Episode 319: Want More Profits? Here Is What You Need To Do

Have you had time lately to be intentional about your self-development? As a leader, because that is what you are, you need to continue to grow and develop. And when we are not intentional about it, influences come in and alter our ways of thinking. Today I want you to think about the things that influence your life. What are you reading, who are you spending time with, and how are you developing in a way that will benefit you and your business? If you knew it was as simple as doing this during brushing your teeth or getting ready in the morning, would it be something you prioritize? Because today I am telling you it is not about having enough time, but prioritizing self-development to help you and your business grow. Biggest Takeaways: 2:37 Understand how you are feeling/ why you feel the way you feel 8:49 Don’t react, respond 9:12 Does misery love company? 10:15 What type of support are you surrounding yourself with? 12:51 What can you do about this? Are you intentional about self-development Recommendations: Self-development begins by being intentional about what we are doing and who we are surrounding ourselves with. As a business owner, it is imperative to be surrounded by people who are helping you grow, develop and accomplish your biggest goals. In the Mastermind Group, you will find a community of like-minded owners who are ready to grow and scale their businesses. They prioritize self-development and lean on one another for support and encouragement. With years of HR questions answered, 1:1 support with Bella, guest speakers, and a plethora of support, the Mastermind group focuses on self-development and growth. Links: Better Marketing With Bella Bella Vasta Instagram Mastermind Group Episode 139: The Scientific Way You Can Increase Your Productivity 39% Brain.fm Transcript This is episode 319 of Bella in Your Business. Hi there, I'm Bella Vasta from Jump Consulting. You might know me from CBS, NBC, Fox, Huffington Post, Entrepreneur, or maybe you've seen me speak on stage or read my book, The Four Dogs That Every Business Owner Needs. In any case, get ready because you're about to get your hashtag Bella Butt Kickin' in this next episode of Bella in Your Business. So what do you say? Let's get ready and jump. Welcome to another episode of Bella in Your Business. My name is Bella Vasta. Today, I'm here to talk about more profits. You have heard me say time and time again, the ship can only sail as good as the captain of the ship. Am I right? You can't see the iceberg ahead if you're down on the deck mopping the floors or better yet taking a nap because you're so exhausted. So guys, do you want to have more profits? I'm going to tell you exactly what you need to do right now. Because so many of us are running around like chickens with our heads cut off or with blinders on, or we're just focusing on the tiny little pictures and we're not really soaring high above the clouds like an eagle at 30,000 feet. Actually, do eagles soar at 30,000 feet? Anyone know? Let me know. You know what I mean. And I want you to ask yourself, what are you doing with your time? What are you reading? What are you listening to? What are you watching? I want you to understand that you do not need to have all the time in the world to do things. It starts so simply. It starts so little. It starts with listening to an audiobook while you're brushing your teeth, washing your face, and maybe you're, maybe not, putting on makeup or moisturizer. It starts as little as that. These are all aspects that are huge influences of your own personal self-development. And as a business leader—because you are a leader—you need to be developing and growing. If you're not intentional about it, then what's going to happen is the nightly news or the morning news or the different radio stations or the different Facebook groups that just happen to come across your feed or on your TV are influencing you. You are either directly controlling your influences—where you spend your time, what you're reading, what you're listening to, what you're watching—or you're passively letting it happen. Which are you right now? Are you living intentionally? So the first thing I want to talk to you about is, do you understand how you're feeling? Do you understand why you feel the way you feel or why you're triggered by something? Are you someone who gets angry easily? Or something sets you off and you just get flustered? Because usually, anger is behind some sort of undealt pain. I got a message—God, I'm going to go here—I got a message this Sunday over Thanksgiving. I posted a graphic and it said, “Gratefulness cannot exist while you're depressed.” And I got that message because I've read that multiple times in many different places. And I agree with it. But something happened. One, I had a spelling error in it. And gosh darn it, this is why I don't do my own graphics. But I did my own graphic this time. And you know what? That's me. I'm always going to be a C student. I'm not perfect. I'm not. And I understand that while I run a marketing agency, Better Marketing with Bella, that's why we have an editor and that's why we have three eyeballs that things go through. But this was just something that was on my heart and I wanted to share it. And I put it on this graphic of me holding my daughter's hand, walking away from the camera. I put her and me in regular color and blurred out the background. And I just felt bad because I know that holidays aren't easy for everybody. I didn't want to just be like, “Happy Thanksgiving!” like an Instagram best selfie. I really truly meant to just remind people that it's basically impossible to be sad if you're there counting your blessings. And again, through my own self-development, through the things I read and people I listen to, it's true. It's like, you can change your brain. Those people that think like, “I'm always this way,” or “This is who I am,” or “This is just the way life is,”—I don't subscribe to that. And I don't think you do either. That's why you're listening. But anyway, so I'm sitting there, it's eight o'clock at night and my daughter, before she goes to bed, she always likes to cuddle with me on the couch. She has Spotify Kids and she puts on Christian lullabies. I'm sitting there and just kind of scrolling through TikTok quietly on the other hand. And I got a ping—ping!—and it was a message from this person I hadn’t corresponded with since 2018. It was a person from one of the episodes I told you guys about trolls. And it kind of knocked me off my socks. Here's what it said. She said, and I quote, “Ignore the horrible grammar and spelling. We're used to that from you, but you legit are saying if you're grateful, you can't be depressed. So if I'm depressed, I'm not grateful. Is that what it says?” I said, “No. What it means is if you're feeling depressed, count your blessings. It reprograms your thoughts for the moment that you can control your thoughts.” And she said, “It's a horrible post, especially this time of year and very triggering.” And I was like, “Thanks for sharing. Obviously, I didn’t mean to trigger. I meant to empathize with all who hate the holidays or it's not a good time. It's advice I learned from the gurus that was incredibly helpful to me and something I do on the regular. Start feeling depressed? Count my blessings. I'm sorry if it triggered you. I obviously wouldn't intentionally do that.” And then she goes, “I'm not triggered, but your post is viral and not in a good way. People are sharing the post and saying how heartless it is. I don't follow you and I'm not on any of your pages, yet I've seen it three times.” And I was like, “Well, so what was your intention of telling me this?” And she said, because she thinks I have good things to offer, but then I'm alienating a larger group and she's not sure if that was my intention. There's so much to unpack there. And I debated on whether or not I was going to actually tell you guys about this, but you know, you guys are all like my audio besties, right? And here's the thing—it kind of goes into what I'm talking about today because it's like, why was she or someone else triggered? I definitely know that I'm not for everyone, but at the end of the day, my heart is in the right place. And if I trigger people to the point that they want to call me names or talk bad about me online, then that's completely their prerogative. They can do that. But to all of my audio besties right now, you guys know my heart. And while the old me would go on a tirade of trying to explain myself to other people, if these people want to go talk in the dark corners of the internet about me and not ever actually bring it to me like this person actually did, then I guess I can't really do much about that, right? And I know that there are people in your businesses that have said things about your business that you don't believe to be true. But for whatever reason, they think it's true. What happened is they were triggered. That’s the word—triggered. And so when I talk about understanding how you're feeling, do you understand why you feel the way you feel when you're triggered by something? Is it a reaction? Is it, “My gosh, I do have depression, and I do struggle with it, and I hate Bella because Bella thinks I could just count my blessings and not be depressed”? No, that's not what I'm talking about. But where is that anger coming from? Where is that resentment? Where is the defensiveness coming from? What about it fires you up so much that you can't actually respond on a thread and have a healthy adult dialogue with me on it if you didn’t understand it? Why would you have to go and take those kinds of actions? It's because you're triggered. It's because it pisses you off. But it's where you're deciding to spend your time.