Awesome Etiquette

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your questions on double invitations, buying gifts for the boss’s birthday, eye contact etiquette, should you interrupt your server while they read specials and a question about stationery as a gift. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript segment that is the fourth installment from our Be Better At Parties NYT Article. For Awesome Etiquette sustaining members your extra question of the week is about how not to have a bridal party. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show we take your questions on saying thank you after a raise, how to ask if your partner is invited to a co-workers party, when a chivalrous act feels forced, replying to thank yous, and then even more questions on thank yous. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript segment that is the third installment from Jen Doll's Be Better At Parties NYT Article. The Awesome Etiquette sustaining members extra question of the week addresses the dos and don’ts of wearing a tux to an early afternoon ceremony and an evening reception. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your questions on offering to grab someone a coffee and what that really means, living in your childhood home and handling your siblings’ nostalgia & attachment, removing someone from your traditional holiday guest list and ungraciously asking for BIG favors. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript from a listener on phrases that help and phrases that hurt when discussing infertility. The Awesome Etiquette sustaining members extra question of the week is about how much you, as a host, have to accommodate someone’s allergy. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your questions on awkward introductions, the problem with no problem, ooops grandma was upset we opened our wedding gifts early, and how to thank a group at work. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript where we explore part two of Jen Doll's NYT's Be Better at Parties article: mix and mingle. Awesome Etiquette sustaining members, your extra question of the week is about dietary restrictions at large events and how to avoid talking about them. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dan and Lizzie take your questions on critiquing your roommate's cooking, reassuring a bride that yes she can have a second reception, should you call friends before coming to town and what to do when your in-laws well wishes seem cold. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript about 1922 telephone etiquette. Sustaining Members: your extra question of the week is about how long is too long to wait for a doctor’s appointment to begin? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your questions on when to call after receiving a b-day card, interrupting in general, posthumous thank you notes, how to handle canning jars returns and managing work relationships. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript about being better at parties. For Awesome Etiquette sustaining members your extra question of the week is about digital RSVPs for weddings. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your questions on They/Them pronouns, sending your married monogrammed thank yous before you’re married, how to handle a couple who is asking you to chip in on their wedding tasks, who should go first walking through doors and how to let those you’ve been talking to for online dating know you’ve met someone. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript about dining classics. For Awesome Etiquette sustaining members your extra question of the week looks at tipping when your server changes shifts. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Lizzie and Guest host Puja Senning take your etiquette questions on informing a host they made you sick, timing for thanking those giving donations, showing appreciation to your boyfriend’s generous family, how long do you have to give a housewarming gift, and what to do when you can’t remember if you already gave a wedding gift or not. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript about remaining calm. For Awesome Etiquette sustaining members your extra question of the week is on a coworker whose constant conversation is becoming a work issue. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on writing thank you notes on behalf of your daughter, does a mother bring gifts for those who threw her daughter a shower, who gets served first in a family, what happens after the 'M' on a reply card and planning ahead for minimizing Christmas gifts. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript about bringing babies out in public. For Awesome Etiquette sustaining members your extra question of the week is about whether or not the table should be set all the time. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on gas station etiquette, separate bedrooms, sending one thank you for all your wedding gifts, how to hang out with just one part of a couple, and avoiding the subject of your divorce at your dad’s wedding. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript about managing cell phone rudeness. The Awesome Etiquette sustaining member bonus question of the week is about handling canvassers on the street. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie answer your etiquette questions on whether or not to follow up after a RSVP decline, how to handle being a chronic canceller, the question of "what do you do for work?" when on a date, whether or not you should consult your partner before making individual social plans and invitations from familiar strangers. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript on the power of gratitude. The Awesome Etiquette sustaining member bonus question of the week is on avoiding the topic of work at social gatherings. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on friends and communication, thank you notes for twins, tipping on split meals, a lack of celebration for a college grad and how to handle a moving away gift for a friend. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on vacation etiquette. The Awesome Etiquette sustaining member extra question of the week is about not wanting to discuss your baby name options. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on offering additional sympathy, accessible bathroom etiquette, to stand or not to stand during dinner introductions, thanking group donors and whether or not something is gossip or a good story. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript from Amy Vanderbilt’s classic etiquette book on the idea that children be seen and not heard. The Awesome Etiquette sustaining member question of the week is about what constitutes snooping in a guest bathroom. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on no thank-you but requests for gift receipts, handling major offenses at work, a crisis of honesty, food shaming and rude comments about your young age. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript that dives deeper into etiquette problem solving using our five-step process based on C.R.H. For Awesome Etiquette sustaining members your extra question of the week addresses a host of an international guest who is feeling taken advantage of. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions on accepting 'people' compliments, locker room hellos with coworkers, worrying about potential wedding guests’ behavior, and receiving cool congratulations from a close coworker. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript on dating etiquette. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions about asking if your ex is attending a wedding, helping others use your child’s full name rather than nicknames, new tipping experiences and asking other people’s children not to roam in your home. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript inspired by The Atlantic about a possible new trend in vacation out-of-office emails. For Awesome Etiquette sustaining members your extra question of the week is a doozy about attire on the golf course. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions about wedding etiquette follow ups, when annual parties don’t happen, asking strangers to watch your stuff, a scheduling issue that resulted in bad email etiquette and leaving a surprise party before the guest of honor arrives. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and postscript from Emily Post reflecting on how she approached Etiquette after almost thirty years writing about the topic. A.E. Sustaining Member Question: A Stock the Bar Party and how it comes across. visit awesomeetiquette.emilypost.com for your extra content. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions about accepting compliments about your dog, how to act as the NEW neighbors, wedding guests wanting to bring their own guests and whether or not to give a wedding gift when you contributed your skill to the wedding. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and part two of our postscript segment on the myth of how Emily’s Book Etiquette came to be! Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members, your extra question of the week is about not assuming you’re on the “B-List” for a wedding. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions about celebrating Mom’s wedding when she wants to keep it low key, handling a friend who won’t let you live down a bad recommendation, how to handle gifts when you decline a wedding invitation, and dealing with daters who offer to pay and then ask for half when the check comes. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and part one of a two-part postscript segment on the Myth of how Emily’s book Etiquette came to be! Awesome Etiquette sustaining members, your bonus question this week is about declining to recommend someone on social media. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions about tablet tipping for counter service, a reflection on the shortest date ever, how to recover from assuming someone has a child when they don't, and new pool owners wanting to know how to pool host. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment from Lizzie Post's Great Get-Togethers on sharing meals. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions about Mom’s love for diffusing essential oils when visiting, the deal with graduation invitations and announcements and gifts, a chivalrous act of ordering for your partner reexamined, and learning to navigate and hopefully avoid the drama at a new job. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on the ending of a dinner party. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show we take your etiquette questions about attending a party for an honoree when you had a falling out with the hosts, gifts and registries for elopements, how to leave a living situation well and we’re resurrecting a classic on how to speak up when friends want to split the check, but you didn’t order as much as they did. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Vermont Maple Syrup etiquette inspired by a recent parody in the publication the Onion. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions on radios in Ubers, how to handle talking with friends about your partner, dealing with gifts you can’t bring home, joining a family whose language of love is instruction and gifts for master's degree graduates. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on being quiet at the movies. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions on wedding attire color codes, thanking hospice workers, tech rules at the table at home and out to eat, when to include sentiment in a wedding ceremony, and should shower hosts give gifts? Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Chivalry. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions on how to eat strawberries, whether or not to help when you overhear a problem at work, when you almost have the name of someone famous, and a wonderfully modern question about receiving other people’s emails. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on baby shower thank you notes. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on being served raw food, having to ask to get called Dr., offering condolences when the recipient might not remember you, ordering politely and pet free friend visits. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a post script segment on preparations when your wedding is 1-3 months away. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our apologies for the delay on this episode. There was glitch in our publishing program and we are happy that it is resolved. Please, enjoy! On today’s show, Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on dining in bowls, being unnamed on a wedding invitation, personal favors and professional requests, generous hosts serving generous guests, and family who make decisions for you. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript segment on travel tipping. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on bridesmaids and bachelorette parties, children playing on your lawn, potlucks that don’t specify on the invitation, not noisy neighbors being blamed for noise and how to answer repeated questions about adoption. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment notching up your business skills. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions on two finger food questions, is two thirty o'clock a thing?, zits at the dinner table, party guests not paying attention to invitations and gifts that you don’t really like from someone you really love. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript segment on an Emily Post’s theory about the Bank of Life. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We take your etiquette questions on keeping communications simple, dealing with favors you don’t like, helping kids combat shyness, flying first class when senior business colleagues aren’t, and whether or not to invite your future stepson’s mother to your wedding. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript segment on gift giving. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on rejecting kind offers, how to handle first and middle names on a wedding invitation, a follow up question from episode 182 on belated 2nd receptions, how to handle in lieu of gifts for an 80th birthday, and a very jumbo shrimpy problem. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript segment on Emma Seppala and happiness. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions on pictures of engagement rings, community dinner displeasures, honoring honorifics, yoga class guests and elevator and door chivalry at work. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript segment on breaking up. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on knives as pushers, dealing with questions about homeschooling choices, which job am I interviewing for, no wedding reply card and ski weekend woes. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on serving wine. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on babies and weddings all at once, a roommate who thinks your kitchenware is theirs, a manager who dumps a problem back on your plate, asking folks for addresses in the digital age and how to get your bridesmaids to choose modest dresses. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on 24/7 Etiquette. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Puja joins Lizzie to take your etiquette questions on 2nd wedding receptions, soap being swiped from the ladies rest room, offering guests your master bedroom, attending only one of two baby showers and how much responsibility is on a host to manage ground transportation for guests. Plus, your most excellent feedback, two etiquette salutes and a postscript segment on HUGGING! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on keto dietary restrictions, thanking folks when travel makes it hard, declining a boss’s casual lunch invite, a wedding guest who is frustrated by a bride’s response, and how not be an answering service for your spouse. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on etiquette for social dances of all kinds. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on not being the office therapist, when you have too many people to invite to your birthday, who pencils who in when scheduling and is it boasting or not. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Dancing and Balls...like fancy ones. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on getting the gifts you want at a shower, saying thanks for a thank you gift, what to do with too many bridal shower offers, and how to handle the age old question about age. Plus your most excellent feedback, some of which comes from Puja Senning, etiquette salute and a postscript segment from Emily Post’s How To Behave Though A Debutante. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions about tiny tummies and hosts that notice them, condolences and contributions to funerals, a very special question from the hosts of the Home Hour Podcast and how to handle gifts when boundaries have been broken. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on replying to formal invitations. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on wedding announcements, managing messaging apps at work, whether or not to write a thank-you note to your SO’s family, how to handle naming a 6th, wedding regrets and finally a very special question. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on meeting etiquette. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Puja take your etiquette questions on managing multiple birthdays, hand delivering cards, hosting guests with allergies and apologizing for the first mistake. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on the meaning of Etiquette. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and guest host Cindy Post Senning take your etiquette questions on wrapping up a party, lending a hand without giving offense, sending condolences during the holidays and how clean to keep a home. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on napkins continued. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on groomsmen expenses, reclining seat backs, bringing wine when you’re already bringing wine and electronic RSVP fails. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on napkins from Margaret Visser's The Rituals of Dinner. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions about not getting together with sick friends, a doozy of social awkwardness, travel for bridesmaids and what to do with serious dietary restrictions and food related work events. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment from Kelly Williams Brown’s book Gracious. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy holidays from everyone at The Emily Post Institute. On today’s show we take your etiquette questions about medical TMI, haggling etiquette, where to send a thank you gift, how to handle New Years invites when friends aren’t all invited to the same party, gift return guilt and how to not manage your boss’s holiday party budget. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on keeping holidays personal. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions about prime time predicaments, commenting on other’s food, Christmas parties with co-workers (or not), the meaning of "No Boxed Gifts" and how to handle missing a marriage announcement...by 8 years. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on regifting and thank-you notes. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions about junior vs. Jr., standing up for greetings once you’re an adult, booing the refs, reluctant hosts, and how to address holiday cards to families with multiple names. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on gifting well. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions about long hallway hellos, how a caregiver can speak up, what to call a widow, sample language for a college student who wants to meditate and season ticket holders who want others to shhhhhh. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on holiday cards. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show we take your etiquette questions about gifts with the wrong monogram on them, gifts of gratitude, friends with champagne tastes who complain, and a question about apps...the kind you eat. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment where we catch up with you on Thanksgiving. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy Holidays! On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions about invitation trepidation, what’s a lemon-hater to do?, changing gift traditions and post wedding blues. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Thanksgiving week etiquette prep! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices