Awesome Etiquette

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on a colorful wedding dress code, birthday parties at places that charge for extra guests, tipping for an at-home service rather than one at a salon, and teaching consent early. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about attending a birthday party when you can’t afford a gift. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript continuing a historical review of etiquette from the Cost of Bad Behavior. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on using ‘sir’ and ‘ma’am,’ requesting certain foods at other people’s houses, avoiding people you have a romantic interest in, and telling someone ‘this isn’t a date.’ For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about showing appreciation for your partner. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript from The Cost of Bad Behavior. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show we take your questions on sending gifts ahead of the bridal shower, someone who doesn’t listen to voicemails, rehearsal dinner meal preferences, and serving the right amount of small talk. For Awesome Etiquette community members our question is about a mystery bowl at dinner. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript interview with Elizabeth H. Cottrell Author of HeartSpoken Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on hosting trouble with traditional gender roles, handling invitations when you’re overseas and grieving, a short question about being a new grandparent and how to handle family names on a wedding invitation envelope. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about a moment of awkwardness around an up in the air wedding invitation. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on parenting don’ts from Emily Post’s 1940s parent book Children are People. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on bringing gifts to birthday dinners, navigating a wedding invite when the date has been posted online already, what to do when someone constantly interrupts you with questions, and avoiding neighborhood gossip. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about winning gracefully. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on lending a hand. All that's coming up! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on feeling excluded from conversations, service charges at restaurants, RSVPing for a wedding before getting a formal invite, and declining to give tours of your home. For Awesome Etiquette community members your question is about asking your coworkers not to play explicit songs. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Emily's wedding day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on responding to people who disrespect your religious beliefs, bosses who text you after hours, changing the subject during uncomfortable conversations, and a wedding invite that leaves out important information. For Awesome Etiquette community members our question is about dating in real life instead of finding people on apps. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on clam bakes and BBQ's. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on funeral invites, asking wedding guests to help with the honeymoon instead of giving gifts, tipping for a bottle of wine, and balancing honesty and consideration in casual conversations. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about slowing down a relationship. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on hosting tips. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on treats for staff members being shared with their kids,thank you notes for meal trains, invites sent in batches, and a renter who talks… a little too much. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about the term “junior” after the senior has passed on. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on sharing food. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on being a better texter, correcting a friend’s manners, responding to comments about your appearance, and canceling coming to an event where you’re expected to bring the main course. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about leaning the seat back on an airplane. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on using someone’s vacation or second home. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on inviting families to pool parties, responding to your name being misspelled, suggesting a different restaurant than the one you were invited to, and passive aggressive bosses. For Awesome Etiquette paid subscribers our bonus question is about putting up a new fence with new neighbors. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript from Truly Emily Post. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on telling people about your new address, giving a gift to the host of a post-wedding brunch, addressing a group as ‘guys,’ and someone who invites themself to a gathering. For Awesome Etiquette community members our question is about interjecting to correct someone’s coffee order. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on emilys garden Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On this week’s show we take your questions on inviting someone to a graduation with no celebration afterward, weeds in your neighbor’s yard, baby showers with a lot of hosts, and inviting someone who has just lost a child to a baby shower. For Awesome Etiquette community members our extra question is about inviting spouses to weddings when you’re not close with them. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript pulled from the 1950’s Emily Post cookbook with menu recommendations for entertaining. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on guests who are gluten-free, asking others what they do for work, inviting almost everyone to a gathering, and tipping for an appliance delivery. For Awesome Etiquette community members our question is about difficult apologies. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on how we use Consideration, Respect and Honesty to answer etiquette questions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on addressing wedding invitations with bad handwriting, talking to others about their childrens’ behavior, buying gifts for an exchange at a reduced price, and breaking the news about someone’s passing. For Awesome Etiquette community members your bonus question is about bringing someone coffee. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Awesome Etiquette origins. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect, and honesty. On today’s show, we take your questions on realizing too late that an event is child-free, putting a registry link on the baby shower invite, weeding out who would make a good match on dating apps, and people who take over company meetings. For Awesome Etiquette community members, our question of the week is about getting too much ice built up in your water glass after several refills. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript on wine with one of our trainers Nisha Trivedi. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on putting the name of someone who has died on a wedding invite, keeping your calendar open, breaking gift-giving traditions, and people commenting on how old or young you look. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about a wedding RSVP dilemma. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on bringing children to restaurants. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on not looking your best at an interview, placing glasses on the table, giving gifts to the host of a bridal shower, and family members who always bring their dog along. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about sending gifts for graduation. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Emily Post and grief. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on not wanting a kids’ cup at restaurants, sending a wedding gift if you’re not attending, family members who push their politics on you, and waiters bringing out cleaning supplies with your food. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about where to put the date on monogrammed stationery. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on airplane etiquette Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on making small talk with old colleagues, asking for sensitive information when a loved one is dying, what to wear at a funeral, and approaching someone who is copying you. For Awesome Etiquette Community members our question is about inviting last-minute wedding guests. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on etiquette at concerts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on overly attentive wait staff, inviting new couples to dinner parties, not feeling like you can ask for help, and salad knives on the table. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about getting cash in condolence cards. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on dining together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on comparing restaurants, belated baby showers, changing your last name at work, and paying deposits for reservations. For Awesome Etiquette community members your question of the week is about wording on a wedding program. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on holding a chair for someone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on bringing a cocktail to the dinner table, passing by others at a theater, telling a stranger their shirt is inside out, and neighbors letting themselves in. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about calling people Miss, Mrs. or Mr. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript with the second half of our interview with Emily Ladau author of Demystifying Disability, what to know, what to say and how to be an ally. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on hiring a makeup artist at a gay wedding, getting ready to go through security at the airport, getting a bonus you don’t want, and enjoying what’s on the rim of a cocktail. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about paying the bill when having dinner with your partner’s mother for the first time. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on the first half of our interview with Emily Ladau Author of Demystifying Disability, what to know what to say and how to be an ally. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on traveling alone, navigating family ties after ending a relationship, wedding thank you notes, and family gatherings that are too much for your partner. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about being child-free. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on tipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on seeing friends when visiting a place you used to live, saying goodbye to coworkers before leaving the office, attending the funeral of your step children's father, and not bringing a gift to a baby shower. For Awesome Etiquette sustaining members our question is about refusing desserts from well-meaning home bakers. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Balancing The Menu from Emily Post’s 1951 Cookbook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on wearing the same color as the bridesmaids, contributing to the office bathroom supplies, telling someone you’re sick without giving too many details, and the cost getting services (like a haircut) from a friend. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about talking in the library. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Bridal Shower themes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on cheese plates and asking for extra crackers, waiting to open Christmas gifts sent through the mail, adding guests without asking the host, and money matters on vacation. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about showing up early. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on keeping your dinner reservations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show, we take your questions on guests exploring your home on their own, dealing with tension between clients as a dog behavior consultant, foreign language etiquette, and inviting child-free friends to kids birthday parties. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about stepping away from a group activity, but not leaving the group of friends. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Textiquette and digital stationery. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on whose name to put first on a joint letter, people bringing too much food over, when your matron of honor gets divorced and responding to invites sent through text. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about sleeping arrangements while visiting grandparents. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on the idea of being ‘tacky’. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on prayers at big family dinners, tossing poop bags while walking your dog, the phrase “it doesn’t hurt to ask,” and who gets to wear which color at the wedding. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members your question of the week is about lapel pin buttonholes. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript from Laura Claridge on the first revisions to Etiquette. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on officiating a wedding, not wanting to shake hands for fear of germs, answering questions about future children, and writing thank yous on pre-printed stationery. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about eating pudding! Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on remote work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on not sharing your signature scent, appreciating pre-school staff, social secretaries, and a favor turned intrusion. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about managing leftovers. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript primer on what etiquette really is! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on buying event tickets, sharing celebrations, writing thank yous for gifts that don’t work out, and calling teachers by their first names. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about playfully avoiding certain Christmas songs. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on thank you notes, with a new point, just when you thought you knew everything about em, we’ve come up with more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on calling someone back after a dropped call, thanking parents for end-of-year teacher gifts, giving people enough time to grieve, and the need for both red and white wine glasses. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about how to handle polite requests to turn your volume down. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Winter Feasts from The Rituals of Dinner by Margaret Visser. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on refilling reusable water bottles, accepting invites, concerns about your pet’s care when you’re away, and rescinding an RSVP when there’s a change in venue. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about wanting to be alone while cooking dinner. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on traditions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on offensive words used by coworkers, changing your name, dogs around children, and hosting with food allergies. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about thanks that are long overdue. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on the magic of gift giving Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on attending funerals when you’ve grown apart, people who finish your sentences, neighborly favors, and more people moving in without warning. For Awesome Etiquette sustaining members your question is about younger children that outgrow older children. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on gifts that you don't wrap. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on changing a menu, armchair doctors, thinking about hospice care, and email writing etiquette. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about an existential tipping crisis. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on the making of Emily Post’s Etiquette The Centennial Edition with our editor from Ten Speed Press, Kaitlin Ketchum. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on etiquette books as gifts, how to list names on an outer envelope, handling a pregnancy super power that’s not so super and wedding gift woes. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about giving a gift for a ten year work relationship. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on preparing kids for the holidays. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on notifying another guest when one drops out, housewarming registries, getting in line after someone opens the door for you, and talking gun safety when you take your kids to play dates. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about soft speakers on conference calls. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Thanksgiving hosting. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on updating the company phone list, thanking someone for taking you on a trip, bringing up the fact that you weren’t invited to something, and tipping the owner of a business. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about responding to invasive questions about your skin. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on hosting Thanksgiving. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on offering people coffee at a non profit, improving a sloppy signature, cashing in on old agreements, and returning unexpected gifts. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about talking to a roommate who eats all your food. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript from our new book! On The Practice of good etiquette. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on indicating who’s paying the bill, throwing a housewarming party for someone else, someone who never brings a dish to a party, and an uncomfortable play date. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about asking people to stop apologizing. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on Debrett's Etiquette. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on destination wedding expectations, saying goodbye to a not-so-good temp worker, tipping for delivery and eating out of bowls. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about trying to speak someone else’s language. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on The Origin of The Tuxedo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on people who question your choice to retire early, talking to a roommate about their pet’s diet, letting dates down easy and an offer of kitchen use that’s turned into a disaster. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about talking to business clients about their personal lives. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on being a good guest when dining out Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on getting the bill before you’re ready to leave, putting first names on cards for children, uncomfortable family dinners, and hotel tipping. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about honoring both someone’s late wife and more recent girlfriend in a eulogy. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on sharing drinks from Margaret Visser’s The Rituals of Dinner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on being mindful of reserved time slots at public pools, the dos and don’ts of a small wedding, post-wedding wedding showers, and taking a mental health day from work. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about acknowledging that someone has brought you a gift before they’ve presented it to you. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on condolence notes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on seating people who don’t get along, etiquette for picking someone up for a carpool, blocking off parts of your home during a party, and asking someone to be a godparent. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about reconnecting when you left on a bad note. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript From Margaret Sherwood’s gilded age etiquette book Manner and Social Usages. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Awesome Etiquette, where we explore modern etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect and honesty. On today’s show we take your questions on a masseuse that talks too much, feuding wedding guests, returning texts you’ve been neglecting, and a confusing wedding invitation. For Awesome Etiquette Sustaining members our question is about left-handed table manners. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript with guest JuliAnn Stitick on self-assessment for optimum performance and being your personal best. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices