Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

When pornography use is discovered in a relationship, there is often a lot of grief and hurt that surfaces. Shock about how this could have happened. Feeling stuck in pain not knowing how to make sense of it. And grief about what the relationship once was and uncertain about how to move forward. In this episode I share a few specific ways to approach grief, sadness, and hurt that enables healing and closure from the past. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men: Join the Private Group Here Get access to my trust building workshop: trust.stopporn.info Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

After pornography use, a husband becomes a source of pain as well as a source of comfort for his wife. this can be such a confusing place for both people to be. Sometimes she doesn't want to be around him at all, but other times she needs him close and for him to provide reassurance. As a man, oftentimes he doesn't know what to say or how to help so he ends up giving space when really what she needs is his support. In this episode, I share with you specific things that you can do in order to turn the relationship into a place where is felt. I also share tools for a husband to know how to navigate the ups and downs of conversations and how to support her in the moments she needs it most. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men: Join the Private Group Here Get access to my trust building workshop: trust.stopporn.info Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

Understanding and resolving the underlying issues that lead pornography use is essential. Without addressing the root cause, you're bound to continue to struggle with triggers and temptations. Announcement!!! Trust is a critical part of rebuilding your relationship after pornography use has damaged it So, I decided to do a special trust building workshop, where for 90 minutes I’ll be doing a deep dive and sharing with you specific steps you can take, tools you can implement, and practical ways that you can rebuild trust in your relationship. There are 2 ways to access the training - it's on my website for $97 or you can access it for free by joining my free online community where I'll be doing live monthly workshops, live Q&A sessions, and offering support to members who need guidance and help on this path. If that sounds interesting, you can join by registering here and you'll get the link to the free online community where the workshop will be hosted: trust.stopporn.info Today’s Episode: Sometimes it can feel really difficult to identify the underlying issues that lead to pornography use. Is it from childhood? Is it something that developed afterwards? Is it just a habit? Why does it keep happening? And how to I fix it? The key is to start by identifying and resolving the underlying issues that lead to this behavior. Addressing things on a deeper level is also important for a wife because she won't be able to fully trust without knowing he's dealt with why the pornography use has happened in the first place. In this episode, I want to share with you a very clear way to identify what issues are still unresolved so you can work through them directly. Once you do, the triggers and temptations will naturally dissipate, which enables you to feel freedom and peace instead of having to keep your guard up. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men: Join the Private Group Here Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Announcement!!! Trust is a critical part of rebuilding your relationship after pornography use has damaged it So, I decided to do a special trust building workshop, where for 90 minutes I’ll be doing a deep dive and sharing with you specific steps you can take, tools you can implement, and practical ways that you can rebuild trust in your relationship. There are 2 ways to access the training - it's on my website for $97 or you can access it for free by joining my free online community where I'll be doing live monthly workshops, live Q&A sessions, and offering support to members who need guidance and help on this path. If that sounds interesting, you can join by registering here and you'll get the link to the free online community where the workshop will be hosted: trust.stopporn.info Today’s Episode: Trust is a foundation of a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Pornography use shatters trust and feelings of security, which leaves couples in a state of fear and self protection. In this episode, I want to share with you the five indicators that trust has been significantly damaged and four things that you can do to repair it. After having worked with hundreds of couples, I know that rebuilding trust is possible with the right direction. So tune in to today’s episode to discover how you can apply the right tools to help you find closure from the damage and move forward with security. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men: Join the Private Group Here Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Announcement!!! Trust is a critical part of rebuilding your relationship after pornography use has damaged it. So, I decided to do a special trust building workshop, where for 90 minutes I’ll be doing a deep dive and sharing with you specific steps you can take, tools you can implement, and practical ways that you can rebuild trust in your relationship. Before I offer the workshop for sale, I’m doing the live version of it for free. If that sounds interesting, you can join by registering here: trust.stopporn.info Today’s Episode: Have you ever had the experience where things feel relatively calm between you and your spouse? And you think things are going well, then out of nowhere she brings up her pain from the past, and her husband is completely caught off guard. Just the mirror mention of the past that she is still hurting seems to cause things to spiral or him to shut down because of discouragement. It’s a reminder that things aren't back to normal yet and that there are still issues that haven’t been resolved. In today's episode I want to share with you how you can navigate these moments and a new way to look at this situation to give you some encouragement and hope that you guys can get through this. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men: Join the Private Group Here Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Have you ever felt so hopeless and discouraged as you've tried to quit pornography that you thought that there's no way out? Despite how hard you've tried, you just haven't been able to get this problem out of your life. This is how Braden felt before we started to work together. He tried everything he possibly could, but it still didn't work. After discovering there is a new way he could approach quitting pornography, it gave him hope to try one more time. In this conversation, Braden outlines the five specific things that helped him the most. He shares how different his life is now that he's actually been successful at eliminating pornography. His personal life and marriage are flourishing, and he feels so much excitement about wanting to help others experience the same fulfillment that comes from resolving this issue. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Pornography use damages a relationship in deep and significant ways. Trust is broken and her wall goes up. The idea of forgiveness can feel impossible to offer, and a husband feels despair wondering if they’ll ever move on from the past and find closure. This episode I share with you how you can navigate this painful situation in a way that will feel comfortable for both of you. While forgiveness is an important step, when and how you focus on, it makes all the difference. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

When a woman discovers her husband's pornography use, her whole world gets turn upside down. Oftentimes she now thinks that everything was a lie. Their whole relationship was fake. They don't even know who their husband is anymore. Given how much damage is done, many women experience what's called betrayal trauma. In this episode I share with you the 5 indicators that a woman is experiencing betrayal trauma, then I share with you three specific things that you can do to address it together. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

When a spouse is gone for the day or weekend and a man is all alone, it's a common trigger. In this episode I share 3 specific things you can do to make sure that those periods of being alone won't cause another setback. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Change is 100% if you have the right ingredients. In today's episode, I want to introduce to you a man who has found success, and 2 years later, he continues to to do well, have a strong marriage, and help other people in their struggles with quitting porn. This path can I often feel discouraging and depressing because most men experience countless failures and setbacks along the way. The common thread is that men just don't know what to do to eliminate their problem, despite putting in effort and being desperate for change. Check out this episode to see the specific things that helped Todd restore his relationship and conquer his problem. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Initiating conversations can be very difficult for a husband to do. If his wife is in a good mood, he doesn’t want to bring up the pain all over again. If she's in a bad mood, he doesn't want to cause a fight or make things worse. Thus, he avoids the conversations with her and she ends up feeling unseen, unloved, and all alone. In this episode, I share with you specific ways you can address this situation so you can have very productive conversations without fighting and create closure and connection again in the relationship. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

How do the conversations go when you talk about her pain? Do they end with you feeling closer or further apart? Do you feel hopeless and inadequate, not knowing what to say to help her feel comforted? For a wife, not getting the understanding and validation she needs creates hurt and anger, and the conversations just stall out leaving them both alone. In this episode I share with you one of the main reasons why that happens and 2 things you can implement to change that dynamic. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Have you ever gotten into an argument with your spouse where you're talking about specific actions that he's committed to do but then doesn't follow through? For a wife, it can feel really frustrating if there’s a lack of follow through because she often receives that as him not being committed or caring enough. For a husband, it can be frustrating because if he’s working on things but then feels picked apart and like his efforts aren’t enough This leads to shutting down and distance. So in today’s episode I want to share with you how are you can both navigate this together in a way that doesn't divide you but can help you find closer and confidence that you’re healing together. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

"We've been spinning our wheels for 9 months... I'm in a worst place now than the day I discovered everything." A couple reached out to me a few hours before recording this episode. They were both discouraged and frustrated add the slow pace of the process of healing. No matter what they did, she just felt stuck and like she couldn't move forward because some key things in their approach were missing. In this episode I share with you the top 3 things that can cause significant damage in a relationship and prevent it from healing. I want to share these things with you and exactly how you can reverse them so you can make progress and move forward with closure. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

This road to healing your marriage can be agonizing. So many people wonder how long will this take? They feel like they might not be able to hold on much longer. The good news is that it’s actually not based on a specific timeline or a number of years. Rather it’s based on how quickly you can learn the skills that you need to have new experiences together. Some couples can feel like they are in a completely different place in just a matter of weeks because they focus on learning the skills necessary to get them there. What skills do you need to learn? This is what I discuss in today’s episode. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

After the discovery of pornography use, it shatters the foundation of the entire relationship. Naturally, it becomes the center of most conversations as you try to resolve the issues and pain it causes. Then after you start making some progress, many couples wonder how long they need to keep talking about things? They often tend to have the same conversations over and over again, so they wonder what the next steps are and when they can move forward without always talking about it. In this episode, I share with you, the key indicators that you're ready to move forward and how you can find closure and resolution if you're not quite there yet. For therapy with Sam: Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Couples can very easily get stuck when a husband has a slip up, acts like things are normal, and then his wife finds out that he searched for something and didn’t tell her. This can cause a wife to spiral into distrust, self protection, anger and fear all over again and it has such a big impact on the relationship and their sense of progress together. Her wall goes up, she feels suspicious of anything he says, can’t believe anything he says. Tune in to today's episode to get to specific things you can do to work through this situation together. For therapy with Sam: Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

March 18th: Join the free 5 Day 'Overcome Your Urges' Challenge to get tools to resolve the root cause of your urges so you can eliminate them instead of resisting them. It can be very discouraging when there is a mismatch between husband and wife, and how they view their progress. If hey husband thinks he's making strides towards creating safety and rebuilding trust, but the wife doesn't agree, it's easy to feel overwhelmed and lose hope. This episode, I share three specific things you can do to get on the same page together with your partner and create safety. There are some activities that move the needle more than others. So in this episode I talk about the ones that matter most so you can focus your efforts on those. For therapy with Sam: Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

The idea of being in a relationship with a narcissist can feel overwhelming. After all, a “personality disorder” is a serious thing… But what if people slinging this diagnosis have been wrong the whole time? What if there was different a way to understand why someone engages in destructive behaviors? In this episode, I do a deep dive in unpacking narcissism and why this label usually makes it hard for both people to make progress and change. I share what really drives negative behaviors in a relationship and how you can actually change without needing medication or some other intervention to control symptoms. For therapy with Sam: Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Safety is necessary in order for relationships to be repaired after pornography use. Many women default to using an emotional wall to keep themselves safe after they discover their husband's pornography use. You've all heard about and have tried the tools – journaling, meditation, prayer, reading, etc. But what if you try those things and you don't actually feel any better? What if you're not making progress, despite using all of the tools that you've learned about. In this episode, I share with you exactly how to find closure and resolution as you're working on yourself and your marriage. Most people leave out one key step that actually helps them to feel better. So in this episode, I go deep into sharing what you can do to make the tools work for you. For therapy with Sam: Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Safety is necessary in order for relationships to be repaired after pornography use. Many women default to using an emotional wall to keep themselves safe after they discover their husband's pornography use. As time goes on and he develops the skills and make the changes necessary, HE can become the source of safety for her and the relationship. And when he is the source of safety, she can let the wall down and feel more connected and close with him. In this episode, I share with you three different ways that you can free safety in your relationship. For therapy with Sam: Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

It's very easy for men to switch one bad coping mechanism (pornography) for another (food, video games, social media, TV, etc.). Some people might see those things as far less harmful, so they allow themselves to do it. However, swapping different coping mechanisms is actually really bad because the root of the issue remains unresolved, which sets you up to continue to spiral. Why does this happen and how can we avoid it? Check out the today's episode and get solutions to resolve this problem. For therapy with Sam: Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

In a relationship, having a strong feeling of security is so important. When pornography addiction or habit is discovered, it completely undermines the security that she feels. This causes lots of issues for both people and the relationship itself – a wall goes up, there's distrust, fear, inadequacy, and emptiness often felt by both people. In today's episode, I'm sharing with you a specific tool you can implement right away so you can build security back into your marriage. For therapy with Sam: Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Lots of people struggle with feelings of low self worth, unworthiness, inadequacy and a lack of self love. Affirmations and being positive doesn’t seem to stick because we don’t actually believe the good things we are saying. It can be hard to love ourselves if we mostly see all of our inadequacies and weaknesses. Especially if our shortcomings impact those who we love. In this episode, I share with you, one of the most powerful tools to overcome feelings of inadequacy and low self worth, and instead feel self love and confidence. I’ve been there and know how painful it is to feel unworthy and bad, but I’ve found a way to change how I see myself and I want to share it with you too. For therapy with Sam: Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Go to www.coupleshealing.org for free access now. In the course you'll learn some of my top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Have you ever had a good day with your spouse, then out of nowhere, you get hit with a wave of deep sadness. Then you share the sadness and the conversation spirals and he doesn’t say much in response. If you’re a husband, have you ever been faced with that situation and wanted to help her but had no idea how? Did you feel discouraged because you thought you were in a better spot and had made progress, only to feel like you were back to square one? This is a very common scenario for couples, and it's so easy to get stuck here. However, this is an absolutely crucial moment to have these conversations go well so you can actually move forward and create closure instead of feeling derailed by the sadness or the impact of the past. In this episode, I share with you the specific ways that you and your spouse can handle these conversations and feelings when they come up without them causing a spiral or a fight. For therapy with Sam: Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

When a pornography addiction or habit is discovered in a relationship, it causes significant damage. Trust is broken, there's a lack of emotional safety, and it often causes a woman to redefine the entire relationship and question the past. Despite the significant damage, couples who get the right tools can fully heal the pain of the past, eliminate pornography use, and move forward with closure and connection. In this episode I share with you exactly how to move forward through the damage and how husband can be an influence for healing and stability in his. For therapy with Sam: I'll help you quit porn within the next 90 days (or I'll work with you for free until you do) – visit stopporn.info to get more information. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Most people don’t want to stay in pain any longer than they already have. They want the process to speed up, to find closure and peace sooner, and move forward with a feeling of resolution… But what if she’s not ready to just leave it all behind? So many men want to leave the past behind as quickly as possible, because they recognize the impact of their actions has had a tremendous effect on their wife. He doesn't want her to suffer anymore than she already has, so in his desires to move forward, unintentionally, she feels left behind and her pain gets ignored. This produces a cycle of her bringing up the past so she can find healing, but the husband sees it as a lack of progress, feels discouraged, and then tries to rush the process along even more. If you've ever been caught in this pattern, in this episode I share with you one of the most important ways to navigate to move forward quickly while still making sure that the pain she feels is getting the attention and care it deserves. For therapy with Sam: I'll help you quit porn within the next 90 days (or I'll work with you for free until you do) – visit stopporn.info to get more information. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

What do you do when you struggle with feelings of needing validation from a source outside of yourself? Whether it’s sexual attention from a woman, making a lot of money, doing and accomplishing things, or looking a certain way, it’s a trap that leads to more heartache. In this episode, I share how both a husband and wife can work through these underlying issues that lead to validation seeking and coping in destructive ways. The more you can recognize and resolve the root cause, the more peace, fulfillment, and worth you can feel in a healthy, sustainable way. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Have you ever wanted to know exactly what it’s going to take to eliminate pornography and have a connected relationship with your spouse? As I have initial calls with men, I often hear them say they are willing to do whatever it takes, they just don't know exactly what to do. In this episode, I share with you, one of the most important elements that helps engage and sustain men in the process of quitting pornography. I also share the very best strategy that you can implement in order to make success possible for you in this journey. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

When struggling to overcome pornography addiction or a habit, have you ever had the conversation that goes something like this: If there's another relapse again, our marriage is over. If I catch you watching something again, I'm leaving. And if you have had that conversation in your relationship, how did it feel? What effect did it end up having? So many couples I work with have high standards for their relationship - no pornography.. but what happens when that standard is broken? Is it possible to have high standards while maintaining room for growth and development? This episode, I share with you exactly how you can have this conversation together without feeling stuck and minimize the hiding and lying that occur due to the fears of failure. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Can having sex make it hard for him to quit watching pornography? Is a pornography addiction or habit fueled by sex with a spouse? The men and women I work with want to have a fulfilling relationship, which includes sexual intimacy. In this episode, I share with you, the most important considerations when it comes to making sure sex doesn’t cause a breakdown in the marriage or fuel the patterns he’s wanting to get away from. For therapy with Sam: Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

When a man struggles with a pornography addiction or habit, it shatters trust and security in his relationship. Most men desperately seek to repair and restore the relationship, but sadly find themselves struggling to help her feel better despite making positive changes individually. This episode of share with you, three specific ways, couples can approach the healing process together to help her pain heal and ultimately find closure. After 15,000 hours of doing therapy with clients, these are the top tools that I've had the most difference in the lives of my clients. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Have you ever contemplated ending your relationship because of the hurt and pain you’re feeling? Or because of broken communication that leads to fights or distance and you're not sure how to repair your marriage, despite everything that you've tried? You’re not alone. So many couples get stuck in negative cycles that break down their love and relationship, leading to resentment and distance. I had the awesome opportunity to work with a couple who reached out right on the brink of divorce after having done multiple programs, therapy, and no matter what they did, it just wasn’t working. So I knew we had to take a totally different approach, and if you listen back on episode 108 - I actually took you behind the scenes and recorded a session that this couple and I had together so you could get a sense of how these tools apply to a difficult, real life situation. So in less than 3 months, this couple went from almost getting divorced to feeling so excited and connected in their relationship. And this episode today is a conversation I had with them where they share how they got there, what were the most helpful things they did on the journey, how he created safety in their marriage, and the totally different way they learned to process the triggers that used to cause arguments in the past. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

When a man struggles with pornography, addiction or habit, it’s devastating to his wife. She will express her hurt and pain to him hoping that the behavior will stop, but when it continues to happen, it creates hopelessness and despair. In those moments, it's easy for her to interpret the situation as ‘he doesn’t love me or care about me, what’s why he keeps doing it.’ When that is how she interprets his behavior, that creates even more pain in her heart. But what if there was a different way to understand this situation and why he’s doing this? In this episode, I share one of the best ways I’ve seen couples navigate this issue, develop a stronger bond between each other, and create closure from the past. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Imagine what life would feel like if you didn’t have any desire to look at pornography. You just simply had no interest in it anymore? What if you just felt “normal” and could just go about your day without worrying about temptations and urges? Well, it’s possible. And it’s one of the best feelings in the world. In this episode I want to share with you exactly how you can achieve that and leverage that heart change to create safety and trust in your marriage How can you achieve this? The desire for porn will go away when your inner void is filled with something that actually meets your needs. So many men use porn as a method of filling their internal void, but it just doesn’t work. In this episode, I share with you three specific examples of clients who had different voids and how they resolved them in a healthy way. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

When working to overcome pornography addiction or habit, it’s easy for expectations to not be met.. This work is difficult, and if a wife has expectations of him sharing, growing, and improving, but his capacity is limited, there can be a breakdown in the marriage. She might feel like he’s not really trying and that he doesn’t care about her. He can feel like no matter what he does, it’ll never be good enough. And when couples get caught in this type of spiral, it actually de-motivates and discourages action and progress. In this episode, I share with you a new way of looking at this so that both a husband and wife can feel progress at every phase of the journey, regardless of whether the expectations are met or not. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

When couples are working through the impact of pornography addiction, communication is so important to resolve painful and sensitive issues. But what, if sharing how you feel ends up in a fight? This is exactly what we were talking about in today's episode, and I'll share with your tools and strategies to approach these conversations differently. This can help you find closure and repair the damage that is causing a wall between you and your spouse. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

It's easy for people to get stuck in a negative thought patterns that increase depression, hopelessness, and feeling paralyzed. When's the last time you thought something like, "I'm a failure," "there's no way I can quit porn," "everything in our marriage has been a lie"? In a couple of recent sessions I had with people, a common theme emerged that was keeping them stuck in how they assessed and thought about situations in their lives. These disempowering thought pattern happens all the time to so many people. In this episode, you'll learn what that thought pattern is (and you're probably doing without knowing) and how you can eliminate it and find the healing you need.

If you’ve ever felt depressed after another relapse and you’ve thought that quitting pornography isn’t possible, then this episode is for you. I had a session with a client that was a keystone moment in his life and journey to quitting porn and I wanted to share with you what broke an old limiting belief he had that caused lots of setbacks. In this episode I share how having subconscious beliefs will totally prevent you from finding freedom such as “I’ll never be able to quit” or “this is something I’ll have to deal with forever” Learning how to identify and break these limiting beliefs is the pathway to leaving porn behind you without ever going back. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Our emotional state determines the quality of our life. Yet, most people allow the external world to determine their emotional responses. One of the most valuable skills that people can learn is how to work through negative emotions, quickly, maintain a feeling of calm, control, and inner peace. In this episode, I share with you a new approach that can help you work through uncomfortable or difficult events without letting your emotions spiral. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Finding success in overcoming pornography, you can be so difficult for many people because they don't know the best way to approach it. It can feel so discouraging and isolating going through this journey, which is why, I wanted to share a success story to help not only give you hope, but for you to also hear the specific things that have been working for men to find freedom. In this episode, I interview Kevin who went through my program a few months ago and he wanted to come back and share with him some of his biggest takeaways in hopes that you can apply the same tools in your life and see progress. In this episode, we talk about the things that he tried in the past that never worked for him, and what he started to do instead, which is where he had a breakthrough. He shared his most effective strategy to deal with triggers, so they don't linger. And as a side benefit, it strengthened his relationship at the same time. He also had a big success in working through his negative beliefs about himself, and he shares with you a couple of the ways that he did that. Tune in to hear all of this and more, and leave, feeling more hopeful about the possibility of you overcoming this as well. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

When a man struggles with pornography, identifying the root cause and the source of the urges and triggers is critical. Without knowing what's driving, the urges and the behavior, most solutions will fail. Unless you correctly diagnose the issue, you're flying blind when it comes to addressing it. In this episode, I share with you the two specific categories, from which urges and triggers stem. Tune in as I share: 🚀 Identify the Hidden Sources of Your Struggles: Discover the root causes behind your urges and triggers. Uncover why you've been caught in this cycle, so you can finally break free. 🧠 The Power of Emotional Coping: Explore how emotional triggers play a significant role in your addiction. Learn how to address these emotions effectively to reduce the pull of temptation. 💡 Effective Solutions, Not Quick Fixes: Say goodbye to rubber bands, cold showers, or distractions that only scratch the surface. Find out how to apply real, lasting solutions to your unique challenges. 🤝 The Value of Connection: Understand why reaching out and sharing your feelings with someone you trust is a game-changer. Discover the power of genuine human connection in your healing journey. 🔄 Breaking the Habit Loop: Learn how to tackle the habitual aspects of addiction, especially during specific times of the day or situations. Understand the brain's associations and how to rewire them for success. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Many couples feel overwhelmed by feeling stuck despite trying to take positive steps forward. A woman can often feel afraid to bring her wall down, or she might feel so hurt that she can't really give a whole lot to the relationship. This situation can be difficult for both people, and a husband can feel discouraged when he's doing well but his efforts might not be bringing down the wall as he would have hoped. Tune in to learn how to address the common concerns and fears that couples have: If I don’t move forward quickly, will he spiral back into the pornography? What if I do show love and then he thinks I’m just over it and past it now - will he stop trying? Go back to how things were? Fear that if she brings the wall down and then just get hurt again. He feels discouraged that he’s doing well, but in his mind she’s holding on to the past, won’t forgive, and their relationship will never get better. In this episode I offer tools and insights to help you navigate these difficult places. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

This is a very special episode I am super excited about! I'm working with a wonderful couple who allowed me to record our sessions together. This episode is a snippet of our second session together and the growth they have experienced in just 1-2 session is unbelievable. So instead of me telling you about how well they're doing, I wanted you to witness it and also see specifically what they did to achieve such growth. Then you can implement the same tools to improve your relationship, and it all begins with a single conversation. In this episode I share: The number one reason why most couples get stuck How you can exit cycles of rehashing the past and misunderstanding each other The most important parts of a healing conversation (and how you can have one today) How to instantly experience hope in your relationship (even if you're on the brink of divorcing, like this couple was) So if your relationship isn't a tough spot, check this episode out to learn how you can get out of the pain that you're in by using the same approach that they did. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

In order to sustain progress and avoid relapse in the future, it's so important to not only develop new habits but actually reprocess your triggers. Most men get triggered by being home alone, stress, loneliness, and other situations like that. The problem is that life is difficult and we will experience those things countless times so if those triggers are connected to pornography use, you'll struggle with temptations and urges each time you're in that situation. The key is to reprocess those triggers away from pornography, so you can be bored, home alone, and have a new internal reaction. In this episode, share with you exactly how to reprocess triggers and create new habits so you can sustain growth and become the person you were meant to be. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

The nagging feeling of an urge or temptation can become so powerful it's hard to resist. In this episode I share with you specific approaches and tools you can implement to conquer any urges without needing to rely on Willpower or discipline. Tune in to learn: The key to not feel bad about sexual desire The difference between and urge to watch pornography and normal sexual energy (and how to navigate it without a slip up)? How can you utilize triggers to help you make progress instead of avoiding them? The #1 conversation to avoid with your spouse so you don't cause frustration or a fight. How you can come together effectively to work through any urge or temptation but be on the same team. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Navigating sexual intimacy after the impact of pornography can be so difficult! In this episode we do a deep dive to help you know how to integrate sexual intimacy back into your relationship in a way that feels comfortable and safe. Many couples have lots of questions and reservations, tune in to learn: How do we know if we are ready for sex again? Will being sexual trigger him to watch pornography? Should we wait 90 days to allow his brain to reset? How can we create a foundation of safety and trust for intimacy? What if she gets triggered by sex and compares herself, feels inadequate or insecure or worries about what he's thinking of? Here is the link to the Dr. Andrew Huberman interview that I referenced in the episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8GbCnr4gBjE For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Having hard conversations in your marriage after pornography addiction is one of the most important skills you can learn. However, there are many things that can get in the way of having productive conversations together. Tune in to learn: The top reasons why conversations go south (and what you can do about it) How to productively have conversations without rehashing the past over and over Ways to work as a team to create closure surrounding painful events The #1 reason why husbands sometimes avoid painful conversations (and how to resolve it) 3 strategies you can implement today to start to heal and feel more connection in your relationship For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Is there a difference between a slip and a relapse, and at what point should he tell his wife? In this episode I detail not only the differences between a slip and a relapse but exactly how you can find Freedom from both by resolving the trigger itself. The traditional way of overcoming pornography is based in helping men prepare for battle. However, much like Pavlov's dog, our brains create powerful links between triggers and reactions. It's like a reflex we can't control, leading us down the path we wish to avoid. The other method that I've seen be significantly more effective empowers you to break the association between triggers and the internal reactions they cause, freeing you from the grip of addiction. As I work with me, when a trigger arises, I guide them through a process that helps you separate the trigger from the response. So, when that trigger appears, it no longer compels you to act out. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Forgiveness is such an important element in the healing process, yet most people go about it in a way that causes resistance, pressure and frustration. Trying to forgive too early in the process can bring up a lot of pain, so finding tools and a method to help you in this process can be so freeing. In this episode I share the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, and the relationship between trust and forgiveness (it's not what you think), and why you might feel stuck on this step of the process. I share practical steps you can take to find forgiveness without any pressure and in a way that feels comfortable for you. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – [email protected] Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.