BHE 126 - THE COURTNEY REJECTION EPISODE [PART I]

Courtney is with us this week to work her magic on rejection.

— (4:43) Courtney is here to bring the pain and hear rejection types suffer / What’s been opening up for Emeka?
— (8:49) How rejection types set the dynamic up so it doesn’t work — a pre-rejection frame
— (13:10) Courtney gives a recap/overview of object relations and why it matters
— (15:02) Our O.R. is a blueprint for how relationships need to be setup in order for us to feel like a person
— (16:24) What separates rejection from attachment & frustration is the cutting off from awareness of the original wound and preemptively shutting down the possibility of being touched there again
— (22:44) You reject something by over-affirming and leaning into its opposite 
— (31:19) 8s seek out vulnerability and heartfulness in others not because it activates their heart, but because the dynamic reinforces what the 8 structure is already reinforcing
— (36:29) Emeka realizing that as long as attraction is framed within the experience he’s activating then rejection can’t happen on the basis of heart to heart connection
— (40:02) The rejection types are aware that their definition of personhood is a fraction of whole and therefore feel separate and unable to meet others fully
— (42:22) Why do rejection types seek out relationships?
— (47:36) Aloneness as a baseline for rejection types

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