Becoming You Again

Your body can go from pretty calm to dysregulated in seconds during divorce, and it is not a sign you are failing. When a text from your ex lands, when mediation gets tense, or when you feel that familiar wave of panic, shutdown, anger, or grief, you need something practical that works fast. I share grounding techniques you can do in 30 to 60 seconds to help your nervous system settle just enough to think clearly and stay connected to yourself.We focus on sensory grounding because your senses are a direct bridge back to the present moment where healing happens. I guide you through seven quick sensory grounding techniques you can use any time you find yourself shutting down or completely activated. You do not need to do every technique or do it “perfectly” to get the benefit. Pick one or two that resonate, keep them in your back pocket, and revisit this anytime you need a quick nervous system regulation tool for divorce recovery and emotional resilience.If you want deeper, lasting change, you can learn more about working with me one-on-one at KarenNelsonCoaching.com. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs steadier ground, and leave a rating or review so more women can find these tools.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

Have you ever thought something like, “If my ex would just take accountability for his actions and apologize, then I could finally move on” or something similar, then this episode is for you. It’s possible that you’re waiting for two words that feel like they would change everything: “I’m sorry.” This conversation will help you see the real cost of that wait and the real freedom on the other side of it. I’m talking about the kind of closure after divorce that doesn’t depend on someone else’s insight, remorse, or character growth. I share a coaching moment that starts with a simple question that will help you identify what’s really behind the need for an apology. For so many of us, the answer is not about the past at all. It’s about wanting to feel seen, significant, and like we matter. From there, we look at how resentment can quietly drain your energy and keep your ex living in your head rent-free, and why self-trust after divorce grows when you stop outsourcing your healing. We also talk about an important truth in emotional healing: you don’t have to forgive to move on, especially if you were harmed. You can set boundaries, co-parent if you need to, and still reclaim your life without forcing yourself into fake forgiveness. I’ll walk you through how to create the feeling you’re chasing from the inside out by practicing self-regard and choosing thoughts that support your next chapter. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a rating or review to help more women find their way back to themselves.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

This episode is honoring the women who came before us highlighting the history behind ‘choice’ and why being able to choose to stay in a marriage or leave is not something to take for granted. I share the milestones that changed what was possible for women in the United States: from voting rights, to having a bank account in their name, from being able to rent or buy a house without a male co-signer and more. Then I get specific about no-fault divorce and how this law changed the rules and opened up actual options and choice for women of today – including you. And lastly, I offer a reframe for anyone carrying divorce shame. If you’re rebuilding after divorce, learning to trust yourself again, or considering your next step, I hope this lights something up in you. Subscribe for more support, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a rating and review so more women can find the show.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

Ever feel like your brain won’t stop replaying the divorce story while your heart is begging for some peace? I'm talking about the difference between rumination and actual emotional processing, and why staying in your head keeps you in the emotional pain loop. Instead of rehashing texts and rewriting the past, I'll guide you back into your body (which is where your feelings actually live) so grief, anger, and sadness can move through instead of turning into exhaustion. No perfection required for this healing tool because small acts of practice create capacity and growth.We also draw a sharp line between reflection and spiraling. Reflection extracts lessons and next steps; spiraling feeds old stories and steals energy. You’ll leave with steps to identify the emotion you're avoiding, a tiny micro-practice to ride the emotional wave without fueling it, and language to treat yourself like a human instead of a project. Divorce brings a roller coaster of feelings, but you don’t have to be dragged by every loop. With skill, compassion, and a few seconds of brave attention, you can move from stuck to steady.If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick rating or review. Want deeper support? Learn about one-on-one coaching at KarinNelsonCoaching.com and take the next step toward a calmer, clearer you.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

Your phone pings, your shoulders rise, and your chest tightens. Before you even read the text, your body declares an emergency. If divorce has you living on edge, this conversation is a guide to staying in charge of your choices even when your nervous system screams otherwise.The truth is you don’t need perfect calm to make decisions that support you during divorce. You’ve been deciding under stress all along. The real skill is widening the space between trigger and response so your values, not adrenaline, steer the moment. You’ll hear practical, repeatable tools to help you learn to do this.If you’re ready to respond to texts, mediation, and co-parenting with more self trust and power, this one’s for you. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs steadier footing, and leave a quick review to help more women find these tools. Tell us: what’s one micro-pause you’ll practice this week?To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

When the marriage ends, the mirror that once reflected your worth often goes with it. I'll examine what happens when you’ve spent years using someone else to outsource your value so you can feel whole. I start by naming the cultural conditioning that tells women to be the supporting cast in everyone else’s story. If your worth was tied to keeping the peace, divorce can feel like failure. I challenge that script and replace it with a foundational truth: your worth is inherent, not earned. From there, we share small, repeatable practices to shift your inner language helping you move from self-criticism to self-compassion with simple, real-life scripts you can say out loud. Think of it as strength training for your relationship with yourself: light reps, done daily, that add up to lasting change.You’ll learn how to recognize validation loops, how to sit with uncomfortable truths without spiraling, and how to treat your future self like a trusted friend. I'll show you how to anchor to your own knowing when decisions feel heavy, and why compliments, new partners, or perfect co-parenting can be delightful but should never be the source of your value. If you’re ready to stop waiting for someone else to tell you you’re enough, press play. Subscribe for more tools each week, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick review because it helps other women find their way back to themselves.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

Your body can learn safety again even when grief, anger, or hyper-alert energy takes over. I'll walk you through a gentle, guided somatic practice that alternates between a curling posture and an open, lifted posture to restore rhythm in the nervous system. If this resonates, subscribe, share with a friend who needs a gentle reset, and leave a quick review to help more women find these tools. Want deeper, personalized support? Learn about 1:1 coaching at KarinNelsonCoaching.com.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

When divorce blows up the labels you’ve lived with like that of wife, partner, the one who holds it all together, what’s left can feel confusing and unknown. That's when insecurity rears it's ugly head. In this episode, I talk about why insecurity really is...spoiler alert - it's not a feeling, but instead a belief system wired by impossible, contradictory standards. Instead of chasing confidence by changing jobs, bodies, or relationship status, I make a case for something deeper: emotional security, the steady sense that you won’t abandon yourself when life gets messy.I explore how cultural scripts teach women to shrink, self-monitor, and doubt their instincts, and why divorce often exposes those scripts rather than creating them. You'll get a reminder of Gloria’s powerful monologue from The Barbie Movie while I trace how how approval-seeking keeps you stuck and how self-trust begins with curiosity. If you’re craving a map for life after divorce that doesn’t hinge on being chosen, this conversation will ground you. You’re not becoming someone else; you’re becoming you again defined by your values, protected by your boundaries, and guided by your own voice. If the episode resonates, follow the show, leave a rating, and share it with a friend who needs a guiding voice as they go through their divorce.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

Sharing a home with your soon-to-be ex can feel strange, lonely, and oddly practical all at once. We go straight at the discomfort and unpack why so many women make this choice for a season and how to support yourself emotionally and mentally through the transition period. If this conversation helps, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick rating. Want deeper support? Learn about one-on-one coaching at Karinnelsoncoaching.com. Your next chapter starts with one steady step. What’s yours today?To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

What if the fastest way to feel better after divorce wasn’t to push through and ignore the painful emotions, but to allow what’s already here? In this episode I’m going to be teaching you the most useful skill to make all of your divorce healing possible. I start by breaking down the three common ways of dealing with emotions - resisting, avoiding, reacting and explain why they keep you stuck. Then I’ll introduce the fourth option: allowance. This practical, compassionate skill teaches you to name the emotion in a single word, locate it physically, and stay present until the chemical storm passes. No fixing, no judgment.I’ll offer simple prompts to help you as you start implementing this skill into your daily life and finish up with my own example of how I used this just the other day in my personal life. This is how you rebuild trust in yourself after divorce: by proving, moment by moment, that no feeling is too big for you to handle. You don’t need to become a robot to move forward. You need a body-level practice that makes space for the full human experience. If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick rating or review. Ready for deeper support? Schedule your free next step session using the link in the description.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

The stories we believe about divorce can keep us stuck for years. In this episode I’ll cover four of the most insidious lies that we believe about divorce. These are four lies that permeate society and typically show up due to the social systems and structures that we live in. I unpack the four common lies about divorce and replace them with grounded truths about kids’ well-being, self worth, failure, and “selfishness.” Then I offer practical tools to build stability, repair trust with yourself, and design relationships that match your values.If you’re ready for divorce, but you have no idea what comes next...I offer a free next step session where you come and talk about what you're going through. You can schedule your free call by clicking the link in the description below.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

Does making decisions make you feel anxious and confused? In this episode I go straight to the heart of decision‑making after divorce which is how to stop spinning, center your own opinion, and choose with clarity even when certainty doesn’t shows up. I give you a simple way to decide which will make your decision making after divorce oh so easy, every time. You’ll learn to replace pros and cons with personal definitions, read your body’s signals, and trust yourself to have your own back. I help you do the real work of making decisions after divorce, from redefining family and values to building self‑trust without waiting for certainty. I share tools to align brain, body, and intuition so choices feel clean, committed, and doable. You’ll learn: • centering your opinion without self‑abandoning • why there is rarely one right choice • using values and definitions instead of pros and cons • reading body signals and calm intuition • committing and having your own back • starting small to rebuild self‑trust • managing uncertainty with practical supportsTo download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

Heartbreak and rejection hurts and when an ex chooses someone else, it’s easy to fall into the trap of “I wasn’t enough” or “she’s better than me.” In this episode I get honest about the stories we tell ourselves by helping you understand the brain’s need for certainty, recognizing emotional capacity as a driver of choices, and building thought ladders that replace shame with self-trust.I share practical reframes that shift the focus from comparison to clarity. Instead of reading his decision like a report card on your value, we look at how people pick what matches their comfort level and why that has nothing to do with your worth. You’ll learn how to spot the “too much/not enough” loop, create new neural pathways with daily repetition, and anchor into a belief that changes everything: worth is non-negotiable and not dependent on being chosen. This conversation is for anyone rebuilding after divorce, coping with infidelity fallout, or relearning how to trust themselves. By the end, you’ll have language for powerful reframes, small steps to create new healing beliefs, and a felt sense that you don’t need a partner to be whole. To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

Big goals feel exciting until they demand a brand-new you by Monday. I'm teaching a different route: minimum baselines which are basically tiny, consistent actions that build real momentum without solely relying on your willpower. If you’re navigating life after divorce, this approach respects your bandwidth while still moving you toward the life you want.I unpack why traditional resolutions collapse after two weeks and how the brain’s energy-saving design sabotages overnight reinventions. Then I teach you to flip the script: create habits that are so easy they’re almost impossible to skip. Think 15 minutes of movement three times a week, one fruit and one veggie twice a week, a $25 transfer to savings each paycheck, or a lights-out time on set days. You’ll learn how these baselines slip past resistance, carve new neural pathways, and steadily reshape identity from “I try” to “I follow through.”You’ll also hear practical examples across fitness, food, sleep, money, and confidence, plus how to handle the voice that says small steps don’t matter. I show you how to celebrate both the baseline and any “extra” you feel like doing, without tying your worth to doing more. The real win is consistency and the self-trust it builds; that’s the foundation for bigger goals later.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

In this episode I share a simple somatic self-holding practice that you can use anywhere to calm anxiety, quiet a racing mind, and remind your body it’s safe. This isn’t about forcing yourself to relax; it’s about giving your nervous system the cues it needs, like gentle touch, longer exhales, and compassionate words to settle into presence and rebuild trust from the inside out. We start by reframing where safety comes from and why that matters so much when you’re navigating grief, legal stress, co‑parenting tensions, and sleepless nights. Then we walk through the practice step by step: how to position your hands and arms, what to notice in your breath, and which supportive phrases help your mind soften. You’ll learn why parasympathetic activation is the key to regulation, how to spot micro‑shifts like relaxed shoulders or an unclenched jaw, and how two minutes of focused contact can reset your day without special equipment or a quiet room. Use this reset whenever rumination takes over, before a hard conversation, or after a triggering message. Save this guide for daily support, and share it with a friend who needs a calm, caring hug from within. If this resonated, follow the show and leave a quick rating!To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

Sleepless nights aren’t just exhausting; they can make every text from an ex, every budget decision, and every co‑parenting handoff feel harder than it needs to be. I dig into why stress and rumination hijack your rest during divorce and how cortisol and adrenaline surge right when you want to drift off. Then I’ll shift to practical, evidence‑informed tools that restore a sense of safety in your body so falling asleep and staying asleep becomes more likely. I walk you through 6 steps to help you create the perfect environment for a good night’s sleep during stressful situations from that take care of your inside (think nervous system regulation) to your outside (think bedroom ambiance). You’ll also learn a compassionate approach to midnight wake-ups. The aim isn’t perfection; it’s a realistic 10% improvement that compounds into calmer days, a more regulated nervous system, better emotional resilience, and more energy for parenting, work, and healing. If you’re ready to trade 2 a.m. panic cycles for a plan you can use tonight, this conversation offers clear steps and steady encouragement.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

One of the most disempowering things that we do to ourselves is let everything outside of us be in charge of our emotional life. This conversation is a guide to taking your emotional life back after divorce without minimizing the hard parts. I start by untangling the thought–feeling–action loop and why confusing thoughts with feelings keeps you stuck. You’ll hear how naming a single emotion can calm your brain, what healthy detachment really looks like, and how to process emotions in your body so they stop running the show. I’ll teach you how to get honest about the realities you face: messy co-parenting, unfair legal systems, financial strain, and cultural pressure. Owning your emotions is the practice of agency within tough circumstances. By the end of this episode you’ll have a simple, repeatable method of processing through your emotions so you can finally step into the power that you’ve been missing in your own life. 115 Ways To Get To Know You Guide - Get the $7 Guide HereTo download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

A single look, a familiar tone, and suddenly your chest tightens and your jaw clenches. That immediate trigger and reminder of your ex is your body doing its best to protect you. I explore those charged moments when a child reminds you of your ex and help you figure out a path away from reactivity to reconnection, so you can parent as the parent you want to be rather than from your past wounds. You’ll learn how to realign your nervous system so clarity can return. Then you can decide how to reconnect, repair and move forward allowing your child the space to be themselves while you manage your own emotional responsibility. To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

The holiday season can feel like a pressure cooker after divorce: new custody schedules, money stress, old traditions that no longer fit, and the unspoken rule that you must make it magical for everyone else. In this episode I’m offering you a different way forward. It’s one where you center yourself, protect your energy, and create a simpler, calmer season that actually feels like you. I’ll break down the difference between performance mode and centered mode and why so many of us mistake exhaustion for devotion. You’ll come away from this episode with a better idea about what honest presence looks like for yourself during this holiday season rather than forced cheer. When you choose centered mode, you trade brittle perfection for steady, grounded care. As a bonus, if you want extra support, I’ve created a short, self-paced holiday course for divorced women with short guided videos, journal prompts, reframes, and body-based practices to guide you through the season and beyond into you’re life after divorce. Get access now by clicking the link below. https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/homeTo download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

Your brain keeps saying “you should have known better,” but your body is tired of carrying the pain from that story. Let’s get you out of the loop of replaying the past. In this episode I walk through why our minds cling to the past after divorce, how “shoulds” fuel shame and self-blame, and what it actually takes to let go in real life. I start by exposing the sneaky logic of replaying old arguments and decisions, then shift into a practical, compassionate method for release. Most importantly, I’ll teach you how to practice a new stance toward your past self. If you're ready to GET TO KNOW YOU AGAIN click here for my $7 guide!To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.