110:Co-dependency, child attachment styles, advice on losing a child

Questions for this show are: 1. Strategies for "healing" from an abusive relationship. Do spouses that escape a narcissist spouse need therapy and support on codependency? 2. Are children's attachment styles bogus in predicting their personalities? Also, what's the earliest age at which you can see a person's personality characteristics? 3.What advice would you give to a parent who's lost a child (say 18 years old) under tragic circumstances, such as suicide? Are there any useful techniques or ways of thinking to really help ease the pain of such a profound biological loss?