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Does God will the circumstances that allow illegitimate children to be born? How does one deal with not hearing God’s voice when struggling with abandonment? How do I test my heart without falling into lust? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and have a better chance of us answering your question? Join our Patron Community! Patron Question: I know the Church teaches that some marriages aren’t true marriages because of something that was wrong from the very beginning. Yet sometimes these couples have children together. I’m struggling to understand whether God actually willed for these people to “get married” so that there children could exist. Question 2: When I was a child, my father abandoned us. I have fallen many times by wanting to feel the physical love and embrace of someone, even knowing that it is a sin to fornicate. When I go to God with my wounds, I hear no voice and feel no physical embrace. That makes it very difficult to not look for it elsewhere. How does one deal with not hearing God’s voice or feeling His embrace when He is our Father? Qestion 3: I have been a sex addict for many years in my life and God has healed me. I do not have temptations to look at women anymore, but I do turn away when I see immodestly dressed women because I want to protect myself. I have heard you say that this is not the end of the road; we should be able to look in a different way. How are we supposed to test our heart? I don't want to fall back into lust by looking at women to see if I can look at them purely. How can I grow in this? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: **Our Sponsor: **We can't say enough about Rose Sweet and her ministry! Be sure to learn more about her work by clicking the link. View our COURSE SCHEDULE to register for a course, ONLINE or IN-PERSON! If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

How do you handle it when your spouse's words or actions hurt you? If sexual desire points to a desire for God, what do we do with the tension we feel while waiting for Him? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and have a better chance of us answering your question? Join our Patron Community! Patron Question: Thank you for your beautiful ministry, my parents divorced when I was a teenager. I’m still surrendering those wounds to Jesus. In my brokenness, I realize how desperately I’d like to have an earthly marriage model to look up to. I’m thankful to both of you for sharing and modeling that to me. Wendy, Christopher makes it sound as if it’s so natural for you (even in your friendship) to love him unconditionally. That makes me wonder how you do it! How do you handle when his words or actions hurt you? Do you struggle too, because I am struggling? My mother’s advice is full of negativity towards men. I guess I’m just yearning for some healthy motherly advice. Question 2: I have a lot of questions. If sexual desire points to a desire for God, then what do you do with the sexual energy and tension while waiting for Jesus without falling into gnosticism? If we ask God to be mystically married to Jesus like the saints will He then have to answer our request? And what does God do with the heartbreak we feel if we yearn for people we cannot be with because of the circumstances of this world? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: View our COURSE SCHEDULE to register for a course, ONLINE or IN-PERSON! If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Can a woman morally learn to pole dance if her intentions are good? When is using NFP to avoid pregnancy licit, and when is it being used with a contraceptive attitude? How is the body the only thing capable of making visible what is invisible? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and have a better chance of us answering your question? Join our Patron Community! Patron Question: There is a documentary that was recently added to Netflix called, "Strip Down, Rise Up." I have not seen it, but from the description and the reviews I have read, it is about a group of women who take an intensive class on pole dancing to "reclaim their sexuality" and to help them use their bodies as an art form to heal from wounds of their past that are related to their bodies and minds. Can a woman morally learn to pole dance if her intentions are good? Question 2: When is using NFP to avoid pregnancy licit, and when is it being used with a contraceptive attitude? It seems there is no clear answer. Some Catholics say it must be a grave situation (such as losing your job, or medical reason), while some say it's fine to use NFP to avoid pregnancy for the first few years of marriage to enjoy your time together before having kids, or simply to space children out to the ideal 2-3 years. I imagine the answer is somewhere in the middle, but where exactly do we draw the line? Qestion 3: I don't understand the thesis statement of Theology of the Body. How is the body the only thing capable of making visible what is invisible? Christopher always talks about how other things (i.e. a Cinnabon, a good beer) are sacraments of invisible realities, or foretastes of the beatific vision. Can you please explain how the body is the only thing capable of making visible invisible divine realities? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: View our COURSE SCHEDULE to register for a course, ONLINE or IN-PERSON! If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

As an adult convert to the faith with an atheist husband, can I have a meaningful marriage? Should couples beyond their fertile years no longer engage in the sexual embrace since there isn't a possibility of children? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and have a better chance of us answering your question? Join our Patron Community! Patron Question: Thank you both for your beautiful witness! I am blown away by TOB but also really struggling. As an adult convert to the faith, with an atheist husband, I often feel lonely. I have friendships with men who are believers and love the chance to talk to other men about our shared beliefs. My second issue is intimacy - I have very sisterly feelings towards my husband - and for various reasons I can’t see that changing, trust me on that. So my question - can I have a meaningful marriage when I feel lonely both spiritually and sexually and I’m drawn to others? Thank you and God Bless! Question 2: Should couples beyond their fertile years no longer engage in the sexual embrace since there isn't a possibility of children? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: View our COURSE SCHEDULE to register for a course, ONLINE or IN-PERSON! If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

How can I heal from pornography before entering into marriage? Do you have any advice for healing from a break up? How does Theology of the Body relate to the washing of the feet? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and have a better chance of us answering your question? Join our Patron Community! Patron Question: Thank you for your podcast. I listen to your podcast weekly while I go on a run and it makes the miles fly by! My fiance and I are getting married very soon. We have both saved sex for marriage however there is a history of pornography use before we were dating. What advice do you have for us to have a pure, holy and lust-free experience? We have both read about theology of the body and listen to your podcast but knowing and living can be very different. Question 2: Hi Christopher and Wendy! I LOVE your show. Listening to the way you two interact with each other is so life-giving. I started listening last year after attending the TOB virtual conference and my goal is to listen to every episode! Here's my question: what light might TOB shed on healing from a breakup? Especially if you are the one who made the choice to end it? I chose to end an almost three-year dating relationship and while I believe what I did was best for myself and him in the long run, I find myself consistently wracked with guilt and shame for how I've hurt my ex. I don't know how to let go of the fact that I've caused him a wound and even though it's been almost a year. I haven't figured out how to forgive myself. Any advice? Qestion 3: This year I attended Holy Thursday Mass for the first time wearing my “TOB glasses.” The Mass was so much richer! Does the Theology of the Body tie into the washing of feet? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: View our COURSE SCHEDULE to register for a course, ONLINE or IN-PERSON! If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

What does the Church teach about cremation? How do we protect our children from the cultural gender ideology? How do I know I'm not getting married just to have sex? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and have a better chance of us answering your question? Join our Patron Community! Patron Question: I have heard the Catholic Church does not approve of cremated ashes being scattered or divided. If this is the case, why do we as Catholics have saints’ body parts as relics sometimes divided across the world in different locations. What is the difference here? Does the physical location of our dead body parts have anything to do with the resurrection of our bodies in the end? Question 2: What are we to make of all these differenct sexuality options that are apearing? How are we to react in love to people who present themselves to us with these different forms of sexual orientation? How do we teach our children in order to protect them from being confused? Qestion 3: Hello Christopher and Wendy! Thank you so much for your podcast. I listen to it every morning before my teaching assistant job, and you have very much inspired my desire to be a theology teacher! Having had a recent and intense reversion back into my Catholic faith, the Holy Spirit (with the help of your podcast) has convicted me to wait until marriage to have sex! Although I am confident in this conviction, having previously had pre-martial sex, the secular argument is still pervading in my mind. Which is, “How do you know you aren’t just marrying him just to have sex?” This bothers me! How do you recommend discerning a husband or wife without confusing lust with love? I’m worried about getting into the weeds here. Thank you again! Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: View our COURSE SCHEDULE to register for a course, ONLINE or IN-PERSON! Good News about Sex & Marriage The Eclipse of Sex by the Rise of Gender by Abigail Favale If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

How can I reclaim purity after falling? How can a friendship become a romantic relationship? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and have a better chance of us answering your question? Join our Patron Community! Patron Question: Hi Christopher and Wendy. I’ve been listening to your podcast for a little over a year. I grew up, (thankfully!) with a very wholesome understanding of sexuality. I know that is rare. Despite the best efforts of my parents though, there were many needs in my heart for love and understanding, beauty and respect that went unmet. . . as I matured, these “holes” in my heart made me very vulnerable to the desires of other women my age who saw me as an opportunity to have their “needs” met. There’s a lot said in Christian circles about the lusts of men, but very little about the ways women use men so I think I was unprepared for this. I am very deeply empathetic, and am often told that I am very handsome. . . I share this because I think it explains why so many women have ended up using me to gratify their desires. Over time I began using these women back in different ways and eventually lost my resolve to save myself for marriage. Now, I feel so sick. I am exposing these wounds and needs to the blessed mother in prayer, but still every time thoughts of sexuality come to my mind, I feel a twisting in my stomach instead of the awe and wonder I had when I was much younger. What do I do? I feel like I have been compromised in the worst way. Question 2: Christopher, I know you’ve told this story a lot but here is the deal: my female best friend is attracted to me. Honestly, she is smart, very beautiful, very very funny and I know I can count on her anytime, she is simply the best. . . But, I just can’t see her as anything more than a friend right now. Christopher and Wendy, I want what you have, and I really want the best for her but I don’t know if I’m the best for her. Christopher, how did you turn your friendship with Wendy into romantic love? Qestion 3: My wife and I have been married for over 30 years. As we’ve gotten older, we’ve had to adjust our physical relationship because of health issues. I know this is a sensitive question, but I want to know what is permissible for couples who are able to experience sexual climax but cannot comfortably have penetration. Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: View our COURSE SCHEDULE to register for a course, ONLINE or IN-PERSON! Get a PREMIUM Pass for the 2nd Annual Theology of the Body Virtual Conference! Good News about Sex and Marriage If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

My wife scheduled an abortion - what can I do? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. REGISTER FOR FREE for the 2nd Annual Theology of the Body Virtual Conference! (April 30-May 2, 2021) Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and have a better chance of us answering your question? Join our Patron Community! Patron Question: My wife just broke the news that she is pregnant with our first child. She’s so scared of childbirth that she scheduled an abortion. What can I do? I want to be a father. Question 2: Hi Christopher and Wendy, Thank you so much for all you do to spread the GOOD NEWS of Theology of the Body! Christopher's books were my introduction to JP2's wisdom on human sexuality, and I am not exaggerating when I say it completely changed my faith for the better. To varying degrees throughout my life, I've struggled with mental health issues, such as depression, scrupulosity, OCD, and negative body image. I find myself hoping for a future husband who doesn't share the same struggles as I do, someone who can help keep me grounded in reality. In theory, I could see how meeting someone with the same experiences could foster understanding and compassion in the relationship, but mainly I fear that such a marriage would fall apart if both spouses are mentally and emotionally unstable. Am I a hypocrite for wanting a man who will accept and patiently bear my crosses and weaknesses, but for whom I wouldn't want to do the same? If so, do you have any advice? Qestion 3: Why do people say that pornography is adultery? I struggled with it, but I never slept with anyone else. I love my wife and I did not give my heart to anybody but her. She is the only woman in my life. Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: View our COURSE SCHEDULE to register for a course, ONLINE or IN-PERSON! If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

How to share Theology of the Body with young children, how to discuss Catholic teaching on gender with children, and the best steps for education yourself on Theology of the Body. Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. REGISTER FOR FREE for the 2nd Annual Theology of the Body Virtual Conference! (April 30-May 2, 2021) Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and have a better chance of us answering your question? Join our Patron Community! Patron Question: My husband and I are Natural Family Planning teachers with the Billings method. We believe that using NFP has brought us closer to God. We know Theology of the Body is the foundation for our closeness. Do you have any thoughts about how we can begin to share this amazing gift with our young children, ages 5, 4, and 2? Question 2: Hi! My question is in regards to gender dysphoria, specifically how to address and discuss Catholic teachings and gender change to children and to other non-Catholic friends. I very recently made the decision to take my children out of public school. There were numerous issues including the introduction of condom use and where to get them to my 11 year old but my question is in regards to my 10 year old daughter. Her friend has come out to the classroom as changing genders. They watched videos on the subject and essentially were told everyone has the freedom to choose their sex and gender doesn't equal biology essentially. I have read your book of Theology of the Body for Beginners and it was amazing, but can you give me some "go to" compassionate conversation to spread to my children as well as non-Catholic friends who are asking about my decision to homeschool and the lgbtq movement? Qestion 3: Hello Christopher and Wendy! I was introduced to TOB through Dr. Juli Slattery's ministry, Authentic Intimacy. I have just finished reading Our Bodies Tell God's Story and I have been profoundly impacted and moved by TOB. I would say Our Bodies Tell God's Story is one of my favourite books ever! I have also been learning a lot from your podcast. Thank you for modeling a loving marriage together in your podcast! As a married woman I have questions about what sexual behaviors are honoring in the bedroom. Can you direct me to where I can have questions about this answered? I’m also wondering in what order I should read your books and resources? What are the next steps in educating myself about TOB. Thank you again for your ministry and for sharing your marriage through the podcast! Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: View our COURSE SCHEDULE to register for a course, ONLINE or IN-PERSON! THE TRUTH AND MEANING OF HUMAN SEXUALITY: Guidelines for Education within the Family Beyond the Birds and the Bees: Raising Sexually Whole and Holy Kids Good News about Sex & Marriage When Harry Became Sally Desert Stream Eden Invitation Holy Sex FILL THESE HEARTS HEAVEN'S SONG: SEXUAL LOVE AS IT WAS MEANT TO BE THE LOVE THAT SATISFIES LOVE IS PATIENT, BUT I’M NOT: CONFESSIONS OF A RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST THEOLOGY OF THE BODY EXPLAINED AT THE HEART OF THE GOSPEL If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Why in vitro fertilization and artificial insemination are sinful. How to overcome fears of sexual intimacy. Where to find an integrated understanding of chastity. Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and have a better chance of us answering your question? Join our Patron Community! Patron Question: I’ve been thinking about infertility. I know the Church teaches that some ways of achieving a pregnancy like sperm or egg donors are sinful, but I don’t fully understand why. Question 2: Dear Christopher and Wendy, I’ve just discovered your podcast and all your work. I have so much to learn and know that God wants to enlighten so many things for me, but I’ve never had a boyfriend. Now that I’m 24 and I am looking to see if God wants me to get married , I do get scared at the thought of sex. Sadly, I grew up thinking that sex was a forbidden thing, and I find myself afraid thinking about my wedding night. I know it’s a gift and it’s a donation, but I can’t help being afraid. I don’t know the male body and feel so insecure in so many ways. I have the desire to fulfill my vocation and mission as a woman to give my life and to bring to the world children that may love God above everything, but I’m so human and afraid. What should I do to prepare myself in this time, to heal from these thoughts even while I’m still single? Qestion 3: Hi. I am an occupational therapist, and a health/life coach who wants to help people with mental health issues to be more integrated in their bodies and with God. I am looking for a more thorough understanding of integration and chastity. What do you recommend? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Register for the 2nd Annual Theology of the Body Virtual Conference! (April 30-May 2, 2021) Register for online or in-person courses with the Theology of the Body Institute! Theology of the Body for Beginners Good News about Sex & Marriage Men, Women, and the Mystery of Love: Practical Insights from John Paul II’s Love and Responsibility If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

How we got started in ministry. Healing from sexual abuse. How true art can heal the wounds of pornography. Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Free Word Made Flesh Lenten Sunday Mass Companion! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and have a better chance of us answering your question? Join our Patron Community! *Patron Question: * I’m interested in getting involved in pro life ministry. Would you please share how you got started in ministry work? Q2: Hi! I am a 25 year old practicing Catholic. I have been really struggling recently with my image of God the Father and Jesus. I was sexually assaulted, physically, and mentally abused by my own father which has altered the way I perceive older men and especially Jesus now as an adult. I would say that I have a good prayer life. I receive sacraments regularly; but in the depths of my soul, there is a part of me that has been corrupted in regards to all things having to do with fatherhood It's like I know the difference in my mind; I even gave Theology of the Body talks to other students in my college campus ministry, but in my heart and memory, there is still an inner struggle with believing and understanding what a good father is. Q3: Hi Christopher and Wendy. I’ve been struggling with pornography for a long time, and have been praying for the Lord to help me overcome it. I’m also struggling with depression and hopelessness due to this problem and other things. I am currently studying classical art in an institute were we work with nude models all day long. I’ve found myself tempted quite often, and there have been times I’ve had to avoid class because of the struggle not to objectify the woman posing. Even though I know it is not intrinsically evil, do you think it would be wise for me to stay away while I find healing? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Register for the 2nd Annual Theology of the Body Virtual Conference! (April 30-May 2, 2021) Register for online or in-person courses with the Theology of the Body Institute! If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

If we are redeemed, why must our bodies die? How do you deal with lustful thoughts as a woman? Is it sinful to be intimate with my husband after he has had a vasectomy? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Free Word Made Flesh Lenten Sunday Mass Companion! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and have a better chance of us answering your question? Join our Patron Community! Q1: I am really grateful for this teaching on Theology of the Body and for your ministry. You’re spreading very good news and everything’s starting to make sense in my life. If we are reborn, redeemed, regenerated, why must our bodies die? What is the theology of our dead bodies? Q2: I'm struggling to know how long to hold onto lustful thoughts. I’ve realized, through listening to other women's stories, that I have quite a high sex drive for a woman, and thoughts about intimacy pop into my head daily. I'm single but dating someone I'm very interested in, and my attraction to him as a whole person intensifies my imagination. While I used to hate myself every time this craving for intimacy would pop into my head, I've learned from your podcast that it's okay to have space for that and look for the deeper, good need behind it. I also notice that I sometimes spend a lot of time dwelling on this, and then I worry that I'm engaging sinfully I should be doing away with it. Where is the place of balance? Q3: In my country it is very common for people to decide how many kids you want and then get sterilized once you have them. I thought we were doing great with NFP, but after a scary pregnancy with our fourth baby, we felt so tired, scared, and overwhelmed without family close to help. We decided my husband would have a vasectomy. Everybody does it, we thought. As time passes, and I learn more about Theology of the Body, I regret this decision.I know marriage, sex and babies go together, but now we can’t have babies. I feel that maybe we are doing something wrong when my husband wants to be intimate with me. Is it wrong to be intimate now? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Register for the 2nd Annual Theology of the Body Virtual Conference! (April 30-May 2, 2021) Register for online or in-person courses with the Theology of the Body Institute! Vasectomy Reversals at Cost If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

What is an emotional affair? How can people who have been educated by pornography trust their hearts? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Free Word Made Flesh Lenten Sunday Mass Companion! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and have a better chance of us answering your question? Join our Patron Community! Q1: We talk a lot about lust and the degrading of a person through a physical sexual act but I am often hearing about emotional affairs but what if a wife or girlfriend were to be seeking and desiring emotional companionship with someone other than her husband or boyfriend? Q2: How can people who have been educated on sexuality through pornography learn what is good and what is not? Even some catholics authors are vague on the acceptable behaviors. I even read some that encourage many kinds of behaviors that are found in pornography. But how can a generation who has been educated by porn learn to trust their heart? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Register for the 2nd Annual Theology of the Body Virtual Conference! Register for online or in-person courses. Good News About Sex and Marriage If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

How can I explain that living together before marriage is not a part of God's plan without having to explain hours of TOB? Do I need to tell my husband about my sexual past? Why is Mary called "Mother Undefiled"? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Free Word Made Flesh Lenten Sunday Mass Companion! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and receive ongoing formation? Join our Patron Community! Q1: I have several nieces and nephews who are cohabitating with their significant others. They have a completely secular view about their sexuality. How can I explain that living together before marriage is not a part of God's plan without having to explain hours of TOB right off the bat? I need to hook them with something so that they'll belive me and I can chip away with TOB slowly. Q2: I am a wife and mother, and a fairly new convert to the faith. I’ve been deeply grieved by the sin of my past, even though I understand that through the sacramental graces of confession I am forgiven, I fear I must also seek forgiveness from my husband. In our courtship, I failed to confess to him my sexual past. These were things I had never spoken of to anyone until my confessor. And although I know I am forgiven, I am still deeply ashamed. The encounters I had left me with emotional scarring and pain. My question is an earnest plea for spiritual guidance on what to do when I have brought my sins to my confessor, but am unsure of whether or not I must also confess these to my spouse? Q3: Hello Christopher and Wendy, thank you so much for your podcast! It has helped me greatly with understanding and accepting my body and God's plan for it. I have noticed that a lot of times sex is spoken of as a bad thing, for example one of the titles of Mary is “Mother Undefiled.” This really confuses me because if sex is a good thing why would it be referred to as being defiled? Could you please explain this to me? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: The 2nd Annual FREE Theology of the Body Virtual Conference (April 30 - May 2, 2021) Course Calendar Theology of the Body at the Movies If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

What is your advice to someone who feels thrown away? Why is it a sin for me to cut myself but ok for St. Francis to flog himself? What hope can Theology of the Body give for my daughter who struggles with same sex attraction? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Free Word Made Flesh Lenten Sunday Mass Companion! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and receive ongoing formation? Join our Patron Community! Q1: Thank you for all your amazing work on the podcast! I have heard Christopher talk about the dangers of Manicheism and Puritanism. I understand that we should never blame the good things that God created for our misuse of them. Which brings me to my dilemma. I think that my boyfriend broke up with me because he was too attracted to me. He is a devout Catholic and seems to avoid many things that could lead him to the near occasion of sin. Although he cited a different reason for breaking up (not enough time for a relationship), I suspect that he broke up because he could not control his desires around me. We broke our physical boundaries twice during the relationship. What is your advice to someone who feels thrown away? How should I learn from this experience, pray for him, or what else would you suggest? Q2: I’ve been told by a few priests that to cut or self-injure is a sin and even a grave one and reframing the struggle that way has helped me to resist the temptation with more success. But. . . I was wondering if you could speak to why it is a sin for me to cut myself but ok for say St Francis to flog himself? Like, what is the difference and does the Theology of the Body speak to this? Q3: Our 17 year old daughter thinks she may be "gay" and I know the better term is "same sex attraction." She didn't tell me this but told my husband. I am not sure why she thinks that so I don't know if she really has same sex attraction or if she is afraid of getting close to guys because of father wounds. She says "she knows she is a girl" when there is all this talk everywhere about transgender people. She also thinks the Catholic Church doesn't like gay people but I have told her it's not the inclination or the person but the acting on it that is wrong. I have said all of us are called to be chaste. I love the Theology of the Body teachings and try to get her to read the books. I have many fears now for her and I am asking whether there is hope for her and what can you share of the teachings of the Theology of the Body that can give her and me hope? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: The Heart of Female Same-Sex Attraction by Janelle Hallman If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

How should I counsel someone who wants to follow the Church's teaching while his wife wants to use contraception? Should I break up with my girlfriend since we've been falling to sexual sin? How can I discern between cellibacy and marriage when those around me are convinced of my path? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Free Word Made Flesh Lenten Sunday Mass Companion! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and receive ongoing formation? Join our Patron Community! Q1: As a priest, I have been trying to help someone who is struggling within his marriage about contraception – specifically, he wants to follow the Church's teaching, but his wife does not. What advice can you give me about how to counsel him? Q2: My girlfriend and I have been struggling to live out the church's teaching on pre-marital sex and have fallen into sin a few times. Sometimes this leads to arguments between us where I voice how I feel like I have to choose between her and God when we sin. However, I also recognise our relationship isn't just about our struggles with sexual sin and she does inspire me in many other ways to grow closer in my relationship with the Lord. I'm unsure whether it's God's will for me to break up with her or continue to struggle to be chaste with her. Q3: Hello Christopher and Wendy! First, thank you so much for the joy and witness you bring as a married couple. Your example has brought so much healing to my view of marriage so from the bottom of my heart thank you. For my question: I had been discerning religious life for a long time but recently felt the call to start discerning marriage instead. Whenever I tell my friends this, they typically say something along the lines of, "Well, God is probably just calling you to marriage with Him." This language has truly been so painful because I feel like I can no longer even read about the beauty of what marriage can be because I am constantly told it's not for me. Could you please speak to this? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Theology of the Body Institute Course Schedule TOB Virtual Conference VADEMECUM FOR CONFESSORS CONCERNING SOME ASPECTS OF THE MORALITY OF CONJUGAL LIFE Good News about Sex & Marriage If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Should I think of Mary when I kiss my wife? What's the difference between repressing something and the self-discipline? What books on TOB should I recommend to my young-adult daughters? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Free Word Made Flesh Lenten Sunday Mass Companion! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and receive ongoing formation? Join our Patron Community! Q1: Last November, a priest suggested me to intensify my love to our Mother Blessed Virgin Mary. The idea that came up to my mind is: each time I kiss my wife, consider that I am kissing Mary, and receive her kisses like Saint Joseph. It really works but sometimes I feel kind of embarrassed, and I am not sure if this idea is good or not. Q2: I don't understand the difference between repressing something and the self-discipline which our faith encourages us to practice. Can you please explain? Thank you both immensely for the show! Q3: I have two daughters, age 22 and 24, who both have boyfriends. I was recently introduced to TOB and find that had I known certain truths, my marriage may not have suffered the way it did. I'm wondering which book of yours would be best for me to give them. You are truly gifted & blessed with the TOB knowledge and I am interested to get to know more myself. Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: The Anti-Mary Exposed: Rescuing the Culture from Toxic Femininity by Carrie Gress, PhD A Meditation on Givenness by Pope John Paul II Good News about Sex & Marriage Theology of the Body for Beginners The Cry of the Heart Theology of the Body Institute Course Schedule If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

I believe God is calling me to marry a man whom I dated this summer but he has discerned that it is not the right time for him to have a relationship. What would you advise me to do? Does God delight in a person's beautiful outward appearance? If so, what if you don't have good looks? My husband I learned that we are infertile and the grief is hitting us hard. Could you speak some life into this darkness? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Free Word Made Flesh Lenten Sunday Mass Companion! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and receive ongoing formation? Join our Patron Community! Q1: I believe God is calling me to marry a man whom I dated this summer and fall. He has discerned that it is not the right time for him to have a relationship, and now we only see each other in groups. He is a devout Catholic and says he wants to focus on his work as a religious education director right now. God keeps giving me little hints that maybe I should not give up hope for this relationship to happen in the future. You have previously shared that Wendy hoped to marry Christopher for 3 years even while he was interested in someone else. What would you advise me to do? How do I pray for his best interest - it is really hard! I don't want to give up hope, but I also want to stay open to any other possibilities God has for me. Q2: I have a question about exterior beauty. God is beauty itself, and he delights in it. And I know beauty goes way beyond just outer appearance, but there is something to be said for a beautiful looking man or woman. And it's pretty obvious that some people are simply better looking than others. People are drawn to good looking people in a certain way. So my question is, does God delight in a person's beautiful outward appearance, and if so, what if you don't have good looks? Did God just not want you to have outer beauty? Q3: Hi Christopher and Wendy! About a year and a half into our marriage, we went to see a wonderful Catholic doctor to find answers for our experience of infertility. All the tests and follow ups told us that my husband is not making sperm, and there is absolutely nothing that can be done. This news is hitting us both very hard. I have read that the grief of infertility is as if one has been handed a terminal diagnosis. It has felt like a death in so many ways. Before we can move into whatever God has for us next, I want to understand our bodies deeper. I feel like God is taking us into the emptiness; empty testicles and empty womb. Can you help us understand who we are in this? Could you speak some life into this darkness? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Register for TOB2 Online (March 1-12, 2021) Theology of the Body Institute Course Schedule Register for the TOB Patron Virtual Retreat (February 27, 2021) If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

How can a painful past become a source of love and bonding? Can the Catholic faith be reconciled with the theories of evolution? Should we reject Bruce Springsteen for blasphemy? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Free Word Made Flesh Lenten Sunday Mass Companion! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and receive ongoing formation? Join our Patron Community! Q1: I am 33 and waiting for responsible love and marriage. My boyfriend, a practicing Catholic, recently disclosed his past to me — and it is very overwhelming. He has caused and experienced so much pain and suffering that I feel no longer physically attracted to him at this moment. I have forgiven him, but somehow my natural attraction to him has faded. Do you think this feeling will pass? How can a painful past become a source of strength, healing and somehow mysteriously, love and bonding? Q2: I love the endless depth of Genesis, especially through the lens of Theology of the Body. Could you share a bit about how you reconcile the deep truths found in Genesis with the science of evolution? I know Genesis isn't intended literally so it's not quite that I'm asking. I'm more wondering things like - did humanity evolve to a certain point as animals without souls and then God breathed his life into Adam and Eve, making them human? Q3: In one of your recent podcasts you spoke of your affinity for the music of Bruce Springsteen. Like you, I am a big fan and even though I do not have one musical fiber in me, I greatly enjoy his art and am very grateful that he has shared his talent with the entire world. He has a song called, “If I Were a Priest” that was written long ago but recently released. In this song, he seemingly blasphemes the Blessed Mother and the Holy Spirit. I say “seemingly” because different people will interpret these words and the entire song differently, but it sure seems very irreverent to me. The 1st Saturday devotion was established by Jesus and Mary to counter attacks against her Immaculate Heart. In support of this devotion, it seems that we should reject the attacker (no matter how talented he is) in some way. Do you have any thoughts on this? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Theology of the Body II: Into the Deep (Online, March 1-12, 2021) Theology of the Body Institute Course Schedule If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Can experiences of sexual desire be an invitation to intercession? My wife and I recently had a miscarriage and I feel that I lost my purpose as a father. Do you know of something that I could do to help with this struggle? Am I wrong to believe that anyone with same-sex attraction can reorder their eros if they truly want to? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Free Word Made Flesh Lenten Sunday Mass Companion! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and receive ongoing formation? Join our Patron Community! Q1: In one episode, you mentioned that spouses sometimes physically feel what one another is struggling with that day as a type of intercession or signal that they should pray for their spouse in a certain area. I am an unmarried woman, but I have recently experienced intense feelings of increased sexual desire for no reason, before seeing a friend of mine who I believe struggles with lust. Could this be an invitation to pray for him? How can I cope with these desires that I never had to deal with before? Q2: My wife and I have recently experienced a miscarriage of our second child at 12 weeks after conception. We named her Amelia. We had a funeral and burial service for her and believe she is with the Lord. Even knowing this I struggle with her loss. I feel as though I lost my purpose as a father as I was not able to take care of her the way that I take care of my son and my wife. I was not able to sacrifice myself f or her. Do you know of something that I could do to help me with my struggle? Q3: Am I wrong to believe that anyone with same-sex attraction can reorder their eros if they truly want to? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Snowflake close up TOBI Course Schedule Theology of the Body for Beginners Good News about Sex & Marriage The Third Way: Homosexuality and the Catholic Church If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Can you give some encouragement and advice for men like me trying their best to practice chastity to not fall into self disgust and feelings of uselessness? Are women inherently more integrated than men? What advice can you give to those of us trying to have holy marriages but are really struggling with our own spouse Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute and receive ongoing formation? Join our Patron Community! Q1: I have really felt God speaking to me through this podcast and it has been such a wealth of knowledge and wisdom. I am 24 years old and am currently in a serious relationship. My girlfriend is amazing. We’ve been making our way through Love and Responsibility together and I’ve been struggling not to fall into self disgust for myself as a man. I have been growing in chastity over this past year and it has been such a journey that I can only thank God for the Grace He has given me. But I’ve found myself doubting the purpose of the male body. Women seem to have an easier time controlling their thoughts and bodies when it comes to physical desire and sensuality. As a man, it has always been hard. I still get thoughts which I try not to entertain. Is there a purpose to these? Can you give some encouragement and advice for men like me trying their best to practice chastity to not fall into self disgust and feelings of uselessness? How can my sensual desires be a gift rather than just a hindrance? Q2: Could you explain this quote from Saint Edith Stein? "The relationship of soul and body is not completely similar in man and woman; with woman, the soul's union with the body is naturally more intimately emphasized... woman's soul is present and lives more intensely in all parts of the body, and it is inwardly affected by that which happens to the body." Q3: I love your marriage and the way the two of you interact and look at each other. What steps have you both taken to have the marriage you have today? What did you do when you were really struggling (individually and/or together)? What advice can you give to those of us trying to have holy marriages but are really struggling with our own spouse - maybe deep wounds from the past they don't address (and possibly don't want to address with you)? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Heaven's Song: Sexual Love as It Was Meant to Be Discovering the Human Person: In Conversation with John Paul II The Cry of The Heart - YouTube Video Theology of the Body Virtual Conference 2020 If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

How do I tell the difference between the experience of love and lust? Is there such a thing as "soul mates"? I've discerned that my girlfriend and I are not called to marriage. How do I have a healthy breakup? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: People in Christian circles talk a lot about chastity but I feel like it all stays at the surface. I still don’t understand the real difference between love and lust at the experiential level! How can I know which I’m feeling? Q2: Do you believe in the idea of “soul mates” or finding “the one”? What does the Church say? How does that work with free will? Q3: I am realizing that I may need to breakup with my girlfriend as I’m discerning that we are not called to marry each other. We both truly love each other but I’m realizing we are going separate ways. Do you have any advice? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Do all good people go to heaven? How do I know God's will for my life? Why do Catholics pray to saints? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: I understand that salvation comes through the Church but I cannot accept the idea that there are so many good people being damned because they are not a part of the body of Christ. How does this work with God’s mercy? Shouldn’t all good people go to heaven? Please explain if there’s theology I don’t understand. Q2: I’m really struggling to discern God’s will for my life. Vocational decisions feel so complicated and there are so many conflicting desires and voices. . . I don’t know how to know the right path. I feel like there should be a simple answer but life is messy. How do you discern God’s will in your life? Q3: Okay, so my question is about why Catholics pray to saints. It seems to me that this could be a violation of the first commandment: “I Am the Lord your God, you shall have no gods before Me.” Can you please explain why Catholics do this? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

What is the reason for confession if Jesus has already forgiven our sins? What misconceptions about St. Joseph would you like to see cleared up during this year? What is the relevance of Our Lady of Guadalupe to the modern world? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: What is the benefit or reason of confessing sins to a priest when Jesus has already forgiven our sins “once and for all”?? Is this based in scripture? There must be something I’m missing. . . Q2: Pope Francis just announced the Year of St. Joseph. What misconceptions about this amazing saint would you like to see cleared up during this year? Q3: Hello Wests! Christopher, I’ve heard you speak about the mysteries of Our Lady of Guadalupe in talks but I am curious if you could give a recap of this miracle and it’s relevance to TOB and to our current world? Thanks! Resources mentioned this week: Theology of the Body I: Head & Heart Immersion Course (Online) January 18-29, 2021 [Theology of the Body I: Head and Heart Immersion (Winter Park, Florida) February 7-12, 2021 REDEMPTORIS CUSTOS - St. John Paul II PATRIS CORDE - Pope Francis Our Lady of Guadalupe: Mother of the Civilization of Love If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Quotes on Joseph: Although Christ “is born from her like every man ... still Mary’s motherhood was virginal; and to this virginal motherhood corresponded the virginal mystery of Joseph” (TOB 75:2). “In this family, Joseph is the father: his fatherhood is not one that derives from begetting offspring; but neither is it an ‘apparent’ or merely ‘substitute’ fatherhood. Rather, it is one that fully shares in authentic human fatherhood” (John Paul II, Redemptoris Custos 21). “In taking Mary to his home … Joseph participated in the maternity of his spouse in the measure in which he was vowed to her virginity.… Jesus was truly the issue of their marriage; their virginity was fruitful, their flesh exultant and at peace, in the super-eminent realization of the life-bearing impulse” (Fr. Maurice Zundel, Our Lady of Wisdom). “The difficulty of accepting the sublime mystery of their spousal communion has led some, since the second century, to think of Joseph as advanced in age and to consider him Mary’s guardian more than her husband. It is instead a case of supposing that he was not an elderly man at the time, but that his interior perfection, the fruit of grace, led him to live his spousal relationship with Mary with virginal affection” (John Paul II, Theotokos, p. 128). “When one searches for the reasons why Christian art should have pictured Joseph as aged, we discover that it was in order to better safeguard the virginity of Mary. Somehow, the assumption had crept in that senility was a better protector of virginity than adolescence. Art thus unconsciously made Joseph a spouse chaste and pure by age rather than virtue.... To make Joseph appear pure only because his flesh had aged is like glorifying a mountain stream that has dried. The Church will not ordain a man to the priesthood who has not his vital powers. She wants men who have something to tame, rather than those who are tame because they have no energy to be wild. It should be no different with God.... Instead of being a man incapable of love, he must have been on fire with love…. Instead, then, of being dried fruit to be served on the table of the king, he was rather a blossom filled with promise and power. He was not in the evening of life, but in its morning, bubbling over with energy, strength, and controlled passion” (Sheen, The World’s First Love, p. 92). “Joseph had no suspicion of adultery because he knew the modesty and chastity of Mary. Moreover, he had read in Scripture that the virgin would conceive…. Thus it was easier for him to believe that Isaiah’s prophecy had been accomplished in her than to think that she could have let herself descend into debauchery” (St. Thomas, Commentary on Matthew, I, 117). “Joseph wanted to leave her for the same reason Peter begged the Lord to leave him, when he said: ‘Depart from me, O Lord, for I am a sinful man.’ …He saw with fear and trembling that she bore the surest signs of the divine presence, and, … as a human being, was afraid of … the profundity of the mystery, and so he decided to leave her quietly” (St. Bernard, In Laudibus Virginis Matris, Sermo II). Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice i

How did you know they were "the one"? What is a normal age to start dating? Why do Catholics place such an emphasis on Mary? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: Hi there! I have a personal question for you. Can you each tell the story of how you knew each other was “the one”? You have a beautiful marriage and I love listening to your podcast!! Q2: Hi Wendy and Christopher! In your opinion, what is a normal age to start dating? I am wondering because I think many people rush into relationships when they’re too immature to be discerning marriage but sometimes it is important to have learning experiences and allow feelings to be expressed, especially when you’re young. I don’t want to be set up for heartbreak but I also don’t want to live in fear! What are your thoughts on this? Q3: Hello Christopher and Wendy. I was raised with a very negative view of Catholics, but your podcast has opened my mind. Can you explain to me, a Protestant, why Catholics place such an emphasis on Mary? Why do you pray to her and not just Jesus? - it seems very odd (and somewhat pagan). Resources mentioned this week: Theology of the Body I: Head & Heart Immersion Course (Online) January 18-29, 2021 [Theology of the Body I: Head and Heart Immersion (Winter Park, Florida) February 7-12, 2021 Fill These Hearts Love is Patient but I'm Not If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Why do Catholics have images in church? Can you give a non-religious argument for waiting until marriage for sexual intimacy? How should I pray for my future spouse? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: Hi Christopher and Wendy! Thank you so much for your work on the podcast. I’ve heard you talk about our bodies as icons of God’s love and you’ve also discussed terms like idolatry and iconoclasm. . . It seems Protestants tend to strip imagery from churches while some Catholics go above and beyond images. Could you give an overview of the proper understanding of sacred imagery in churches as it relates to Theology of the Body and a broader Catholic understanding? Q2: Hello, I have a question about waiting for marriage. I’ve been blessed by TOB as it has given me a deep understanding of our dignity and why sexual acts communicate lifelong commitment and should be saved for marriage. I never had this growing up and it has changed my life! I am wondering though, could you give a non-religious explanation of this? Perhaps an appeal to natural law or reasoning that is accessible to secular people? I have many friends who are not receptive to the idea because of what our culture teaches and I want to share with them. Q3: Hello! I am a young, single woman longing to be married and have children someday! I have been praying for a future spouse since I was little but am afraid I’m going about it all wrong. I want to be open to who God has for me without getting carried away in a fantasy. . . do you have any advice on how to pray for my future spouse and keep my desire open to the Lord and trusting in Him? I’d love to hear both of your thoughts. Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: TOB1 Online: January 18-29, 2021 At the Heart of the Gospel Jesus and the Jewish Roots of Mary: Unveiling the Mother of the Messiah Discerning Marriage Hosted by Elizabeth Busby If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Do you have any advice for coping with the idea of of friends having a baby outside of marriage? I want to show my love and fidelity to my wife and children but I keep falling into the sin of pornography use after struggling for 10 years. What do I do? Is the pleasure of the climax more in God's plan for men than for women? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: I have Protestant friends who have been cohabitating during their engagement and recently announced they are pregnant. I have felt myself falling into the sin of judging them without kindness ever since. I hate feeling this judgement in myself, especially in reaction to the news of a new and Good life! Do you have any advice for coping with the idea of a new and good baby who is born outside of marriage? Q2: I live in Scotland UK, I’ve been following your podcast for sometime now and I am always amazed at how gentle and respectful you are to each other. It is inspiring and something which is missing in my marriage. I have been addicted to pornography from my teens. The only time I realized the seriousness of my sin was when I met my wife and the desire God put on my heart to be a good husband and good father to my children. I wanted to stop but 10 years later and I still fall back into this sin. I want to love my wife the way God has called me to, to be the hero in her life. I feel the heavy burden to make her feel loved and I know I can’t make her feel loved while I am choosing other women or images. Where do I start? Q3: Can you tell me why the pleasure of the climax seems more in God's plan for men than for women? It is necessary for procreation for men to have orgasm, but not for women. It is wonderful of men to be virtuous like JP2 said, and give pleasure to their wife, but why would God leave the pleasure of women to the virtue of men, and not vice versa? Resources mentioned this week: Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing Matt Fradd's Program: Strive 21 If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Can you talk about the quote from St. Augustine: "You have made us for yourself oh Lord, and our hearts are restless until they rest in you"? I can't get it out of my head that pictures from pornography that my husband has looked at can arouse him more than I can. Why does lust feel so much more powerful than the desire to be in communion and make the gift of self? My 3-year-old is in a habit of self-stimulation – what should we say or do, in your opinion? Could you describe the role of "main intercessor" that you mentioned in a podcast? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: Hello Christopher and Wendy, thank you so much for all the work that you two do with TOB and this podcast. It has brought me closer to God, just listening to you two talk about all these topics! I'm going to start reading TOB for Beginners this week, and I am pretty excited! In one of your podcasts Christopher had a quote from St. Augustine I believe, "You have made us for yourself oh Lord, and our hearts are restless until they rest in you." That is a super awesome quote and made my heart happy! Where does that quote come from, so I can maybe look more into St. Augustine and his writings? Q2: I have been hurt by pornography recently. Sometimes, when my husband and I want to be intimate, but are very tired, it is harder for him to get ready. I really understand all the physical factors that cause this, including age, and I respect it totally, but I can't get out of my head the thought that pictures from pornography that he looked at would be able to arouse him and I, despite my efforts, have great difficulty arousing him. I would like to heal this issue in my heart that leads to this hurtful certitude. Lust feels so much more powerful than the desire to be in communion and make the gift of self. Q3: My 3-year-old is in a habit of self-stimulation. I understand this is not necessarily a moral issue at his age, but I did the same in childhood and have had to work through some negative effects because no one helped walk me through it when I was young. Then, when I was older, I was told that masturbation is completely normal, even expected. His pediatrician has told me to just tell him to do it in private. I want to know how to protect him, how to talk with him in an age-appropriate way about his body, and how to set him up for a beautiful understanding of the fullness of God's creation later on in life. My husband and I typically just gently redirect him by saying, "Your body is good! You need to respect your body." What should we say/do in your opinion? Q4: Could you describe the role of "main intercessor" that you mentioned in a podcast? What does it mean and how to be a the main intercessor for our spouse? Any help would be super great! I will keep you two in my prayers. Stay healthy and God bless! Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Register for The Way of Beauty with Bill Donaghy, January 3 - 8, 2021 Register for Theology of the Body I: Head and Heart Immersion (Florida), February 7-12, 2021 Beyond the Birds and the Bees: Raising Sexually Whole and Holy Kids If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

What's a good strategy in the moment of temptation? Why did both Divine Mercy and Theology of the Body come into the world through Saint John Paul II? What is the secret of a good marriage? What's the biblical connection between sexual immorality and idolatry? If you could be the lead singer of any band, which would it be? What is one truth that God has been speaking to your heart recently that you would be excited to share with people? How is Theology of the Body particularly effective in communicating the heart of the kerygma? If you were to have any of Jesus's diciples at one of your courses, which one would you want it to be? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Jason Evert: What is your favorite ever story in the life of Saint John Paul II? What's a good strategy in the moment of temptation when you experience an attraction or a desire that you can't move forward on, whether that's a young person tempted on the internet, someone experiencing same-sex attraction, or even temptations within marriage? Father Patrick Schultz: Why did both Divine Mercy and Theology of the Body come into the world, in many ways, through Saint John Paul II? I'd love to hear your thoughts. Sr. Helena Burns: What is the secret of a good marriage? What is the secret of your marriage? Matt Fradd: Why is it – at least it seems to me as I read Scripture – that after people commit an act of idolatry it usually follows that they're having an orgy, or they're falling into sexual immorality? I have my theories. I'm sure yours are a lot more interesting and accurate so, what do you think? Mike Mangione: If you could have any musician throughout history at one of your courses for the five-day course, just sitting there and taking it in – any musician – who would it be? If you could be the front man in a current band and it's not weird, it all makes sense in the world, and the music's the same but you're able to infuse TOB into the music to reach the masses, what band would that be? But it cannot be U2 or Springsteen and the E Street Band. Stacy Mangione: What is one truth that God has been speaking to your heart recently that you would be excited to share with people? Chris Stefanick: Your passion and mine is sharing the core Gospel message with people, and you do that primarily through Theology of the Body – what's the overlap? How is Theology of the Body particularly effective in communicating the heart of the kerygma? Jeannie Gaffigan: If you were to have any of Jesus's disciples at one of your courses, which one would you want it to be? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Access the 2020 Theology of the Body Virtual Conference with a Premium Pass! 2020 TOB Congress If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Is expressing my love to my husband a way of expressing it to the Lord? Can medical benefits ever justify masturbation? How does Theology of the Body impact healthcare? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: My husband and I have been married for 56 years. My question is that you often refer to your Heavenly Spouse and your earthly one. My husband and I regard our Golden Years as very precious and we are still extremely loving and caring towards each other and love being together, including romantically. We are aware we will not be married in Heaven and I am certainly aware that only the Lord can fulfill our innermost love relationship. Is expressing my love to my husband a way of expressing it to the Lord? How do you see this in your heart? Q2: I’ve heard that masturbation can be a good thing for a man to do for medical reasons, like that it prevents prostate cancer or erectile dysfunction. What does the Church say about this? Q3: Does the Theology of the Body give any advice specific to doctors on how to incorporate TOB into healthcare? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Theology of the Hospitalized Body If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Did Adam and Eve have sex before the fall? When I have crossed a boundary sexually, it is hard not to give up afterwards. I know this is a lie, but it feels like the truth. Even though I believe God forgives me, I still failed. Can you offer advice or resources to help? When a person passes away, we pray for his or her soul, but what about the body? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: Did Adam and Eve have sex in Eden? If yes, why does the Bible say that Adam "knew" Eve only after the fall? And their love was fruitful after the fall, not before, in Eden (they did not have children in Eden). Thank you so much and God bless you. Q2: I am new to TOB but have found what I have experienced of it so far to be very helpful. My question is related to a mindset and heart change when it comes to sexual sins. When I have crossed a boundary sexually, it is hard not to give up afterwards. My mind tells me that I have already failed, so it doesn't matter if I try to be pure in that area of failure in the future. It feels like there is no going back. I know this is a lie, but it feels like the truth. Even though I believe God forgives me, I still failed. Can you offer advice or resources to help? Q3: Hi Wendy and Christopher, your podcast has blessed me over 1.5 years. I love it! Here's my question: When a person passes away, we pray for his or her soul, but what about the body? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: 2020 TOB Congress If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Is it okay for women to wear jeans? Why do men look at pornography? What is the key difference between Catholicism and Protestantism? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: I saw a post on instagram that according to the catholic tradition, women aren't meant to wear trousers simply because it's masculine and should only be wearing feminine clothes like skirts and dresses. It said that because of modernism people have embraced such clothing calling it unisex clothes like jeans, and when women wear them, it is suggestive even if it was meant to be modest. Could you comment on this? Q2: My husband says that he can't relate to pornography as a false means to seek intimacy because for him it was only voyeurism. What does a man seek in pornography, or looking at women in Sports Illustrated? Can my husband be right? Q3: What is the key difference between Catholicism and Protestantism? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: 2020 TOB Congress If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected]. Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

What determines gender? How do I share Theology of the Body with someone who has same-sex attraction? What are your thoughts on Vatican II? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: Are we male or female because of our genitals and chromosomes, or are our genitals and chromosomes just signs of our maleness or femaleness? I guess I'm just trying to understand the larger question of what makes a male a male and a female a female. Is it something deeper than these outward characteristics that we use to see that we are male and female? Q2: Someone I love very much is struggling greatly with same-sex attraction. He is a born-again Christian. He believes that perhaps to starve the temptations may be the only way to go. I want to bring some very basic TOB concepts to him about opening the yearning instead of starving the desires. Could you help me find the words that may help him reflect and remain hopeful? Q3: I am reading your book, "Good News about Sex and Marriage." Based off your chapter "Who Says," what do you say/feel about Vatican II? Should this have ever happened or was this a devil in disguise? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Desert Stream Ministries If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

I heard about the terrible thing that happened in New Orleans where the priest desecrated the altar with porn stars. How could he be a priest and do something like that? With unpredictable menstrual cycles and having made a career commitment for the next two years, should my soon-to-be-husband and I refrain from consumating our union? Why do Catholics pray to saints? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Our podcast segments are on YouTube! Check them out here. Q1: I heard about the terrible thing that happened in New Orleans where the priest desecrated the altar with porn stars. I find it just horrifying. How could he be a priest and do something like that? Q2: With unpredictable menstrual cycles and having made a career commitment for the next two years, should my soon-to-be-husband and I refrain from consumating our union? Q3: Why do Catholics pray to saints? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Register for the TOB Virtual Congress! Oct. 30 - Nov. 1 TOB1 Online Nov. 2-13 NaPRO Trained Physicians If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected]. Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

What is Consecrated Virginity and how does it differ from religous life and other vocations? How does one discern a call to consecrated virginity? Is it possible to explain the truths of Theology of the Body without reference to Christianity? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: What is Consecrated Virginity and how does it differ from religous life and other vocations? Q2: How does one discern a call to consecrated virginity? Q3: Thank you for all the work you have done to present JP II's beautiful Theology of the Body. Have you ever been challenged to explain the truths within TOB without using a religious or biblical perspective? Is that even possible? I'm desperate for non-biblical and non-religious resources that still point to the same truths we know from our beautiful Church's teachings. Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Discovering the Human Person Register for the TOB Virtual Congress! Oct. 30 - Nov. 1 TOB1 Online Nov. 2-13 Love and Responsibility Men, Women and the Mystery of Love: Practical Insights from John Paul II's Love and Responsibility If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

What key relationship advice would you offer to Catholic couples? What is the difference between courtship and dating? What is the best way to heal from a heart break from a serious relationship? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Access the 2020 Theology of the Body Virtual Conference with a Premium Pass! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: What key relationship advice would you offer to Catholic couples? Q2: What is the difference between courtship and dating? Q3: What is the best way to heal from a heart break from a serious relationship? I have been bringing my pain, questions, sadness, anger, and hurt to God about all this. It’s just tough to sit with and memories come back from when I was with my girlfriend. I miss her but I know I need to move on. Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Register for the TOB Virtual Congress! Oct. 30 - Nov. 1 TOB1 Online Nov. 2-13 Made for More Livestream! Oct 16th, 7:00 PM - 9:30 PM EDT Good News about Sex & Marriage Theology of the Body for Beginners If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Why is gender diversity in the work force important from a TOB perspective? I just saw a trailer for TLC's new show, "My Pregnant Husband." I don't even know how to process this; what are your thoughts? Do you have any advice for new parents on raising strong, Catholic men? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Access the 2020 Theology of the Body Virtual Conference with a Premium Pass! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: Why is gender diversity in the work force important from a TOB perspective? Q2: TLC has launched a new show called "My Pregnant Husband". I've only seen the trailer for the show (will not be watching the show). Heart wrenching....I don't even know how to process this. What are your thoughts? Can you please help me process this? I am just absolutely at a loss......sickened, saddened, heart broken, and even angry.... Q3: Do you have any advice for new parents on raising strong, Catholic men? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Register for the TOB Virtual Congress! Oct. 30 - Nov. 1 TOB1 Online Nov. 2-13 Made for More Livestream! Oct 16th, 7:00 PM - 9:30 PM EDT Eastern Icon of the Resurrection Good News about Sex & Marriage If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

If God is all powerful, why does he let bad things happen? Should a Catholic marry a non Catholic or is it necessary to be of the same faith as your spouse? How do I give my sexual desires to Jesus? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Register for the Theology of the Body Congress! October 30 - November 1 Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: If God is all powerful, why does he let bad things happen? Q2: Should a Catholic marry a non Catholic or is it necessary to be of the same faith as your spouse? Q3: I listened to your interview on Java with Juli and was so blessed by it. Can you talk about how to have our thirst quenched by Jesus? I am a Christian and want to have my thirst quenched by Christ and have my sexual desires lead toward heaven, but I don't know how. Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Theology of the Body Congress, October 30 - November 1 TOB1 Online, November 2-13 Three Choices with Eros by Beth West If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Can a girl ask a guy out? Should a Catholic have sex outside of marriage? What powers are granted by God in the Sacrament of Matrimony? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Register for the TOB Virtual Congress! Oct. 30 - Nov. 1 Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: Can a girl ask a guy out? Is there something innate about men making the first move or is that just cultural? Q2: Should a Catholic have sex outside of marriage? Please explain the Church's teaching on this. Q3: A priest at the altar, by the power granted by God in the Sacrament, turns the bread and wine into the Body and Blood of our Lord. A s married couples what powers are granted by God in the Sacrament of Matrimony? I know we are co-creators but I know there is more. Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Register for the TOB Virtual Congress! Oct. 30 - Nov. 1 TOB1 Online Nov. 2-13 If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

How do you reconcile St. Paul's writings in Romans with Theology of the Body? How do you reconcile the saints' words that say Celibacy is the superior vocation when the Sacrament of Marriage is so beautiful and ordained by God? Is there a video series you would recommend for introducing TOB to my parish? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Access the 2020 Theology of the Body Virtual Conference with a Premium Pass! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: I've heard you mention that we are not spritual beings stuck in a human body and that the human body is good, but when I read Roman's 7:18, St. Paul says, "Nothing good dwells in me that is in my flesh." The more I read Roman's chapter 7, the more I feel like the human body is not good. Can please explain to me what St. Paul meant. Q2: I am a 21-year-old entering into my senior year at a Catholic University and I have always wanted to be a nun. My parents' marriage is not a healthy one, so growing up, I ran away from the vocation to marriage. That is, until a little while ago when I had what I like to call a "Maria von Trapp" moment where I realized that I had fallen for someone. Because of this, I decided to take a course on Theology of the Body. This led to the healing of my "marriage wounds" and I soon fell in love with the beauty and richness of the vocation to marriage. My question, though, is how can I know for sure if I am meant to pursue the vocation to marriage? What if I have the grace for living Continence for the Kingdom and I choose marriage instead? Is this choosing a lesser good over the greater good? And, how do you reconcile the saints' words that say Celibacy is the superior vocation when the Sacrament of Marriage is so beautiful and ordained by God? Q3: I would like to introduce TOB to my parish. Is there a video series that you would recommend? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Register for the TOB Congress! Register for TOB1 online! FULFILLED SERIES 3-DVD SET + 1 STUDY GUIDE FULFILLED GROUP STUDY KIT (3-DVD SET + 10 STUDY GUIDES) If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Do you have any advice for healing from my boyfriend's sexual past? If Peter is the rock upon which the Church is built, why is Mary given to John at the foot of the cross? My fiancé wants to use contraception. Do you have any advice? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Access the 2020 Theology of the Body Virtual Conference with a Premium Pass! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now. He is a Catholic missionary and we met through our church. When he was in college however, he wasn’t living out his faith. He was indulging in things like drunkenness and hooking up with girls on a regular basis. He had a major conversion his senior year of college and now is an incredible man of God who passionately lives out his faith. I have been saving myself for marriage and when I found out he didn’t and has been with many women, it broke my heart. This is something I struggle with to this day. I see a Catholic counselor to try to deal with it, and the emotional pain has gotten better, but isn’t completely healed and is sometimes still a real struggle. I was wondering if you had any advice for me and if there’s hope that I can actually find full emotional healing from this. Q2: I'm in a TOB study group. One of the questions that we are intrigued by is that according to the spousal analogy there is a man on the cross and a woman at the foot of the cross. It explains that our Lord is the new Adam and that Mary, the new Eve, is at the foot of the cross and that from these nuptials "women, there is your son" is the beginning of the Church. In this passage of the bible the son is John. Nevertheless, the apostle that God gives the Church to is Peter. Our question then is, based on Archbishop Fulton Sheen and this analogy if John is representing the Church in the cross, then why is Peter the founder of the Church? Q3: I am currently deployed In a combat zone overseas and have been gone for over a year now. My fiance and I are getting married in January. She is a practicing Lutheran (NALC) and wants to be on contraception for the first year or two of our marriage as she is still in college and wishes to finish school before potentially getting pregnant. What resources would you recommend that her and I can study together to make decisions in our sex lives as a married couple? Lastly, our honeymoon will potentially fall on a week of ovulating. What would you recommend for people who are trying to do NFP but find themselves in situations like this? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Desert Stream Ministries Theology of the Body Congress TOB 1 Online, Nov 2-13 Word Made Flesh - Full Set Word Made Flesh - Cycle B Good News about Sex & Marriage If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

What factors are in play when discerning openness to children in marriage? How does Theology of the Body relate to the Catechism? If God's going to be merciful anyway, why keep trying to do His will? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Access the 2020 Theology of the Body Virtual Conference with a Premium Pass! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: Could you share thoughts or experiences about the factors in play when discerning openness to children in marriage? Things like responsibility, God's providence, different cultural expectations, etc. Q2: I just read you teach on studying the Catechism with an emphasis on TOB. Can you tell me more about that, please? Q3: I often get deeply dispaired and lose hope in humanity when I see all the news about pedofilia, Catholics being advocates of the LGBT movement, my brothers having premarital relations with their girlfriends, having to plead with them to watch the mass on Sundays, etc. It seems as If there are no consequences. And, anyhow, God's going to be merciful. So, why keep on trying to do God's will? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Register for the TOB Congress taking place virtually Oct. 30-Nov. 1 Fullfilled Series Catechism Paragraphs 2605 and 2606 Eclipse of the Body If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Isn't the phrase "Natural Family Planning" somewhat misleading? What are your thoughts on a single woman fostering and perhaps adopting children? Can I expect God to communicate to me through "signs"? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Access the 2020 Theology of the Body Virtual Conference with a Premium Pass! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: Dear Christopher and Wendy, I thank you wholeheartedly! I started listening to the podcast to learn more about TOB for my ministry, but the Lord was waiting for me there mainly to help me personally and heal my wounds. I’m a missionary priest and I have eleven brothers and sisters, now all of us in their thirties and twenties. I know we are the fruit of my parent’s daily challenge to discover and accept God’s will, needing His grace day by day anew. I have some reservations about the expression “(Natural) Family Planning” - not about its real meaning but isn't it somehow confusing? Don’t you see a contrast between Christian spouses discerning continuously God’s will for their Family and the way most people in the world understand “family planning”. Did JPII use this expression? What do you think about it? Q2: I am a 40 year old single woman who wished to have been married, but it seems that time may be past. I have come to acceptance of this and look forward to what God may have in store for me for the rest of my life, even if it may lead back to marriage. My question is: my heart has always gone out to foster children and I have this intense desire to give them a loving home. This comes up from time to time. But I hesitate, as I understand they may even more desperately need a male role model in their lives, and I wouldn’t have that in place. What are your thoughts on a single woman fostering and perhaps adopting children? Would this even be a wise thing to do? Q3: Hello, Christopher and Wendy! I want to know your opinion about asking the Holy Spirit for signs and when I say signs I mean like: “If today I see a guy with a blue shirt holding a cheesecake, You're telling me that he is my soulmate.” I exaggerated but I guess you get it. In the old testament there are examples of God using signs. Sometimes He says what the sign will be; sometimes a specific sign is requested from Him. Can I ask or expect God to communicate to me this way? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Register for TOB1 in person with Bill Donaghy: November 15-20, 2020 Word Made Flesh - Full Set Word Made Flesh - Cycle B If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

How does taking testosterone as a man differ from a woman taking hormonal birth control or a person who identifies as transgender using hormone injections to “transition” into the opposite sex? How are we to be selfless while maintaining our dignity as persons? Can you explain more about "the new ethos" mentioned in your book "Our Bodies Tell God's Story"? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Access the 2020 Theology of the Body Virtual Conference with a Premium Pass! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: My boyfriend just shared with me that he recently began taking testosterone injections. His reasons for wanting to take them include wanting an increase in energy, an improved mood, and to feel better overall physically. He assures me that it is safe, and his doctor has assured him it is safe as well. However, I can’t help but feel a bit off-put by his decision to take them, since his bloodwork indicated his testosterone levels were completely normal prior to the injections. He is only 25 years old, and in great shape physically. I feel that he does not need the injections. The thought keeps resounding in my mind that he is on steroids, and it does not sit right with me. Would you please share your perspective on this through the lens of Theology of the Body? How is this different from a woman taking hormonal birth control or a person who identifies as transgender who uses hormone injections to “transition” into the opposite sex? Q2: Recently I heard of someone talking about the characteristic of being "selfless" and how this may not in fact be something praise worthy to the point that we are denying our goodness as a person/personhood by saying this. I cant remember where I heard it and thought it was maybe your podcast. But could you comment on this in light of TOB and how by growing in relationship to God we are to become more fully ourselves and fully alive. Are the two congruent? Q3: Hello! I’m reading your book “Our bodies tell God’s story” and I would love to hear you speak more about “the new ethos.” Is this like a much powerful way of discernment? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Theology of the Body for Beginners Our Bodies Tell God's Story Theology of the Body Explained Man and Woman He Created Them If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

When it comes to praying for a spouse, to what degree should I expect God to fulfill my checklist? I read in a protestant book for women that we have no right to expect our husband to stay sexually pure if we constantly pull away. Can you give a TOB perspective on this? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Access the 2020 Theology of the Body Virtual Conference with a Premium Pass! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: When it comes to praying for a spouse after discerning the call to marriage, to what extent should I expect God to consider my inner desires for physical beauty, age similarity and personality traits? I'm afraid to seek dates/courtship because of the possibility that God might expect me to be open to someone who doesn't meet my inner checklist. I want to avoid the trap of thinking that "I" can ultimately satisfy my deepest desires, especially during the ache of singlehood. Is it wishful thinking to believe that "God doesn't show you gold and then give you silver" in the dating context? Q2: In a Protestant book to help wives recover from the porn addiction of their husband, I read this: "While we're quick to expect our husbands to tow God's line of sexual purity, we're often slow to tow HIs other line and admit that our bodies aren't our own. We have no right to expect our husband to stay sexually pure if we constantly pull away. We're his sole vessel of sexual satisfaction and guys need regular sexual fulfillment, two to three times a week." I need the TOB point of view on this in my journey to heal. Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Good News about Sex & Marriage Theology of the Body for Beginners If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Is it immoral to cohabitate with your fiance due to COVID if you are not engaging in intercourse and taking measures to avoid scandal? Do you have any wisdom for overcoming the struggle with pornography after a relapse? How do we know John “leapt for joy” in the womb? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Access the 2020 Theology of the Body Virtual Conference with a Premium Pass! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: I had a question about a very unique cohabitation situation. One of my friends (say Bob) is cohabitating with his fiance because of COVID. They decided that it was healthier that they live together since she would be in an unhealthy family situation at home with no job. Bob is a very devout Catholic and is very aware on the churches teachings (he's read some of your books), and in an effort to reduce scandal his brother is living in his apartment as well. Bob is hoping that his fiance can move out soon, but it has been over a month and the deadline only keeps getting extended for quarantine. The question: If they are not engaging in sex and believe that they are not committing scandal, is this still contrary to the church's teaching? He is one of my best friends so I'm very concerned for his spiritual welfare and helping him avoid scandal. Q2: I am having trouble overcoming my attachment to pornography. I have struggled with it since I was 7 years old. I had a major conversion when I was 20 years old and I stopped watching pornography for 4 years after that. I am now 25 and the past year the problem has resurfaced and I am struggling again and I do not know why. I thought I had the problem under control. Do you have any spiritual or practical wisdom that you can impart? Q3: How do we know John “leapt for joy” in the womb? I mean how do we discern between that and just a swift kick in the rib or evening calisthenics? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Interrior Freedom by Fr. Jacques Philippe Join Matt Fradd and discover the keys to a life of freedom through the [STRIVE 21-Day Challenge](www.strive21.com) If you are in financial need and honestly cannot afford a book or resource recomended on this podcast, contact: [email protected] Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

If we won't be married in heaven, will we still be together as a family? How does God's command to "be fruitful and multiply" apply to us today? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Access the 2020 Theology of the Body Virtual Conference with a Premium Pass! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: I really enjoy Theology of the Body and its insights really help me to love my faith more. The one thing that I struggle with is how we will not be married in heaven. I understand that marriage is only a sign of what is to come, but it makes me sad that think that our families will not be the same in heaven. Will we still be together as a family in heaven? If you are able, could you explain this mystery a little more? Q2: Can you talk about how God's command to Adam and Eve to "be fruitful and multiply" relates to us today? This command came before they had sinned. Also, a church leader said that having children in Jewish families in the Old Testament was so vital and esteemed because they were expecting the Messiah (and thus that having babies after He was born was not as vital). How do children hold a special place in God's plan today? So many people are convinced that having less children is an essential part of the solution of climate change. Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Theology of the Body Virtual Conference Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Why did God create a patriarchy for the human family and for the hierarchy of his church? Why is there no gender complementarity at the altar during mass or in the organization of the church? Can you shed some light on the sacrament of confession? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Access the 2020 Theology of the Body Virtual Conference with a Premium Pass! Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: Why did God create a patriarchy for the human family and for the hierarchy of his church? Q2: Why is there no gender complementarity at the altar during mass in a visible way? Q3: Why is there no gender complementarity in the organization of the church? Q4: While I know that confession is an essential, powerful and healing sacrament, I have often dreaded going. I find that confessing my sins is uncomfortable and am always fearful that I will fail to confess everything. I do not think that I have fully perceived and experienced true nature of the sacrament. Can you shed some light on the sacrament of confession? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Resources mentioned this week: Heaven's Song Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

How can I experience Christ through love making? Is the path of holiness a return to Eden? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: Since the marital embrace is a sign of the unity of the trinity and created by God, how can I experience Christ through love making? It can take years to even be happy with "God being in the room" while love making. I do experience the sacrificial love, goodness and power of the act but I know there is more. To invite God into it more and unlock deeper intimacy. Are there married saints who write on this? Q2: Through JPII's perspective, is Christ saying that if we regain our humility and trust in God, we can, in a sense, go back to Eden and experience that true communion of persons? Maybe I'm romanticising it to be a return to the perfected image of God, instead of the best we can be in our broken image of God after The Fall. What are your thoughts and experience with this? Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

What is your opinion on the negative impact popular music has on the way men treat women? Are women responsible for presenting themselves in a way that does not arouse lust? My husband refuses to be intimate with me because of my dedication to the faith. What should I do? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body. Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron! Q1: Frist, I want to thank you for your podcast. It has helped me a lot in my life. I am currently finishing my last year of college studying psychology in Mexico and for me to graduate, I have to do a thesis. The topic I'm investigating is the impact popular music has on male college students to the way they see women – how listening to some types of music affects men in the objectification of women. I know Christopher is a big fan of music, so I wanted to hear your opinion on the negative impact popular music, especially rap and hip-hop genre, could have on men in the way they see and treat women. Q2: I recently listened to Jason Evert interview Christopher West for the Love Life Conference. I had a question about something in the beginning when they spoke of jewels not being the cause of theft and the beauty of woman not being the cause of lust. I understand that, but is there some responsibility on the part of the woman to present herself in a wholesome way? I'm not saying we need to wear burlap sacks around but is there some sort of line that's crossed between wholesome beauty and something else? I remember a girl in highschool wanted to go to school in a t-shirt with no bra because she said, "It's my body. I'm not ashamed." Well that's not wrong; it's good not to be ashamed of our bodies, but we also need to respect others in how we present ourselves. I would appreciate your thoughts on this matter. Q3: About seven years ago I had a radical reversion to our faith. I have fallen completely in love with our Lord and the beautiful faith that He left us. I just can't get enough of Theology of the Body. The problem is that only I feel this way. My husband has no interest in the beautiful teaching's of our faith and is quite hostile about TOB. He says I have changed in the way we're intimate together and perhaps I have because I have such profound reverence for the gift of the marital embrace. I love my husband very much and I long to be close to him, but he says that as long as I quote "love my faith more than him" then sex can't be what it used to be. He says that he is very sad and there is nothing to be done for it. He isn't open to counseling. He often expresses resentment that I love our Lord more than Him. I honestly just don't know what to do with this. I want to have a loving, healthy marriage but my husband has shut down nearly all intimacy. Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com. Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram. Discover the Theology of the Body Institute. If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening! Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals. Featuring music by Mike Mangione.