Bounce Back Better By Hilary Saxton

Why do you start strong, feel motivated, and then slip straight back into old habits? It’s not a discipline problem. It’s not a time problem. It’s your identity. In this episode, Hilary Saxton breaks down the real reason you’re not getting the results you want. You’re operating from an outdated version of yourself, and it’s quietly costing you opportunities, growth, and confidence. Most people try to change outcomes without changing the person producing them. That never works. Because your identity drives your decisions, your actions, and ultimately your results. Hilary unpacks how this shows up in everyday life, why success can feel uncomfortable, and how your brain pulls you back to what feels familiar, even when it’s holding you back. This episode is your wake-up call to stop clinging to who you were and start stepping into who you need to become. Because lasting change doesn’t come from doing more.It comes from becoming more.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever looked at your life and thought, how did I end up tolerating this? In this episode, Hilary calls it out for what it is: you didn’t fall off track overnight — you slowly negotiated your standards down until mediocrity felt normal. From skipping workouts to tolerating poor behaviour, messy habits to missed opportunities, it all comes back to one thing… what you allow. Hilary unpacks how these small compromises stack up into a life that doesn’t reflect who you actually are — or who you said you wanted to be. No fluff, no complicated frameworks — just a straight-up reminder that raising your standards is the fix. If something feels off in your life right now, this is your wake-up call. Because the truth is simple:You don’t need more motivation.You need higher standards. And it starts today.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Getting older is inevitable, but feeling old is not. In this episode, Hilary Saxton speaks with 82-year-old health coach and author Leigh Elder, who shares how a wake-up call in his seventies changed the way he approached health, fitness, and life. Leigh explains why people wait too long to take responsibility for their wellbeing and how small daily habits can create lasting change. They explore movement, strength, nutrition, and mindset, along with why self-awareness is key to living a longer, healthier life. Leigh shares practical ways to improve energy, maintain independence, and reduce decline as you age. This conversation is a reminder that your future health is shaped by what you do today. If you want more energy and a better quality of life as you get older, this episode will challenge your thinking and inspire action. Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/leighelderwriter/ Buy the book (New Zealand):https://www.theundergroundbookstore.nz/Dont-Act-Your-Age-Living-Younger-Can-Be-Age-Defying-p780288267 Australia: Available on Amazon or contact Leigh directlyEmail: [email protected] Leigh’s Substack:  https://leighelder.substack.com/   Leigh’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@dayaleighSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hilary Saxton shares a raw and honest reflection on what it really feels like to “almost win.” After placing second in a high-level speaking competition, she found herself caught between pride and disappointment, and realised this is something we all experience. In this episode, Hilary unpacks why doing well can still feel like failure, and how our expectations shape our emotions more than the actual result. She introduces a simple framework to help you recognise the stories you’re telling yourself, the progress you’re overlooking, and the actions you’re avoiding. Whether it’s business, fitness, money, or personal goals, this episode will challenge you to rethink what success actually looks like. You’ll walk away with a powerful shift in perspective and practical questions to get yourself moving again. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything right but still falling short, this one will hit home. www.hilarysaxton.com [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After a long break, Hilary Saxton returns to the Bounce Back Better podcast with a powerful reminder: the perfect time to start simply doesn’t exist. In this episode, Hilary gets honest about why she stopped recording and what finally pushed her to press record again. Using her own experience as an example, she explores the real reasons people delay taking action—blaming busyness, waiting for things to be perfect, or convincing themselves they don’t have enough time. The truth? Often the only thing standing in the way is our own thinking. Hilary challenges listeners to identify the one thing they’ve been putting off and take the first imperfect step today. From starting a business to getting back to the gym or pursuing a big goal, progress begins with small actions repeated consistently. This episode is a practical and motivating reminder that momentum doesn’t come from waiting—it comes from starting.     www.hilarysaxton.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever achieve something massive… then immediately shove it into the “no big deal” bin? In this straight-talking solo episode, Hilary gets brutally honest about the habit high achievers (especially women) fall into - downplaying wins so fast you barely feel the glow before it fades. Fresh off a 30-hour trip home from New York (with five global Stevie Awards and an Able Book Award under her arm), Hilary realised she’d walked straight back into business-as-usual. No celebration. No pause. Not even a proper post. And that wake-up call sparked today’s episode: why we shrink our success and how it’s quietly sabotaging our identity, confidence, and momentum. Using behavioural psychology, lived experience, and her signature no-bullshit clarity, Hilary unpacks the real culprits -  fear of judgment, tall poppy syndrome, imposter thoughts, invisibility conditioning, and survival mode - and how each one tricks your brain into believing your achievements are “irrelevant.” In this episode you’ll learn: Why achievement amnesia is real (and how your brain literally deletes your wins when you don’t honour them). The psychology behind shrinking your shine — tall poppy syndrome, fear of judgment, and the “don’t take up space” conditioning so many women have absorbed. How identity gets built (and destroyed) through repetition, celebration, and evidence. The exact phrases to stop using (“It was nothing… anyone could have… just lucky…”) and what to say instead to rewire confidence. How to show up unapologetically so your success fuels your next level instead of quietly dying in your laundry basket. Your Challenge This Week →Pick one win - big or small - that you brushed aside. Write it down. Say it out loud. Tell one person you trust. Then honour it with a small ritual: a toast, a walk, a moment of stillness, or a post if it matters. Bonus: Message someone else and celebrate their win. Evidence builds identity - yours and theirs.   🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in✉️ Got a win to share? Email Hilary: [email protected] Know someone who needs this?Share this episode with the friend who keeps brushing off their brilliance. Remind them: you can’t build an empire by hiding your shine.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever find yourself clinging to Plan A even when the universe is clearly yelling, “Not that way”? In this candid solo episode, Hilary unpacks why change feels so uncomfortable (hello, brain craving certainty) and how to pivot with purpose instead of panicking - so you can move from dead end to better direction without losing your footing. Drawing on real-life stories (a last-minute New York trip for the Stevie Awards, the “whole new corridor of doors” reframe, and that netball/basketball pivot metaphor) plus bite-sized psychology, Hilary explains why our brains resist uncertainty - and how to plant one foot in your values while you rotate to a smarter play. You’ll walk away with her four-step pivot plan and practical examples from business (Netflix, Apple), relationships, and career moves. In this episode you’ll learn: Why certainty feels “safe” (and how to calm your nervous system before you choose your next move). The 4-step Pivot Plan: pause before you panic, ask better questions, anchor to values, take imperfect action. How to keep your purpose the same while changing direction (plant foot, rotate options). The difference between victim mode and resilient mode when change is forced on you. A simple script to spot the new door faster (“What could this be teaching me?”). Your Challenge This Week →When something veers off-plan, don’t fix it fast. First, take 3 slow breaths. Then journal two “better questions” you can ask, write one value you’re anchoring to, and take one imperfect action within 24 hours. Bonus: Notice any “closed door” and list three possible doors in the new corridor. Watch the full episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/ejRGMZcNe4Y 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: [email protected] Know someone who needs this?Share this episode with the friend staring at a shut door. Remind them: plant your foot, pivot, and play the next pass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever catch yourself predicting the worst - no parks, no luck, no chance - and then proving yourself right? In this refreshingly candid solo episode, Hilary unpacks why so many of us default to spotting the glitch instead of the glimmer - and how a tiny shift in focus can change what you notice, how you feel, and the life you build. Drawing on real-life stories (parking myths, mentoring-room “regrets,” young-Nana trampoline energy, and Toastmasters butterflies) plus bite-sized psychology, Hilary explains negativity bias, the 3-to-1 rule for emotional balance, and learned optimism. You’ll walk away with simple, repeatable practices to re-train your brain’s filter (RAS), flip setbacks into fuel, and start a positive-result spiral on purpose. In this episode you’ll learn: Why the brain overweights bad - and how to rebalance with the 3-to-1 rule. The “Accept or Change” life rule to stop simmering in resentment. How to reframe in real time (from “I have to” → “I get to”). A nightly “Three Glimmers” ritual to rewire your RAS for good. How to surround yourself with glimmer-spotters and visualise the win before it happens. Your Challenge This Week →Each night, list three glimmers - moments, conversations, or coincidences that went right. Then, tomorrow, pick one inevitable hiccup and ask: “What’s the glimmer here?” Bonus points for swapping one “have to” for an “I get to.” 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: [email protected] Know someone who needs this?Share this episode with the friend who always says, “Typical, that never happens for me.” Tell them they’re your glimmer - and watch the contagion of optimism do its thing.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever met someone who just seems lucky? Things fall into place, opportunities appear, and doors swing open for them? Here’s the truth - luck isn’t random. It’s created. In this week’s episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton flips the script on luck and shows you how to go from saying “Why me?” to boldly declaring “Try me.” You’ll discover how the most “lucky” people are actually just bold action takers - people who say yes, bring great energy, and create their own opportunities through connection, mindset, and movement. Hilary shares practical, real-world ways to make your own luck:✅ How to shift from waiting for good fortune to generating it through micro-actions✅ Why your energy determines the opportunities that show up✅ The secret power of saying “yes” more often - and meaning it✅ How connection and curiosity attract the right people (and the right timing)✅ Why writing “I’m lucky” on your mirror might just change your life This episode is a feel-good fire-starter for anyone stuck waiting for things to change. You don’t need a four-leaf clover - you need focus, energy, and action. Check out this week’s episode and learn how to turn everyday moments into lucky breaks. Challenge:This week, create your own luck. Say yes to something new, reach out to someone you’ve been meaning to connect with, or take one brave action you’ve been putting off. Then watch what opens up. 💬 Know someone who says, “I’m just not lucky”?Send them this episode. It might just be the mindset reset they need. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever feel fired up one day and flat the next? In this week’s Bounce Back Better, Hilary pulls back the curtain on real-world motivation - what gets you started and what keeps you going when life gets loud. Fresh from a Toastmasters competition (with a last-minute scramble and a hard-won lesson), she shares how pressure can be a powerful teacher - if you pair it with purpose. You’ll hear: Why “connect to your why” isn’t woo-woo - it’s wiring The magic of yet: building a growth mindset that sticks Set it, see it, step toward it: a simple three-step goal loop Habit stacking that makes momentum inevitable (not optional) Coaching, feedback, and accountability - how pros stay on track Protecting your energy from dream-stealers (and topping up with gratitude) This episode is your permission slip to stop waiting for perfect conditions and start taking imperfect action. Motivation isn’t a mood; it’s a muscle - and today, you’ll learn how to train it. Check out this week’s episode: If you need a reset that’s practical, personal, and powerfully doable - no beige meditation outfit required. This Week’s Challenge: Pick one goal you’ve been avoiding: Write your why in one sentence. Visualise it for 60 seconds today. Choose one tiny habit you’ll do daily. Tell one person who’ll hold you accountable. Know Someone Who Needs This? Share this with a friend who’s “waiting to feel ready.” It might be the nudge that gets them moving today. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever felt like life is just too much? Like your to-do list belongs on a medieval scroll, your brain has 47 tabs open, and the easiest solution is a glass of wine (or three)? That’s overwhelm. In this week’s episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton takes a no-nonsense look at why we spiral into overwhelm and what it’s really costing us - from energy leaks and strained relationships to stolen confidence and joy. With raw honesty and humour, she unpacks the modern monster of overstimulation and the sneaky ways we try to self-soothe that only keep us stuck. You’ll learn:✅ Why overwhelm isn’t weakness - it’s a signal✅ The five biggest culprits (perfectionism, overcommitment, lack of clarity, overstimulation, and coping mechanisms)✅ The real costs of staying stuck in overwhelm✅ Practical tools and the THANKS framework to shrink the chaos and take back control This week’s challenge: Notice when you’re reaching for a coping mechanism - wine, chocolate, scrolling - and instead, choose one small action that clears the clutter and moves you forward. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you worry about the most? For many of us, it’s failure - in our careers, our relationships, or simply not being “enough.” But here’s the thing: worry doesn’t protect you, it paralyses you. In this week’s episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton dives deep into the hidden costs of worry - where it comes from, why it sticks around, and how it can quietly sabotage our confidence and decisions. With raw honesty and real-life reflections, Hilary unpacks how past experiences and old narratives shape the things we obsess over today. You’ll learn:✅ Why worry can become a self-fulfilling prophecy✅ How to spot the “trigger stories” that feed your fears✅ Simple mindset shifts to stop worry stealing your energy✅ Why failure isn’t final - and sometimes it’s exactly what launches you forward If you’ve ever felt stuck in the loop of “what if,” this episode will show you how to break free, rewrite the story, and move from worrying about falling… to learning how to fly. This week’s challenge: Notice the thought you worry about most often. Write it down. Then ask yourself - is this thought fuelling me or failing me? If it’s failing you, rewrite it into a new story that helps you fly. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How many times have you held back in a meeting, skipped sharing your win, or toned yourself down so others wouldn’t feel uncomfortable? In this episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton calls time on playing small - because it doesn’t just hurt you, it keeps everyone in the dark. Inspired by a five-year-old named Billy, who strutted into a movie theatre in full Sonic the Hedgehog gear without a care in the world, Hilary explores what it really means to show up unapologetically. From the “spotlight effect” (spoiler: people aren’t noticing you as much as you think) to tall poppy syndrome and imposter syndrome, this episode is a deep dive into why we dim our brilliance - and how to stop. You’ll discover: ✅ Why worrying about being “too much” is making you forgettable ✅ How dimming your light doesn’t help others shine - it just keeps everyone in the dark ✅ The real reason confidence grows when you put your hand up ✅ Why visibility is an act of service ✅ How to fire the fake audience in your head This week’s challenge: Turn the dial up one notch brighter. Post the win. Speak up. Wear the bold lipstick. Apply for the thing. Stop shrinking to fit into rooms you’ve already outgrown. You weren’t born to be beige - you were born to be unforgettable. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in🎥 Watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/TYzE3RkRpvg ✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: [email protected]  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever feel like your business (or life) would fall apart if you stepped away for a day? In this episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary chats with the brilliant Marianne Page - award-winning speaker, bestselling author, and former McDonald's exec turned systems strategist - about how to build a business (and a life) that runs like clockwork without running you into the ground. We dig into: The myth of ‘process’ and why it’s sucking the soul out of your systems Marianne’s signature “Our Way” method (hint: it’s way more human) How to stop settling for staff who drag down your energy, standards, and culture The underrated power of consistency and why it’s the secret to trust Why resilience isn’t just for rock bottoms - it’s a daily practice And of course… the now-iconic tale of Brian, the un-fireable team member This episode is part real talk, part business therapy, and 100% packed with tools to help you clean up the chaos and take control. Challenge of the Week:Where in your life or business are you settling for “Brian”? Whether it’s your inbox, your morning routine, or someone on your team… what’s one thing you’ll tighten up this week? 📩 Know someone who needs to hear this?Forward this episode their way - especially if they’re drowning in admin or stuck managing people who “just don’t get it.” 🎧 Listen now and learn how to build systems that stick and a team that thrives. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in🎥 Watch the full episode:  ✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: [email protected]   🔗 Connect with Marianne Page: Linked In:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariannepage/ YouTube: https://trm.to/MPyoutube Website: https://mariannepage.com/ Speaking: mariannespeaks.co.uk See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever find yourself saying, “I just need more time to think about it”? In this week’s episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton dives deep into the sneaky habit of indecision - and why it’s silently stealing your time, energy, confidence, and opportunity. We often assume not deciding is a neutral choice, but the truth? Indecision is a decision. And it’s often the one keeping you small. With relatable stories, real-world coaching insights, and her signature tough-love delivery, Hilary unpacks:✅ Why indecision isn’t safe - it’s energy-draining procrastination in disguise✅ The mental loops that erode your confidence and clutter your clarity✅ The real fears behind why you hesitate (spoiler: it’s not just about the decision)✅ Her own story of circling a map and making a bold move that changed everything✅ Why clarity doesn’t come first - but comes after you decide This is your reminder that you weren’t born to sit on the fence. You were born to choose. To move. To build. Because dreams don’t die loudly - they die in the quiet corners of “maybe later.” Your challenge this week: What’s the one decision you’ve been avoiding? Big or small - name it, shrink it, and take one tiny messy step forward.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week on Bounce Back Better, Hilary sits down with the extraordinary Rhoda Banks - author of Daughter of an Assassin: Turning Pain into Power. From a childhood marked by violence, trauma, and silence, Rhoda has risen with grit, grace, and a voice that refuses to be silenced. Born the daughter of a feared gang assassin and raised by a mother who couldn’t say “I love you,” Rhoda’s early years were shaped by instability, fear, and survival. But that’s not where her story ends. It’s where her fight begins. In this powerful conversation, Rhoda shares her journey of breaking generational cycles, finding faith, discovering her voice, and standing in her truth. She opens up about the pivotal moments that shaped her - from being fired as a teenager simply because of her father’s reputation, to choosing self-worth over staying small, and how she learned to not push the river but trust the flow of life. If you’ve ever questioned your worth, struggled with identity, or battled the weight of your past - this episode will move you, challenge you, and remind you that you are not your history. You are your choice. 💥 Challenge of the Week:Call out your inner critic and rewrite just one story you’ve been telling yourself that no longer serves you. Be kind. Be honest. Start small - but start. 📲 Know someone who’s working to break free from a painful past?Send them this episode. Rhoda’s courage might just light their path forward. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in🎥 Watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/W0HpUXdnwu0 ✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: [email protected] 🔗 Connect with Rhoda Banks:Breakthrough Conversations with Rhoda & Co 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4qWz3fODsGCQE9obSaVJ24?si=Vc5T0cITRtqTyGoAD8OLrg 🎧 Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/breakthrough-conversations-with-rhoda-co/id1808066118 📘 Buy the Book – Daughter of an Assassin https://a.co/d/fl5Jpg2 🌐 Explore The Rhoda Experience: www.therhodaexperience.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.