Both/And Motherhood

Somewhere between the pneumonia, the sinus infections, and honestly just the state of the world — three months passed. And I had done almost none of what I planned. And I'm still so fucking proud of my growth—both personally and professionally. Say what now?!In this episode I'm doing my full honest season review: what I wrote down in December, what actually happened, what didn't, and what it all keeps teaching me about why you cannot hustle your way to peace, freedom, and safety.If you've ever had the sneaking suspicion that no matter how much you do, how much you prove, how much you produce — the life that actually feels good just keeps moving further away — this one's for you.In this episode:Why I plan in seasons instead of quartersMy actual December goals vs. what really happenedThe business wins that had nothing to do with content or hustleThe personal growth that mattered more than any metricHow to do your own seasonal reviewLinks mentioned:Rooted & Thriving™ Momentum Map → https://bothandmotherhood.com/rooted-and-thriving-momentum-mapSoft Start and Full 1:1 Private Coaching with Me (April spot open!) → https://bothandmotherhood.com/private-coaching______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

Okay friends, real talk. The world feels heavy right now. Like really heavy. And if you're a mom trying to figure out what the hell to say to your kids about what's happening with ICE, immigration, the current US administration, and honestly just... everything... while also trying to run your business and keep your own nervous system from completely short-circuiting—I see you. I’m right there with you, and this episode is for you.We're talking about how to have these conversations with your kids in age-appropriate ways (because what you say to a 4-year-old is VERY different from what you say to a 13-year-old), how to show up and take actual action even when your capacity feels maxed out, and how to keep running your business when everything feels like it's falling apart.Because here's the thing: burying our heads in the sand isn't the vibe. But neither is doom-scrolling until 2am while your nervous system completely dysregulates. There's a middle ground, and we're gonna find it together.In this episode, we cover:The ONE thing your kids need from you more than information (hint: it has to do with your nervous system)How to talk to kids ages 3-18 about heavy world events without traumatizing them OR lying to themWhy teaching critical thinking skills to your kids right now might be the most important thing you doThe low, medium, and high-risk ways you can take action—even if you only have $5 and 10 minutesHow to keep your business running when you don't have the privilege to just pause everythingWhat to do when you're rebuilding your life AND trying to show up for the world (because yes, you can do both)Resources mentioned: Find out who your House and Senate representatives are: https://nn4youth.org/legislator-lookup/ National Immigration Law Center: https://www.nilc.org/action/ Call your Senators: https://sharonmcmahon.com/act If this episode hit home for you, send me a DM on Instagram. I'm here for the conversation, and I've got a free clarity call available each week if you need someone outside your head to help you figure out your next move.______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

One of the realities about being called to both of these is that our capacity (both mentally and actual time) is often very limited.And I’m no different! Especially in this season of single motherhood.So there’s no fancy show notes written, and I didn’t get this up as quickly as I’d have liked.But I’m walking my talk. And done is better than perfect. ;) This conversation has been coming up a lot with clients and friends recently, so let’s talk about the realities of being called to both present motherhood AND running a business!I hope you’ll join in the conversation in the FB group (link below!), but at the very least, I hope to normalize some of this real life stuff for you!And as a thank you for your time, I'll be giving away a $10 gift card of your choice to someone who listens to the replay (in the group or on the podcast…I know y’all are busy mamas!) and leaves a comment on the post in the group to participate in the conversation here: https://www.facebook.com/kim.difillippo1/videos/1969806670107384 ______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

You crave rest, time freedom, spaciousness, and to be able to actually do things you want to do. (Both with your kids and without.) After all, doesn’t it seem like that’s what you’re supposed to get when you run your own business?!But in reality, you never take that time. Or if you do, you feel so horribly guilty or even shameful that you don’t enjoy it and rarely do it again. Especially if your kids are home! WTF is up with that?!This is a conversation I’ve been seeing come up with clients and friends in the last week, and I think we need to talk about it! Because I believe that we all deserve that spaciousness, presence, rest, and freedom, and that it’s totally possible. But unfortunately it’s harder than it sounds to get, and I’ll explain why.That’s why I went live in my free private Facebook group, Both/And Mamas, to talk about the narratives about motherhood and being a woman that are keeping us stuck, and what to do about them.I’ll be diving into 4 of the deeply ingrained narratives about motherhood and being a woman that I see affecting so many of us, where they come from, and what to do about them so that you can start building safety in rest, spaciousness, and time for yourself.And as a thank you, I'll be giving away a $10 gift card of your choice to someone who joins me live or catches the replay (in the group or on the podcast…I know y’all are busy mamas!) and leaves a comment on the post in the group to participate in the conversation by Wednesday Oct. 9, 2024. Here's the direct link: https://www.facebook.com/kim.difillippo1/videos/511638274912632I can’t wait to hear your thoughts and experiences on this one!______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

If you’ve had clients leave, felt like selling seemed to get harder, and/or noticed a significant revenue drop in the last year, you’re not alone. (But so many of you feel like you are!)This is something I’m seeing and hearing come up A LOT this year with clients, peers, and even mentors from coaching to done-for-you services like VA/OBM and podcast management. So let’s talk about it!That’s why I went live this week in my free private Facebook group, Both/And Mamas, to talk about the shift in the online space and how to bounce back from lost revenue.I shared insights about conversations I’ve been having with clients and peers from many different business models, what I’ve seen in my own businesses, and what you can do about it to get back on track now and build your business moving forward in a way that can weather future ebbs and flows.And as a thank you, I'll be giving away a $10 gift card to someone who joined me or catches the replay (in the group or on the podcast…I know y’all are busy mamas!) and leaves a comment on the post in the group to participate in the conversation by Wed Sept. 25th--> https://www.facebook.com/1859557217884773/videos/1050681666292071I hope to see you there!Mentioned in the episode, a free clarity call with me if you want to take this deeper and more individualized: https://calendly.com/kim-mj4j/freecall ______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

In the last episode I talked about how I built my first business, left my career in medicine, and built it up to a podcast agency with a team of 11 making consistent $25k+ months in revenue. AND I shared on an IG story recently that I’ve currently got 5 part time gigs going on to add up to one full time income, including my podcast business. I’ve shared publicly that my first business is down to just me again with a small handful of podcast clients, I have this coaching business as well, and that I’ve been a single mom for the last year and a half.Both are true.So you may be wondering what happened. Why I need all those part time gigs to make one full time income when my business was making $25k+ months. Why I’m not running the podcast agency anymore.So last week I went live in my FB group, Both/And Mamas, to break it down for you (and I’m bringing you the replay via your podcast player!) with a super vulnerable BTS (behind the scenes) look at the transition including the whys, the why nots, and the lessons I’ve learned from this journey. 💙TW: DV/emotional abuse/verbal abuse/financial abuse mostly (I mention nothing at all graphic, but putting this out there so you can decide if it feels right for you to listen or not in this moment, or to take care of yourself as you do if you need it.)And as a thank you, I'll be giving away a $10 gift card to someone who joined me or catches the replay (in the group or on the podcast…I know y’all are busy mamas!) and leaves a comment on the post in the group to participate in the conversation by Wed Sept. 25th--> https://www.facebook.com/kim.difillippo1/videos/3799064613700483/ ______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

If you’re working on growing your business so you can leave a job that keeps you away from home and have more freedom to be home full time with your little(s)—especially if you have to work full time in that job to pay the bills or because there is no part time option in your current career—this one’s for you, babe. I’ve been there and in this episode I’m sharing my story of how and why I built my first business while working full time as a Physician Assistant and being a mama to a 2 and 4 year old (and the sole income earner in my family), and how I planned for and executed the transition out of my medical career and into “full time” (part time hours) entrepreneurship.I’m not going to claim it’s easy, but it IS doable, and in my experience, well worth it. 💖And as a thank you, I'll be giving away a $10 gift card to someone who joined me or catches the replay (in the group or on the podcast…I know y’all are busy mamas!) and leaves a comment on the post in the group to participate in the conversation by Wed Sept. 25th--> https://www.facebook.com/kim.difillippo1/videos/2414944605563324/______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned over the last 6 years as a mom and entrepreneur dedicated to working in part time hours is that planning ahead for what you need and want to get done in your business (and life!) is so so helpful if you want to make the most of the time you do have to work towards your goals.AND.I also have learned that if you try to map out every minute of every day and have it on such a tight schedule that if it doesn’t get done when you plan to, shit falls apart pretty quickly when kids are in the mix. 🤪 That’s why I’m bringing you this episode to break down my favorite tips and the tools—including the exact ones I use!—for doing this in a balanced way that allows you to be intentional with your time, make progress towards your goals, decrease the mental load you’re carrying, AND leave room for presence with your family, schedule and capacity changes, and for life to life. 💙And as a thank you, I'll be giving away a $10 gift card to someone who joined me or catches the replay (in the group or on the podcast…I know y’all are busy mamas!) and leaves a comment on the post in the group to participate in the conversation by Wed Sept. 25th--> https://www.facebook.com/kim.difillippo1/videos/434480278961257/ Mentioned in the episode:Here's the link to my free custom day planner sheets! → https://both-and-motherhood.ck.page/dayplanner Kate Northrup’s Do Less Planner (I'm not an affiliate or anything, just love it!): https://shop.katenorthrup.com/pro.../digital-do-less-planner ______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

It's been a hot minute since my last episode as single mama summer summered this year, ;) but school starts back up tomorrow and I'm BACK! In this episode, I'm sharing what we’ve been up to this summer and a big new change in how I show up online and share value (as well as market) for my business. And I'm breaking down what that looks like, what it means for the podcast, and why I'm making the switch. I'm so pumped to be back with you (and getting back into the school routine!)______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

When you’re really working to create the life you desire in your personal life, motherhood, individuality, and business, yes, strategy IS an important piece there. But another BIG piece is mindset.But when you’re overwhelmed, sleep deprived, under-resourced, or schedules change unexpectedly…it’s natural to slip into a not so positive headspace—even if you consider yourself a pretty positive person generally! And I know that time is extra limited during the summer when the kids are home. That’s why I created this episode for you, using one of my favorite mindset practices to do when things are busy (like the summer!), sharing many of the exact affirmations I’m working on for myself lately—plus a few that have really resonated with my clients—because I think many of them will likely resonate with you as well.So if you need a little mindset pick-me-up or just want some inspo for your own affirmations game, pop those earbuds in and listen to this as often as you want when it’s the most easeful for you!In this episode, you’ll hear:How to customize these—or any!—affirmations so that they work for YOU and your brain betterSome of my fave tweaks to try if affirmations haven’t generally worked well for you in the pastMy current favorite affirmations you can listen to on repeat (starting at 9:19)And THIS bonus tip to make them even more effectiveMentioned in the episode:The ThinkUp app: https://thinkup.me/ (for iPhone or Android)Connect with me:Join me in my new FREE private Facebook group, Both/And Mamas! --> https://www.facebook.com/groups/bothandmamas Send me a DM on FB: https://www.facebook.com/kim.difillippo1/ Or on IG: https://instagram.com/bothandmotherhood ______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

Sure, you may have started your business with the idea of being your own boss or making more money or just trying to figure out how to work from home. But I’m willing to bet that it was actually the desire for FREEDOM of some sort that was underneath your path here. Sound true? Maybe it was the freedom to do something just for you, to work around your kids, to make money for yourself so that you weren’t dependent on a partner, or any other flavor…it’s usually there underneath this path to entrepreneurship.I’m all about helping you create freedom in your life and business and I’d love for you to join me for this episode as I help you connect (or reconnect with!) YOUR version of both/and motherhood freedom, how to start embodying it, and why it’s so important to get clarity around. In this episode, you’ll hear:Expanding and exploring the definition of freedomA mutually hard part and blessing of running your own businessHow I feel about the idea of “having it all”A breakdown of freedom vs your “why”How to find and connect—or reconnect—with YOUR version of both/and motherhood freedom so that you can cultivate it faster______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

Yes, two huge pieces of your life right now are your motherhood and your business. Mine, too! But it’s not the whole picture, right? That’s why this week I’m breaking down an expanded definition of Both/And Motherhood, how to reconnect with your inner badass self no matter what phase of motherhood you're in, and why all of this is so important in helping you create the freedom, balance, confidence, and joy that you want in your business and overall life.In this episode, you’ll also hear:- A BTS (behind the scenes) on my own business and work evolutions- THIS step that often gets overlooked when trying to create the business and life you desire (and the freedom you want!)- A short exercise you can do to start reconnecting to your inner badass outside of motherhood and business so that you can start building an aligned, freedom-first life and business______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

Love it or hate it, summer break is coming. (Or maybe already here for your family!) This long break from school—and childcare!—brings unique challenges to those of us balancing this both/and of motherhood and running a business from home. So if you're in the boat where summer vacation from school stresses you out, this episode is for you! I'm breaking down 3 keys to help you enjoy this summer more both in your business and with your family!Want to chat about getting in your pocket 1:1 support ALL summer for just $222/month? Book a free discovery call here: https://calendly.com/kim-mj4j/discovery-callConnect with me on IG: https://instagram.com/bothandmotherhood______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

When you’re holding both motherhood (especially to multiple kiddos) and running a business, your availability and capacity is going to be different than many of the people you see online. In fact, it’s gonna be unique even among other mamas out there. So YOUR business model should be unique as well. So as we roll towards (or into!) summer vacation where many kids are home from school, I’m bringing you this episode breaking down my top 3 tips to make your business as unique as you are, so that it actually supports you and your family (and I’m not just talking financially!) all year round. You’ll hear things to consider as you evaluate your unique situation, suggestions to make your business more aligned with this season of motherhood—both for you done for you/service based business babes and coaches alike!—and an inside look at what this looks like for my family. Connect with me: On Instagram: https://instagram.com/bothandmotherhood Or book a free 45 min coaching call with me: https://calendly.com/kim-mj4j/businessandbalancecall ______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

Feeling out of whack, out of balance, or just plain overwhelmed and tired and not even sure where to start to make things better? This episode is for you, babe.I’m walking you through a quick (and simple!) exercise you can do TODAY—and as often as needed—to help you narrow in on where to start tweaking things to get you into a sense of balance in YOUR life and business. (And also to see how much progress you’re making!) Let’s go!______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

Your motherhood is a huge part of who you are and the life that you live, and it’s also important to YOUR humans in your audience. But if you’re like me any many of my clients who resonate as introverted and/or shy, the thought of sharing your face let alone your kids and real life motherhood can feel confusing and terrifying. That’s why I recorded this short (for me! ha!) episode for you breaking down several different ways you can share this part of yourself in your online presence while still maintaining you and your family’s privacy and safety, the “rules” I live by here, and why it’s important to share this (in a way that feels good to you). ______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

School holidays can throw you off (even when you know they’re coming) when you’re navigating the both/and of mom life and entrepreneurship. So in this episode, I want to share my favorite tips—both mindset and practical—to start thriving and not just surviving during them. Plus, I’m sharing a very real BTS (behind the scenes) of a day in the life over here for this mompreneur during spring break! ______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

If you’ve been feeling discouraged with something in your business, this episode is for you, babe. Today I'm bringing you a little story about teaching my son to ride his bike for the first time this weekend, because the advice and his journey of learning to ride was SO resonant for wobbles as you grow and scale your business as well, and I just know you'll get it as a fellow mama. :)  ______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

Your kids are sick, the baby was up all night again, you've had some insomnia, etc...you're just in a FUNK and cranky and feel off...if you're feeling it today, mama, I see you. I get there, too. That's why I recorded this quick episode for you with 3 of my favorite quick tips to help get you out of that funk and through the rough days!______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.

I’m guessing you started your business because you, too, wanted to get to actually BE there and experience your life, right? For your kids, for your relationships, and for yourself. And you’ve probably figured out that you don’t magically get a sense of balance, freedom, and spaciousness just because you have your own business (in fact, I often see it feel the other way around at first!) BUT it IS possible. And it’s my mission to help you get there. That’s why today I want to talk to you about balance. I’m breaking down what balance does and doesn’t mean to me, why it’s now a core piece of my work, and my fave practical and somatic tips to help you start improving your sense of balance NOW (even if you came into this episode thinking the idea of balance is a myth!) I’m diving into: The overarching desire I hear from other mom entrepreneneursHow to support your sense of balance when your business need more of you, and when your family needs more of youCalling BS on some of the false ideas of balance in our societyMy thoughts on the term “work/life balance”THIS biggest place I’ve seen clients get tripped up on around boundaries with work (and a simple fix)The struggle of working from home amidst friends and family who have traditional jobsPractical and somatic steps you can start taking TODAY to start increasing your own sense of balance and resource yourselfAnd more! ______Want support implementing this? DM me on Instagram (@bothandmotherhood) or visit https://bothandmotherhood.com to learn about working together 1:1 and book a free call.