Big Mood, Little Mood with Daniel M. Lavery

Danny Lavery welcomes Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg, author of the forthcoming book: On Repentance and Repair: Making Amends In An Unapologetic World.Lavery and Ruttenberg tackle two letters. First, from someone wondering if she should let her fiancée know that she doesn’t like her friends. Another letter is contemplating returning to a religious cult after experiencing the outside world. Plus, a behind the scenes preview of Rabbi Ruttenberg’s forthcoming book, On Repentance and Repair: Making Amends In An Unapologetic World.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Michael Gerber, the editor and publisher of The American Bystander, an all-star print humor quarterly. Lavery and Gerber take on two letters. First, from someone trying to stop her girlfriend’s mom from insulting her daughter as being “too butch”. Another letter writer is concerned about a one caring neighbor who has now turned creepy. Plus, Lavery asks Gerber about his favorite zines. Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Danny Lavery welcomes Kyle Lukoff, a pre-tipping point transsexual who used to be a school librarian but now writes children's books full-time.Lavery and Lukoff tackle two two letters. First, from someone who’s close friend is shaming them for having a long distance relationship. Another letter writer is overwhelmed with the choices at a sperm bank. Plus, Lukoff talks about publishing his first board book. Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Colette Arrand, a transsexual poet from Athens, Georgia. She is the author of the poetry collection Hold Me Gorilla Monsoon, and is the editor of FanFyte, the wrestling section of Fanbyte Media.Lavery and Arrand take on two letters. First, from someone who can’t stop thinking about their partner’s dating history. Another letter writer identifies as a lesbian, but is getting push-back from her friends. Plus, Lavery asks Arrand about her lifelong passion for poetry and wrestling.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Wendy Lee, an associate professor in the English Department at New York University. She studies and writes about the history of the novel and philosophies of emotions and is currently working on a new book called Jane Austen & the End of Life.Lavery and Lee tackle two letters. First, from someone who wants to have a third child, despite her husband’s concern about passing along a rare genetic condition. Another letter writer is depressed about getting cut off by her close friend, and is wondering how much she can push for answers. Plus Lavery and Lee discuss Jane Austen and her devoted fans, or “Janeites”.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Ali Vingiano is a filmmaker and actor, whose work includes writing and producing for the Emmy-winning series The Morning Show, and starring in her first feature film, The End Of Us.Lavery and Vingiano take on two letters. First, from someone who is exhausted by people trying to guess why she is ill. Another letter writer is mortified that a neighbor has started angrily knocking on their door while they’re having sex. Plus, a deep dive into Vingiano’s first feature film, The End Of Us.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Give the gift of Plus to a fellow Slate fan and they’ll receive all the benefits of membership: unlimited reading, ad-free listening, bonus content, and so much more. Learn more here.Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Olivia Charmaine Morris, Founder & CEO of Black Monarch Entertainment. Her new IG Live lifestyle series, "The Tea," invites celebrity guests to participate in intimate conversations. Lavery and Charmaine Morris tackle three letters. First, from someone wondering if the grief they feel for a teacher from their distant past is out of proportion. Another letter writer is trying not to get discouraged in finding a musical mentor. Our final letter is from someone whose close friends always start dating each other.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Edgar Gomez, the author of the forthcoming memoir High-Risk Homosexual, about coming-of-age as a queer, Latinx person in a culture of machismo. Lavery and Gomez take on two letters. First, from someone wondering how to confront their subtly transphobic boss. Another letter writer is wondering what the rules are for dating when you are a pre-T trans guy. Gomez takes us “behind the scenes” into the making of his memoir. Plus, a listener update from “Sad in the Southwest”.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Jo Livingstone, the culture staff writer for The New Republic, and the most recent recipient of the Nona Balakian Citation for Excellence in Reviewing from the National Book Critics' Circle.Lavery and Livingstone take on two letters. First, from an office manager who wants to make sure everyone feels free to use their preferred pronouns. Another letter writer is overwhelmed by her friend’s requests to “pray for them”. Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Tori Bedford, a writer and journalist based in Boston.Lavery and Bedford take on two letters. First, from a letter writer who isn’t sure how to let her new social circle know that they are not transgender. Then, another letter writer is wondering how to create better boundaries with her new, overbearing mother-in-law. Plus Bedford discusses her recent work on the “Mass and Cass” area of Boston.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Grace Bonney, author of Collective Wisdom: Lessons, Inspiration, and Advice from Women over 50.Lavery and Bonney take on two letters. First, from a letter writer who’s scared to let his family know that his passion is poetry. Another letter writer is trying to figure out how to stop solving everyone’s crises, and have a life of their own. Plus, a deep dive into Bonney’s Collective Wisdom.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Folu Akinkuotu, the creator of Unsnackable, a newsletter about rare and inaccessible snacks around the world.Lavery and Akinkuoto tackle two letters: First, from a letter writer who thinks her boyfriend should save his life and quit his job. Another letter writer is wondering how to talk about weight loss without offending anyone at work. Plus, the story behind Unsnackable.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes adrienne maree brown, an author and the writer in residence at the Emergent Strategy Ideation Institute. brown recently published Grievers, the first in her novella series with Black Dawn Imprint. She’s also the co-host of the podcasts, How To Survive The End Of The World, and Octavia’s Parables.Lavery and brown tackle two letters: First, from a letter writer can’t help her spouse to help out while she’s pregnant. Another letter writer is afraid they might have ruined a friendship after saying too much while drunk. Plus, a deep dive into brown’s Grievers.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Daniel Cohen, a Ph.D. chemical biologist working at a small biotech startup that is developing a new generation of antibiotics and anticancer drugs. Lavery and Cohen take on three letters: First, from a letter writer whose laid-up roommate is barking demands. Another letter writer is wondering how to get started in getting involved in community issues. Plus, a check-in into the world of chemical biology. Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Melissa Hughs, an R&D Scientist who designs medical tests. Lavery and Hughs take on three letters: First, from a letter writer who wants to cut off their parents, but not the rest of their family. Another letter writer is wondering how to establish online friendships. Finally, a lightning round question about how to introduce your trans teenager.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Lux Alptraum, the creator and co-host of Audible’s Say You’re Sorry, a podcast about public apologies — the ones that worked, the ones that failed, and, most of all, the ones that we can all learn from.Lavery and Alptraum read two letters: First, from a letter writer who is wondering how to get her friends to back off from flirting with her girlfriend. Another writer wants to overcome her guilt for mocking her date on social media. Plus, reframing apologies as good things.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday. Sign up for Slate Plus now and get $25 off your first year.Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Uli Beutter Cohen, a New York City–based documentarian, artist, and the creator of Subway Book Review. Her first book, Between the Lines: Stories from the Underground, will be published on October 26th.Lavery and Beutter Cohen tackle two letters: First, from a letter writer who is wondering how to trust a once close friend who hurt her. Another writer wants to overcome her jealousy to experiment with an open marriage. Plus a deep dive in Beutter Cohen’s new book, Between the Lines.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday. Sign up for Slate Plus now and get $25 off your first year.Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Margaret Josephs, author of the memoir, Caviar Dreams, Tuna Fish Budget: How To Survive In Business and Life. Josephs also hosts a podcast with the same Lavery and Josephs tackle three letters: First, from a letter writer who discovered some alarming issues after becoming her grandmother's bookkeeper. Another writer doesn’t know whether to share or destroy her box of letters written during a tough time. The final letter is from someone questioning the “rules” of ghosting. Plus, a deep dive into Joseph’s new book.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday. Sign up for Slate Plus now and get $25 off your first year.Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Catherine Baab-Muguira, author Poe for Your Problems: Uncommon Advice from History’s Least Likely Self-Help Guru.Lavery and Baab-Muguira tackle three letters: First, from a letter writer who’s feeling overwhelmed in her polyamorous relationship. Another writer is wondering if she should tell the people who live in her childhood home about a secret room. The final letter is from someone wondering if they should rethink giving away part of their inheritance. Plus, a deep dive into Baab-Muguira’s new book.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Angelica Jade Bastién, essayist for New York Magazine’s site, Vulture.Lavery and Bastién tackle two letters: First, from a writer who is wondering if it’s reasonable to revive a casual friendship. The second letter is from someone who is wondering if she should identify herself as disabled. Plus, Lavery and Bastién talk about how Billy Wilder films can often be just what the doctor ordered.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Divya Victor, a poet, author, and an Associate Professor of English at Michigan State University. She recently published CURB (Nightboat Books), which documents how immigrants and Americans navigate the liminal sites of everyday living.Lavery and Victor tackle two letters: First, from a letter writer who is wondering how to tell her friend that she may have married a criminal. Another letter writer is wondering if she should just fail most of her students, since online classes have made it easier to plagiarize. Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Marissa Miller, author of Pretty Weird: Overcoming Impostor Syndrome and Other Oddly Empowering Lessons (Skyhorse) Lavery and Miller tackle two letters: First, from a letter writer who is wondering if she should put the energy into exposing her ex-husband’s lies. Another letter writer is wondering how to keep their really bad FOMO from upsetting their partner. Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes journalist Zack Budryk, and photographer Charlie Stern. Together, Budryk and Stern co-host the relationship podcast Stim4Stim. Lavery, Budryk and Stern tackle two letters. First, from a letter writer who is wondering why they feel scorn from strangers on a daily basis. Another letter writer who has fallen in love with her therapist. Plus, a deep dive into how the Stim4Stim podcast came to be.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Kate Duffy, a licensed clinical social worker who has worked as a therapist in a variety of settings, including shelters, residential group homes, and outpatient clinics. Lavery and Duffy read two letters: First, from a letter writer who is wondering how to get her dad to stop talking about family she has no interest in. Another letter writer is wondering how to combat loneliness while living on a sparsely populated island.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Anna Rubanova and Adam Bozarth, who are both founding members of the sketch comedy group, Left Handed Radio. They are also both producers at the Forever Dog podcast network.Lavery, Rubanova, and Bozarth tackle two letters: First, from a letter writer who is wondering how to get her boyfriend to stop making insensitive comments. Another letter writer needs help procuring weed for the first time. Plus, a lightning round about when friends ask you to keep their infidelities a secret.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Abby McEnany, mainstay of the Chicago improvisational comedy scene, and the creator of the Showtime comedy series, Work In Progress, and Celeste Pechous, a writer and actress, who also stars in Work In Progress, portraying Abby’s best friend, Campbell. Lavery, McEnany, and Pechous tackle three letters: First, from a letter writer who is wondering how to find the right therapist. Another letter writer is wondering how to explain her asexuality to her family. The last letter is about someone who feels they lose their friends when they have babies. Plus, a deep dive into season 2 of Showtime’s critically acclaimed series, Work In Progress.Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Jenée Desmond-Harris, Slate’s Dear Prudence. She was previously a senior staff editor at the New York Times, where she is now a contributing opinion writer.Lavery and Desmond-Harris dig into two letters: First, from a letter writer who is wondering how to handle her friend’s bestie who always makes her feel bad. Another letter writer is wondering how to live with a body that feels like an enemy. Plus, two Dear Prudences compare notes.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Dr. Paula Stone Williams, an internationally known speaker on gender equity, LGBTQ advocacy, and religious tolerance.Lavery and Williams dig into two letters: First, from a letter writer who is wondering how to crank up the family support for a non-binary niece. Another letter writer is wondering how to know if their decision to undergo top surgery is the right one. Plus, a deep dive into Williams new book, As A Woman: What I Learned about Power, Sex, and the Patriarchy after I Transitioned.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Kat Chow, a reporter and author of the forthcoming memoir, Seeing Ghosts.Lavery and Chow tackle two letters: First, from a letter writer who is wondering how to trust a partner with a history of cheating. Another letter writer is wondering if her emotional affair with her best friend should be taken more seriously. Also, Chow takes a deep dive into Seeing Ghosts.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes author Rebecca Carroll, who recently published her critically acclaimed memoir, Surviving the White Gaze.Lavery and Carroll give advice to a letter writer who is wondering how to distance herself from her abusive mom. Also, Carroll goes in depth about the experiences that inspired her memoir, and a lighting round question about a conservative co-worker. Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Julian K. Jarboe, author of the LAMBDA Award-winning short story collection, Everyone on the Moon is Essential Personnel. Lavery and Jarboe give advice to a letter writer who is wondering if her friend group will recover after discovering a secret relationship among two members. Also in this episode, Jarboe reads an excerpt from their piece, Trauma As Morality.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes songwriter, novelist, and leader of the American band the Mountain Goats, John Darnielle. Lavery and Darnielle give advice to a letter writer who is wondering if she should align with her partner's religion. Also in this episode, Darnielle discusses The Mountain Goats just-released collection of songs, Dark In Here.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Hallie Bateman, an illustwriter based in Los Angeles. She is the author of three books, including What To Do When I’m Gone, and Directions.Lavery and Bateman give advice to a letter writer questioning her own ethics about her decision to stop foster parenting. Also in this episode, the characteristics of mommy's girls, foursome etiquette, and a deep dive about Bateman’s new book, Directions.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up now!Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes writer and actor Mara Wilson.Lavery and Wilson give advice to a letter writer who is wondering if she should disclose her depression to her boss and risk jeopardizing her job. Also, stories about mean grandmothers, and flailing hotel clerks. Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday: sign up nowNeed advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Sophie Lewis, the author of essays about octopus sex, theoretical screeds about capitalism, and numerous texts about family abolition, including the 2019 book Full Surrogacy Now: Feminism Against Family. Lavery and Lewis give advice to a letter writer who is wondering how to set boundaries with a family that is siding with her abusive father. They also discuss a “soft version” of family abolition, and take a deep dive into the novel, Detransition, Baby.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday, sign up now for just $1 for your first month.Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes Inkoo Kang, a TV critic for The Washington Post, and host of the podcast, All About Almodóvar. Lavery and Kang give advice to a letter writer experiencing job burnout and wondering if she’ll feel hopeless forever. They also take a deep dive with their own experience with job burnout, which somehow leads to a discussion on who was actually wearing wigs on the TV show Mare of Easttown.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday, sign up now for just $1 for your first month.Email: [email protected] advice? Send Danny a question here.Production by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes actress Gates McFadden. McFadden is the host of the new podcast, Gates McFadden Investigates: Who Do You Think You Are? Lavery and McFadden give advice to a letter writer who’s not thrilled about his wife’s botox injections. Also, McFadden talks about her transformative experience at the Jacques Lecoq school in Paris, and connecting with her former Star Trek co-stars on her new podcast.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday, sign up now for just $1 for your first month.Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Production by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danny Lavery welcomes author of How to Write an Autobiographical Novel, Alexander Chee. Lavery and Chee give advice to a letter writer whose partner revealed his abusive, jealous personality only after moving in together. Also, Lavery and Chee talk about finding a good therapist, couples therapy via 90s films, and all sorts of monogamies.Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday, sign up now for just $1 for your first month.Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Production by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this first episode of Big Mood, Little Mood, Danny Lavery starts to shed his almost 5 years of being “Dear Prudence”, and stretches out with his first guest, Aubrey Gordon. Gordon is a columnist for SELF Magazine and the author of What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat. She also co-hosts Maintenance Phase, a podcast that debunks and decodes weight loss and wellness trends.Lavery and Gordon give advice to a letter writer who is unsure where she stands with her husband after 18 years, and another letter writer whose partner’s picky eating may be a health risk. Also, Lavery and Gordon chop it up on diet culture, books tours, John Candy as Orson Wells, Warhammer, and so, so much more.Slate Plus members get an extra episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday, Sign up now for just $1 for your first month.Need advice? Send Danny a question here.Email: [email protected] by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Listeners: This will be the last week of the Dear Prudence podcast, as Danny Lavery is ending his run as Prudence. But keep listening to this feed—Danny’s new show, Big Mood, Little Mood with Danny Lavery, will premiere next week!Prudence is joined this week by Kate Duffy, a licensed clinical social worker in New York. Prudie and Duffy dig into letters about what to do when your husband bites your finger hard during an argument, should you intervene when you hear a neighbor yelling at a child, how to handle finding out that your friend group is always hanging out without you, how to know if a friendship with your one-time bestie is still salvageable. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode this podcast every Friday. Sign up now to listen. Production by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Prudence is joined this week by Maddy Court, a writer and zinemaker. Her first book, The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend is My Girlfriend, an almanac of relationship advice for queer women with art and comics by Kelsey Wroten, is forthcoming from Chronicle Books.Prudie and Court tackle letters about how to protect your daughter from sexual harassment in her first restaurant job, should you tell your mom to stop talking about how much she regrets her past, what actions to take when you find out that your ex-husband cheated with your now deceased mother, what to do when you and your husband don’t agree on how to handle an your increasingly aggressive dog. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen. Email: [email protected] Production by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Prudence is joined this week by Anna Sale, the creator and host of Death, Sex & Money, the podcast from WNYC Studios. Her new book, Let’s Talk About Hard Things, will be published on May 4th.Prudie and Sale dig into letters about whether you should join a lawsuit against an academic advisor who was both harmful and helpful, what to consider when your wife donates money to strangers on Instagram, how to handle a sister that needs to share every little detail about her life with you.Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen. Email: [email protected] Production by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Prudence is joined this week by Harry Eskin, a moving-image archivist based in Los Angeles.Prudie and Eskin dig into letters about if you should apologize for past conversations where you claim a heritage that you truly don’t identify as, how to talk to your mother about the way she neglected your sibling when you were children, should you preemptively write an apology on Linkedin for a racist costume you wore for your employer 10 years ago.Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen. Email: [email protected] Production by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Prudence is joined this week by Charlie Jane Anders, the author of Victories Greater Than Death, the first book in a new young-adult trilogy coming in April 2021, along with the forthcoming short story collection Even Greater Mistakes. She’s also the co-host of the podcast, Our Opinions Are Correct, along with Annalee Newitz.Prudie and Anders tackle letters about how to support your brother in his new relationship when you’re uncomfortable with their age gap, what actions to take when you’re living with family who neglect the needs of their toddler, what to consider when your teenager prefers the pronoun “it”.Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen. Email: [email protected] Production by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Prudence is joined this week by Leigh Bardugo, the New York Times-bestselling author of Ninth House and the creator of the Grishaverse (coming soon to Netflix). Her short stories can be found in multiple anthologies, including Best American Science Fiction & Fantasy.Prudie and Bardugo dig into letters about how to support your non-binary child while avoiding their abusive father, how to handle your boss’s wife who’s always sharing hateful gossip with you, what to consider when you miss a relative that may not like you, what to consider when intellectual debates with your husband always turn into arguments.Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen. Email: [email protected] Production by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Prudence is joined this week by Sarah Jaffe, the author of Work Won’t Love You Back: How Devotion to Our Jobs Keeps Us Exploited, Exhausted and Alone, and Necessary Trouble: Americans in Revolt, both from Bold Type Books. She’s also the co-host, with Michelle Chen, of Dissent magazine’s Belabored podcast.Prudie and Jaffe tackle letters about how to support your undocumented partner through their job search, what to consider when your partner stays in touch with her past abusive partners, what to do when your childhood fib about having hearing loss follows you into adulthood.Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen. Email: [email protected] Production by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Prudence is joined this week by Claire Cox, a writer and high school teacher and author of the forthcoming novel Silver Beach. Prudie and Cox dig into letters about what to do when your wife wants you to review all her work emails before she hits send, how to steer clear of your abusive mom so you can see your siblings, what to do when your boyfriend gets defensive when you make suggestions that could help him at work, how to handle a cool reaction from colleagues at your decision to leave teaching in public school for private school.Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen. Email: [email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Prudence is joined this week by Jaya Saxena, a staff writer at Eater. Her latest book, Crystal Clear, an essay collection about how humans assign meaning and power to objects, was published in December with Quirk Books. Prudie and Saxena tackle letters about how to handle a sister who’s adamant that you change to a vegan diet, how to tell your husband that you will file for divorce if he gets a pet, what actions to take when your sister-in-law is neglecting her baby, how to handle a family that is prematurely planning your wedding just because you’re dating someone nice.Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen. Email: [email protected] Production by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Prudence is joined this week by Rax King, the James Beard award-nominated writer of Tacky (forthcoming from Vintage Books in 2021) as well as the host of the podcast Low Culture Boil. Prudie and King dig into letters about whether you should hire someone who shares a last name with the most prominent Nazi who ever lived, what to consider when your wife tells the same stories over and over again, what actions to take with a partner who asks you questions with irritation about every thing you do, how to express to your therapist that it may be time to take a break, how to be less judgmental of your friends on social media.Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen. Email: [email protected] Production by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.