A Gay and A NonGay

Why do people feel the need to announce that they're in a relationship? Is it arrogant? James has had it with people telling him they have a boyfriend. Dan thinks it's pretty normal. Let us know your thoughts 😂 find us on your socials by searching gaynongay. Kisses x Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is the Conservative Party welcome in LGBTQ+ spaces? Dan and James discuss a recent twitter/X spat where some members of the Tory Party were allegedly physically thrown out of gay bar in Manchester. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we welcome Jayne Ozanne. Jayne is a former member of the UK government's LGBT advisory panel but sensationally quit 2 years ago because of ministers creating a 'hostile environment for LGBTQ+ people'. Jayne discusses the tories continuous lack of action on their much ‘promised’ conversion therapy ban. At the time of release there is still confusion as to whether it will be included in the King's Speech on 7th November 2023. Jayne also exposes a potential queerness at the heart of the Vatican and we dig deep on what it means to be Unashamedly Gay and Unashamedly Christian. We discuss why she resigned from the governments advisory LGBT+ panel, her own experiences undergoing conversion therapy and whether the Pope might endorse gay people. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James and Dan are joined by Conservative politician Andrew Boff - who was ejected from the party conference after heckling the Home Secretary Suella Braverman. Why did he do it? Should Suella resign for inciting hate speech against LGBTQ+ people? And can the Tory party really claim to be 'safe' for LGBTQ+ people? Join us for our next recording live in London with our special guests DJ Fat Tony & Jamie Raines in conversation. Get tickets now, scroll to the bottom of the page https://www.designmynight.com/london/pubs/balham/the-bedford/cheerful-earful-podcast-festival-day-3?t=tickets Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James and Dan discuss transphobia in their respective worlds, as deathcore band Thy Art is Murder sack their transphobic singer - and 90s band Eternal split into two over the trans debate. Listen again to our episode with Louise! Watch the video about XL Bully dog owners Get tickets to our upcoming live show at Cheerful Earful Festival in London on November 2nd with our guest DJ Fat Tony! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How often does Dan think about the Roman Empire, and how often does James think about Princess Diana? Dan has some very exciting career news, and James definitely does not have the hump! Plus, bird news. Get tickets to our upcoming live show at Cheerful Earful Festival in London on November 2nd! (Book Dan as a Jamie Dornan lookalike on lookalikes.co.uk 👀) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James and Dan are joined by Leila Zadeh from Rainbow Migration. Together, we dig deep into the harsh realities faced by LGBTQ+ asylum seekers trying to find safety in the UK. Leila reveals the heartbreaking truth about the challenges these individuals face, shining a light on the trauma caused by the UK's immigration detention system. This episode paints a vivid picture of what it's like to be an LGBTQ+ asylum seeker. It highlights the emotional toll of being locked up and the uncertainty of when, or even if, they'll be set free. In the darkness of the UK Governments 'Stop The Boats' rhetoric, it's crucial to remember that behind these policies are real people, desperately seeking safety, dignity, and a chance at living as their authentic selves. Leila passionately calls for change, urging the government to create safe and compassionate pathways for those escaping persecution. Join James, Dan, and Leila as they navigate the heart-wrenching struggles and unjust policies affecting LGBTQ+ asylum seekers in the UK. For information regarding LGBTQ+ immigration in the UK, or to support Rainbow Migration's important work please visit https://www.rainbowmigration.org.uk/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dan thinks that James might pretend to be "thick" to fit a gay stereotype? This goes down well 😂 and James wonders if Dan thinks "all straight people are boring", prompting a lively exchange. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're back with Bird News! James is ‘back in the game’ - dating-wise, but doesn’t want to use any apps. Plus is driving a car 'straight'? and it’s James’ birthday but why was Dan not invited? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James reflects on the horrific events at The Two Brewers in Clapham in August, and asks if the UK is a safe place for gay people. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is the ‘power dynamic’ in a gay relationship? Would James role-play as someone’s brother? Plus Dan has some bird news. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It goes without saying, trigger warning. For help and support check out Galop ,the UK's LGBTQ+ abuse and violence charity, https://galop.org.uk/get-help/helplines/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James fills Dan in on more 'gay Twitter' drama regarding Chicken Tenders. Plus, is Jack Grealish leading a 'new trend' of feminiity? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James reflects on the *drama* at Adonis nightclub. Meanwhile, Dan's latest business venture 'Only Dans' is still not off the ground. :(. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Barbie is a podcaster - As a christian preacher condemns Barbie, James is embarrassed to discover he's the only gay that fancied his Ken doll as a child. Plus we question the motivations behind transphobia, are these born to a genuine concern about transgender people or something else? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Were Just Stop Oil right to protest Pride in London? Plus James has witnessed his first orgasm at LA Pride. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James and Dan are joined by Liberal Democrat MP Layla Moran, the UK's first pansexual MP. On the agenda - why is David Cameron taking credit for introducing same-sex marriage? Are there lots of secretly gay MPs who vote for homophobic legislation? And why are the government so obsessed with trans people? Plus, Layla opens up to James and Dan about her own coming out journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dan learns about a darkroom at Glastonbury, and James finds out what an upside-down pineapple means. Is this a thing? Meanwhile in Solihull, 'the most NonGay town in Britain', everyone's apparently drinking pina coladas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are experiences like abuse, chemsex, sexual exploitation, racism and even murder considered 'normal' for LGBTQ+ people? James and Dan dive into the depths of LGBTQ+ shame with journalist Patrick Strudwick, uncovering it's impact and the vulnerabilities it can create. In this chilling episode, Patrick shares insights from his new Audible original series, 'White Smoke: America’s Chemsex Killer'. Are there more Ed Bucks out there? Listen to White Smoke on Audible For help and advice with chemsex, join the Terrance Higgins Trust's online chemsex group for Gay and Bisexual men, click here Pivot Point also offer some useful advice on quitting/cutting back, and tips on how to make sure PnP is as safe as possible https://pivotpoint.org.au/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Has the Philip Schofield scandal given the gays ‘bad PR?’. Dan wonders if age-gap relationships are more common in the LGBTQ+ community? Is there anything wrong with them? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should you be 'friends' with your exes? Dan discovers that none of James' breakups have been amicable. Meanwhile James' friend is panicked after sleeping with someone that looks exactly like Dan. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James has an accident in a hotel room and Dan is annoyed by TERFS claiming to be punk. Plus can straight people also be 'queer'? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James is very bored this week - bored of straight people dominating narratives in TV shows and ‘endlessly running marathons’, Is he just jealous that he’s not the centre of attention? Do other gay people feel the same? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James has been arguing with Piers Morgan again 🙄 (he's got a tour to sell), and why if someone tells you to be less of something, you should be MORE of it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it healthy to laugh at intimacy? Is sex funny? Dan thinks it is, James thinks it isn't. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do Not Wait Your Turn. James and Dan are joined from Pennsylvania by State Representative Malcom Kenyatta for an empowering episode about overcoming barriers of race and sexuality. He ran for the US Senate in 2022 and if elected would have been the first out gay man and first out LGBTQ person of color ever in the Senate. He's got a lot to say about 'not being electable' because he's black and gay, not waiting your turn and thirsty Instagram comments from homophobic Republicans. KENYATTA: DO NOT WAIT YOUR TURN received its world premiere at the recent BFI Flare: London LGBTQIA+ Film Festival. Don’t Just March, Run For Something - https://runforsomething.net/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James reflects on the tragic death of Paul O’Grady. Meanwhile Dan can't stop laughing about the ‘funniest thing that’s ever happened’ - the time his teacher Mr. Flood had a flood in his room. Plus James has the hump about Eurovision, and Dan turns up to an LGBTQ+ Awards Show surprised to find everyone dressed up. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jill Nalder is the inspiration behind the character Jill Baxter in Channel 4’s It’s A Sin. This is an inspiring episode about allyship, activism and overcoming shame. Jill is a Welsh actress and activist, known for her career in theatre as well as her incredible contributions to HIV and AIDS Activism. Pick up a copy of ‘Love from the Pink Palace' https://www.waterstones.com/book/love-from-the-pink-palace/jill-nalder/978147228846 Watch ‘It’s A Sin’ - Channel 4’s most binge-watched series of all-time https://www.channel4.com/programmes/its-a-sin For more information on HIV and AIDS, visit the Terrence Higgins Trust - https://www.tht.org.uk/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James has been to Berghain in Berlin and Dan wants to know about a slide made of spaff. Plus we discuss the logistics of organising golden showers. Meanwhile, James doesn’t believe that Dan has never sent a dick pic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James and Dan are live from the O2 Arena with very special guest and power vers Jake Shears at Just For Laughs Festival London. We hear about his naked rendezvous with George Michael, his sexual encounter with a ghost in New Orleans and his cuddles with a straight best male friend. Plus, is it ok to avoid people who are doing better than you? Why do gays blame everything on their gay shame? And is Jane McDonald homophobic?! Sacrebleu! Go and see Jake Shears live this summer! https://www.jakeshears.com/shows Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is an empowering episode about a woman, fearless in her fight for equality. Today we're joined by Eva Echo, activist and Director of Innovation at Birmingham Pride. Eva's been taking NHS England to court over "extreme" waiting times for trans patients. She gives James and Dan an update on the case and there's some good news for trans youth. See you in Strasbourg. Plus, why is the Westminster government fighting with Scotland over the Gender Recognition Act? And what exactly does a Gender Recognition Certificate do? Jake Shears joins our live show at Just For Laughs Festival London this weekend, get tickets now! Click here https://london.hahaha.com/events/a-gay-and-a-nongay-podcast/ Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James has started, in his own words, and the words of Good Morning Britain - a ‘national debate’ about bedsheets. Inevitably this leads to chat about how many ‘loads’ he's taken? Plus Dan might be saving someone’s life, but is that just for free food? Jake Shears joins our live show at Just For Laughs Festival London, get tickets now! Click here https://london.hahaha.com/events/a-gay-and-a-nongay-podcast/ Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it rude to ditch your friends when the time hits ‘Dick O’Clock’? Or should gays ‘have an hour off’? Queer Icon Jake Shears joins us at our next live show. Join us at Just For Laughs Festival London on Sunday 5th March 2023! Book now babes https://london.hahaha.com/events/a-gay-and-a-nongay-podcast/ xoxo Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We reveal the most officially non-gay part of the UK. It's the non-gayest of them all (N.O.T.A). Plus is saying the word 'triggering' triggering? Come and join us live at Just For Laughs Festival London this March! We're announcing our huge a-list guest VERY soon. Book tickets fast at www.gaynongay.com. Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is our community so divided? Why is there such disparity between gay men and lesbians? What can gay men do to be better allies to lesbians? Do we have anything in common at all? Today James and Dan welcome author, activist and icon Helen Scott to explore why gay men and lesbians don't get along better. Pre-order Helen’s book at https://www.livelaughlesbian.com/ See us LIVE in London this March at the world famous Just For Laughs Festival, tickets are just £15! *Shania Voice* Let's go girls, https://london.hahaha.com/events/a-gay-and-a-nongay-podcast/. Follow @gaynongay on TikTok, Insta and Twitter. Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy New Year! It's been a while but we're here again... James is newly single and in need of hole pics. Once he's got over bumping into his ex at the sexual health clinic. Join us LIVE in London this March at Just For Laughs Festival! We can't wait to see you at our biggest show yet, featuring one of our biggest a-list guests ever! Tickets are just £15 and available now, https://london.hahaha.com/events/a-gay-and-a-nongay-podcast/ Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In 2022 we had the privilege of speaking to some amazing people on the podcast. Hear from the second person to be cured of HIV Adam The London Patient, Club Q Survivor Barrett Hudson, legendary human rights activist Peter Tatchell, Love Island’s Sharon Gaffka, rising comedian (and Dan’s stand-up teacher) Sikisa, the first gay FA referee Ryan Atkin, film-maker Sebastian Meise, and trans couple Jake and Hannah Graf. Plus our listener Matt comes out to his mum for our 300th episode. See you in 2023! Get £15 tickets to see us live this March at Just For Laughs Festival London - https://london.hahaha.com/events/a-gay-and-a-nongay-podcast/ Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On November 19th, an armed gunman opened fire on Club Q, an LGBTQ+ venue in Colorado Springs during a drag show, killing 5 people and leaving over 25 people with gunshot wounds. Today we catch up with survivor Barrett Hudson, who tells us his story. Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James and Dan reflect on the horrific attack on our community in Colorado Springs and discuss the England team's decision not to wear the 'One Love' armband in Qatar, when it was the ONE thing they said they would do. Join us live in London at Just For Laughs Festival, we can't wait to see you at our biggest show yet https://london.hahaha.com/events/a-gay-and-a-nongay-podcast/ Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How did a shopping mall Santa murder eight people before he was stopped? And what can the LGBTQ+ community learn from this case about how we treat each other? Dan and James are joined by journalist Mobeen Azhar to discuss his new BBC series Santa Claus: The Serial Killer. This episode contains numerous references to murder and sexual assault. Watch Santa Claus: The Serial Killer in the UK on BBC iPlayer - https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p0d8nlj2 Come and see A Gay and A NonGay LIVE at Just For Laughs Festival London next March - get tickets here https://london.hahaha.com/events/a-gay-and-a-nongay-podcast/ Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The boys finally rock up in the home of metal and canals for a live show in front of a home crowd (for Dan) They are joined on stage by Eva Echo, Director of Innovation at Birmingham Pride and trans activist - and Dan Tiernan, former dinner lady and winner of the BBC New Comedy Award 2022. Plus a special game of Anal or Canal - is it a sex position or a UK waterway? Trigger warning: This episode contains brief mentions of suicide and eating disorders. For more on Eva Echo - https://linktr.ee/evaecho For more on Dan Tiernan - https://www.instagram.com/tiernancomedian/?hl=en In memory of A Gay And A Nongay's biggest fan - Dan's mum. Recorded live at the Mockingbird Cinema in Digbeth as part of the Birmingham Comedy Festival. Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is monogamy worth it or should we all just be open? If you're in an open relationship, does sleeping with other people make it more likely you’ll leave them? Dan thinks it’s way too much admin. We'd love to know what you think? Send us a message or voice note on our instagram or tiktok, follow @gaynongay. Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In a ride of an episode, James is shocked to hear that Dan thinks he could have easily been radicalised as an incel. Plus, is there a ‘gay code’ that would stop gay men from cheating? Oh and Dan really needs to do some research on Jeffrey Dahmer. Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are nipples the clitoris of the boob? We're joined by TikTok icons Ki And Dee (Chiara Hunter and Diana Vickers) to find out. Plus James and Dan finally meet Adam, 'The London Patient' in real life. Adam is the second person in the world to be considered ‘cured’ of HIV - listen as he enraptures the crowd with his story. Get tested for HIV, visit https://doitlondon.org/ Find out more information about PrEp and Monkeypox at https://prepster.info/. Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our final and funniest show of the Edinburgh Fringe Festival 2022 😂. We've reached Peak Trans as we're joined by the hilarious Jen Ives... and nobody is safe from Famous Celebrity and Very Huge Star, Myra Dubois. Buy 'Jen Ives: Peak Trans here' https://ko-fi.com/jenivescomedian Go and see Myra Dubois live https://www.myradubois.co.uk/ Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're live in Edinburgh with LA Comedian Jeena Bloom and 'radical feminist, queer, football lad' Chloe Petts. Plus, 'Things Dan Cannot Say' returns with a question about gay bin men? Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"They locked me in a room and called me from the other side, they didn't know what to do. Every time I asked someone 'What is gonna happen now?' They said, 'I don't know'. I think that's the scariest bit". Today we welcome comedian and host of the essential new podcast 'What The Pox?', Martin Joseph. Martin bravely shuts down his shame, sharing his story and answering questions about monkeypox. Where has it come from? How is it transmitted? Can you catch it twice? Is this outbreak part of a much bigger picture? And - from Dan - why do the gays love a virus? You can find out more information and resources on monkeypox, and listen to 'What The Pox? at https://www.wearequeeraf.com/whatthepox/ Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

🎉 James and Dan are back at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival 2022. Dan has trouble finding the clitoris 👀 and we're joined by comedians Joseph Parsons and life of the party (and Dan's stand-up teacher) Sikisa... Just don't judge her course by Dan's jokes. See Joseph Parsons live https://www.josephparsons.co.uk/ Party with Sikisa at her Soho Theatre run this September www.instagram.com/twix_choc87/ Thanks for listening, we've missed you. Support our podcast via our Patreon now at www.gaynongay.com/donate Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s official! Soon you’ll be able to book Dan as a Jamie Dornan lookalike. Plus find out why James won't be winning an award for Best Poster at the Edinburgh Fringe 2022. A Gay And A NonGay is taking a break in August, we’ll be back in September! Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A Gay And A NonGay is 300 episodes old... or thereabouts 😘. To celebrate, James, Dan and Drag Race royalty Scarlett Harlett help our listener Matt come out to his Mum. It's an emotional one, 😭. Coming Out Out, presented with thanks to KISS, 7Digital and the Audio Content Fund. Come and see us live in Edinburgh, London and Birmingham! Buy our new beer LGBTQIPA and support trans lives! Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices