Episode 130 - Unmet needs of children, NVC, rewards and punishment, conformity

Guests Brett from http://schoolsucksproject.com and Daniel from http://warisimmoral.comNeeds Inventory | The Center for Nonviolent Communicationhttp://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventorySo many vital needs of kids are not being met by parents and school systems, such as clarity, respect, choice, autonomy, and independencePeople doing things that they don't really want to do tends to disconnect them from their feelings and needs, causing a host of problemsPrinciples — Ayn Rand Lexiconhttp://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/principles.htmlRaising Children Compassionately by Marshall Rosenberghttp://www.naturalchild.org/marshall_rosenberg/rcc.htmlGetting people to do things via punishments or rewards doesn't appeal to internal motivation, thus harming the quality of connection and producing conflictPunished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.alfiekohn.org/books/pbr.htmWhy Real-Time Relationships is clearly superior to its contemporaries.... [Actually, RTR lacks some key aspects of NVC]http://freedomainradio.com/BOARD/forums/p/24371/188994.aspx#188994Surrendering our autonomy need to "authorities" is commonly demanded in our domination culture of coercive institutionsHornberger's Blog - WikiLeaks: Conformists vs. Individualistshttp://www.fff.org/blog/jghblog2010-12-02.aspThe WikiLeaks effect (cartoon)http://reason.com/archives/2010/12/03/friday-funniesPowerful and Bad in 2009: Scientific American Podcasthttp://www.scientificamerican.com/podcast/episode.cfm?id=powerful-and-bad-in-2009-09-12-31Authoritarian/conformist indoctrination runs quite deep in our culture, to the point that people's good intentions serve need's denying meansSelf-responsibility and its Effects on Obedience and Aggression http://www.logicallearning.net/obedience.htmlbumper music "Children" by Robert Mileshttp://www.robert-miles.com/

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