Come As You Are Podcast

A talk about the Signal group chat, of course, but in the context of the larger experience of dealing with people who will never be accountable. People who will look you directly in the eye and lie to you, or deny wrongdoing and then attack you - or anyone else - when called out. People who will assert you did not see what you saw, or hear what you heard. Maybe you know people like this, I do. It is exhausting and disheartening to deal with them, because without honest communication and the ability to acknowledge mistakes, there’s no bridge to stand on. The sub-topic here is men who feel entitled to take what they want, and become furious if you question them. What happens when the country is being run by a cabinet full of people like this, and their supporters remain steadfast? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A reading of this week’s essay, and a talk about those relationships that devastate your heart because you’re in love with someone who leaves you no choice but to end things. When you look back you realize you were being tested from the start - you were being asked to tolerate things you never should have - and in the end the only choice was the pain that poisons you, or the pain that sets you free. And how that all ties into what’s happening in our country right now, the Fifth Amendment, due process, motherhood, and how a place can call younger versions of you to the surface, so you find yourself joined in the drivers’ seat by a twenty-something you, with your daughter in the passenger seat. Come As You Are is my third baby. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about the pain of living in a country where half the people look at a set of circumstances and feel horrified, and the other half look at the same set of circumstances and celebrate. And the difficulty in communicating when all trust in facts has been eroded and people give the same credence to anyone with a YouTube channel as they do to medical experts - often more. Also the concept of turning your heartbreak into art, the importance of continuing to learn new things, and why you want to hold onto hope wherever you find it - even in a Big Bear Bald Eagle nest.Come As You Are is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about the pain and folly of trying to communicate with people who genuinely lack empathy, the frustration of feeling gaslit by people who claim to love you, and why it was so triggering for so many of us to watch a good man be double-teamed by two narcissists in the Oval Office … and walk away dealing with the most victim-blaming question of them all. What was he wearing? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about what it’s like existing as a girl or woman in this world, and particularly in this country if you’re in the United States. And when I say “woman” I am including women who have babies, women who decide they don’t want to have children, women who deal with infertility, women who have lost babies, women who have raised babies on their own, Queer women, Black women, Brown women, Indigenous women, Transgender women. How hard it is just to exist in a complicated body, made more complicated by the way the world (the government, the state you live in, your governor, your culture, your family) deals with your body, feels it can pass legislation about your body, teaches you to feel shame about your body, and also normalizes the behavior of some men who feel they have a right to your body. It is exhausting and enraging, and more so all the time. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about what we’re living through in the United States right now, and how dizzying it is for so many of us who are devastated, outraged and heartbroken, to see people in this country who are still on board with what is occurring in real time. It is hard to exist, to have a “normal” day going about your business when your government is in upheaval, democracy is on the line, and you’re scared for your friends, your neighbors, your daughter, yourself. It’s also a talk about empathy, and what a meaningful spiritual practice looks like. If you can see people in harms’ way and shrug your shoulders thinking you are practicing non-attachment, or because you’ve decided some people fall outside the circle of compassion - I’d argue your spiritual practice needs a serious tweak. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about why it can take Herculean effort to advocate for yourself, to speak up when you’re hurting (or when you’re happy, sometimes), to put a value on the work you do - and why it’s worth it to push through, even though it can be so uncomfortable. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

Thank you Cabot O'Callaghan, Danny Hoback, Prof's Progress, Rosie O'Regan, and many others for tuning into my live video! Join me for my next live video in the app. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

You know those disaster movies when a group of six people knows a cataclysmic disaster is coming, and they have hours to warn humanity? And everyone is at a picnic, laughing, or in a movie theater, or park, or just going about their business, and somehow these six people are racing around trying to save the world - and no one is really understanding what’s about to happen? That’s a little bit how it feels to be in America right now for a lot of us. Not all of us, of course, because I guess that would make it too damn easy to save the world. But it’s been pretty strange for those of us who care about things like the Constitution and democracy and basic human empathy. If you’ve been struggling, I hope this will help. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

Years ago, I was volunteering in my daughter’s kindergarten classroom and I found myself sitting next to a five-year-old girl who understood more about empathy and compassion than any spiritual teacher I’ve met before or since. This is a talk about where we are in this country and this world - it’s a conversation about DEI and a whirlwind of other issues some of us are working hard to defend in the United States, but underneath all of that, it’s a conversation about basic human decency. There continues to be a lot of gaslighting out there, and sometimes it helps to call things what they are, so I did that. And I also talked about ways to take care of your nervous system, be mindful about your online consumption, protect your sanity, and stoke your joy. Those are all forms of resistance, too. Sending you love, friends. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

Keeping us enraged online is a way of distracting us from being engaged on the ground. Dominating the daily news cycle is the way to win, keeping people spinning about the latest outrageous and reprehensible thing is the mission. Rage is a product, and it’s being manufactured by people who profit when we spend our time clicking on links and screaming at each other over the internet. We are playing their game, we are consuming their product, but we are also being consumed by it - and so is the planet we live on. There are better ways to spend our time and energy, and better ways to save the world. There are also a lot of reasons to have faith in your neighbors, and I say this to you from Los Angeles, where small acts of kindness every day are saving lives. If you’re feeling hopeless, I hope this episode will help. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

This is a talk about compassion, and how it doesn’t come with conditions. In an ideal world, if we see someone suffering, we want to help. We all understand this is not an ideal world, one has only to look at how many people on this planet are without shelter or food, or how much violence there is. We are becoming numb to the suffering of others. As the wildfires have raged throughout Los Angeles, as close friends have had their homes burn to the ground and their entire communities destroyed, as we’ve all watched an app to see if we have to evacuate, and as everyone I know is in a state of shock and grief to some extent or another - the thing that has worried me the most are some of the heartless, vitriolic comments online. The judgements, assumptions, and smug assertions. The threats to withhold disaster relief funds unless California bends a knee, and the idea that a natural disaster and human suffering would be used as leverage. There has also been a tremendous outpouring of love and support, we are all rallying around our friends out here, people are taking care of one another and showing up in every way imaginable, but some of the things I’ve seen and heard as all of this has happened (and continues to happen) have broken my heart, tested my faith, and genuinely scared me for all of us. We seem to be reaching a new and terrifying low, and that isn’t good for any of us. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about what it’s like in Los Angeles right now as the wildfires rip through our communities leaving a wake of shock, loss, and devastation to a degree that is hard to fathom. A talk about the nervous system and the brain and what happens when you can’t make sense of a thing, even when you’re looking directly at it. A talk about grief, panic, and the importance of kindness. And an opportunity to think about what you would take with you if all you could take were the things that would fit in the trunk of your car. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

If you could have whatever you wanted in your heart of hearts, what would it be? How would life look and feel? Where would you live? What would change? If you aren’t used to asking yourself those questions, then maybe now - at the beginning of a new year - is a good time to start. This is a talk about why it might be hard for you to think about what you want, because maybe you stopped doing that somewhere along the way, or maybe it was ingrained in you to think it was selfish to consider your own desires. Girls and women in our culture are taught to be caretakers, to be nurturers, to be helpful - which is not a line of thinking that lends itself to prioritizing your own needs and wants. You might approach choices with a list of what’s good for everyone around you, putting yourself at the bottom of the pile, or you might avoid confrontation, take the path of least resistance to keep the peace, or sacrifice what’s good for you in an effort to manage other people’s feelings. Does it ever get to be your turn? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

Oh, the holidays. They can be wonderful or fraught, or a total mixed bag. Maybe holidays growing up were generally joyful for you, or maybe they were stressful. If you grew up with divorced parents, or you’re divorced with kids yourself, you may find schedules and logistics tough, and also all the emotions that can come up if your family doesn’t look the way you thought it would. It’s easy (and human) to get caught in the trap of thinking about how holidays “should” feel, or how you should feel during the holidays, but the fastest way to guarantee they’re going to be tough is to try to force the “merry and bright.” Maybe this year felt particularly challenging in that regard because the world feels so uncertain and unstable right now. This is a talk about all of that - and the importance of letting yourself feel your feelings during the holidays, but also every day. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

The thing about grief is that one grief can open the floodgates to all the other grief you carry, as though a grief dam has broken in your heart, and now you’re flooded with feeling. Loss is never easy, whether it’s the loss of a relationship, a job, a way of being, or a person or pet you don’t know how to live without. It can leave you feeling untethered. It’s messy and it can be scary, shocking and overwhelming, but the more we talk about it, the easier it is to face when we lose those we love. Which doesn’t mean it’s easy at all. But it is something we’re all going to face at one point or another, and it helps to know we’re not alone. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about the lack of empathy, ethics, and decency in the U.S. Healthcare system, and the toll it takes when there is no safety net for the most vulnerable. I shared two very personal stories to illustrate what it’s like to deal with the trauma, violence and stress of a system that is supposed to be there when things are at the very worst, and the emotional, mental and financial cost that is incurred when that system is failing. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about Alice in Wonderland and how it’s a metaphor about the loss of childhood innocence, and the pain and awkwardness of adolescence on the way to adulthood. Alice is sometimes too big for the spaces she’s inhabiting, and at other times she’s too small. She ‘s trying to figure out the rules, and exactly how much space she’s allowed to take up. We dive into the White Rabbit quote, “Don’t just do something, stand there!” And how this story is also a metaphor for the times we’re navigating right now. We’re through the looking glass trying to make sense of a world where so many things do not make sense. Meeting yourself where you are is essential. Thanks for spending some time with me. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about the people who love us and want us to be safe. The ones who see us clearly and cherish us exactly as we are - and what an extraordinary blessing it is to have people like that in our lives. Special shoutout to those Grandmas (and Grandpas) who leave an indelible imprint of love in our hearts. And a dive into what it means to be grateful, the importance of boundaries, the pain of feeling betrayed by people who claim to love us, and how certain things should never be transactional. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about Adam and Eve, and all the stories that permeate our culture, teaching us about who we are and how the world works. Some of these stories teach us things about girls and women that it would be very good for us to unlearn. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about what to do when the truth is stranger than fiction. Sometimes the best way to make sense of reality - as unfathomable as it may be - is to turn to mythology, folktales and fairytales. And then figure out how to rise like a phoenix, protect the people you love, and those who need protection, and remember that no one can ever take away the source of your power or your own brand of magic unless you let them. And we aren’t going to let that happen. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about the U.S. election for those who are feeling brokenhearted and appalled. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about the stories we share, the ones we tell ourselves, and the ones we’ll never know because we took a left instead of a right. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about not taking things personally. It’s really hard when people we care about - or even people we don’t know at all - behave in ways that are deeply confusing, hurtful, thoughtless, surprising or lacking in empathy. It can feel like some kind of reflection on us, especially if we’re talking about betrayal or rejection. If you struggle with this (and who doesn’t sometimes), the tale of the scorpion and the frog is a good one, and hopefully this talk will help make it a little easier next time you find yourself questioning your worth or your sanity because of someone else’s behavior. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about learning to take up space in a world that teaches you to be small, to second-guess yourself, to get everything right, and to question your value as a whole human being, worthy of respect, rights, consideration and kindness. Topics include the high cost of perfectionism, complicated mother-daughter relationships, the pain of a loud inner critic, and a path toward self-compassion. They don’t give out awards for being perfect, and being human is a lot more fun.Thanks for reading and listening to Come As You Are! Please share with anyone you like. And I always love your comments. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

This is a talk about making friends with uncertainty. There’s no easy way to ride this ride if you can’t accept that part of being human is being vulnerable. Loving people means you are opening your heart as wide as it will go, knowing that you don’t know all the parameters. You don’t know how long you have, or how long anyone else has here on this spinning planet. Grief is baked into the mix, along with change, loss, and and the understanding that everything is always in flux. Learning to hold things loosely - ideas, plans, and even the people we love most in this world - is a gift life will teach you the easy way or the hard way. This is also a talk about the pain and repercussions of unexpressed emotion, the havoc it can wreak on your physical and emotional well-being when you don’t feel free to express yourself, and the relief that comes when you let things flow. Thanks for reading and listening to Come As You Are! I appreciate your comments and shares so much, and I love being in conversation with you. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about grief, loss, change, motherhood, the sandwich generation, the absolutely emotional milestone of dropping your kid off at college, and the very tumultuous political landscape we’re all navigating in the U.S. right now. Also a talk about things we learned in the sandbox, and why we really need to get back to something that is sane and decent, and remember we are all neighbors on a spinning planet, going through so many similar challenges and heartbreaks. Also, “scents” will only make sense if you read the essay!Thanks for reading and listening to Come As You Are! The podcasts are companion pieces to the essays each week. I love being in conversation with you, and am always interested in your thoughts and feelings. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about love, loss and vulnerability. Seasons change, relationships change, people change - change is the one constant. It makes sense to think about your response to the ever-shifting ground underneath your feet, and the way you’re riding this ride. Are you trying to grip the steering wheel, or are you able to keep your mind, heart and hands open - and let things flow? This is a talk about grief as well, about losing people we don’t know how to live without, and about loving your heart out in the face of all the things you don’t get to know. It’s about the sandwich generation, and it’s about taking my son to college this weekend, setting up his dorm room, and figuring out how to drive away on Sunday when I’ll be leaving half my heart behind.Come As You Are is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about the state of the world for girls and women, growing up in a patriarchy, messages we absorb from the water we’re swimming in, male violence, assault, misogyny, sexual harassment, the male gaze, objectification, sexism - and the frustration of having to hurry and say “not all men” because of course not all men. But way too many of them. And we need them in the conversation.Thanks for reading and listening to Come As You Are! Your comments and shares mean the world to me, thank you. And thanks for spending some time with me. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about grief, loss, child loss, school shootings, gun violence, violence generally, the cancer of rampant self-interest, the pain, rage and despair of having school-age children in this environment, vulnerability, mortality, the patriarchy, intersectional feminism, democracy - and how we can try to make this world a more compassionate, sane, peaceful place with the 80-100 years we’ve got. Not small talk. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

Do you ever go to the wrong people looking for things you know they can’t or won’t give you? Things like approval, affection, acknowledgement - or an apology if the situation warrants one? That’s called “going to the hardware store for apples” - a phrase I heard in an Al-Anon meeting when I was seventeen. It’s a fruitless endeavor to seek compassion from people who don’t feel empathy, whatever the reason. It’s painful to love people who are in the grip of addiction, suffering from a personality disorder or dealing with any affliction that causes them to struggle with accountability. This episode is about when it makes sense to try to have a conversation with someone who sees the world from a very different vantage point, even if it feels exhausting or hopeless. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about perspective. We all see the world from our own personal vantage point, based on our own frame of reference. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking what’s obvious to me will be obvious to anyone else looking out at the world. When I get in my car after my son has driven it, I have to move the seat forward and adjust all the mirrors because he’s a lot taller than I am, and literally sees things from a different angle. It would help if we remembered that’s everyone - we all need to be adjusting for our own blind spots, and everyone else’s. This is also a talk about communication, and the value of speaking from your heart even if you have to move through some fear and anxiety to do that. It’s about your relationship with mistakes (yes, you have one) kindness, and the way grief can knock you sideways at any time at all, even while you’re recording a podcast. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about intense pain, but also the feeling of incredible, joyous relief when pain releases its grip on us. This topic was brought on by a migraine, but it also applies to heartbreak, grief and rage. It’s exhausting to be in a conversation about a woman’s worth in 2024. It’s enraging to see women and girls in so many states having their lives put in peril. It is not right that we’re having to fight for an equal amount of respect and dignity, still. This episode is about the boiling waters we’re swimming in right now, but it’s also about the relief of calling things what they are, and demanding a lot better than this. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about growing up as a girl and then a woman in a culture where violence against girls and women is so prevalent it’s normalized, and perpetrators are often given more consideration than the people they’ve hurt. “It Doesn’t Matter” is my answer to the questions: What was she wearing?How much had she had to drink? What was her sexual history?and also - What about his promising future?This is not an episode to listen to with small children in the background.Thanks for listening to Come As You Are! This podcast is public so feel free to share it. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about growing up as a girl and then a woman in a culture that teaches you to devalue women and girls, to accept that you are an object and that your value is determined by the way men perceive you, to accept that men will do what they do and take what they want, and you are only safe if a man decides you are safe, to deal with any confusion or rage about this on your own…and why we need to be doing a lot better than this for all of our daughters (and sons)…and for ourselves, too. We deserve so much more and we always have. Come As You Are is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about internalized misogyny, the patriarchy, the culture and what it teaches us about our worth as girls and women, sexual assault, the power of childless cat ladies, healthcare autonomy, the current election in the U.S. - and why so many things need to change, now. If you have small children, this is not an episode to listen to if they’re within earshot. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about the difference between choosing to make yourself vulnerable, and having your vulnerability thrust upon you. Topics include a food poisoning episode complete with public mortification, Linda Blair, and the current political environment in the U.S. which is very much like dealing with food you wish you’d never eaten. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

This is a talk about the pain, confusion and grief of growing up with a mother who struggles to mother you, for any number of reasons. It’s also about the secrets we keep, the way shame can convince you you aren’t lovable - and the people who teach you nothing could be further from the truth. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

This is a talk about the relief that comes with seeing things as they are, instead of clinging to a version of reality we wish was unfolding. Sometimes we work really hard not to see the truth of our own feelings, or the truth of someone else’s feelings or the situation we’re in, because if we see it, things will have to change or we will have to change, or maybe we’re walking straight into heartbreak. It’s also a talk about words and their definitions, and how sometimes we use the same words, but we mean very different things. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about grief, loss, panic attacks, the illusion of control, traveling into the future, past and present all at once, the space time continuum, and how sometimes letting go is the only way to ride the ride. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about endings, abandonment issues, attachment styles, not asking other people to carry our baggage, and why it’s okay to hate goodbyes as long as you work on the rest of it! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

This is a talk about the big transitions in life. We can all get focused on the destination, but sometimes the shore in front of us isn’t clear, and the task is to swim in the waters of uncertainty for a while. You can tread water, swim against the current and exhaust yourself, or move with it and let things flow, trusting you’ll land on solid ground eventually. Asking yourself the right questions is one of the best ways to find more ease and strength when the weather changes and the current starts pulling you in a direction you didn’t expect. This is also a talk about the quality of your inner voice and why it matters so much, motherhood, the sandwich generation, empty nest syndrome, divorce, post-divorce dating, and trying to keep it together for your kids. It’s not a talk that’s just for parents, it’s for anyone who struggles with change. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about those “nothing” moments that are really everything, meeting love wherever you find it, allowing yourself to feel joy, grief, longing, gratitude, vulnerability, and fragility all at once, and recognizing if you want steadiness in life, you have to find it inside yourself. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about empathy -which, by definition - flows freely in all directions. A conversation about binary thinking, the danger of dehumanizing those who disagree with us, and where we might be at war within ourselves, since outward violence is a reflection of inward pain.Thank you for listening to Come As You Are. This post is public so feel free to share it. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about the high cost of "othering" people, and the pain and exhaustion of swimming in rage-filled water, which is daily life right now. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

A talk about cognitive dissonance and the painful toll it takes. When we feel one way but act another for any number of reasons, when we know something is very wrong but are asked to go about our days like everything is normal, when we can no longer have nuanced conversation or express our heartache openly, the result is despair, confusion, depression, anxiety, overwhelm and loneliness. What's the answer? Have a listen. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

Today’s talk is for anyone who’s ever been in a relationship where you had to walk on eggshells, read the room, and make yourself small. It’s for anyone who ever hated themselves for not leaving, or not leaving sooner. It’s about the root cause of what makes us stay when we know we should go. It’s also for anyone with complicated maternal bonds who might feel the reverberations around Mother’s Day, and it’s for all of us who miss our moms beyond belief, flaws and all.Come As You Are is a reader-and-listener-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, please consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

Today's talk is about relationships, intimacy, trust, abandonment, betrayal, communication, ghosting, and the importance of the empty cup. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

This is a talk about things that are so ingrained we don’t question them. Maybe it’s the way you’re going about your day, the process by which you get things done, or stories you have about yourself or other people that are so old, they feel like “the way things are” and not like something that needs examination. It’s just the water we swim in, until one day, we realize maybe we’ve been swimming against the current for a very long time.Come As You Are is a reader/listener-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

Today's talk is about the value in doing the wild and unexpected thing sometimes. It's about our tendency to make plans, to stick to our schedules and set alerts in our phones, even as we know all our careful plans can be turned upside down at any moment. It's about motherhood and remembering who you were before small people started calling you Mom, and it's about getting to know yourself again when those small people grow taller than you. It's about perimenopause, uncertainty and embracing adventure when it comes your way. Thanks for spending some time with me. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe