AgilEmpath

The Tips 1. You are here because you have something to say. a. Whether this is for speaking to your family, team, company, a large audience, place of worship as a leader/guest speaker; you are here for a reason. b. Do you get interrupted? Are you talked over? c. The key to effective communication is listening and most people don’t know how. i. Effective communicators listen to others first * What is being said * How it is being said a. Non-verbal communication up to 93% * Tone of voice * Body language 2. Speaking is a skill a. Anytime we have an opportunity to speak with others is practice * Think about a zoom meeting * A conversation with a stranger in public * A customer service agent Practice every time! 3. It’s for them a. Be other minded * What do you want/need to convey to others? * How will they receive it? * Connection is key * Emotional connection with the audience * Means they can relate somehow 4. We all have a story a. Look at their non-verbal communication * Are the arms crossed? * Faces flushed? * Shaking head * Tapping foot 5. Tell your story Ask them, what is the story you heard? Psychodiagnostics tells us where they are at Adjust to their perceptionTell it another way Remember public speaking is for them This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

“Our goal for positive change and success should last a lifetime.” ~Dr. Caroline LeafNeuroplasticity is the reorganization of the brain in response to various sensory experiences. Research shows developing new habits takes cycles of 63 days minimum. We are in a fast food world where we expect automatic results. Mindset work is just that, work. This is like a physical exercise routine. We cannot walk into the gym today for the first time and lift 500 pounds without becoming seriously injured.What about time?Find your flow, paying attention to one task with full focus, making good use of time.Self care is a productive use of time as you are important!Remember habits take 63 days to build with consistent application.Be patient with yourself with self-compassion.#fridaymindsetchallenge This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

“Forgiveness does not deny pain or wrongdoing; it is a choice to let go of the person who hurt you.” ~Dr. Caroline LeafA Mayo Clinic study found people who held grudges had increased muscle tension, feelings of being less in control, with elevated blood pressure and heart rates. The researchers asked the participants to imagine forgiving the person who harmed them. They reported feeling more positive and relaxed with a greater sense of well-being.What are the steps to forgive?Acknowledge the pain you are feeling.Look at the other person’s life and context considering what they have and are experiencing.This is a decision to make and it takes time to heal.#fridaymindsetchallenge This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

“The first step in controlling emotions is to recognize that you have control over your emotions. The second step is to realize that you are not responsible for the cause of the emotion but rather for the management of the emotion.” ~Dr. Caroline LeafThere is a natural flow in our human system when we express our emotions in a healthy way instead of repressing them thus stopping this flow. We learn to hide emotions due to social norms in various settings throughout our lives. Social Cognitive & Affective Neuroscience teaches us there is an effect on our body and mind due to repression and expression of emotions. The key is to regulate the emotions that occur. What does this process look like?Recognize you have control over your emotions.We are responsible for the management of the emotion, not the cause.Feel your emotions, talk about them or journal, making a decision to balance out the negative with what is going well and the feelings that arise.#fridaymindsetchallenge This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

“These words contain power and reflect your thought life, influencing the world around you and the circumstances of your life. Your words are therefore very useful, since they provide insight into what is holding you back or propelling you forward.” ~Dr. Caroline LeafQuantum Physics tells us we release energy with words. With negative words. we release negative quantum energy bringing upset to our mental & physical system. This creates a stressful state. Just think how we feel after a heated argument physically and emotionally: worn out! What we say is a reflection of what we are thinking and how we feel, and words have power. I grew up with the phrase, ‘sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.’ Not true according to Quantum Physics.Let’s work on our words!Increase awareness of what you say.Compare your words to your thoughts.Replace negative statements with positive words.#fridaymindsetchallengeAvailable on multiple platforms! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

Happiness Studies have shown us the key to being internally happy is connection. This is a meaningful life with inner life satisfaction. Have you ever gotten that one thing you dreamed of having, and later felt empty realizing it did not bring you true satisfaction? Positive Psychology has redefined success as preceding happiness, not the vice versa that we thought: success brings happiness. To find true happiness is to find success.How do we find happiness?Connect socially.Watch funny videos.Believe happiness is for you.Choose to be happy now not, ‘I’ll be happy when ___________ happens.”#fridaymindsetchallenge This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

AGIORGIS church (View from Christiana’s Balcony)Christiana was raised in the Paralio Astros Arcadia region of Greece where her father brought the textile industry employing one thousand local residents. The factory closed after 20 years and he grieved over this. Christiana promised to continue his legacy by making the region productive. Christiana’s education includes a Fine Arts degree, Bachelor’s degree in Education, and MBA. She has lived abroad in Canada for 22 years, where she taught kindergarten to University level courses. She proceeded to move to Athens where she worked as an investment counselor for Meryl Lynch. 10 years ago, she moved home to Paralio Astros Arcadia,Greece to care for her aging parents. She now lives near the Mediterranean in the shadow of the mountain Parnonas.Christiana is building a pilot program to regenerate empty villages by revitalizing a school in the village where she is from in Paralio Astros Arcadia, Greece. This is the cross section of science, business, technology for the good of nature and the good of the people. Her vision is to build The Meraki people, which is defined by 4 words: passion, dexterity, focus, & commitment.In honor of her late father, Christiana is committed to create community utilizing the mountains as the factory utilizing the existing resources by empowering the indigenous people of the area to use their innate talents. There is bio diversity in the Mediterranean eco system as the source to make a living. Youth have left the local villages in search of successful careers, with many leaving Greece altogether. Redefining success is also an initiative within the region.She aspires to bring a group of 50 people sitting in 7 tables to work collectively. All can contribute virtually as well with their gifts.While the locals have initially stated, ‘this cannot be,’ Christiana 5 years later passed an initiative with the local council. She is a fellow of MIT Bio Labs and has applied to be part of Greece 2021. She is also part of the NOWWHAT!? Collective where there is support for her project. Contact her here today: [email protected]/christiana.gardikiotiThe AgilEmpath Podcast is on multiple listening platforms:https://pod.link/1521109986 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

In Dr. Leaf’s book: “Think, Learn, Succeed,” 15 mindsets are explained that have been observed in participants to positively change brain chemistry.“You cannot control the events and circumstances of life. You can, however, control your reactions to the events and circumstances of life through the choices you make and the thoughts you think.” ~Dr. Caroline LeafAs human beings we are made of a spirit, soul, & body. Thoughts create our mood which influences how we feel physically. There is no separating feeling sad with having an upset stomach. If we are unclear where somatic problems are originating from, consider our psychology & spiritual state.Superposition is the ability to focus on incoming information, think about the thoughts, analyze them choosing what stays and what goes. We do not have to accept thoughts and make them part of our thinking. Sometimes we have memories pop up due to a smell, or something someone said. We have the ability at that moment to recreate the memory balancing it with a positive that also occurred during the past. Truth of the matter, we have the ability to control our mind and this rewires the brain.Begin controlling those thoughts, sorting them, and choosing what stays and what goes:Do not allow thoughts to wander, instead capture them.Analyze the thought.Re-conceptualize thoughts & memories, by deciding what thought you would rather have. Add that thought to the mind’s vocabulary.#fridaymindsetchallenge This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

Karl Shallowhorn is the President of Shallowhorn Consulting, LLC. He has a Master’s Degree in Student Personnel Administration from SUNY Buffalo State and is a New York State Credentialed Alcoholism and Substance Abuse Counselor (CASAC). Karl has worked in the field of addiction and mental health for over 19 years and has delivered well over 200 trainings, workshops and keynote addresses to diverse audiences across the U.S. He is a Certified Mental Health First Aid Instructor and is the author of Working on Wellness: A Practical Guide to Mental Health. Karl is the Chairperson of the Erie County Anti-Stigma Coalition, as well as serving on several other local and statewide Boards. He has received numerous awards for his advocacy efforts, including from the National Federation for Just Communities and the Buffalo Association of Black Social Workers.https://shallowhornconsulting.com/"Leadership Through the Lens of the 12 Steps" is his newest book. Learn more here: https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Through-Lens-12-Steps/dp/B08HGZK4GWThe AgilEmpath Podcast is on multiple listening platforms:https://pod.link/1521109986Harvard Business Review Article Systemic Racism: https://hbr.org/2020/06/do-your-employees-know-why-you-believe-in-racial-equity This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

Join us for Season 2: Diversity & Inclusion; Episode 1 Ben Roberts & the NowWhat!?Collective Ben Roberts has been convening and hosting both in-person and virtual conversations on a regular basis since March 2009, when he began leading a local weekly “Discussion Salon.” He specializes in making virtual events come alive, either as stand-alone events or in conjunction with in-person gatherings. Ben has extensive experience adapting large group conversational processes such as World Cafe, Open Space Technology and Appreciative Inquiry to the virtual realm, as well as integrating in-person and virtual formats within a single conversation, gathering or engagement. He uses these processes to support collaboration, build communities of practice and purpose, and to host large scale conversations in service to the work being done across multiple dimensions of global systemic transformation.The NowWhat!? Collective convenes twice yearly with the next session beginning October. 12, 2020 through November 20, 2020. Learn more at https://www.nowwhat2020.com/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

Teamwork virtually is key to morale, productivity, engagement and bottom line earnings for your organization. Learn tips to build a successful virtual team! This is a great episode to share with your colleagues. We are all adjusting to this new normal. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

The crisis is not over and we are uncertain about the future. How do we communicate effectively with our teams and organizations, as well as take care of ourselves? Tune in! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

When we are moved to action in the face of fear and change, we gain respect from those around us, as they are inspired to do the same. We talk about how to be effective in change management. How about being the creator of change? Shifts in society can occur with our courage. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

Leadership is becoming more about collaborative agile efforts where executives, managers & staff share information with equal responsibility for the whole. The traditional top-down models where a small group of executives control the flow of information is seen as a dinosaur by millennials. What is emerging is a team that seeks diversity of opinions to build strategies and solve problems. This empowers employees fostering increased engagement with ownership of their work. Employee happiness can only increase with collaborative leadership, where inclusion & belonging are values being lived out from the top down, thus eliminating the culture of top down management. Innovation & creativity flourishes in human beings with positive interactions. To flourish means to live within an optimal range of human functioning, one that connotes goodness, generativity, growth, and resilience. The organic way to foster human functioning in this optimal range is collaborative leadership! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

Mirror NeuronsScientists have identified a group of cells in the brain that could explain how we share another’s pleasure or pain in the Anterior Cingulate Cortex. This area of the brain is active when we experience pain and when we observe when others experience pain. With higher empathy, the ACC region is more active!With any situation, it’s effective to have a step by step guide to follow. The process of negotiation includes the following stages: • Preparation•When, Where, & with Whom to meet•Limit the time of the meeting•Gather the facts•Know the rules of your organization• Discussion-Each party presents their case•Question•Listen•Clarify• Clarification of goals-without clarification, barriers will occur•Goals•Interests•Viewpoints• Negotiate towards a Win-Win outcome as the ultimate goal•Alternative Strategies•Compromises• Agreement•Open Mind•Acceptable Solution• Implementation of a course of action•Course of action This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

Our world is in unrest with conflict. On a smaller scale, there is conflict in families, between authority and subordinate, among peers and co-workers and during daily communication in the community ie. bank, grocery store, while driving. We wanted to help out with tools to use daily!Micro-aggression is a term used for brief and commonplace daily verbal, behavioral, or environmental indignities, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative prejudicial slights and insults toward any group, particularly culturally marginalized groups. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

When we are moved to action in the face of fear and change, we gain respect from those around us, as they are inspired to do the same. We talk about how to be effective in change management. How about being the creator of change? Shifts in society can occur with our courage. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

Our world is in need of effective leaders who know how to communicate hope and a sense of safety to us. We are changing the way we do things as a society worldwide. We are talking about strategy for effective change management on a global scale! It begins with communication. From Abraham Lincoln, to Martin Luther King, and Winston Churchill; these leaders were great orators! What does communication entail? F. Schulz von Thun identified a Four Sides Model of communication (1981):* Fact: What I inform about * Self-revealing: What I reveal about myself * Relationship: How my message resonates with you fostering connection on an emotional level* Appeal: What I want to inspire you to do This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

“Situation Awareness (SA) is the perception of environmental elements and events with respect to time or space, the comprehension of their meaning, and the projection of their future status.” This is our picture mentally of what is going on around us. According to psychologist Mica Endsley, SA has 3 levels:· Perception- pick up information and cues from our environment· Comprehension-put those pieces of information together to develop an idea of what is going on· Anticipation-predict what might happen next. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

Leadership strengths are qualities that help leaders to manage and motivate their team. This includes what motivates us and our decision making. One of the top skills to develop as a leader is how aware we are of ourselves, according to multiple sources including the Harvard Business Review. Effective teams are made up of people who both understand and complement each other. Self-awareness seems to have become the latest management buzzword — and for good reason. Research suggests that when we see ourselves clearly, we are more confident and more creative. We make sounder decisions, build stronger relationships, and communicate more effectively. We’re less likely to lie, cheat, and steal. We are better workers who get more promotions. And we’re more-effective leaders with more-satisfied employees and more-profitable companies. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

The Diversity & Inclusion training includes values, virtues, mindset, & emotions; how this develops culture, with tips to navigate change, while valuing diversity of thought. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

The Diversity & Inclusion training includes values, virtues, mindset, & emotions; how this develops culture, with tips to navigate change, while valuing diversity of thought. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

Humanity is socially distanced due to the COVID19 crisis, and suffering with a pre-existing pandemic of loneliness in our society. Prior to the shut-down of our nations, we were told by experts, ‘loneliness kills.’ We all need support, and this first needs to begin with ourselves. Why is jealousy a concern? When we are jealous of another person, we tell ourselves a story and that can lead us to act in irrational ways. How do these principles apply to teams? It is the leadership’s responsibility to provide a safe work environment. This is fostered when the team observes a calm, confident leader who is not afraid to show vulnerability, and can make timely decisions when necessary. The team will follow the example of the leader, more than we realize. This emphasizes the importance of developing soft skills within our team, as this adds to our emotional intelligence as a whole. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

Welcome to the AgilEmpath Episode 1. We introduce how empathy & creativity expand our potential in life by sharing a brief story! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

The Diversity & Inclusion training includes values, virtues, mindset, & emotions; how this develops culture, with tips to navigate change, while valuing diversity of thought. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

The Diversity & Inclusion training includes values, virtues, mindset, & emotions; how this develops culture, with tips to navigate change, while valuing diversity of thought. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

Humanity is socially distanced due to the COVID19 crisis, and suffering with a pre-existing pandemic of loneliness in our society. Prior to the shut-down of our nations, we were told by experts, ‘loneliness kills.’ We all need support, and this first needs to begin with ourselves. Why is jealousy a concern? When we are jealous of another person, we tell ourselves a story and that can lead us to act in irrational ways. How do these principles apply to teams? It is the leadership’s responsibility to provide a safe work environment. This is fostered when the team observes a calm, confident leader who is not afraid to show vulnerability, and can make timely decisions when necessary. The team will follow the example of the leader, more than we realize. This emphasizes the importance of developing soft skills within our team, as this adds to our emotional intelligence as a whole. Contact us today to schedule a complimentary consult. We have creative team building ZOOM trainings! [email protected] This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

With our current pandemic, organizations across industries have shown resilience to adapt work environments to mostly virtual. We have lost the physical presence with one another, and the ability to show caring to one another through touch, & eye contact, including pats on the back and hugs. How do we connect with one another now? There is a new normal that will define how we interact as a society in business, academia, within our communities and with family/friends socially. Research in multiple studies on well-being indicate connection with one another is key to life satisfaction. Our teams thrive with relational management, and leaders who are humble, open and committed. Human beings need to be heard, and validated with calm, confident leaders who connect, care and innovate with the change.In this podcast, we share what empathy is, teach seven empathy healthy habits, and look at the limited research on internet usage and empathy and implications with our current virtual work/academic environment.Contact me to learn more about our interactive ZOOM class developing virtual empathy skills with your team! https://esdkcojjgbaocodtnx.10to8.com/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

In the second episode, we share from a recent class where we conceptualized and summarized key concepts in The Artist Way. Before you say, "I am not an artist," hold on! This is a proven method to tap into the creativity within each of us to reach our full potential, whatever that may be. We are all different with our gifts. Let's walk this path together. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

Welcome to the AgilEmpath Episode 1. We introduce how empathy & creativity expand our potential in life by sharing a brief story! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe

Welcome to the AgilEmpath Podcast. We coach teams on agile methodologies in creative ways. Our background in mental health counseling has provided us with knowledge of human behavior. Have you found yourself coaching a team, needing support to educate your members about soft skills? We offer techniques to manage conflict & stress, increase productivity & engagement, creating an enjoyable work & home environment with emotional intelligence principles. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alexia.substack.com/subscribe