the stable sidewalk they can return to, not another passenger on their ups and downs. Mine gold from parents ahead of you. The best parenting advice often comes from observing and asking questions of families you respect. Guest: Dr. Peter Larson is a licensed clinical psychologist and assessment expert who has spent over 20 years developing tools that help people understand their unique design and motivation. He's the creator behind Prepare-Enrich, a premarital assessment used by pastors worldwide, and currently works with GLUE developing assessments for churches and the True Motivate tool for colleges. Peter and his wife Heather have three adult children and live near Minneapolis. He's passionate about helping parents move from control to influence in their relationships with their kids. Links: Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Download a free chapter of the DadAwesome book Prepare-Enrich Assessment Tool True Motivate Assessment GLUE - Assessment and church resources

✅ How to avoid creating performance identities in your kids ✅ Why "consistency compounds" in parenting just like investing ✅ The 4 legs of legacy (hint: wealth is only 25% of it!) ✅ How to have intentional family vision meetings that actually work LEAVE DADAWESOME A VOICEMAIL: speakpipe.com/DadAwesome FULL SHOW NOTES: https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/394 SUMMARY What if the words you speak as a dad today become your child's inner voice for decades to come? In this episode, Lance Welch—dad of three adult entrepreneurs and grandfather of two—shares how he moved from being a "dictator dad" to a "friend dad" while building intentional multi-generational impact. You'll discover the four stages of fatherhood, why creating performance identities in our kids backfires, and how to transition from survival-mode parenting to legacy-building leadership in your family. Takeaways: There are four distinct stages of fatherhood: dictator dad (young kids), consultant dad (asking "what would you do?"), advocate dad (letting them make mistakes), and friend dad (adult relationships) Consistency compounds—whether in finances or fatherhood, small intentional actions over time create massive impact Avoid creating performance identities in your children by celebrating the "gain" (progress made) rather than focusing on the "gap" (falling short of perfection) Choose your inconvenience: invest time teaching skills on the front end rather than being constantly inconvenienced doing everything yourself The four legs of legacy are vision, values, knowledge, and wealth—with wealth being only one-fourth of what you pass down Empty nest doesn't have to mean relationship decline—40% of couples divorce during this transition, but it can be your greatest season yet Guest: Lance Welch is a legacy navigator, leadership coach, and author of "Legacy Navigator: Creating Intentional Multi-Generational Impact." Along with his wife, he hosts the "Beyond the Nest" podcast, helping couples thrive during the empty nest transition. After spending decades in corporate leadership at a Fortune 100 company, Lance now coaches business leaders and families on creating intentional impact. He and his wife have been married for 37 years, have three adult sons who are all entrepreneurs, and are proud grandparents of two. They live in the Nashville area of Tennessee. Links Mentioned: Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome: https://www.speakpipe.com/DadAwesome Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Legacy Navigator by Lance Welch Beyond the Nest Podcast with Lance and his wife The Gap and the Gain by Benjamin Hardy and Dan Sullivan First Friday Discussion Guide (Free download from Lance's website)

✅ Why Kobe chose carpool line over million-dollar meetings ✅ The "TEA" framework (Time, Energy, Attention) that will transform your fathering ✅ Simple practices like 10-minute wrestling time and Wine Wednesdays that create deep family connection FULL SHOW NOTES: SUMMARY Life moves fast, and without intentional direction, we can end up achieving things that don't actually matter. In this episode, John Olinger—former Nike executive and global brand director for Kobe Bryant—shares how tragedy, transition, and the halfway point of life led him to redefine success. You'll hear about his "TEA" framework (Time, Energy, Attention), why Kobe chose carpool line over meetings, and how simple practices like 10-minute wrestling sessions and Wine Wednesdays can transform your family relationships. TAKEAWAYS: Winning is subjective—you must define what success looks like for your family before you can achieve it Your Time, Energy, and Attention (TEA) are finite resources that must be strategically invested in what matters most The halfway point of life (around age 40) is a crucial inflection point for dads to pause and redirect toward meaningful priorities Quality connection moments with kids don't require huge time investments—10 minutes of wrestling or monthly birthday dates can be transformational Relationships matter more than accomplishments, and great stories require embracing challenge and difficulty Creating structured connection points (like Wine Wednesdays for marriage) protects what's most important from the chaos of daily life QUOTES: "Winning is subjective. And the only way you can win is if you get extremely clear about what it means to win." - John Olinger "We're under attack all day long from distractions, our brains playing tricks on us about what things are fulfilling in the moment, going after short hits of dopamine, chasing success and accomplishments at the expense of other things." - John Olinger "The reason why [Kobe] worked out at 4am was because he wanted to be there in the morning when his kids got up and before they went to school... At two o'clock, he's done. Hard stop. Why? He's got to go to the carpool line." - John Olinger "Can you just pause and say, what's one thing that's simple that I could apply to point into the relationships with the people that matter the most to me?" - John Olinger "If I'm halfway done, that means that every year for the rest of my life is gonna be between one and 2% of the remaining amount of my life. Do I wanna wait for later to do the things that are most important?" - John Olinger GUEST John Olinger is the author of "Worthy Wins: Pointing Your Life Toward What Matters Most" and a former Nike executive who served as global brand director for Kobe Bryant. After over a decade at Nike, John made a cross-country move with his family to Florida, choosing intentional fatherhood over corporate climbing. He and his wife have three boys (ages 10, 8, and 5) and are passionate about helping other parents define and pursue what truly matters most. John speaks and consults on leadership, purpose, and the intersection of success and significance. LINKS: Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 "Worthy Wins: Pointing Your Life Toward What Matters Most" by John Olinger DadAwesome ACCELERATOR Coaching Groups

✅ Why you should train your child in the way THEY should go (not your way) ✅ How failing forward teaches your kids resilience better than perfect parenting ✅ The 4 pillars that transform boys into men: Identity, Strength, Courage, Influence ✅ Why showing up consistently matters more than having all the answers FULL SHOW NOTES SUMMARY: When you move your family halfway around the world to serve fatherless boys, you quickly discover that you're learning as much about fatherhood as you're teaching. In this episode, Bryan Greenwood shares 11 years of discoveries from Thailand—from building the largest amateur football league in Northern Thailand to creating government-approved mentorship programs for at-risk youth. You'll hear why your kids need to see you failing forward, how to train them in the way THEY should go (not the way you want them to go), and why showing up consistently matters more than having all the answers. TAKEAWAYS: Train up your child in the way THEY should go, not the way you want them to go—this requires discovering their unique identity and strengths Your kids need to see you failing forward and living with purpose beyond just being a great dad Consistent presence matters more than perfect parenting—just showing up creates lasting impact Create safe environments where your kids can respectfully disagree and engage in real dialogue You'll never know who you are until you know who your Father is—this principle transforms both dads and kids The four pillars of strong character: Identity (knowing who you are), Strength (putting gifts under pressure), Courage (living for others), and Influence (natural result of the first three) GUEST: Bryan Greenwood is the founder of Outboundlife Inc, a ministry focused on assisting the fatherless through mentoring young men. For over 13 years, Bryan and his wife Valerie have lived in Northern Thailand, creating mentorship programs now integrated into the Thai Department of Probation system. Their work targets young men leaving orphanages, foster care, juvenile prison, and those at risk of human trafficking. They've built the largest amateur football league in Northern Thailand as a "fishing pond" for identifying young men who need fathering. Bryan and Valerie have two adult children and continue their mission of helping boys discover their identity, develop strength, find courage, and use their influence. LINKS Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Outboundlife Inc Ministry DadAwesome Accelerator

✅ Why weakness connects you deeper with your kids than strength ever could ✅ How to transform your dinner table into sacred space ✅ Ancient practices that can revolutionize your modern family ✅ The power of prayer retreats for busy dads SUMMARY What if your family isn't broken and doesn't need fixing—but is actually a garden that needs nurturing? In this episode, Dave Brickey shares how shifting from a mechanical mindset to an agricultural approach transforms fatherhood. You'll discover why your weaknesses connect you deeper with your kids than your strengths ever could, and how simple practices like prayer retreats and sacred family meals can become life-changing rhythms. Plus, Dave opens up about his wife's miraculous healing and how walking through valleys as a family creates unbreakable bonds. Top 5 Quotes: "My strength points my kids to me as their savior, but my weakness points them to who my savior is." "Our families aren't broken and need fixing—they are gardens in need of nurturing." "The beauty of parenting is marked more by weakness than strength. No one has a bird's eye view into the messiness of someone's life other than a spouse and children—they see it all." "You can change behavior through control, but you cannot change a heart." "Isolation puts a magnifying glass on pain, and us guys—some of us are professional isolators." Key Takeaways: The depth of relationship you experience with teenagers was built during their childhood years through consistent presence and creating a safe space An agricultural approach to family life focuses on long-term nurturing rather than quick fixes and immediate results Ancient practices like prayer retreats, sacred meals, and singing together can transform modern family life Weakness and vulnerability in parenting creates deeper connection than always being the strong hero Spiritual family—mentors, spiritual grandparents, and community—multiplies the impact of seeing, knowing, and celebrating your children Isolation magnifies pain, while community provides perspective and hope during difficult seasons GUEST Dave Brickey is a lead pastor in the Northwest suburbs of Minnesota and father of four children in the graduation phase. He and his wife Stephanie describe their family life as a "beautiful mess." Dave is passionate about helping families shift from mechanical thinking to agricultural approaches in parenting and faith. He advocates for ancient practices like prayer retreats, sacred family meals, and building spiritual community as essential elements of thriving family life. Links: Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort [email protected] Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Pacem in Terrace Prayer Retreat Center https://www.paceminterris.org/ Wilderness Fellowship Prayer Center https://www.wildernessfellowship.com/ Dave Brickey's "Machines to Gardens" message (church resource) - (start at 45 minutes)

🎯 Are you aiming at the right target as a dad? Josh Kubler joins us with game-changing insights from Manhood Journey's survey of 6,000 Christian fathers. The stats might surprise you: Only 22% regularly read Scripture with their kids 78% don't spend intentional time discipling their children Less than 17% pray regularly as a family beyond meals and bedtime But here's the good news—these aren't defeating numbers, they're opportunities! 💪 SUMMARY: What does it really look like to prepare our children for the spiritual battles ahead? In this episode, Josh Kubler from Manhood Journey shares eye-opening insights from their massive survey of 6,000 Christian fathers—and the results might surprise you. Plus, he opens up about his family's foster care and adoption journey, the sanctifying power of stewardship over ownership, and why viewing our children as "arrows in the hand of a warrior" changes everything about our parenting approach. TAKEAWAYS: 📖 Only 22% of Christian fathers regularly read their Bible with their children—but that's not a defeating number, it's an opportunity for intentional growth. 🏠 Foster care taught one powerful lesson: we're stewards, not owners, of ALL our children—biological or adopted. 🚁 Instead of helicopter or submarine parenting, find the middle ground that cultivates independence and decision-making in your kids. 👀 Your children know what's truly important to you—they can tell if baseball matters more than church or if stress matters more than presence. 💪 The goal isn't perfection; it's purposefulness. When we fail, we apologize, model humility, and show our kids we need Jesus too. 🎯 If our target is anything other than our children loving God, enjoying Him, and bringing Him glory, we're aiming at the wrong target. GUEST Josh Kubler is the Director of Church Engagement for Manhood Journey and one of the founding pastors of Redeemer Baptist Church in Olive Branch, Mississippi. Josh and his wife Katie have five children, including two daughters adopted through foster care. He's passionate about equipping fathers and churches to raise the next generation for God's glory. Fun fact: Josh grew up with some unique pets—including three cougars, a wolf, and two skunks! https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/390 LINKS Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome https://www.speakpipe.com/DadAwesome Dad Awesome Accelerator Coaching: https://dadawesome.org/coaching Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 State of Biblical Fatherhood Report: https://manhoodjourney.org/state-of-biblical-fatherhood Manhood Journey Resources: https://manhoodjourney.org

🥝 32 years avoiding kiwi fruit. One taste changed everything. What if the same breakthrough is waiting in your fatherhood? Jeff Zaugg's Father's Day message will shift how you see those "annoying" parenting moments: ✅ Why pace, pain, people & perspective steal your wonder (and how to fight back) ✅ The Hebrew word "tov" that unlocks God's explosive delight in creation ✅ How a simple cup of water can activate you to lead with awe instead of annoyance This isn't just inspiration—it's activation. You'll walk away with the Fight or Flight Dad Challenge that turns ordinary moments into opportunities to treasure your calling. https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/389 Summary: Wonder isn't just a nice feeling—it's a weapon against the thieves trying to steal your joy as a dad. In this powerful Father's Day message, Jeff Zaugg reveals how a simple kiwi fruit taught him the difference between avoidance and amazement, and why the words "stop and consider God's wonders" could transform your entire approach to fatherhood. From bedtime water requests to marriage struggles, discover how ordinary moments become opportunities to fight for your family with eyes of awe. Key Takeaways: Wonder multiplies when we move from avoidance to curiosity—God's goodness is waiting to be discovered and shared Four thieves steal our capacity for awe: pace (hurried living), pain (unhealed wounds), people (unforgiveness), and perspective (familiarity) The "tov" principle shows us God's explosive delight in creation and invites us to mirror that same wonder toward our children A dad who fights for his family anchors on three words: loved (secure identity), learner (humble growth), and leader (purposeful connection) Simple triggers like a cup of water can activate us to lead with wonder instead of annoyance Guest Jeff Zaugg is the founder of DadAwesome and host of over 390 podcast episodes, helping fathers across the country discover the joy of fatherhood. Through his work with FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS, he's mobilized over 1,100 men through endurance challenges that have raised over $1 million for vulnerable children. Jeff believes the single greatest gift dads can give their children is the gift of presence—being fully with them in each moment. He and his wife Michelle have been married for eighteen years and are parents to four daughters, currently based in Northeast Florida, where you'll find him surfing with his girls or building epic backyard rope swings. Quotes: "We honor God in heaven by treasuring the gift of fatherhood, not just enduring it." "Wonder isn't the absence of pain, but the ability to see God's beauty and goodness even in our suffering." "You gotta be son awesome before you try to show up as dad awesome—get soaking wet with God's love first." "Our pace robs us of awe. When there's no space to gaze, celebrate, or pause, we can't encounter God's goodness." "I want to get to the rocking chair with love on my heart, not unforgiveness weighing me down." "We can choose to treasure fatherhood or endure fatherhood—familiarity keeps us from wonder." "A cup of water can activate us to lead with wonder instead of moving toward annoyance."

Ken Sande joins us for PART 2 to share game-changing tools every dad needs: ✅ The SOG Plan: Self-aware, Other-aware, God-aware conflict resolution ✅ The SERVE Acrostic: How to love your wife like Christ loves the church ✅ Why bringing the gospel beats lecturing every time SUMMARY Every dad faces conflict at home, but most of us handle it all wrong. In this episode, Ken Sande shares powerful tools that will transform how you navigate family tension. You'll discover the SOG plan for conflict resolution, learn the SERVE acrostic for loving your wife well, and hear an incredible story about how bringing the gospel to his 12-year-old daughter melted her rebellious heart in seconds. These aren't just concepts—they're practical tools you can use tonight. TAKEAWAYS The SOG plan (Self-aware, Other-aware, God-aware) breaks the cycle of self-justification and blame in family conflicts. Asking "What would please and honor God right now?" can instantly transform heated arguments into opportunities for growth. The SERVE acrostic gives dads a clear roadmap for loving their wives: Smile, Explore, Reconcile, Value, Encourage. Bringing the gospel to your kids is more powerful than any lecture—it softens hearts and creates lasting change. When daddy comes home, the whole household should light up because you've learned to put wind under everyone's wings. GUEST Ken Sande is the founder of Peacemaker Ministries and Relational Wisdom 360. As a lawyer turned peacemaker, he has helped resolve over 600 family conflicts, including 300+ marriages headed for divorce. Ken is the author of multiple books on conflict resolution and relational wisdom. He and his wife Corlette have been married for nearly 40 years and are more in love today than ever before. LINKS Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Learn about the DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Peacemaker Ministries Relational Wisdom 360 Ken Sande's Blog on Humility, Teachability, and Flexibility Seven Steps to Empathy Resource Young Peacemaker Curriculum (The 5 A's for Kids)

✅ The Seven A's of confession (and why "I'm sorry" isn't enough for deep healing) ✅ How to break the cycle of emotionally stunted men in your family line ✅ The 6-second technique that can save your marriage and your relationships with your kids ✅ Why going "upstream" is better than constantly putting out fires FULL SHOW NOTES > SUMMARY: What if the reason marriages grow cold after the honeymoon year isn't about compatibility, but about something dads never learned to model? In this episode, Ken Sande reveals how emotionally stunted men are created when fathers never show their kids how to say "I'm sorry" or "I need help." You'll discover the Seven A's of confession that can break generational patterns and the upstream approach to preventing conflict before it starts. Plus, Ken shares practical tools for managing your emotions in the heat of the moment—including the six-second technique that can save your tongue from doing damage. Key Takeaways: More people are watching your responses to conflict than you realize—about 10 times more—and you're teaching through your reactions. The Seven A's of confession provide a framework for meaningful apologies that actually heal relationships rather than just checking a box. Emotional stunting passes from generation to generation when fathers never model humility, confession, or asking for help. The READ technique (Recognize, Evaluate, Anticipate, Direct) helps you manage amygdala hijacking and respond thoughtfully instead of reactively. Going "upstream" to prevent conflict through relational wisdom is more effective than constantly putting out the fires of broken relationships. Your royal identity as a child of God, friend of Jesus, and ambassador of reconciliation should shape how you lead your family 24/7. Guest: Ken Sande founded Peacemaker Ministries and Relational Wisdom 360, organizations focused on conflict resolution and relationship skills. After 30 years of mediating conflicts—including over 600 divorce cases with more than half reconciling—Ken shifted focus to go "upstream" and help people prevent conflict through biblical emotional intelligence. He's the author of multiple books on peacemaking and relational wisdom, and lives in Billings, Montana, where he enjoys hiking and backpacking with his family and grandchildren. Links Mentioned: Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Young Peacemaker Curriculum (The 5 A's for Kids) Discovering Relational Wisdom Online Course Relational Peacemaking Course Relational Wisdom 360 (RW360.org) Peacemaker Ministries resources Six Skills That Help Every Relationship Three Qualities Blog

div]:bg-bg-000/50 [&_pre>div]:border-0.5 [&_pre>div]:border-border-400 [&_.ignore-pre-bg>div]:bg-transparent [&>div>div>:is(p,blockquote,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pl-2 [&>div>div>:is(p,blockquote,ul,ol,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pr-8"> _*]:min-w-0"> ✅ Why smartphones make us feel god-like (and why that's dangerous) ✅ The 4 research-backed rules for kids and technology ✅ How a church-wide digital fast transformed an entire community ✅ What a therapy dog named Bruce taught him about presence SUMMARY: Parenting teenagers in a digital world feels impossible—especially when you're struggling with your own phone addiction. In this episode, Darren Whitehead (dad of 4 teenage girls) shares how he led his entire church through a 40-day digital fast and discovered the secret to high-definition parenting. You'll hear why smartphones make us feel god-like, how to have the phone conversation with your kids, and what a Havanese dog named Bruce taught him about presence. FULL SHOW NOTES: Key Takeaways: Smartphones simulate God's attributes (omniscience, omnipresence, omnipotence) and we weren't built for limitless power Collective action is more effective than individual willpower—do digital fasts as a community, not alone No smartphones before high school, no social media before 16, phone-free schools, and more unsupervised outdoor play When you put your phone down, you experience parenting in "high definition"—fully present and aware of these fleeting moments The most precious moments with your kids are being exchanged for infinitely trivial distractions Guest Darren Whitehead is the author of The Digital Fast and senior pastor of Journey Church in Franklin, Tennessee. He's a former youth pastor turned girl dad of four teenage daughters (ages 11, 14, 16, and 18). Darren has led thousands of people through digital detoxes and speaks regularly about technology, parenting, and spiritual formation. He and his wife live in Tennessee with their daughters and Bruce, their Havanese therapy dog. Links Mentioned: Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort: Email [email protected] Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 The Digital Fast by Darren Whitehead Journey Church Franklin, Tennessee The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt Sissy Goff (teenage girl counselor)

✅ Why most dads get generosity completely wrong (and how to flip the script) ✅ Fun tactics to teach young kids the joy of giving (the $20 tip story will blow your mind!) ✅ The simple 4-pillar framework that works at any income level ✅ How money lies to our families about security, control, and happiness SUMMARY Money whispers lies to our kids every single day—promising security, control, and happiness it can never deliver. In this powerful episode, Todd Harper shares how his son went from declaring "I'm going to be filthy rich and never give a dollar away" at 15 to sacrificially giving a third of his salary before his death at 26. You'll discover why most dads approach generosity as an "ought to" instead of a "get to," practical ways to make giving fun for young kids, and Todd's simple four-pillar framework that works regardless of your income level. Takeaways The switch from "ought to" to "get to" changes everything about generosity—and kids can smell obligation from a mile away Once someone tastes the joy of giving, they never go back; Todd has never met a "former generous person" Simple tactics like leaving a $20 tip on a $3 check and watching through the window create unforgettable generosity moments for kids The four pillars of stewardship: Work diligently, give generously, save responsibly, live contentedly Money lies to us about security, control, happiness, and affirmation—contentment isn't tied to financial realities Taking kids to serve special needs children or experiencing international poverty shatters entitlement and builds gratitude The 1% challenge: increase your giving by 1% each year and watch God's faithfulness compound over decades Guest: Todd Harper is a passionate advocate for biblical generosity and the heart behind Generous Giving, where he's spent 25 years helping families discover the joy of open-handed living. Married to his college sweetheart for 37 years, Todd is a father of eight kids (five biological, three through marriage) and is about to become a grandfather. After losing his eldest son Davis seven and a half years ago, Todd has gained a deeper perspective on eternal values and the importance of living with heaven in view. Through Generous Giving, he's worked with families across the wealth spectrum, helping them experience the life-changing shift from obligation-based giving to joy-filled generosity. Links: Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Learn about the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Generous Giving: www.generousgiving.org Journey of Generosity experiences National Christian Foundation Nathaniel's Hope (Make Them Smile events) Quotes: "We can't BS our kids. They read through all of it. If we're generous out of obligation, it's not going to translate differently for them." "I've never met a former generous person." "The world of the generous gets larger and larger. The world of the stingy gets smaller and smaller." "Everybody wants to experience a miracle, but nobody wants to be in a position to need one." "Money, money, money—all I really want is my dad to know my friends' names." Davis Harper's gift to his dad on his 50th birthday: 1) I love how you love mom. Your marriage is such a great example to me. 2) I love how you brag on your kids. You're always telling someone about the cool things your kids are doing. 3) I love that you love watching basketball with me and asking questions. You want to know my world. 4) I love that you took us on trips growing up, im learning the value of all those experiences as I grow up. 5) I love how international you are about family time. You are the most happy whenever you are with your family. 6) I love that you are active. It's bad to the bone that you still cycle and golf and water ski, you're a total cool dad! 7) I love your saying "pay for experiences, not stuff" 8) I love hearing how good a friend you are to people. People are always telling me how incredible of a friend you are to them. 9) I love that you're a reader. You're always telling me about something you're reading or something I should check out. 10) I love that you unconditionally love me. Your example of how to love your wife and kids is incredible.

✅ The 5-movement Examen prayer that's transforming bedtimes (free PDF included!) ✅ Why this dad says NO social media until 18 (and the research backing him up) ✅ Simple breath prayers that turn everyday moments into encounters with God ✅ The daily catechism question that reminds his kids of their true identity FULL SHOW NOTES: In a world where screens compete for our attention every waking moment, how do we raise kids who know they belong to God instead of their devices? Jay Kim, a pastor living in Silicon Valley, shares his family's journey of moving at the "pace of peace" while navigating digital distractions. From practicing the ancient prayer of Examen with his 10 and 7-year-old to implementing radical boundaries around smartphones, Jay offers practical wisdom for dads who want to show up—really show up—for their children in an analog way. TAKEAWAYS Moving at the "pace of peace" means prioritizing relationships over plans and never compromising people for productivity The Examen prayer creates a powerful bedtime rhythm: presence, gratitude, reflection, confession, and hope for tomorrow Breath prayers can transform everyday moments—try "God, you control outcomes" (inhale) and "help me to be faithful" (exhale) Digital addiction requires intentional intervention: practice one hour tech-free daily, one day weekly, one week yearly Your kids need to see you detached from devices—dock phones away from family spaces to model analog presence Catechism in daily rhythms reinforces identity: "What is our only hope in life and death? We are not our own, we belong to God" Social media should have age restrictions like alcohol and tobacco—consider no social media until 18 The fruit of the Spirit (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control) is the antidote to digital-age discontentment, fragility, and foolishness GUEST Jay Kim is a pastor in Northern California's Silicon Valley, author of multiple books including Analog Christian and Analog Church, and host of the Digital Examen podcast. He and his wife Jenny have two children and are committed to practicing intentional, incarnational family rhythms in one of the world's most digitally connected regions. Jay's work focuses on helping followers of Jesus navigate technology with wisdom while cultivating deeper spiritual practices. Links Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort: Email [email protected] Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618 Analog Christian by Jay Kim Analog Church by Jay Kim Digital Examen Podcast The Tech-Wise Family by Andy Crouch The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt Examen Prayer Family Guide (Free PDF) Heidelberg Catechism for Children Listen. Listen. Speak. by Jay Kim