Connexus Church Audio Podcast

You may not have it all together, but at least pastors have it all together, right? In this message, Carey and Toni Nieuwhof talk openly about the struggles and tough seasons they've come through in their marriage. Things haven't been nearly as easy as they thought they would be, but they've been worth it. Carey and Toni will talk about how they got through the hard times to find the love they worried had been lost.

Generosity requires a plan. But how do you make a plan? These two simple gauges will help you decide where and how much to give.

Loving the Crazy Like Us Series and looking to get practical? In this bonus episode Carey Nieuwhof interviews Rachel Cruze, daughter of Dave Ramsey, about financial hacks like why going on commission is a much better system for your kids than allowance, how to help your kids through college without going into debt, and the top financial issues people struggle with.

We all worry about money. What if we don't have enough? What if we lose what we have? This simple shift in perspective can free you from financial worries.

Everyone gives something somewhere. But there's a difference between random acts of giving and true generosity. The good news is, it's possible to learn how to be generous.

In a candid, personal and powerful conversation, Brian Houston talks about how Hillsong attracts and keeps great leaders, how he stays healthy as a leader, how he battled back from burnout a few years ago.

Burnout seems to almost be an epidemic these days. And a surprising number of people who perhaps haven't fully burned out still test positive for the signs of burnout. We'll look at what causes burnout, how to know you're in it and how to get back. Plus we'll touch on suicide and why the voices you may be hearing are lying.

So many people get surprised by something that generation after generation of successful people encounter: success is emptier than they ever dreamed. Even when all your dreams come true, you may feel grateful. But feeling grateful doesn't leave you full? Why does success feel so empty? We'll look at why that is, and what to do about it.

Most people think pride is a problem narcissists struggle with. What if they're wrong? What if pride is bigger than that? What if most pride springs not from narcissism, but from insecurity. As strange as it might sound, your insecurity may be driving your pride and causing you all kind of problems that you can easily solve if you overcome your insecurity. We'll show you how.

We've never been more connected as a culture, and we've never felt more alone. Many experts are beginning to call loneliness a cultural epidemic. Why is it that we can have 500 friends on social media and feel so utterly alone? A devious disconnect is underway in our culture, and it's not just a tech problem...it's a human problem.

What happens when you surrender to cynicism? We had an incredible start to the series "Didn't See It Coming", and are thrilled to release this bonus episode for Part 1 - Cynicism. In this especial episode, Tony Morgan, CEO of the Unstuck Group, interviews Carey on leadership setbacks, ministry burnout, and a wonderful aspect of our lives we give up when we let ourselves become cynical.

You never thought you'd be a cynic, did you? Nobody wants to be cynical, but so many people end up there. Why? Cynicism starts not because you don't care, but because you do. Surprisingly, most cynics are former optimists. We'll look at how cynicism starts, how to recognize it and how to stop it.

This week we flip the mic, as multiple New York Times best-selling author Ann Voskamp does an in depth and personal interview with Carey Nieuwhof. Ann talks to Carey about what led him to write the series and book, "Didn't See It Coming", and together they talk about the seven things Carey believes everyone needs to overcome to thrive.

Jesus had double vision. He has the ability to see God's image in us and our brokenness at the same time. Seeing people this way is what moved his heart to reach out to people every day and he was ridiculed for it. But what about other people through scripture? How did they see people with double vision and how did they respond?

Jesus had double vision. He has the ability to see God's image in us and our brokenness at the same time. Seeing people this way is what moved Jesus' heart to reach out to people every day and he was consequently ridiculed for it. But he saw us and loved us to the point that his rescue mission took Him to the cross. What would happen in our hearts and lives if we had that same double vision?

So is fear always bad? Actually there's one kind of fear you should have. We'll look at a powerful scriptural teaching that shows you how flipping your fear can increase your confidence and reduce your worry.

What do you do when you start worrying? Is there anyway to quell the anxiety and find peace? Surprisingly there is. Thousands of years ago, the ancients adopted a practice that still works today. This Sunday, Carey will share how to talk to your soul...and settle it down.

Don't miss this special bonus interview with Jon Gordon and Carey Nieuwhof. In it, Jon shares an incredible example of how to "talk to your soul".

So often our fears take us into a worst case scenario. What if I lose my job? What if she leaves me? What if everything falls apart? What if I get an incurable disease and die? Joshua and the nation of Israel discovered that God loves to do what everyone thought was impossible, and in the process they discovered that too often we stress over a battle that's already been won.

It's vital to erect guardrails around our hearts because an unguarded heart can overpower our most guarded behaviour.

When it comes to our finances, it's easy to cross the line into the danger zone. That's why it's essential to establish guardrails against greed.

Guardrails keep vehicles from straying into dangerous or off limit areas. We need personal guardrails so we don't stray into areas of life that can harm us or the people we love. If there's one area in which personal guardrails are most needed but also most resisted, it's in our relationships.

Have you ever met someone that later you wish you'd never met? Is there a person you wish your husband, wife, son, or daughter had never met? Sometimes people are our greatest regrets because they influence us to ignore our guardrails and step into the danger zone.

Guardrails are designed to keep vehicles from straying into dangerous or off-limit areas. They minimize damage by keeping us in the safety zone. But the highway isn't the only place we need guardrails.

Blame. It damages marriages, destroys partnerships, harms teams and twists relationships. None of us like to get blamed, but somehow most of us still find ways to blame others. Why do we do that? What would life be like if we stopped blaming others? What would it do to your faith, your friendships, your family? How would you get there?

In a world of outrage, it's easy to be angry. Whether your anger shows up in private, public or whether it's just something you feel but rarely show, what's underneath that? We'll look at where your anger comes from, how to deal with it, and how to replace it with a profound gratitude.

Remember when you were a kid and trusted at a level that seemed, well, childlike? But our trust gets broken. Over time, we become suspicious of people, organizations and even God. What happens to us when suspicion becomes our dominant view? Everything changes when you stop assuming the worst, and start believing the best.

It's so easy to judge others, to think you're better than others or to think they're less than you. It's so easy to look down on other people while giving yourself a break. Why do so many people rush to judgment? This week, we'll look at how people who want to change actually find transformation.

What a morning to celebrate how Jesus has changed people's lives and their choice to follow Him. It's amazing to see what God is doing. Baptism is also a time for all of us to reflect on the death and resurrection of Jesus, and celebrate the freedom He brings us.

I know that true freedom is found in Jesus, and I know the Holy Spirit wants to remodel my heart so I can live freely, but here's the problem … people. It seems like relationships can rob us of our freedom when they aren't going well. Whether it's our kids or spouse on a bad day, the boss who stresses us out, the person who takes advantage of us, or the person who cuts us off on the road, people have the power to rob us of living in freedom. How do we pursue relationships in a way where we can experience freedom?

I know that true freedom is found in Jesus. It's amazing that He has made a way for us to experience a loving relationship with God. At the same time, I don't always feel like I'm living in freely in my day to day life - I give into temptation, lose my temper, fall into bad habits, get overwhelmed, etc. How do I experience this freedom as I live my life each day?

We live in a culture where we've never had more options to choose from, but in many ways, we also feel chained down by those same choices. We can feel the pressure that comes from being tied to our job, to a broken relationship, to our past, to our financial situation, to inner battles, etc. No matter how hard we try, why is it so hard to feel free in our daily lives? We'll be talking about what it means to experience real freedom in our souls and lives. What if it really is possible to live free?

To wrap up this series, we'll look at how you can talk with God. From ancient times, people have called this practice prayer. We'll look at how prayer is different from meditation, what prayer changes, and how prayer can become part of your daily life.

This week Carey gives a BONUS interview with author John Ortberg on spritual formation and hearing from God and his book on connecting with God called "Soul Keeping".

So how do you exactly hear from this invisible God? Do you hear voices, or is that just for crazy people? Do you listen to your emotions? Is God...silent? We'll look at 7 ways God speaks to people today. They might surprise you.

When learning how to have a relationship with God, one of the top questions is "How can I know I've heard from God" closely followed by "How can I know God's will for my life?" Author Mark Batterson has studied the subject in-depth and shares 7 key ways people hear from God, and how hearing his voice can help you find his purpose for your life.

So many people are getting into spirituality, self-discovery, meditation, mindfulness and finding themselves. But is that all there is? Jesus gave us a powerful illustration of what happens when a person moves beyond themselves and connects with Him. It might be exactly what you're missing.

Love sees who you really are and sticks around anyway. And that's exactly what Jesus did. In the days after his resurrection from the dead, Jesus surprised his disciples by making them breakfast on the beach. To their utter shock, it was the beginning of a whole new relationship. Jesus wasn't finished with them (or with you). He was just getting started.

On the night before He died, Jesus sat down for dinner around a table with his closest friends and followers. All of them would desert him. He refused to desert them. Jesus showed us an extraordinarily rare love that sees you for who you really are, and sticks around anyway.

Sometimes you think you can't make a dent in the problems the world is facing. And besides, you feel like you barely have enough to live on yourself. As a result, many of us often feel indifferent toward the situation others face, and our response is usually a response of inaction. Is there another way? Can something make a difference?

Happy couples decide they owe each other everything but are owed nothing in return. But that requires effort. Every married person makes a choice every day. That choice feels more like a reaction, so most people don't think they have a choice at all. But they do. Happy couples make the happy choice.

As long as you think your spouse owes you, your marriage will be all about keeping score. That destroys intimacy. It destroys love. But what are we supposed to do about our hopes, dreams, and desires?

We all enter into marriage with hopes, dreams, and desires. They create expectations. But when you put those expectations onto your spouse, it turns your marriage into a debt/debtor relationship. Your relationship becomes marked by the belief that your spouse owes you something. So, how do you keep your hopes, dreams, and desires from becoming expectations?

A great marriage doesn't happen by accident. It requires care and regular maintenance. But sometimes we don't want to make the effort. As long as it's not broken, do we really need to talk about it?

The culture says there are many paths to truth and to God. Christianity claims that Jesus alone is the way to God. Aren't Christians just narrow-minded bigots when it comes to other religions? How can Jesus be the only way? Problem of God author Mark Clark joins us this week to conclude the Problem of God series, and addresses this issue head on.

Maybe you think the Bible is unreliable or that, even as a historical book, it's riddled with errors and mistakes. This week, Carey will be joined by world-renowned New Testament scholar Dr. Craig Evans, who has been interviewed on Dateline NBC, by the New York Times, Wall Street Journal and lectured at Yale, Princeton, Harvard and Oxford Universities. Together, they'll discuss why many of the world's brightest thinkers have come to trust the scriptures.

"Jesus is just a made-up person. A myth modeled on a number of other mythological ancient gods whose stories predate Jesus by thousands of years." The popular belief of the Christ-Myth has gained ground in recent years, with manybelieving that Jesus never existed and is a work of fiction. In this bonus episode, we look at what the evidence has to say about that claim.

Almost everyone is comfortable with the idea of heaven. But few people—including Christians—are comfortable with the idea of hell. Why, after all, would a loving God send people to hell? We'll explore that subject and what it says about the character and heart of God...and what it says about you.

Many near death experiences seems to be positive experiences, but what about judgment and hell? Are both simply outdated concepts? Surprisingly, not all near death experiences are positive experiences. In fact, 23% are hellish. What both the scripture and near death experiences reveal about judgment may shock you but ultimately save you.