THE AFTERCARE OF BOUNDARIES: How the body heals after Truth-Telling
Beyond the Spot · Tracy Gantlin-Monroy, MDiv, LPC
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Show Notes
In this episode, Tracy Gantlin-Monroy, MDiv, LPC, offers a grounded, decolonized exploration of what happens after we set a boundary. While Episode 27 unpacked the complexity of no contact and relational rupture, Episode 28 moves into the healing phase that most conversations skip: aftercare.
Drawing from Polyvagal Theory, somatic psychology, intergenerational trauma, Brainspotting, and liberatory practice, Tracy names the nervous-system shifts that occur once a boundary is set — and why shame, guilt, collapse, freeze, or loneliness often surface afterward.
Through somatic invitations and Brainspotting-inspired interventions, listeners learn how to:
- regulate after relational rupture
- grieve the roles they once held
- metabolize inherited guilt
- understand the silence that follows separation
- rebuild identity from a rooted, regulated place
This episode offers language, compassion, and nervous-system clarity for anyone navigating the emotional terrain of boundary-setting and the sacred work that follows.
This is not just an episode about saying “no.” It’s about becoming yourself again afterward.
“A boundary protects you in the moment; aftercare heals the parts of you that learned to live without protection.”
Happy to share references for further engagement:
- Porges, S. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory.
- Levine, P. (1997). Waking the Tiger.
- Grand, D. (2013). Brainspotting.
- Menakem, R. (2017). My Grandmother’s Hands.
- hooks, bell. (2000). All About Love.
- Bowen, M. (1978). Family Therapy in Clinical Practice.
- Ogden, P., Minton, K., Pain, C. (2006). Trauma and the Body.