Almost Forty

What Skye Wheatleys Instagram Stories made me think about for days- in regards to parenting and partnership. This is an episode for women navigating their 30s and 40s, who are curious about relationships, identity and the impact and dynamics of parenting.  Unlock Exclusive Episodes here: https://apple.co/iamSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

"I realised I was feeling numb toward weekends - and something had to change" enter Project Make Weekends Good Again. This has been a work in progress and today's podcast ep is all about the feeling of same/sameness from weekend to weekday and how I've managed to make progress toward creating more contrast. It's an episode for every Mum out there who needs the reminder that she can. be present, lower the bar AND enjoy weekends again.  Listen to the most recent subs ep via Almost Confidential https://apple.co/iamSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Almost Forty, Kylie responds to a message from a listener who asked a simple but deeply personal question: “Was getting diagnosed actually worth it?”After receiving her own adhd diagnosis several years ago - and navigating diagnoses for her children - Kylie reflects on what truly changed… and what didn’t.She shares the practical realities of the diagnostic process, the financial and emotional considerations, and the unexpected ways understanding ADHD and Autism has helped her make sense of past experiences, relationships, parenting, masking, and identity.   This episode explores: What a diagnosis can give you (and what it can’t) The psychological clarity that can come with understanding yourself differently How diagnosis changed Kylie’s parenting Why language like masking, burnout and decompression matters The complexities of navigating a world that isn’t built for neurodivergent people Kylie also reflects on rejection sensitivity, friendship dynamics, and the experience many neurodivergent women describe of feeling like they were always trying to figure out “how to be a person.”If you’re considering exploring a diagnosis for yourself, or supporting a child through that process, this episode offers a thoughtful and honest reflection on what that journey can look like.You can also listen to Kylie’s earlier conversation about neurodivergence with Dr Erin Bowe here: https://podcasts.apple.com/es/podcast/almost-forty/id1453463089?l=ca Dr Erin Bowe specialises in supporting women navigating the neurodivergent diagnostic process and offers a compassionate, affirming approach to understanding ADHD and autism in adulthood. :  Access subscriber content here.    https://apple.co/iam  Follow Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kylielately?igsh=MW0xZGxmZXdqYmw2bQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qrSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Almost Forty, Kylie shares the simple health habits she relies on in her late 30s to support energy, wellbeing and everyday life. Instead of complicated routines or extreme wellness trends, this episode focuses on realistic habits that are easy to repeat and work alongside a busy life.Kylie talks about the small things that make the biggest difference. This is about creating a sustainable relationship with health in midlife, where consistency matters more than perfection. If you’re looking for simple ways to support your health, energy and wellbeing without overcomplicating things, this episode is for you.In this episode:Simple health habits for women in their late 30s and beyond. Focusing on health habits that work with your life, not against it- Follow Almost Forty for more conversations about midlife, wellbeing, personal growth and modern motherhood.  Access the subscrier only episodes here:    ALMOST CONFIDENTIAL  Instagram : follow kylie here See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Unfortunately - it is really common for women to feel like they no longer matter in their own lives. It happens gradually and simply, because they run out of time and energy to even "care" what they like or want for themselves.  When everyday is focused on meeting the needs of everyone around you - it makes sense that you just kind of "turn your own needs and wants down". At some point though, we have to tune back into ourselves. This episode is about why women deprioritise their own preferences, the discomfort of not knowing what you enjoy anymore and realistic ways to begin reconnecting with yourself in small, effective ways.This isn’t about adding more to your plate.It’s about restoring the signal of who you are.If you’ve been feeling disconnected from yourself, this is your starting point. To access private and personal episodes : Check out Almost ConfidentialSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode is for anyone who has ever craved change but lacks the bandwidth for transformation. It's for the woman who feels stuck in the "same same" cycle of each day...  or even each year.  Kylie  answers a DM from a Mum who feels completely "over it" and desperately craves a Mindset Reset and feels defeated that the new year has not brought the transformation she hoped.   Listen to Almost Confidential here        See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode is a live reaction to the very first podcast episode I shared - Six years on from the very  to the day - Listen in to hear what has changed, what's remained and the ick of listening back to yourself 🫠 Follow here on IG  Access Subscriber Only Episodes HereSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode is all about emotional intelligence and personal growth via three psychological principles I’ve intentionally woven into the way I raise my boys . This isn’t just a parenting episode. These are personal development concepts that apply to friendships, co-parenting, workplaces, romantic relationships and everyday life. We explore: The difference between intention and impact Why repair matters more than defensiveness How to teach kids to look at patterns instead of reacting in black and white The truth about “attention-seeking” behavior How unmet needs show up sideways Why negative attention still meets a need How children can trigger unresolved parts of us The difference between reactions and responsibility Parenting is one of the most uncomfortable vehicles for personal growth. But when we’re willing to look at what’s being mirrored back to us, it can also be transformative. If this episode resonated, press follow on Apple or Spotify so you don’t miss what’s coming next. And if you’ve been here since the toddler life days, slide into my DMs - I’d love to hear from you. Listen to Almost Confidential Here : UNLOCK ACCESS Follow me on Instagram: Follow Kylie on IG here See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, I’m joined by relationship expert Thais Gibson to break down the six stages every relationship goes through and the critical stage where most couples either grow closer or quietly fall apart. We explore why relationship frustration isn’t a sign you chose the wrong person, but often a sign you’ve entered the power struggle stage. The make-or-break phase can feel like a crisis, but is actually an opportunity for deep connection and long-term stability.This conversation is for you if you’ve ever wondered: why the same relationship patterns keep repeating why qualities you once loved now feel triggering whether conflict means something is wrong  or whether it’s part of healthy growth In this episode, we cover: The 6 stages every relationship moves through (and where most get stuck) Why the power struggle stage feels so intense and why it’s unavoidable How attachment styles shape who we’re drawn to and why Why your subconscious, not your conscious mind, drives most relationship choices The difference between toxic cycles and productive conflict How couples move from conditional love to something deeper and more secure Thais also shares practical frameworks for navigating conflict, communicating needs without defensiveness, and understanding when a relationship is actually progressing - even when it feels uncomfortable.If you’re dating, partnered, married, separated, or simply trying to understand your relationship patterns, this episode will give you language, clarity, and a new lens to view what’s really happening. Thais Gibson is a best-selling author, relationship expert, and founder of The Personal Development School. She is the creator of Integrated Attachment Theory and has helped tens of thousands of people worldwide transform their relationships. Visit The Personal Development School here Follow Thais Follow Thais on Instagram here Follow Kylie Here See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This short solo episode is all about the concept of desire reorientation and how to unlock a new level of life satisfaction with this practice. It's about wanting less in order to feel more contented and at peace.  access the subscriber only podcast ALMOST CONFIDENTIAL : HERE💛 Follow Kylie on IG here See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This MINI ep is all about a simple, family friendly principle that explains why our days unfold the way they do and how we can catch these moments before they become bigger than they need to be. This is not about optimising your morning with a perfect routine- this is a clear way of shifting your mindset- and this concept is very kid friendly!   UNLOCK ALMOST CONFIDENTIAL HERE  Follow Kylie on IG hereSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Stephanie Rigg joins Kylie to explore the complexities of attachment styles, particularly for women navigating relationships in their late 30s. From the pressure of biological clocks to the challenge of bridging knowledge into action, Stephanie offers practical wisdom on self-worth, making difficult relationship decisions and how the predictive brain can hijack your nervous system and turn a small trigger into a full blown relationship emergency. Unlock Almost Confidential here 💛 We also go into long-term relationships and what happens when insecure cycles become deeply entrenched over years, plus the question I get asked constantly: what do you do when your partner refuses personal development, and you feel like you’re the only one doing the work? Stephanie Rigg is a certified relationship coach and teacher helping people heal anxious attachment and build healthy, secure relationships. She has worked with over 6,000 people from more than 30 countries through her coaching practice and online courses. Stephanie is the host and creator of the top-ranked “On Attachment” podcast. Listen On Spotify Listen on Apple here Check out Stephanies website here Follow Stephanie on IG here Follow Kylie on IG hereSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You’re intelligent, Self-aware and you know how to articulate exactly why they don’t serve you.So why can’t you stop? Why do you still reach for your phone at 6pm instead of being present? Why do you say yes when you mean no? Why do you start fights to avoid what’s really bothering you? Why do you organise the pantry for the tenth time instead of sitting with yourself? In this honest and open conversation, psychologist Jacquie Ward and I dismantle everything you thought you knew about self-sabotage. Spoiler: it doesn’t actually exist. In This Episode We Explore:The Midlife Reckoning ∙ Why turning 40 hits different (and it’s not just about the number) ∙ The grief of bigger kids and the season shift nobody prepares you for ∙ The known spike in maternal depression when all kids start school - and why it happens ∙ “If not now, then when?” - the delicious freedom and anxiety of finite timeWhat Self-Sabotage Actually Is ∙ Why “self-sabotage” is really maladaptive self-soothing (and why this reframe changes everything) ∙ The behaviors smart women reach for: phone scrolling, conflict-seeking, over-functioning, food, hypervigilance ∙ Starting fights to avoid inner conflict - the pattern nobody talks about ∙ How we use “acceptable” addictions to numb out (and why they’re so accessible)The Patterns Keeping You Stuck ∙ “I’m self-reflective, not always self-aware” - why you can intellectualize everything but still can’t change ∙ The mental load makes better choices practically impossible sometimes ∙ Why you can’t selectively numb (what you’re losing when you disconnect from discomfort) ∙ People-pleasing: the hardest thing to let go of at 40Tiger Energy vs Swan Energy ∙ Why discipline culture and “tough love” keeps burning you out ∙ The masculine energy of Goggins-style motivation (and when it actually works vs when it destroys) ∙ “All tiger energy, zero swan energy” - which one are you? ∙ How to be goals-driven without being rigidThe Uncomfortable Work of Real Change ∙ Being able to tolerate discomfort is the skill of our generation ∙ Naming the feeling dissolves 80% of its power ∙ Why you can’t sit through a full-length movie (and what that’s really about) ∙ The practice: brain dump everything swirling in your head today - not Pinterest-worthy, just rawWhat Actually Works ∙ Why compassion beats discipline for sustainable change ∙ Understanding what’s driving the behavior underneath ∙ How Jacquie broke her pattern of using food to self-soothe (Magnums for breakfast, lolly stashes around the house, managing Crohn’s disease) ∙ The shift from self-contempt to curiosity. Jacquie Ward is a psychologist based in South Sydney who works with children, adolescents, and their families both in person and online. After the birth of her first child, a deep love of learning combined with a fascination for developmental psychology and attachment theory led her to pursue a complete career change. Almost 10 years, two more babies, and approximately 5,000 textbooks later, she found herself immersed in her dream job.For Jacquie, working with children, teens, and their families as they navigate challenges with mental health and wellbeing is the ultimate privilege. She’s also a mum of three (11, 9, and 5), married to her high school sweetheart Dave, and has lived the midlife transformation she talks about in this episode - from chronic people-pleasing and maladaptive coping to a softer, more sustainable way of being.Connect with Jacquie:Website: jacquieward.com.auInstagram: @jacquie_ward_https://www.instagram.com/sweat.chill.exhale?igsh=MWlvbTdib2pram9haA==If you want even more- head over to our subscriber only podcast  https://apple.co/iamFollow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kylielately?igsh=MW0xZGxmZXdqYmw2bQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qrSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

My word for 2026 surprised me. Not because it sounded inspiring, but because it made me uncomfortable. Every woman knows the feeling of over functioning, micro managing and the push and pull of being responsible for far too much. We carry things we shouldn't have to, and sometimes we carry things far too long- to the where it becomes unhelpful. In this episode, I’m unpacking what it really looks like to get out of your own way when responsibility has gone too far. Not in a “do better” way  but in a way that actually gives you your power back. The quiet link between resentment and over-responsibility How control and micromanaging can be nervous system responses, not personality traits  The difference between being responsible and being over-responsible What I realised I was taking responsibility for that was never mine Why insight alone wasn’t enough What actually created change How letting go of certain responsibilities (especially as a parent) can be for the best What it means to be responsible for your reactions without blaming yourself This isn’t about fixing yourself.I t’s about noticing where you’ve been carrying too much – and what happens when you stop.If you’ve ever thought “why do I feel resentful when I’m doing everything right?”  This episode might land closer than you expect. Listen to more unfiltered reflections and deeper conversations inside Almost Confidential 💛  https://apple.co/iamSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, I’m joined by Amy- the founder of The Hosted Home Collective, Airbnb Community Leader, property educator, and the mind behind design-led and a brand new tech-forward start up. Amy shares the mindset shifts that have shaped her success, the business lessons learned from scaling across hospitality, education, and tech, and how intentional design plays a role not just in homes, but in life itself. We talk manifesting, motherhood, creating work that supports the life you actually want, and what it really takes to level up without burning out. This conversation is part strategy, part mindset, and part permission slip for designing a life that feels as good as it looks.  Try Ethena ( Amy's Tech Start up) The Hosted Home on IG Check out Amy's courses here Listen to amy's podcast here  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode Kylie answers a DM from a Mum seeking support around difficult post school transitions for her son. This episode touches on d overwhelm and offers practical tool kit strategies to regulate the nervous system compassionately. This is one for any parent who knows what it's like for their child to struggle with big feelings, sensory overwhelm, dysregulation, acting out or shutting down. Listen to the most unfiltered episodes via inside Almost Confidential 💛 the subscriber-only series where we explore the thoughts we don’t always share out loud: Access here  and   Connect on social here with KylieSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.